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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 25 April 2012: "I posted to see if any other guys are going through what iam. clearly there is none."
An attempt to convince yourself you are not normal and therefore absolving the need to date people and get over your fear.
Porn watching as a habit is not unhe... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 25 April 2012: Actually there is statistics saying that porn lowers crime. Inmates and sexual offenders were interviewed about their porn use and they said that porn allowed them to act out violent fantasies in their mind, it calmed them down. This is from a ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 24 April 2012: You really think that all the Brad Pitts get all the girls?
Whenever I go to a kids function in the city. What do I see? Moms and Dads who are plain looking and overweight by society's standards. When a person looks too perfect he seems unap... (read in full...)
Can we really live happily ever after when we are so different?
Q. I am wondering can two people who are so different stay together and get things working? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 years. We are from different upbringing (his parents happily married for 30 years, mine fought for 20 years an...
A. 23 April 2012: I have a feeling he is afraid of change and wants to keep things status quo. What happens when you make up your own mind and say, "I believe this is the best idea and I am going ahead with that decision." Don't ask for agreement or wait for his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated with over 26 women, how do I get over him?
Q. Dear cupid I need advice on how to stop thinking about my horrible ex boyfriend and moving on with my life. I cant sleep I can barely eat I'm so hurt but anyway here's the story. We were together for three years, high school sweethearts and very ...
A. 22 April 2012: This is your past relationship. I will not ask you to just get over it. If it takes two years to get over it, then do so. You can still enjoy you single life and pour passion into any activity, and enrich yourself by learning things you always ... (read in full...)
Partner says our relationship is too perfect so he'll start arguments with me!
Q. Hi there me and my partner don't always argue but when we do its not really a necessary argument..like we will be taking one moment then he will just start arguing about the most stupidest stuff ever and it sucks and then he doesn't talk to me for ...
A. 22 April 2012: This happens frequently in young relationships so I attempt to answer it by what I see generally in people. Men and women differ in relationships. Some men need to disconnect in order to connect later. Women generally have no need to disconnect. ... (read in full...)
I'm female and keep having desires for women! Help!!!
Q. I am 27 years old and have always had boyfriends. However, over the years I have been very curious about what it would be like to sleep with a woman. I dismissed it for a long time as literally just curiosity, however lately I find myself ...
A. 22 April 2012: Most people are in some level bisexual but because of social constructs they have heterosexual relationships for life. If you decide to stay with your man than try to tame your fantasies as just fantasies. Chances are if you tried a woman it would ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: Go for women 5 feet and under. Snooki is very short but she's still hot. My dad is 5 feet 4 and a half. Because of TB bone he is the shortest of all his brothers. He was teased in school but he focused his energies on academics and got successful ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my b/f is trying to remain attractive to other girls
Q. Hi, Sorry this is long- but I really want to give you a clear picture of teh situation so you can help me! My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 8 months now and I have fallen in love with him. He tells me he loves me too and I fe...
A. 22 April 2012: "I am certain the reason he is doing to is because for some reaosn he wants to appear available to other girls."
The only thing certain is that he is living with you and talking about marriage, and that you are happy when you are together.
Some ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: "Am I causing harm to myself?"
This can't be answered when you believe that real relationships are harmful.
I think it is a phase. Later your worries of not being normal will force you to go out and meet some girls.
You are not the only one pre... (read in full...)
Why is my man always staring at this woman?
Q. the story is i am with a man LDR but soon will be moving in with him, been with him nearly 3 years and we are loyal and honest and keep in touch and see each other the best we can, cause its getting too much for us thats why we have decided to move ...
A. 22 April 2012: You have been with him for a long time and are committed. You should be able to do these things.
Ask straight out why he is staring at her so much, instead of analyzing it, going around the subject and throwing assumptions out.
Gently tell him to s... (read in full...)
Does he love me or is he leading me on?
Q. I love this guy. I have a feeling that he likes me too. He messages and calls me every day. But he had a bad relationship previously and now he says he doesn't want to fall in love and get hurt again. but he also says he cares about me and calls me ...
A. 22 April 2012: He is open enough to reveal his vulnerability to you. He asked you how your life has changed. Reply honestly, that you don't know because you need to get to know him better, and that you want the real deal and not just talk. Tell him you like him a ... (read in full...)
What should I expect from a life as a a potential 'stepmum'?
Q. Hi I have a simple question here, is it a good or wrong thing to be with someone who has 2 kids to a previous relasionship and what should I expect from a life as a a potential 'stepmum'? My bloke and I have been together 9 months, very muc...
A. 22 April 2012: I don't know how much authority, or money your parents have. Of course you can be happy as a step mom if you know how to communicate effectively. There is nothing morally wrong about marrying a man with children. Some conservative people feel that ... (read in full...)
Should I consider going back to my ex after years apart?
Q. My ex and I split over 10 years ago while I was pregnant. I wanted children but he was already a father and wasn't reliable so decided he would leave for mine and the babys sake. He went on with his life getting married etc and I with mine, finding ...
A. 22 April 2012: There is this romanticized notion of reuniting a long lost family with a real father. He had never been a full time father to any of his children. He has had three failed relationships (maybe more) it would be hard to imagine he would want to spend ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so jealous in my relationship, I'm afraid its going to break what we have
Q. Hello, im having touble with my boyfriend. I dont know if im jelouse or i have trust issues, which he's never done anything to make me not trust him. Well anyways Im white/ and have cherakee indian in me and he's Puerto rican. He told me he never ...
A. 21 April 2012: I never had relationships with Asian men, my own kind, but that doesn't mean if a good one comes along and becomes my boyfriend I would day dream about other races and feel like I am missing out. However I would be more careful with my words when I ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my LDR boyfriend could be texting other girls
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy i met online. We met a few times and we get on like a house on fire. The thing is because its happened me alot I'm afraid he might be texting other girls. like he said he isn't but look how he met me. ...
A. 21 April 2012: In online dating it goes both ways. You met him the same way. It's won't be very proactive to worry about something you can't control. You have to talk about what the future is like with him. Once you know there is a possibility of living closer to ... (read in full...)
Why do women only want to do crazy things sexually with random people?
Q. When i first met my GF, we weren't serious (or committed) and we had the best sex ever. Since we've gotten serious, and are now in a committed relationship, it seems the erotic, no-holds-barred type of sex has now gone out the window. We've nev...
A. 21 April 2012: With random people you don't bond emotionally. With you she is going to worry that you develop feelings for the other girl and leave her. You can have limitless possibilities that don't hurt your relationship. There are many things to do besides ... (read in full...)
Two girls, changing opinions?
Q. Two questions here. I am friends with this girl, we have been hanging pretty much exclusively at uni, so much that people thing we are a couple. I'm not really attracted to her, but today she was all happy about this guy who likes her, and I fe...
A. 20 April 2012: You were jealous because you haven't been that happy for a while?
For the second girl, maybe you don't really fancy her as much as you thought, and that you are only interested in girls you have to work hard for?... (read in full...)
I'm really unexperienced , I give off a friendly vibe and I cant pick up on signals, what does he think of me?
Q. I'm 19 and I'm quite inexperienced with dating etc. I met this guy through a friend today, we hadn't actually seen each other before, but we did for the 1st time last Tuesday. But we had been talking everyday for 4 weeks before that and had spo...
A. 20 April 2012: Even though you live faraway, I think 2 and half hours is plenty of time with each other for the first time, although I think a date in a cafe setting would be much better, whether your intention is to be friends or lovers. He gave you money to get ... (read in full...)
Can we really live happily ever after when we are so different?
Q. I am wondering can two people who are so different stay together and get things working? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 years. We are from different upbringing (his parents happily married for 30 years, mine fought for 20 years an...
A. 20 April 2012: Isn't it possible to buy acres of land in the countryside and then build a home from scratch? There are many modern architecture with shiny appliances in the middle of nowhere.
Don't forget you can learn from each other's differences too. Insp... (read in full...)
Problem with girlfriend's past?
Q. So here's the issue. I am 18 and my girlfriend is 24, about to be 25. We met on a joke app (Funny Jokes) and found out we lived a couple hours away so we just started texting each other. Then we started Skyping and added each other on Facebook. And ...
A. 20 April 2012: It's fine to leave when you find her present and past unnattractive. No need to torture yourself with mental images. She said that she has never loved you like she loved anyone else, but she also loves her ex and would only be with her ex for life. ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend because of his nosey aunt?
Q. My question is do I break up with him because I really can't stand his aunt? I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I have decided to move in with him for 3 months while he does his internship out of state. My boyfriend's aunt...
A. 20 April 2012: No! I don't think it's too difficult to express to your aunt how you feel without being rude. His dad telling her to shut up certainly didn't work. How about you tell his aunt that you already talked about it. "There you go again," and then try to ... (read in full...)
Is this love, lust, or do I just like him a lot?
Q. How can you tell if what you feel is actual love, lust or just strong like? I met this guy in December and we have become friends, i met him when he had a gig in my town. we talk by email every couple days; and i go too his gigs once a month when ...
A. 19 April 2012: It is lust. You stop this by realizing that he sees you as a friend and he won't reciprocate the feelings that you have for him. Once you focus your energies on a new potential date your crazy chemicals will subside. It is not love, it is merely ... (read in full...)
Did he blow me off? Was I too needy? How do I get to know him better?
Q. Well, here's the story: A week ago or so, I had a small get together at my house. I asked two friends of mine that are sisters to invite a few people that we know to come. Long story short, it started off as just us three girls because several ...
A. 19 April 2012: Just don't think about it. All you did was show interest in him as a friend. You may have enjoyed talking to him because you are still young and have not much experience talking to guys. He was being polite and making conversations with you. There ... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend flirting with another woman over Facebook, will he do it again? Has he already done it since and lied to me?
Q. hi my i caught my partner flirting with another woman over facebook. he lets me check my ex's profile via his. i always ask though. and he got really defensive when i asked and then i logged into his and he came out and said it. and he said it was ...
A. 19 April 2012: I agree with Tisha. If you have to explain rules to him it means he is not ready for a relationship. I also think yuck is a good word to describe how I would feel towards him. It's not something that would break my heart but certainly I would feel ... (read in full...)
She wont commit to leaving her husband for me, should I keep trying or leave her once and for all?
Q. Hello. For past six months I have been in affair with colleague from work. We are both married, none of us has kids but her husband is often away for couple of months. Things between us developed pretty fast and we soon realised that this is more ...
A. 19 April 2012: You are both fooling each other and your spouses' around. You don't try leaving, you just leave. Waiting for her to make up her mind while leaving your wife hanging is wrong. If you and your wife's problems can't be solved, then divorce is the best ... (read in full...)
Am I missing obvious signs that she's losing interest?
Q. OK, here goes... I've known my girlfriend since we were kids. She's divorced and has a 5 year old daughter from her previous marriage. Her ex-husband left her when her daughter was just 2 months old, and started seeing another girl. This obviously ...
A. 18 April 2012: She is never your girlfriend because she still loves her ex. The times when she is distant is when she daydreams about her ex, hoping he will be single and get back to her. That's when she sees to be losing interest. When her ex doesn't contact her ... (read in full...)
I'm 23 weeks pregnant and he keeps leaving and coming back. why?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 1/2 years we have a son and a daughter on the way. Everything started out good we never fought. Things were said later on and I found things and started getting to where I was afraid to trust him I know that's ...
A. 18 April 2012: I don't think he will be a stable partner in your life ever but at least he is not totally disappearing like an ass. He still feels responsible as a father but helping you out does not mean he is coming back to the relationship. I think blocking ... (read in full...)
Is he with someone else or just busy?
Q. He only reaches out to me when I contact him first and sometimes does not even reply to me. We have been had sex a few times each time he cuddles me ask me about things but then disappears. He canceled last night @ the last min and now I am ...
A. 18 April 2012: It could be that he feels that you are too attached to him already and is backing off. The thing you have with him is too casual and he does not have the same sentiments to reciprocate your feelings. He does not need a lot of contact besides sex ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend watching "normal" porn?
Q. My boyfriend of a year watches porn. I have often asked what king of porn he likes. I found out on his computer last night that he has been watching porn that involves young supposed high school girls with their teacher? I am so confused is this ...
A. 18 April 2012: The only normal porn to you will be amateur real life couples recording themselves. Commercial porn has a lot of theatrics and drama. Teacher student porn is very common, and so is nurse patient, body trainer and hot housewives, boss and secretary. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible?
Q. Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible? Some background info before the women on here start calling me a 'player' etc.... I'm 23 years old and was a virgin up until last year. For most of my life, women...
A. 18 April 2012: To answer your question, it's not wrong to have sex with many beautiful people. Sex works differently for men and for women. For men, his value increases if he proves himself to be a stud. For women, her value decreases when she is found out to be a ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible?
Q. Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible? Some background info before the women on here start calling me a 'player' etc.... I'm 23 years old and was a virgin up until last year. For most of my life, women...
A. 18 April 2012: I don't think wanting casual sex makes you an indecent person. You just have to accept most women want relationships. Maybe you are waiting for one of us to tell you there are attractive and normal females wanting casual sex and nothing more. I hope ... (read in full...)
Am I too hard on my Bf? I don't think he cares enough. And I'm critical, but he is not.
Q. I have been in my current relationship for a year next month. My boyfriend goes to a place(two hours away). And there are times when we only see each other 3 times a month. For one he doesn't exactly have any money at the moment and at times I do...
A. 18 April 2012: He is a bad boyfriend. A man doesn't have to be physically and emotionally abusive to be a bad boyfriend. If you feel like you are not getting enough in this relationship it is reason to get out. Listen to yourself. Are you happier because of him, ... (read in full...)
How do I liven things up between us? Despite him rejecting my advances regularly?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. We were always very passionate and affectionate. A couple months ago, he began to act less and less, however. I realize that this can happen as a relationship progresses, but physical affection and ...
A. 18 April 2012: Let him figure this out. When you do all the working it makes him feel worse as if he is really losing it and you need to do extras to raise his manhood. He might be at an age when getting it up is not as easy as in his twenties. Still you shouldn't ... (read in full...)
I want to let him know I'm interested. But not scare him off. Any tips please on how to do this?
Q. I've been out of the dating game for a while, but I may be willing to re-enter it. I'm getting really confused by the signals a guy I'm kind of interested in is sending, though. On the positive side, he just ended up buying a webcam purely on a ...
A. 18 April 2012: You already showed him you are interested by talking three hours a few nights. His insecurity is something he has to deal with himself. He is at a point where he has to make the move before it's too late or when you lose interest. As long as you ... (read in full...)
How do I dispell the untrue rumours that I was unfaithful? Should I go to the prom anyway?
Q. What can I do? My BF and I have been together 2 and 1/2 years. We are now seniors in high school. Our relationship has been very good but had decided to go our separate ways once we went away to college because we both know we need to meet oth...
A. 18 April 2012: He is upset that you seem to be able to move on so quickly while he could be depressed that the relationship is over. He is assuming that you never loved him that much. Attacking your character is an easy thing for him to do now than to feel that ... (read in full...)
Should I kiss this guy I've been flirting with?
Q. Hi everyone! So there's this boy I've been flirting with for about 6 months now and he asked me to go on a date on Friday. Well, it's not actually a date, it's just that he wants to make it up for me because I've invited him to places many time...
A. 18 April 2012: I don't know if you are looking for something casual or a serious relationship. 6 months is a long time to be waiting for a guy to make a move.
You decide at McDonald's. The thing is you like him in some way that's why you are flirting. You have... (read in full...)
Despite a new love she can't get her 'first' out of her mind
Q. emergency!! Basically friend A is in love with friend B but friend A lost her virginity a few months ago to another guy (she was not with friend B at this time). She is deeply in love with B but can't help but think of this guy now and again. She ...
A. 18 April 2012: The hormone you talked about would not stop producing just because the guy is a 2nd or 10th one. It's not just sex it's the pheromones that makes the difference in how memorable a person is. While B might not be as charismatic as A he could make a ... (read in full...)
Do impersonal sex and lack of intimacy cause depression?
Q. So about 2 years ago i became the roommate of a now 29 year old woman who is beautiful by all accounts. Men are constantly flocking to her. She is charming too, very magnetic personality. Except she has never had a real boyfriend. Why? She prefers ...
A. 18 April 2012: The key lies in what happened in her life that caused her to not want intimacy and love. Some people actively choose this lifestyle and they are doing fine because relationships are not for them. Your friend's depression can be independent of what ... (read in full...)
What is the obsession with MILF?
Q. What is the obsession with milfs? Apparently it's something to do with experience but you can get a woman with no children who has lots of experience. I can imagine in porn liking watching a person who is supposedly a mother behaving badly, but in ...
A. 17 April 2012: Men who wants casual sex loves single mom because the mom got the baby making thing out of her system, is disenfranchised about the whole dating love thing, and is ready to enjoy sex for the first time after many months.... (read in full...)
Is he acting normal for a sex buddy?
Q. I have had this sex buddy for several months and he seems to be more affectionate these days. The other day we had sex and he had to rush off and apologized a couple of times and said he would try to come back by to spend time with me. He asks me if ...
A. 17 April 2012: We don't know what this will turn into. What he is doing is also normal among guys who fake a relationship so that you won't lose interest and find another one. For me there is no such thing as between a casual and a real relationship. You are ... (read in full...)
Why would she say my ignoring her isn't going to work to get her back?
Q. I'm in grad school, at the beginning of the year, I asked out a classmate. Great first date, second date was not that good, mostly my fault, I had an off day, nerves and the like. She lost interest apparently, but then two weeks later she invites me ...
A. 17 April 2012: She doesn't like you but is expecting you to keeping chasing her like a puppy. Since you are not she is upset and she is looking for another person to chase her. She is "friending" people only to get them to like her because she likes the attention, ... (read in full...)
Is this just a rough patch? Will things get better?
Q. Im a 20 year old mom of a 4 year old daughter. And in the past 4 years I have learned that I dont enjoy being a mom. I know that sound brutally honest but I cant help the way i feel. I love my daughter with all my heart dont get me wrong but Im not ...
A. 17 April 2012: I think it's a rough patch. My son has ADHD and requires constant attention. I had said mean things to my son, dreamt about slapping his face, but whenever he reached a milestone and showed his feelings towards life my eyes tear up. It made me want ... (read in full...)
Do feelings get stronger the more you sleep with someone?
Q. So i've heard many times how women have to have emotion usually before they sleep with someone an men there emotions come after the sex. Is that true? The more you sleep with someone, feelings do end up getting stronger...
A. 17 April 2012: Is this a question meant for men? I don't have to have emotion to get turned on and to have sex although I don't enjoy having meaningless relationships. We are not robots so even the stubbornest FWB partner would develop feelings, but those feelings ... (read in full...)
What kind of person breaks up with someone twice? Do I stay or go?
Q. Hey, so I really need help! My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. Around this time last year I broke up with him because I was not "in love" after all that time and I've always wanted that "amazing" feeling as everyone describes it. I ...
A. 15 April 2012: You are not ready to commit but you want to make sure there is a safety net in case one day you want a relationship. If you want to spare the pain of dumping him, tell him what he would expect while you are away next year, and let him come to his ... (read in full...)
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