Do I tell a mate that I know he slept with a girl I was seeing

A male age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Question.... I met a girl about 5 months ago. She was in a loveless marriage, had random affairs etc. We used to tell each other what we were upto etc... It was very sexual. Anyway we ended up catching up for little sessions so to speak. Anyway during this time her husband left and in a way were catching up. However there was no label, I told everyone it was what it was, just friends etc. In fact I was pretty stubborn. I had been burnt before. Anyway she met me down at a pub in March, with my mates . I probably played too cool , she had met my mates and I was being very casual. In fact i hardly showed attention. I must admit later on night I was doing my own thing. By late night she was dancing with my friends. I probably started to feel jealous with one mate and they were quite rauncjy on dance floor. Rather than confront it I left . Went home with the Fuck it attitude. She called me about 4 times. I knew she may be stuck to get home and my mate lived close by.. by morning I wasn't silly to think that's where she stayed so I txt her ... She rammed it into me that I left her there. I asked where she stayed and she said the lounge at his place. She was upset and wanted to come around and see me . I said no, I wasnt happy. But that day she was a mess and asked me to be with her properly, put it out there, no more secrets. My mate even rang me and said where did u go, all good , looked after her. Anyway I decided to be with her properly. Last 6 weeks have been great , I had asked her few times bout that night and she denied it. We all socialized but it always lingered. Last week she was at my place , left her Facebook open and i saw msgs to her friend which confirmed it that she was talking to a friend how much she wanted me, what happened, mistake etc... I felt yuk. I ended it. And told her... She has been heartbroken and has been fighting for me. I have slowly let her back in but really I have a poker face. I can't trust. But do i tell my mate I know. He has his own issues with a girl, but I know one night i could let it out. Not sure what to do.

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