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writes:On another note, do I still have a chance with my ex? We were together for 2 years and 4 months. I broke it off in October because he was an ^^^^le to me. He'd do drugs and drink and wouldn't let me hang out with my friends. He's a college freshmen and I'm a high school junior. After I broke it off, a week later I got into another relationship, and my ex kept trying to get me back. When he found out I was with someone else he almost killed himself. All the way until January he kept trying until my mom blocked his number on my phone and told me to never talk to him again. The guy that I got into another relationship with, I had developed feelings for him and felt that if I stayed in the relationship, I'd cheat on my ex with him. I felt guilty the whole time I was with this new guy after my relationship of 2 years and 4 months. My ex had told me he would change but I wouldn't listen because I thought that he wouldn't change and was only saying that to get me back. Now in may, I broke it off with this new guy because I kept thinking about my ex and I wanted to get him back only to find that he was doing a lot better. He practically became a stronger person emotionally and physically. I texted him asking for my iPod back and he wants to give it in person before he goes to summer college. He told me that he got closer to his family because they helped him through the breakup and got better grades and had awesome friends. He's been talking to a lot of girls but he just can't develop feelings for any of them. I want so badly to be with him because I've realized my mistakes and I realized that I was and am still in love with him. Do I still have a chance to be with him? He sent me a get saying that I was wrong to leave him and that I made him into a great man for the next lucky girl that'll be with him. We still have yet to talk until he goes back to school which will be in 2 weeks. I feel like I shouldn't be selfish and let him go to be happy. But I also want him back. Is there still a chance?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 May 2012):
 A chance for a talk, a hug yes but a full reconciliation no. You have to prepare yourself for full blown anger in your face that he hadn't been able to show you while you were apart. He is going to ask you everthing about that new guy, did you love him, kiss him, have sex with him, with or without condom, etc. If you wanted to get back with him why, you didn't really love him if you did you wouldn't have let him go so easily and hooked up with a new guy so quickly. You could tell him you were thinking about him all the time but still he would have doubts. Be careful even when he says he is ready to give it another go he might be messing with your head only to hurt you again. There are people who use drugs as a recreation and there are those who have unstable emotions and so much pain in life that drugs are their quick fixes and escape. The next lucky girl is going to deal with his volatile emotions. When you date a person with habits you can't stand, break up and never look back. He has more problems than drinking and taking drugs. Life is not all smooth. You don't have the confidence that he is able to handle life stress without the use and drugs and alcohol.
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reader, vppa  +, writes (21 May 2012):
you first leave him because of your reasons but now you realized that you really love your ex. but now he is a changed man i he had moved up in his life . so you should respect her feelings and you must also try your best to move yourself ahead in your life without him. i know it is hard to forget your ex but you have to move on. if he also love you he will come back in your life but you should not wait for him all time .
try making new friends and do things that make you happy.
Good luck with your life:)
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