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writes:Hi i was hoping to get advice on how do you know if the person you are with is The One!!i'm in a relationship, in fact living with my boyfriend for the past year and a bit.we have talked about the future, marriage, family etc i do love him and care for him deeply, but there are times where i wonder on how do you truly know if this is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with?at times i feel quite inadequate,to some degree i do depend on him financially which affects me in a negative way as i feel i'm not in control of my life 100%he's got somewhat of a sketchy love life history and the beginning of our relationship was very interesting to say the least. there were issue with ex-girlfriends(to this day this issue is still present), jealous friends etc which made me feel very weird and awkward at times and i didn't this we would survive it.at times i feel as if i have trust issues, i find myself a bit insecure and i question his love for me?this worries me as i have never been an insecure person in my whole life i have a great family and great friends so why now i'm well educated, attractive and most important of all i'm a good person.i find myself at a cross road i'm 28 and i'm very worried! please help!
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 One doesn't really ever know. One just takes a chance, hoping that they end up with the right person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2012): Bearing in mind half of all marriages end in divorce and most of those people will have second (sometimes more) marriages, it's probably safe to say that for the majority there isn't "THE ONE".
There is "the person I see myself being with for a long time". And more than one of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2012): If you're having doubts about the person you're with, then by definition they are not "the one."
that's how you know if someone isn't the one for you. But how will you know if he is?
Well, cross that bridge when you get there some day. For now, it's clear that this guy you're with now is not "the one."
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 The only person you need to worry about spending the rest of your life with is you.
This issue isn't about him it's about you and your own view of yourself and how you see yourself in this relationship. You won't ever truly know whether this man is right for you, only time will tell.
My friend was once a best man at a wedding. His speech began "Loving someone isn't knowing you can't live without them but rather knowing you CAN live with them."
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 May 2012):
 If you feel insecure, then you should not think about long term yet. I also feel that if you could develop financial independence sooner you worries will lessen. Usually if you have to question it means you are not ready. If you ever have a chance of being with a man who makes you feel secured you will know a huge difference and you will wonder why the heck you would stay in an insecure relationship.
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