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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 9 January 2013: It depends on where you are. In Mali, a 15 year old girl got 60 whips for talking to an adult male on the street. In a country that's 100% Muslim, I would say 100% of men have RJ.
On the other extreme, in the islands of Polynesia, polygamy is the ... (read in full...)
I went 'no contact' and he found somebody else!
Q. ok cutting a long story short as possible!!..the guy who i was chasing and then i decided to go no contact with..i recently heard from his 'friends' that he had met somebody else and that he was serious about her!!..(bearing in mind that he told me ...
A. 6 January 2013: You know what you want, but it feels better to say you are confused than to feel that you can't get what you want. His financial situation means there is more than manning up to do. Just becoming more responsible means he will try harder making more ... (read in full...)
I went 'no contact' and he found somebody else!
Q. ok cutting a long story short as possible!!..the guy who i was chasing and then i decided to go no contact with..i recently heard from his 'friends' that he had met somebody else and that he was serious about her!!..(bearing in mind that he told me ...
A. 6 January 2013: He is not going to be single and regret what he did. He still needs women so he could continue being a commitment phobe. He needs to build the relationship up in order to run away from it. Confusing but true. No contact does not work for an ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has not treated me right since he discovered I had a one night stand before dating him. Do I end things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years and we are getting married soon. At the beginning, he was really sweet, caring and understanding. The kind of guy that I have always wished for. However, one day, I told him that I had an one ...
A. 5 January 2013: If anything I think RJ is what most males evolve out of. Their species will be extinct in the western world if they keep on insisting getting virgins for mates, or ask potential mates about their past when they are dating.... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do. Why am I getting the silent treatment?
Q. Originally Posted by Beautiful Disaster You just do. I know it sounds like I'm simplifying it...but that's just the honest truth. If you're waiting for the moment when it feels "right" to end your relationship, or doesn't hurt...you'll ne...
A. 5 January 2013: This post is very odd. The only reason why he brought you there was that he likes to provoke drama. There certainly were more shady things he did before this, to bring you to a point of a meltdown. When you are dealing with a person who does not ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like being intimate with my husband when he's behaving so distant with me. Am I wrong to feel this way?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for about two years things are fairly great between us, we have always try to deal with situations cordially, we try to always communicate with each other, we try to work through all issues how ever small they may ...
A. 5 January 2013: Your fiance needs to understand that women work differently. They need to be emotionally stimulated to get in the mood. In the morning mens' testosterone levels peak so it's easy for him to want sex. While at night time he just wants to unwind and ... (read in full...)
Together for 2 yrs, and split up 4 yrs ago... Why can't I let go and stop thinking about him?
Q. I remember coming on this to post a question about forbidden love with an ex teacher and breaking my virginity. Well 6 years on I am back as an older, wiser 20 something about the same guy but different problem. We split mutually after two years to...
A. 5 January 2013: You should stop looking at your age as a reason why you were not loved. Developmentally you were supposed to be where you were. You were not supposed to catch up with him to be deserving of love.
I see this teacher as an ordinary person with flaw... (read in full...)
I'm running out of things to talk about with my LDR, help!
Q. Hi I met this guy online and we both live in different countries. he said he was blown away by my profile and I liked his alot too so we started writing and skypeing several times a week and he is planning to visit me in 2.5 months (even bought a ...
A. 5 January 2013: Having nothing to say on the phone and being afraid of intimacy are two separate issues. When you feel forced to make conversations, you will begin to find problems that are not there in the relationship, and sooner or later it might feel easier to ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so upset all the time when I don't have the right to be unhappy?.
Q. Hello, I'm 17, just started my A Levels and I'm really unhappy. I hate my life, I hate the repetitiveness, the work and the pressure put on me by seemingly everyone, all demanding different things. It's making me really upset all the time, and I ...
A. 4 January 2013: It's the realization that you are not free. You have a good upbringing, but that didn't exempt you from working hard and pleasing others. I would say that if your parents worked hard to be where they are now it is more expected that you follow their ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I think I love my engaged best friend
Q. This is going to be pretty long, I apologize. But if you are willing to read this I appreciate any advice. This isn't exactly easy for me to handle. I've never been good with relationships or dealing with my feelings, I think mostly because I...
A. 4 January 2013: She is playing you both. It doesn't matter if their relationship is going nowhere. She is engaged to him. If she has feelings for you she should break off the engagement and come clean to him. She can have feelings for you but not necessarily the ... (read in full...)
I'm lost and confused about how he feels about me, whether I can get pregnant and why he stops talking to me!
Q. I have being seeing this guy for five months on and off every time we have sex he tells me he wants me to marry him and wants me to have his baby so he can keep me forever.. Is he crazy or am I? Another thing every time we have sex he cumms inside ...
A. 4 January 2013: Why would you want a baby with an on and off guy? You are only on when you have sex and off for everything else. He does not mean it when he says he wants you to marry him. It's his penis talking. You are crazy to want to get pregnant with a man who ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to heal my past and get over having commitment phobia
Q. Hi, I had been abusive relationships till recently. That makes me commitment phobia. example, I feel fear to hear man says I am independent, I feel this man want to absorb my energy or depend on me till I will be nothing. I feel ...
A. 4 January 2013: You expressed yourself in your own way and the language is beautiful. Right now you are fed up with men because you keep running into losers. You just haven't met the right one yet. When you meet the right one you would have fewer doubts. Because of ... (read in full...)
I'm running out of things to talk about with my LDR, help!
Q. Hi I met this guy online and we both live in different countries. he said he was blown away by my profile and I liked his alot too so we started writing and skypeing several times a week and he is planning to visit me in 2.5 months (even bought a ...
A. 4 January 2013: Text more and talk less. The time and effort you spend talking you could have prepared an hour long public speech each day. Do you know how tiresome that is? When you text you can do it whenever you want. You just tell him the main events in your ... (read in full...)
I need tips on moving on and letting go!
Q. Hi there, (a long story short) So two years ago I was involved with this lovely man, he was everything I wanted I fell in love with him but unfortunately the romance came to an end when he moved away for work. However now, two years on I am ...
A. 4 January 2013: I assume that you stopped contact two years ago. You called that a romance but not a relationship so I also assume that he just left without a promise that he will come back. You could try looking up his name and send him a message if he has a ... (read in full...)
How can I ask him for another hookup without sounding slutty or needy?
Q. After coming out of a very serious relationship and getting my heart broken i've decided to swear off realtionships for a while and just have fun. So basically at a party I hooked up with one of my male friends and we had pretty awesome sex. The ...
A. 4 January 2013: It doesn't have to be him. Go to another party and hook up with a new guy. If you like the second time you may ask for a third and fourth time. That increases your chance of getting rejected. Always let the guy pick you up. The last guy didn't get ... (read in full...)
Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered
Q. so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I me...
A. 3 January 2013: I don't think facial cumshots are degrading any more than causal sex with strangers are degrading.... (read in full...)
Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered
Q. so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I me...
A. 3 January 2013: I believe a man who loves a woman would want to spend money and do romantic things for her. The same can't be said with "if a woman loves me, then she would let me have anal sex with her, do threesomes and facial cumshots."
If doing these thin... (read in full...)
Does my best friend love me back or not?
Q. Well, I'm really desperate right now and I could really use your help, so thanks to everyone who will take time to read and answer me. I've been best friends with this really handsome hot guy for two years now. In time, I started falling for him,...
A. 3 January 2013: He is serious about you. Whether you want to have that talk, or wait till he is ready, is up to you. I think you can even suggest what you like to do on valentine's day. ... (read in full...)
How do you tell someone that the girl he fell in love with doesn't exist?
Q. How do you tell someone that the girl they fell in love with doesnt exist. It wasnt meant to turn out this way. I never wanted him to fall for me, but he has. Now we are meant to meet up tuesday and i cant becasue the girl he.l fell for is a fake. ...
A. 3 January 2013: It depends how fake it became. Did you post photos of not yourself? Did you lie about weight? If yes, then tell the truth and tell him it's up to him if he still wants to meet you.
Don't believe anyone who says he's in love with a person he neve... (read in full...)
When do these things calm down and do relationships like this tend to last?
Q. How long do relationships tend to take to calm down? Alot of people say people that focus everything on their new gf/bf and spend all their time with them have an unhealthy relationship as they are isolated from friends. I do believe this is ...
A. 3 January 2013: We have different needs of how much time we spend with each other. As long as they are happy with each other, they are compatible. The couple you mention have an enviable relationship. I don't see anything wrong with it. Couples who married 30 years ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is holidaying with a past FWB!
Q. My boyfriend is going on a holiday in a mixed group, including the girl he cheated on his last girlfriend with. To be fair, he booked this holiday while we were on a short break (we've been together 15 months); though he paid for it a few weeks a...
A. 3 January 2013: Your boyfriend is on and off with you for a purpose, or when it suits him. When you are in a serious relationships, friendships with ex lovers are off limits. He is basically telling you accept the person he is or leave. Let go of him, so you don't ... (read in full...)
Why, after 23 Years am I having trouble over this? My view of my wife is shattered
Q. so after 23 years of being married this question has come up. Why now I don’t know. Before I met my wife, she had a boyfriend in in high school. They waited until after graduation to have sex. While she was at collage he cheated on her. I me...
A. 3 January 2013: I don't think she refuses to do certain acts because you don't look as hot as those guys she dated. People change. There are virgins who got married and do crazy stuff. There are wild girls who married and sex stopped all of a sudden. There are ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend care that his brother is trying to get with me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 16 months now... we've overcome a lot of stuff, and we are doing better. But through out the relationship, his brother has flirted with me on several occasions, even tried to gett me in his bed at one ...
A. 2 January 2013: He thinks his rent money is more important than you. His brother is relying on him. If he kicked him out he would have nowhere else to go. His brother is jealous of your relationship so he wants to screw it up. It's sibling possessiveness, and not ... (read in full...)
My online love interest said we weren't just going to be bed buddies!
Q. Hello everyone, I started internet dating and first person I spoke to was really nice, we spoke for a long time and he said wasn't looking for just bed buddy but a relationship. Ended up sleeping together, thing is he seems to be treating me l...
A. 2 January 2013: Maybe he said that so you feel secure enough to have sex with him. Probably what happend was he had been straight forward and honest at first and no woman replied him, so he had to lie. Awful I know. Glad to know that this is also happening on the ... (read in full...)
My friend stuck her used vibrator in my boyfriend's face
Q. So recently ive found myself in a strange situation and its one i never thought i would expect to deal with in a relationship and i truly hope no woman ever has to deal with this. I know your all thinking you boyfriend cheated on you. Wrong. So it ...
A. 1 January 2013: It could be something as innocent as this: Your boyfriend thought Lisa was feeding him something. It is human reflex to open our mouths when things are put near our faces. We learn that as babies. Otherwise I could not think of any other reason why ... (read in full...)
Does he love me for me or for my future career?
Q. I am in my mid 20s and my boyfriend is in his early 40s. He is retired but i am student.he spends most of his free time with me and understands all my academic requirements.i am on my senior year college and i plan on going to medical school.i told ...
A. 1 January 2013: He does not spend anything on you. That means his retirement pension and savings only cover his living expenses. What happens when you want a baby and you need to take two years off? He is a nester and a cheapskate. I wonder how you met him. He ... (read in full...)
Please share your thoughts on my situation with sex with my husband.
Q. My husband says that he mentally tries to delay his own orgasm and I wish he wouldn't because my body can't take it. Pleasuring him goes on so long that I dread sex. Rather than delaying his orgasm LESS he gives me suggestions on how I could last ...
A. 1 January 2013: He's having it all reversed. He's taking meds and that explains why he couldn't come as a side effect. He needs those meds, not because it helps him last longer. I assume the meds are benefical and essential for other areas and he will keep taking ... (read in full...)
Was his flirting a trick? Is he actually trying to get me out of a job?
Q. I have been in this job over two months, this colleague is now more of a friend to me he is a senior. He is always helpful and we do get along but I am worried what his agenda is now. We do have a flirty relationship but professional one too. ...
A. 1 January 2013: Maybe he is training you guys and he is required to report your progress to the manager. When you first start work you always feel like everything you do is wrong. After a while you will see that these are just routine proceedures, just doing their ... (read in full...)
I still really love and care for my B/f, but I am constantly changing my mind about whether I want to be with him or not
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 3 years. In that time, I have often felt like he takes me for granted and puts his friends first but I have always stuck it out because I loved him and didn't want to give up on the relationship. ...
A. 1 January 2013: I know that feeling. If 5 girlfriends do the same thing and leave for the same reasons, maybe he will change. If you take him back every time because you feel sorry for him, he will think you are using words just to manipulate him. I know, ... (read in full...)
We feel like we are playing with fire and we're trapped in an emotional stalemate. What can we do?
Q. I've fallen hard for a co-worker. I'm married, and she has a long term boyfriend. When I started the job we both noticed each other but neither of us were looking for anything more. I realised the crush I had on her was stronger than I had inten...
A. 1 January 2013: If you feel like you marriage can't be fixed then divorce your wife. So you can be free to date someone else without it being a secret. Simply tell her this can't go on and at least on your side there will be no hard feelings. The world will not ... (read in full...)
My mother's boyfriend treats my brother very badly
Q. I've spent a lot of time at my mum and her boyfriend's house this week and I've heard him call my brother a little scrote, douchebag, idiot, prick, pillock. He also threated to smash his wii and cut his signed football in half. He has also banned h...
A. 1 January 2013: Your mom is delusional if she thinks abuse is good discipline. His threats are very serious. Abuse by step parents are very common. They look at step children as pests, so they delibrately try to get rid of them. It won't be long before threats do ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to meet her online friend from England
Q. Hello guys. I ve seen from my GF`s FB page that she sent a message to this guy from England (whom she's never met in person) asking him if hes coming to visit soon and also wrote that its been a long time since they talked. So this guy was introduc...
A. 1 January 2013: You are not controlling. She should treat you as priority. Her arguments are showing you that her friend is more important than your feelings. Why she is so keen on this British guy I don't know. Maybe it's his exotic accent. She is a nice person, ... (read in full...)
I need help decoding this guy
Q. So I posted a question about this guy a bit ago...He is a bit older than me so I wasn't sure how things would work between us but then we kinda went on a quasi-date, it was really fun and he's so easy to be with and I'm trying to decode him and ...
A. 1 January 2013: Yes you are already more than friends. The only way to know if either of you want a relationship or just sex, is to talk.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past threesome never bothered me before but now it does
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about a year now. She told me about 6 months ago that she had been involved in a threesome. It'd happened about 15 years ago. It honestly didn't really bother me at all. I know girls experiment and everything and it ...
A. 1 January 2013: She wouldn't just tell you out of the blue, or to piss you off. Maybe she saw her ex recently and all the nasty memories came back and she has no one but you to confide in. She needed comfort so much that she didn't think the effect it has on you. ... (read in full...)
My friend stuck her used vibrator in my boyfriend's face
Q. So recently ive found myself in a strange situation and its one i never thought i would expect to deal with in a relationship and i truly hope no woman ever has to deal with this. I know your all thinking you boyfriend cheated on you. Wrong. So it ...
A. 1 January 2013: Well happy birthday and happy new year anyways! You said you left after your boyfriend put the vibrator in his mouth. Where did you go? Was your friend with you and what did she say to you? Was there alcohol in the party? Maybe everyone was drunk ... (read in full...)
Nauseated after rough sex
Q. I was just wondering if this has happend to anyone. My bf just got out of jail and we had rough sex, but since then I feel so nauseated and dont knw why.. Plz help.....
A. 31 December 2012: Maybe he was squashing on your stomach. Sex takes a lot out of you. Your body can sometimes only operate one thing at a time. When it comes to vigorous activity or menstruation, a light fasting before is recommended.... (read in full...)
My ex said we can get back together if things don't work out with her current boyfriend, but I can't handle the thought of her giving her virginity to someone else.
Q. The relationship with my ex-girlfriend is a long and complicated one so I’ll try to explain it as clearly and concise as possible. (The names used are not the real names of people involved) We first started dating during our sophomore year o...
A. 31 December 2012: You have created a situation where she can't really go back to you. You broke things off with her first, so that should have been the end of it. She is dating your friends, going to have sex with them. If you got back together you will be obsessed ... (read in full...)
Why can't my ex accept that we're not going to be together anymore?
Q. This guy that I have been knowing for many many many years, we use to see each other. He was a great person when I first met him then when we started going out he took me on ride that I wished I had never got on. This beast was nothing but a woman ...
A. 31 December 2012: Your ex didn't have to talk to you. Whether or not he accepts it he knows you won't give him another chance. He doesn't want to hear how much the new guy is better than him. He is out of your life so the courtesy of replying to your texts is not ... (read in full...)
Ok I need to get this of my chest why is this girl saying this and talking this stuff about me ?
Q. Ok, here it goes my brothers gf is saying that she loves me when she hugs me every time I hug her. It was weird she went to hug me and my brother step in the way of the hug like he did not know that I was going to hug her then she step back like wtf ...
A. 31 December 2012: Daisy, I think the other girl asked him if he wanted to have sex with the sister in law, and not the friend herself. She is like serving as the middle person of an affair. Now you said you wanted to have sex with your sister in law both women can ... (read in full...)
How should I proceed with girl I flirt with a lot over texts and what sorts of things should I be talking about?
Q. I have known this girl who is nearly year now, we have been talking for thst long and only recently we started talking alot. We used to talk about other people, and few issues she had but i was never first port of call. Recently we have started ...
A. 31 December 2012: I get the impression that you've seen each other before and you live close by. You just don't know what's on her mind. She may be a person who prefers texting over calling. You can continue texting and only call for confirmation of the time you ... (read in full...)
Why are women so confusing?
Q. Why are women so confusing? Why can't women ever just say whats on their mind? This past semester I met a nice girl in college and I would text her regularly. We would talk about music, movies, sports and whatever else was going on with school. I ...
A. 31 December 2012: Some women don't want to be friends with guys. They want boyfriends or nothing. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suffers from OCD and is too set in his ways. How can I get him to change?
Q. My boyfriend is too stuck in his ways.. He suffers with anxiety and ocd, its really quite bad but I knew this before I stated going out with him, I just feel its getting to much for me even though I love him. He won't get on buses to go places w...
A. 30 December 2012: Just wondering why you would be drawn to your boyfriend at the first place. People with OCD and anxiety might seem charming at first, because often they are of above average intelligence. It's hard to get them to change because this is who they are ... (read in full...)
Is it legal in Canada to marry your cousin?
Q. i want to marry my cousin a girl of same surname as mine in canada. is it legal this in canada to marry my cousin?...
A. 30 December 2012: It is legal. ... (read in full...)
Why are women so confusing?
Q. Why are women so confusing? Why can't women ever just say whats on their mind? This past semester I met a nice girl in college and I would text her regularly. We would talk about music, movies, sports and whatever else was going on with school. I ...
A. 30 December 2012: This is not a gender specific question. She is not texting you anymore because you are not on her mind anymore. Some people, like me, are not talkers. It does not serve any purpose and actually for me, making small talk for the sake of it, is ... (read in full...)
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