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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Why are women so confusing?
Q. Why are women so confusing? Why can't women ever just say whats on their mind? This past semester I met a nice girl in college and I would text her regularly. We would talk about music, movies, sports and whatever else was going on with school. I ...
A. 31 December 2012: Some women don't want to be friends with guys. They want boyfriends or nothing. ... (read in full...)
Is it legal in Canada to marry your cousin?
Q. i want to marry my cousin a girl of same surname as mine in canada. is it legal this in canada to marry my cousin?...
A. 30 December 2012: It is legal. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes much younger women and I'm worried about him leaving me for someone younger than me
Q. I have two problems which are really causing me a lot of stress. You see, I am a 22 years old and looking to get married. I've lived in 4 countries, speak multiple languages, don't drink/smoke/go clubbing, and am almost finished with university. I ...
A. 30 December 2012: This is really hard to relate for most of us on dearcupid. I know that in Japanese culture women look cute and have babyfaces. They eat very well and age well. Still, it's not enough. Women are expected to stay 21 forever. After that they are ... (read in full...)
Help me give advice, is her guy drawn to her because he needs her?
Q. If a man is 39 years old and has his own house that he gets behind on payments with and the only thing he does is sit and play video games and watches movies when he's not at work or at his mom's house where she cooks for him and does his laundry. ...
A. 30 December 2012: Don't think about what he needs. As a woman I know we just melt whenever a guy wants to marry us. Will your needs be satisfied by him? You will have double income, you will make sure there's food. Laundry will be done and the house will be clean. ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a drunken night with my ex and he doesn't want me to have the baby!
Q. I broke up with my ex at the start of the year a few months later I met another man, things with him seemed great at first but quickly got worse as we were both still hung up on our ex's. Things came to an end but we stayed in touch and about a ...
A. 30 December 2012: Whether it would be a traumatic emotional decision, only you would know. It also depends on your morals. Yes, single parents can do well, but a single woman with no baggage does better.... (read in full...)
Did I ruin our LDR because I asked her not to be online with others while talking to me?
Q. hey frnds my gf and i we live about 4 hrs of drive away from each other and meet around like 2 times a month and our dates are usually enjoyable.. shes 23 and am 22.. she used to work before but not at the moment i.e. stays home all the time and am ...
A. 30 December 2012: She's very mean. She's obviously bored with your conversations. She didn't know how to cut it off so she is distracting herself to avoid that stuck feeling. Whenever you feel like someone does not want to stay on the phone just gently say good ... (read in full...)
I'm just afraid that down the road, we (or mainly I) will get sick of the same ol' same ol'
Q. Okay so my boyfriend doesn't like to be very spontaneous or do exhilirating things I like to do... such as riding rollercoasters, ice skating, carnivals, etc. And I've grown up with all of these things as a big part of my life, and they matter to ...
A. 30 December 2012: It's not silly. Some people feel opposite attractions work best, some insist that they are more alike. This is for you to find out. ... (read in full...)
Why are women so confusing?
Q. Why are women so confusing? Why can't women ever just say whats on their mind? This past semester I met a nice girl in college and I would text her regularly. We would talk about music, movies, sports and whatever else was going on with school. I ...
A. 30 December 2012: This is not a gender specific question. She is not texting you anymore because you are not on her mind anymore. Some people, like me, are not talkers. It does not serve any purpose and actually for me, making small talk for the sake of it, is ... (read in full...)
How do we deal with our communication differences when it comes to expressing love for each other, be it physical or emotional/verbally?
Q. I am a 22 year old male, and I have been dating my girlfriend for over a year and we never had any big issued or disputes till yesterday. She invited me over to her place after going to the mall and threw me out, hurting my feelings, simply because ...
A. 30 December 2012: So you went home after you were at the mall? I would have just gone home and call it a day.
It was hard to tell if she was in a bad mood some days, like every month for a few days. You said that never happened last year. I refuse to believe that... (read in full...)
How can I get this girl who fancies my boyfriend to back off? She's stirring between us!
Q. Hey guys what should I do about this girl... Me and my bf have been together for 6 months now and we are becoming serious but there's this girl who fancies my bf, but my bf likes as a mate but said he would never date her. She isn't very attra...
A. 30 December 2012: The rational thing really is for your boyfriend to stop being mates with her. She is hurting you and he should not be friends with anyone who hurts your feelings. I would say the only reason why your boyfriend is not unfriending her is because he ... (read in full...)
I feel like a failure for still being in the family home
Q. I am 27 and still living with my parents. I moved back after uni and stayed longer while me and my boyfriend were saving up to buy a place of our own, which was fine with me and them, but my boyfriend and I have just split up and now I don't know ...
A. 30 December 2012: If you get along with your parents, then stay home. You still have many more years to pick a long term partner. This generation can be hard on us because there are fewer jobs, higher living costs, but fewer suitable mates. But people live longer as ... (read in full...)
An Alpha male in my midst. Do I feel this way about him because he's more manly than my boyfriend?
Q. I have a long very term, live-with boyfriend. I have always been loyal to him. My neighbor is very close to my family and is pretty much an extension of such, he comes to visit on holidays and is welcomed into my home no questions asked... A ...
A. 30 December 2012: Your body is responding to it because it's your primal instinct to want to give the best genes to your children. When it comes to long term companion, your boyfriend is more reliable and you can share both your good times and bad times with him. ... (read in full...)
Why would he bring up the past? Does he like me or not?
Q. My problem is that I went out with this guy when I was younger (6 years ago) and now we are chatting and flirting again, He approached me a couple of weeks ago by asking me about a cutesy nickname he had for me when we dated before and spoke about ...
A. 29 December 2012: It gives him a sense of pride that he still kept your attention and you still think of him fondly. If he occupies space in your mind, that still counts as something. Don't be his space filler. Should you give up? There is really nothing to give up ... (read in full...)
I think I still love him. But it's not mutual. What can I do? Seeing as my partner thinks I'm silly, and wants to leave.
Q. I dont think my husband loves me because I just cant feel that! I think this question will be a long question. We did love each other a lot, he left his hometown and move to my city, in the frount of all the pressure just came to us, all the bill...
A. 29 December 2012: You are living by yourself now? It must be tough for you to pay everything by yourself.
" But after he book the flight he just try to flight with me, I mean he just changed, because before he would be this kind of mean."
What does that mean?
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Was I justified to walk away from a man who would not commit? I'm finding it hard to move on.
Q. Hi all. Just two weeks ago I ended a relationship with a man I had deep feelings for. He was not willing to commit to me. He and I were seeing each other for a year but he broke it off and started seeing someone else. All the while, he contin...
A. 29 December 2012: I don't think you titled your own question. He walked away first.
Your self worth belongs to you and only, what the other person does not change who you are. There is a part of you that no one could take away, and that's your dignity. When a man ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to purposely mislead or lie about your past to get someone to commit to you?
Q. Ok I want to ask this and give my opinions on this subject. First let's use some scenarios. #1guy has a past of hitting women, or criminal past, but has not been in trouble for years he's "changed" as some would say. #2 women has a past of chea...
A. 29 December 2012: I see #1, #2, #3, as red flags but unfortunately not a lot of people would confess their past sins when they date. But the nastiness comes out when in time they get overly emotional, argumentative or controlling. Something seems off with their ... (read in full...)
Did I make the wrong decision by not giving my ex a second chance?
Q. Long story short, I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 and a half years about 4 months ago. I had felt that he didnt have enough respect for me. we had almost no sex life and he didnt want to marry me , which i had come to terms with over a few months. ...
A. 29 December 2012: No you did not make the wrong decision. If his love only stems from fear of losing you then that love won't last long. You could be married and he would fall into same patterns sooner or later. Allow yourself time to know the new guy. Don't jump ... (read in full...)
Am I being immature or childish or high maintenance? I don't want to be a weekend girlfriend!
Q. My story is a little long, but I will try to be succinct as possible. I started dating a guy in January 2012. He is 61 now, and I am 39. He has been divorced for 15 years (his wife cheated on him and married the guy a year later right after they...
A. 29 December 2012: Not at all. A man in his sixties who is serious usually moves fast in relationships. There is no time to waste. He gets a woman, then settles down before the woman leaves him for another. In your situation, this maybe his first age gap relationship ... (read in full...)
He did the chasing, I was confident he liked me but he seems to be acting like a sociopath? Was it all a game to him? Help me understand his actions
Q. I met a charismatic quite popular guy on a night out when I was a bit drunk I'm 23 and hes 27. I’m always louder and more confident when I’ve been drinking and we hit it off. He asked me to meet up again and we got on really well, although he ...
A. 29 December 2012: For psycopaths, narcissists, whatever, the game is that they will build you up one day then crush you the other day. It's called the idealization and devaluation cycle. They also split people into good and bad. There's no in between. It's hard for ... (read in full...)
Too much, too soon... how to recover and be a MAN?
Q. I've met a woman an hour away from me, we have many things in common and I'd like to think we've got great chemistry. Fast forward 7 weeks and we are exclusive, sleeping together and spending sat/Sundays The problem is I have almost turned mu...
A. 28 December 2012: One thing I notice about guys is that they don't go both ways. You are either a caveman or a hopeless romantic. There are guys who are more balanced. A caveman drinks beer, hang out with guys watching sports or play video games. A hopeless romantic ... (read in full...)
Slept with him, but he became a jerk. Broke up. Later slept with his brother. If they know will they both hate me now?
Q. I know I will be judged for this but I really need help please? I slept with a guy a year ago. After I slept with him, he was a jerk to me and left my life, until recently. However, I recently slept with his brother. Now my ex has just started tal...
A. 28 December 2012: You leave the two brothers alone. Who cares what they think? You don't sound like you are attached to either of them. Just move on and find a better suitor when you are ready. They won't hate you. It's a sense of embarrassment and awkwardness I ... (read in full...)
I don't want him back. Yet feel like I was never important to him. What are some coping strategies I can use?
Q. So im currently single going through a breakup. my ex and I have been dating for about 4 years, and we have been broken up for about two months now. At first i was really strong about the whole thing and im completly sure about my decision but...
A. 28 December 2012: He didn't like to be rejected so he was doing every little thing to get your attention but you fell for it. Arguing some more is one of the ways to keep in touch, and both of you kept in touch because you wanted to feel important. You get over a ... (read in full...)
Is this just a lover's tiff? What caused this? And how can I make things get back to normal?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for around three months and up until now everything has been perfect. We fell in love pretty much at first sight and it's been so intense. But something happened at the beach which might not sound that bad but made me ...
A. 28 December 2012: Not normal. A normal reaction would be "Sorry we missed each other. We must be running in opposite directions trying to find each other. The bathroom was locked so I went to .... instead." He should have been looking for you. Where he went to pee I ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with this guy, but I'm scared he won't want to if he finds out I'm still a virgin. What should I do?
Q. I'm 20 years old and have always been really insecure when it came to guys, so I had never dated anyone until four months ago. Then my attitude changed and I met a nice, sweet guy. I had my first real kiss with him, and I was really ready to explore ...
A. 28 December 2012: Some men are scared of blood, some are okay with it. I think it is courtesy to tell the guy before you have sex that you are a virgin. Guys don't like to hurt us women. Knowing that you are virgin they would know to go slow and gentle. If you don't ... (read in full...)
Why did he wait so long to contact me? Then ask about a present, for him? Does he like me?
Q. I met up with this guy who is my friend's colleague We both know that my friend want to introduce us to each other that is why she organised the meetup. According to my friend, this guy is quite shy and not proactive in talking to girls and doesn'...
A. 27 December 2012: There are man who do not ask girls out because they have the impression that men get rejected most of the time. He resents that and would only get in the game when the girl does the initiative. Sometimes they think that women enjoy teasing men and ... (read in full...)
He "remembers me how good the sex was"? Was that all I ever was to him? I'm so hurt by this.
Q. So it’s been 1 1/2 months since my ex and I broke up and I've slowly started to rebuild up my strength until he decided text me last night out of the blue . He was just asking what I was up to and if I like any boys. He mentioned how word got out...
A. 27 December 2012: When he told you about the other girl, he was expecting you to get jealous, because according to him you should be sad, sitting and waiting for him to get back to you. He can date whoever he wants but you, you have to stay single and just think ... (read in full...)
I want somebody to love.
Q. I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...
A. 27 December 2012: Friends who make fun of you are not really friends. Maybe they want to be more of a man, so they put you down? That's inconsiderate and a very unmanly trait. I am 5' and my ex is 5'8". We have the same size hands. It didn't bother me. What do you ... (read in full...)
I am struggling to move on without closure
Q. How do you move on from a relationship without closure? I was with a wonderful man who treated me well for just over 2 years. It was long distance for the majority due to his work but we always ensured we'd see eachother twice a week. He treated me ...
A. 27 December 2012: Put yourself first. I believe you want him to be the one saying to you he doesn't want anymore contact, and before he says that your caring nature tells you to wait even if it's hurting you. He is also waiting for you to bring closure. You have to ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with two people and I don't know what to do?
Q. I've been having a sexual relationship with a close family friend for almost a year now. We treat eachother like cousins and have done for years. We spend every new year and birthday celebrations together. The thing is this family friend is a guy. ...
A. 27 December 2012: I don't think there's anything you can do and actually doing nothing, concentrating on yourself is the best way to keep yourself sane. The girl doesn't feel the same towards you and nothing can change that. Your "cousin" doesn't want anything real ... (read in full...)
I keep letting possible partners slip away even though I want a relationship. Should I persevere with this guy I've met online?
Q. Relationship/ gay advice please? I don't know what to do. I've let so many guys slip away on the advice that 'they're not the right one' etc. but I tired of this happening and it makes me sad. I'm in my final uni year, still single and I don...
A. 27 December 2012: You shouldn't get with a person for the sake of getting into a relationship. If you haven't met each other yet, it could mean you are not interesting to each other enough, or he's just looking for a chat buddy. I don't know for gay men if there are ... (read in full...)
Why am I so emotional when I have a good relationship?
Q. dear cupid. my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He means the world to me and I can tell that he loves me too. Obviously, if I had any problems with our relationship, I'd go to him but this is something I don't think he'll be a...
A. 26 December 2012: You have to love yourself before others can see your value. If you constantly look for signs that he won't like you, then you will only hear what you fear most. Emotional questions are hard to answer, because they are irrational. The best attempt to ... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship revolving around sex good or bad?
Q. Hi, I have a man I met on this blogging website. Naturally people tend to meet kindrid spirits there. I met a man and we both wanted to meet so bad. So we did and hit it off hard. Now we are in a long distance relationship, from florida to idaho...
A. 26 December 2012: It seems that you are the one to take the lead in the relationship because he doesn't know what to say or what to do at the right moment. Call me old fashioned but I like men and women to have defined roles. Attraction always work best when the men ... (read in full...)
Please help me get him back :(
Q. there's this guy that I dated almost a month. we went to highschool together but we never talked . but we have mutual friends and that's how it all started. it started off as just hooking up and then I told him how I felt so he asked me out this is ...
A. 26 December 2012: Your last few sentences were confusing but I will assume you do love him. Some people don't like public displays of affection but I think the problem is deeper than that. Some black men get teased by dating women outside of their race, because they ... (read in full...)
My bf likes to sleep with other people and doesn´t mind if I do either
Q. I recently met this guy online who has since told me that he thinks we were made for each other. I was totally into him from the second we first met. We have mind blowing sex and he says he has never loved anyone or anything until he met me. He a...
A. 26 December 2012: I would not move across the country to be with a man who thinks the swinger lifesyle is compatible with settling down with a family. He is not jealous, that's because he is not investing emotionally into a person. You can always argue that it's our ... (read in full...)
What do you call a man who breaks up with you, then pretends it didn't happen and expects you to miss him?
Q. Thank you for helping people even in the busiest time of the year. Well I guess for some it's the most leisurely time of the year, and some the loneliest time. I had been dating my ex for three months. It's fair to call him an ex because he broke up...
A. 26 December 2012: Now I felt responsible. I remember on the third date he told me about his anxiety. We shared our philosophy on mental illness and my thoughts were that what's normal means being functional regardless of how that person feels inside. Medication is ... (read in full...)
My professor seems interested in me. How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi. Last year, my professor stared twice at my body during the lectures. I am aged 40. After the course, he asked me to go to come to his office to help me with my thesis. I went there every week. He was soo nice, kind, heplful and a gentleman....
A. 25 December 2012: I understand that you can like someone even when the relationship is inappropriate. I don't think you like him personally. You just got horny. He's actually behaving like a predator. I don't know if sex is illegal between teachers and of age ... (read in full...)
Help, in a relatioship I'm insecure if it's not all about me in a relationship. Would any change to my approach help?
Q. I have a problem that I don't know if anyone has ever had. When I am dating someone I can't stand anything sexual that's not to do with me. I have always moaned at anything in relationships that involved a female or picture of a female that wasn...
A. 25 December 2012: Many couples have the same problem. Your ex knew your dislike of porn but still watched it indiscreetly. There are men who don't look at porn. Actually two of my exes did not watch porn. When you date a guy you have to mention you only date non porn ... (read in full...)
I keep bumping into this guy, I really like him but he's never spoken to me! What can I do to get closer to him?
Q. 2 months ago I saw a boy walking in front of the house. He was looking at me, I got surprised and I tought: "Oh my god, he is really handsome!" (Ive never seen him before ). He turned his head back and watched me till he didnt turn right to the ...
A. 24 December 2012: He has not spoken to you because asking strangers out can seem creepy. We are taught to be wary of strangers because anyone can be a psychopath or stalker. He does not know how you feel and is also waiting for you to be the first one to say ... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to women but I made out with a female friend. What does this mean?
Q. I have never questioned my preference....but I am confused on what this may mean. I had my lesbian friend over a week ago and we would make sexual jokes/ gestures to each other but I was only joking as she knew that I wasn't being serious. At one ...
A. 24 December 2012: You did it because you just wanted to know how it feels to kiss a woman. The experience confirmed you are straight. You may not like a her but it still feels good that you turned someone on. I think you can still be friends, but if she has desires ... (read in full...)
7 months pregnant and sex has dwindled. Does this make my husband more likely to cheat?
Q. I am 7 months pregnant and me and my husband no longer are as sexually active as we were before I got bigger. This is not my first pregnancy but more unexpected. He says he is just not attracted to pregnant women like that and never has been. It was ...
A. 24 December 2012: I am not a man, but actually men get affected by pregnancy too. They have their own set of symptoms that make them tired and bloated. When I was pregnant with my ex husband we had sex up until the last day. I am sure he thought an 18 year old would ... (read in full...)
How should I apologise to keep this friendship? I want to stay friends. But I think all he wants is sex.
Q. I went on two dates with this guy. He seems really nice, complete gentleman. however he is only visiting for a week and i think he just wants to have a nice time while here and i don't know what i was thinking. I went to dinner and drinks with ...
A. 24 December 2012: I think he says something smells funny because you were late for the date and then after all you did not want anything to do with him. He thought you didn't want to meet him at all but it was better late than never. He thought you wanted sex too. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has trust & insecurity issues and broke up with me for no reason. I'm so hurt and confused ....
Q. Last night my boyfriend broke up wit me via text. He accused me of shopping for some attention. I went out shopping yesterday and he said that I was looking for some attention and I absolutely was not. He said that he can't trust me. He has trus...
A. 23 December 2012: One of the hardest thing to move on from is the knowledge that the other person did not really love you all this time. A person who loves you will not break up with no good reason. You will be upset over time wasted and that you hoped for better ... (read in full...)
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