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writes:This guy that I have been knowing for many many many years, we use to see each other. He was a great person when I first met him then when we started going out he took me on ride that I wished I had never got on.This beast was nothing but a woman beater, he was the scum of the earth. Long story short I moved on. He did the same but for some reason he claimes to have changed. Plz don't make me hold my breath.So I told him I met someone new who I believe may be the right guy for me. I told him I didn't want to follow the same pattern that I had while with him. I don't know what my ex was thinking but maybe he thought we were going to rekindle the relationship that we use to have? I don't know but now he doesn't talk to me any more, he ignores all my texts. What is his problem did I hit a nerve? Why he won't except that we are over?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 January 2013):
 Just keep the phone calls/text to the topic of your kids, nothing more. I think maybe he is trying to either give you your space or make you WANT to chase him. It's hard to say.
If he doesn't WANT to talk to you, you can't really make him. Kids or no kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2013): We remain in contact because we have two children together getting back together always comes from his mouth not mine.95% of the time it's only about him and me not about the kids.I told him about the new guy because I want him to know there is no use cause we are over. PERIOD!
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (31 December 2012):
 It sounds to me like your ex is a very controlling person. Given the fact that you have unnecessarily told him about your new partner, in his warped mind, he still has some form of control over you. Therefore, he naturally assumes, not totally illogically given the type of person he is, that he stay have enough influence to wriggle his way back in some day. If I was being cynical, I would wonder why you even bothered to inform him at all. In fact, your desire to rub his face in it, compete with him, suggests to me he isnt the only one who might not think this is over, indeed he doesnt seem to have done anything to suggest he thinks that way in any case, all the actions which suggest that are in fact yours.
Janniepeg is right, let this man go, dont contact him when you have no need too, focus on your new relationship and making that the best it can be, forget this guy, dont contact him anymore and let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2012): Well he's not talkin to you so I think he's got what you mean. But hey that's good he's not bothering you but if your afraid he wont get over it. I promise you he will.
Enjoy the peace!
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (31 December 2012):
 It sounds like he has moved on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 December 2012):
 why are you telling him ANYTHING?
why are you talking to him at all?
he's ignoring your texts why are you sending texts?
I don't see how your ex is not accepting that you have moved on... I'm seeing that YOU are not accepting that he's an ex and he's out of your life
why are you trying to maintain contact?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 December 2012):
 Your ex didn't have to talk to you. Whether or not he accepts it he knows you won't give him another chance. He doesn't want to hear how much the new guy is better than him. He is out of your life so the courtesy of replying to your texts is not needed anymore. You should be focusing on your new boyfriend, not how much your ex regretted making mistakes in the last relationship.
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