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writes:How long do relationships tend to take to calm down?Alot of people say people that focus everything on their new gf/bf and spend all their time with them have an unhealthy relationship as they are isolated from friends. I do believe this is true and I could never do it myself. But how long does it take to snap them out of this phase, or before they start arguing and drift apart/ split up?I know someone like this. When he or she isn't at work theyre always together. They only see their friends seperately when the other is at work and when they do go out with their friends the other has to go with them. I.E : If he goes out with his friends, she goes with him. I'm asking as its doing everyones head in, in our group. We totally understand you need to make time for your other half but not to the point where you don;t seem to care about anything else.They are not like this through force (i.e - one won;t let the other). They choose to be like this and appear extremely happy. I just don't understan how they don't get on each others nerves or don't argue. Its been 5 months. When do these things calm down and do relationships like this tend to last?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 January 2013):
 Why is she immature?
They both sound happy. What's wrong with that? There's nothing in your question that indicates they are a bad couple or will break up. As his friends you will never have the impact on him that she does. You sound like you are harboring feelings for him, in which case you may need to distance yourself from him to give yourself a chance to move past that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): Thanks for your responses. Just a quick add on, very recently hes been in a road accident, obviously shes the one thats there for him. As friends we;re trying but it don't seems to be having an affect on him like she does. As long as he gets better thats the main thing, but will this increase their chances of lasting? The way they are together all seems abit over the top. We are happy for him but we don't understand how her immaturity hasn't got on his nerves.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 January 2013):
It's called the honeymoon phase. It's stronger in some pairings than others and the time period is different, but usually only 6 months up to a year. It's just the bonding chemicals going crazy. It means they have good chemistry together. Lasting power comes partially from that, but also from other things.
Relax, they're just enjoying each other, they won't be like this forever. Just be happy your friend has found someone to be happy with for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2013): I know married couples who are like this have been like this for years and probably will always be like this til they die.
is it unhealthy? Yes it is. But as you know many people stay in unhealthy relationships for a long time even their entire lives.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 January 2013):
 We have different needs of how much time we spend with each other. As long as they are happy with each other, they are compatible. The couple you mention have an enviable relationship. I don't see anything wrong with it. Couples who married 30 years and still holding hands, looking into each others' eyes are becoming rare. They do happen, but that's not because they followed some rule or read all the relationship books. I think it's a combination of luck, faith, and valuing each other.
There is no formula or exact time frame of what happens to what combination of couples. I would say relationships last when people are consistent throught the dating phases and they believe in monogamy.
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