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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 January 2013):
 I offered a man FWB/NSA.... he happily accepted.
then he fell in love and I married him.
be careful...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2013): just wait till you are married... then you can do it and do it and do it again and again
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reader, Serpico +, writes (4 January 2013):
One bad decision rarely makes things better.
You can say the same thing for two bad decisions.....
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reader, Yos  +, writes (4 January 2013):
 "I've decided to swear off realtionships for a while and just have fun."
"The thing is, I want to do it again."
Doing it again is what leads to a relationship unfortunately (or is that fortunately?)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2013): What is becoming of this world, if girls just walk around asking guys to bang them. I don't think you should ask him at all, aren't you embarrassed? Hooking up with guys for meaningless sex is slutty there is no other way to describe it. Why don't you masturbate more often until you find a boyfriend? We are girls, we can't just sleep around like that, why are we Trying to be equal in everything to men, even in sex? We are not men, we are women, we are not the same.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (4 January 2013):
 How long ago was it that you slept with this friend? Have you had any contact with him since? Did he initiate that contact or did you? How discreet is he?
No strings attached sex is an illusion. There are strings, but because nothing is ironed out or made official those strings are just harder to see. And they can stretch well into the future. We get post after post after post from men struggling to come to terms with their wife or girlfriend's sexual past. And the most common issue they have is the 'therapeutic' recreational sex.
You've sworn off relationships for a while, but eventually you'll be ready and you have to consider whether or not you want your new guy to meet your past bed buddies or to learn of your escapades from an indiscreet friend. It happens far more often than you think.
Slow down. Take some time to recover from whatever hurt you experienced. There are plenty of other fun things to do. Things that won't make you look slutty or needy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 It seems pretty inconsistent that you are content to be a "booty call" for this guy.... but you're worried about its appearance......
Make a decision.... if you ARE a booty call.... then all or most of the delicacies of courtship are out the door... if you AREN'T (a booty call) then you can put your foot down and ask him to tender a modicum of respect to you....
You can't have it both ways...
Good luck....
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (4 January 2013):
 Probably you can just ask him. It might not seem so slutty if you build a friendship with him. Tell him you don't want a relationship-be honest. You can still hang out with him and have fun without sex or a relationship too.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (4 January 2013):
 It doesn't have to be him. Go to another party and hook up with a new guy. If you like the second time you may ask for a third and fourth time. That increases your chance of getting rejected. Always let the guy pick you up. The last guy didn't get your phone number, so he's not interested enough. Or you exchanged phone numbers but he didn't call you quickly enough. So off you go with the next.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 January 2013):
"Do you want to hang out again?"
I wouldn't worry too much. It's kind of fun when a woman is straight forward.
The trick here seems to be making it clear you don't want a relationship.
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