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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Why do I always want the ex that I don't have?
Q. Got a problem and i have no idea why i cant deal with it. So I've just got back with my ex(2), we broke up maybe a year ago but now i cant seem to get over the fact my most recent ex(1) is happy without me and i seem drawn to her again. Howeve...
A. 11 March 2013: You have no more incentive to chase what you already have. The only guys who woo girls everyday are the ones who are scared of losing them if they stop, or mature guys who learn to care for others more than themselves. Also guys who don't want to be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives me orders not to do something but its ok if she does it?
Q. ive been living with my girlfriend and her 2 kids for over a year. we lived in part of town moved to another part when we moved she changed. i do the dishs my own laundry sweep and mop the kitchen/dinning room floor. the appartment owner has a ...
A. 10 March 2013: She has to write a note to you, and not talk to you in person? Why, in paper it's more authoritative and urgent? Just write her back, request denied. Her kids are probably at an age when they not only want a hearty breakfast on Sunday, but they want ... (read in full...)
I really want to break up with this guy but my mom says it will be a mistake!
Q. Basically, I started dating my best friend 2 weeks ago, and he's already saying that he loves me etc, I feel so suffocated, I've told him and he listens, for about an hour, and then goes back to saying it. :/ This guy is amazing, I know he'd do a...
A. 10 March 2013: You mean you get together every single day just talking? Only meet him when you find something interesting to do. Only get on the phone for important messages. If you agree to meet with him he assumes you are thrilled to see him just as much. It ... (read in full...)
Am I just a fall-back option for her? Now that she's broken up with her Bf?
Q. Hello, here's my problem: There's a girl I really like, one day she starts texting a lot with me, she wants me to skype with her (something we've never done that often before). She is texting me almost at any time of the day. Three days later...
A. 10 March 2013: If you have doubts, just assume you are the fall back guy. She is not in a clear mental state to make love decisions in her life. You are her friend, you have your own life but at the same time you feel sorry for her. You can only suggest her to do, ... (read in full...)
Am I just a fall-back option for her? Now that she's broken up with her Bf?
Q. Hello, here's my problem: There's a girl I really like, one day she starts texting a lot with me, she wants me to skype with her (something we've never done that often before). She is texting me almost at any time of the day. Three days later...
A. 10 March 2013: It looks like she wants you to be her surrogate boyfriend to take over his place. If you like her and afraid of developping feelings, you should remind her not to do anything that crosses the friendship line. It's never a good way to start a ... (read in full...)
My grandma invited him and he didn't show up. Now he's angry that she didn't invite him this time. He got sarcastic. Does he even have the right to be mad?.
Q. Yesterday I casually told my boyfriend that today I was going to lunch at my grandma's place. He asked me why, so I told him she was going to cook one of my favorite dishes, so she had invited me. His answer: "Well, thank your grandma for th...
A. 10 March 2013: He doesn't have the right to be mad. Your boyfriend either has no sense of time, or he didn't really want to meet your grandma. If he's the kind who feels awkward meeting with an older person with generation gap, or feels the pressure of the ... (read in full...)
Could he actually be interested? Do guys after a FWB relationship usually make a point of keeping in touch every day, making 'dates' in advance?
Q. Thanks to a lack of willing participants, a casual acquaintance and I ended up having a night out at the pub. We're both single and ended up going back to his place. We had an amazing few hours and crashed out. He was supposed to be heading out f...
A. 10 March 2013: I think it's a kind of personality that likes to plan and be prompt. Keeping in touch, for me means asking about your life, getting to know you on a deeper level. An FWB can mean anything between a one night stand, a spontaneous flake, dates that go ... (read in full...)
I've stopped crying so much, but I could really use some advice on how to deal with our breakup, please?
Q. I'll try to keep this short. Was with a guy for just under a year, one day I asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he couldn't answer the question. HE basically told me he was ending the relationship, then decided that we should keep i...
A. 10 March 2013: A one night stand will make you feel more empty, reinforce the idea that the only guys you find are the ones who want sex only. When you look back on what he said, you know he's too chicken to break up with you, postponing the date, then went silent ... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in my boyfriend now that we're back together
Q. i ve been together with my guy for 8 months.everything was fine between us,till a a female friend came between us and he would not stop texting her.though my guy calls her as her sister i could not stand the sight of them sitting together chit ...
A. 9 March 2013: He didn't have strong feelings for you. You were just a good company, good person to him. The loving connection was never there because his mind was preoccupied with the other girl. I think he came back to you because he felt guilty about the way he ... (read in full...)
Sent him an email ending things hoping for a bit of resistance but he accepted it. I am so sad, what do I do now?
Q. Hello I have been involved in a 3 1/2 year relationship. My bf likes to flirt a lot, he is in his mid 40s and in my opinion weak willed. We also work together in the same building and recently on the same floor for a period of time. In this time i...
A. 9 March 2013: In your heart you know that the break up is good for you because you don't want to be jealous and compete for his attention anymore. No, you don't end things to wake up and shake up people. You are older than him but still he knows what he is doing. ... (read in full...)
He betrayed my trust by kissing a girl but I don't want to be the clingy girlfriend.
Q. For the past 6 months or so I've been in a long distance relationship. It was fine, although I missed him (we saw each other every 4-5 weeks). That was until he told me he kissed someone at a party and on that occasion he also said that he 'kind of' ...
A. 9 March 2013: You are being too understanding for him. The frustration of being long distance does not give him an excuse to cheat. With the long distance there's added freedom and to complain about lack of freedom is ridiculous. The rule of not texting when he's ... (read in full...)
Did my Ex really care about me?
Q. I was in a relationship for 8months we lived together and everything. We split up about a month ago three days later he was seeing somebody else. When people ask him about me he say that we were just friends and that he was just renting a room from ...
A. 9 March 2013: He knew he had been horrible but he did not want people to know that side of him. If he paid rent, he used you as a transition in life. If he didn't, he was really a scumbag and was taking advantage of your feelings. ... (read in full...)
I love him. So why accuse me of cheating? Is he cheating? He has become controlling. Gave me no sympathy when I lost our baby.
Q. Okay my boyfriend and I started dating last June 2012. He was in California and I was from Maryland so like a long distance relationship. I already saw him though back when were 12 years old. I took a vacation in the Philippines, and since then h...
A. 9 March 2013: He has accusing you of the same things he is doing. He wants to cheat but doesn't want others to have you. He wants to have sex, without condoms, but does not want fathering responsibilities. He is cuffing you, because he can't stand you leaving him ... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: Her ex probably had this happen to him and history repeats itself. It's kind of spooky. You had thought that her ex was jealous but he's like a brother watching out for you. It's possible two exes ago he was told the same thing and it has been a ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my future husband about this?
Q. I had feelings for my best friend. We were involved in dirty talking. We have not dated each other ever. One day it just happened that we got physical. He pressed my boobs and I gave him a hand job. Nothing happened other than this.I am 21 yr old. ...
A. 8 March 2013: Your fooling around with your friend is not a mistake to confess. In Western culture it's nothing. If your future husband demands a pure woman, openly says that to you, and his belief is that a woman who had been touched by another man previously is ... (read in full...)
Is he no longer interested after the last awkward phone call?
Q. What has happened? I'm in medical school and it's really difficult to find guys that i'm interested in and that are also interested in me, not just for sex. I met this guy online and we were talking for a while and then I met him in person. ...
A. 6 March 2013: You probably sounded like you were impatient with him. Having a language barrier, and over the phone makes it doubly hard. You might not have anything majorly important to say, but he was upset that you did not take the time to tell him later what ... (read in full...)
Are we sexually incompatible or do opposites really attract?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm in a relationship with a guy(19) that I have known for 5 years(I'm 20). We started dating about a month ago and everything has been great. Well , last night we had sex for about 20 minutes. He came after 10 minutes and cont...
A. 6 March 2013: Wow, you really sound annoyed by his innocent question. There are no words to describe an orgasm. He is asking it because he wants to be in tune with you. An orgasm feels like pleasurable waves. It feels like it's overflowing with nectar. I do not ... (read in full...)
Should I move to be with him in a culture that will stifle me?
Q. Dear Cupid I was living abroad the last 5 years and only this year i came back to UK, when i was abroad I met an Arabic guy and we developed a friendship, he is unlike the majority or Arabs he is kind of wild, out going and he loves a party as ...
A. 6 March 2013: My vote is yes. Don't have load of kids though, I hope he is just exaggerating. Standard of living is high in Jordan. Maybe when your kids grow up they can study in UK, so they get the best of both cultures. You have been there for 5 years so it's ... (read in full...)
It took him 14 months to tell me he loves me! Should I be concerned?
Q. Hi All, Its taken by boyfriend 14 months to fall in love and tell me. Is this normal and should I be concerned that its taken him so long? Thank you x...
A. 6 March 2013: It's good he finally found the courage to say it. His actions in the relationship are much more important than words. If you feel that he is being consistent throughout the relationship, I would not be concerned. There could be a hidden standard ... (read in full...)
Is it natural to feel insecure about my girlfriend masturbating?
Q. Hello, I recently discovered that my girlfriend masturbates and I asked her today, and she denied doing it... I've always felt a little uncofortable about my girlfriend doing it, because I always pleasure her first during sex, sometimes twice,...
A. 5 March 2013: I am sure she is very satisfied with you so masturbation does not mean you are in any way lacking. It's natural to feel this way but don't obsess about it. You do that because you want to make sure she has no other outlet other than you so there is ... (read in full...)
So many guys want to date me but I just want the guy at the gym!
Q. What is wrong with me? I feel so depressed:(? So I've been single for 2 years and I joined the gym and this guy that works there would always look at me and would look away when I look at him. I finally started getting to know him and...
A. 5 March 2013: Nothing happend because he had thought you had a boyfriend. You both misinterpreted your shyness and quietness as having no interest. You might see some changes after he gets back. Nothing is wrong with you. When you are infatuated you get mood ... (read in full...)
After 5 months he says he's not ready to be a boyfriend and would wind up cheating on me!
Q. sorry this is pretty long but i appreciate you reading. i need your help. i've been seeing this guy for a little over 5 months now but we're not official. when we first met, he had just broken up with his long-term girlfriend and it was still ver...
A. 5 March 2013: He's semi "decent" because he found you as a sucker willing to give him free rent and food, after his ex kicked him out. He's not so decent because a relationship is too much work for him, and he can't cheat within a relationship.
I get those stup... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not acknowledge to his family that we are a couple! How am I supposed to deal with this?
Q. Here's the deal - I'm a man. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. We live together love each other. Have a great relationship. Except for one BIG thing that has a bunch of sub sections. And it's driving me crazy. we live in the same city as ...
A. 4 March 2013: It seems that he is ashamed of his sexuality and wants to hide it from his son. If he wants to be secretive about what he is, that's fine but he can't expect you to accept an underground affair. I will treat this as a dealbreaker, the same with ... (read in full...)
If my girlfriend was fooling around with another girl should I forgive her?
Q. Hey, really don't know what to do, so for the first time in my life am asking a message board for answers. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 and half years of bliss! I really couldn't have asked for a kinder sweeter girl, especially...
A. 4 March 2013: You have to treat that as cheating and the gender doesn't matter. When she is sober she might not have done that but alcohol brings out our true selves and lowers inhibitions. Okay she is bisexual but there are many kinds of bisexual. You can be ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend need a male sex partner?
Q. Okay, you think I am crazy? My instinct is telling me that my boyfriend I am with for 7 month has a guy sex partner. The only proof I have is txt messages: "I really I like to see you this week"... "8 am tomorrow morning?" "K, your place or my ...
A. 4 March 2013: He likes sex with a guy, and the emotional warmth of a woman. His love for you is only fragmented. I am aware that a bisexual person can be happy in a monogamous, straight relationship but this guy wants it both ways. It surely won't work for you. ... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 4 March 2013: If she wants to talk then she will call you. I think she was calling you boyfriend at the party because you were not really a friend, and there is no in between friend and boyfriend. She couldn't address you as "a guy I am dating" either. Some ... (read in full...)
I've never even kissed a girl because of my insecurity about my size
Q. hi i'm 21 yrs old guy who never had sex or even kissed a girl, this happen mostly because i'm so insecure with my size down there, i've been reading a lot about this topic and i saw a lot of advices like 'it's how you use it"; "size does not matt...
A. 4 March 2013: A vagina is smaller than you think. If you always believe that a woman only feels something with a bigger penis, than all tampon users would not be able to keep them in, and they will all fall out of our vaginas. Do you know how small a tampon is? ... (read in full...)
I can't trust my boyfriend because of his cheating in the past
Q. I'm writing this letter as I'm deeply. depressed and confused and would like to hear some feedback with what I'm about to write..the problem is I'm having trust issues with my boyfriend not just minor trust issues they actually bordering ridiculous ...
A. 4 March 2013: I always believe in working things out if possible. The fact that you are depressed is not a good sign. You are pushed to the limits. Even when he deletes his dating account, the trust will never be solid because he had done too many things to make ... (read in full...)
How is this for a profile on an online dating website?
Q. I am a member of a dating site, however I never know what different things to say in a reply that is mentioned in my profile. Here is my profile (is this too bland?): I am a happy-go-lucky guy with one life motto: Live life to the max! My f...
A. 4 March 2013: Oh no, I like opera and classical. Yes, it is bland but at least you are normal or try to sound normal.
Do you really love life that much?
You can't really know people from profiles. I dated a guy who said in his profile that he is reliable... (read in full...)
We're best friends but our partners don't seem too thrilled with it
Q. Hi, My bestfriend happens to be this guy I'v known since I was 8 years old,I'm 24 now and we still remain that close,he's 24 too..I'v dated men,so has he but the both of us never had a relationship ever! Let's call him mark,now mark has stood by...
A. 4 March 2013: The girl is not worried that you and Mark will fall in love, she just doesn't like that Mark is at times unavailable because of you. It's reasonable that people will be intimidated by this friendship. Best friends like this are like couples without ... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 4 March 2013: She did not call you boyfriend back but was intimate with you. After she knew how serious you got she backed off because she didn't want to use you and hurt you later. Dump is a strong word. She is letting you down gently. Some women do have sex ... (read in full...)
You'll say "leave him" but it isn't that easy! I need advice.
Q. History on my relationship. I've been with this guy for over 2 yrs now. At the beig inning of our relationship he was controlling and made me change how I dress until I put my foot down. He didnt trust me or anything and his excuse was cause his ...
A. 3 March 2013: You don't have to leave him, like today. Once you set goals on how you are going to live your life without him, then sharing space with him now won't feel too miserable, and you won't feel as stuck. Just focus on having a peaceful birth and try not ... (read in full...)
I do not know how to handle my wife's request. My wife wants to experience sex on a one on one basis with various partners.
Q. Hi All, Just want some opinions on an issue! I have been married for 20 years and love my wife very dearly; we have also been enjoying a swinging lifestyle for a couple of years now with no hang-ups. My problem is that my wife now wants us t...
A. 3 March 2013: Sex is temporarily an enjoyable thing but at the end it is futile. It keeps the person asking for more and more, searching for the next best thing without end. The BDSM with another person will not bring you closer, since you don't share that level ... (read in full...)
Am I gay now, if I had sex with my friend once?
Q. Mod note: OP is a male. I'm a young man. Some time ago I broke up with my girlfriend, it was very hard and painful, because we had a long relationship, but I had to end it because she lied to me, cheated on me and did other nasty things. That even...
A. 3 March 2013: I don't share your view that gays are disgusting. You don't want to be gay. So now that you know these encounters are easier than you think, you would be more cautious with guys and not let yourself get in situations like that again. I think your ... (read in full...)
How can I control my jealousy? He flirts with other girls.
Q. ok ill try to summarize my problem, i fell in love with my high school classmate he was kind of shy person and i had a complete trust in him but when high school was finished and we went to college every thing changed one day he took me to a very ...
A. 3 March 2013: You never refer him as a boyfriend and there is a reason. I don't think he loves you. He doesn't have what it takes to stay in a relationship. He can flirt whenever he wants, but just not within a relationship. I saw this relationship is 2 years ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 3 March 2013: Your relationship with your ex was not good, it's just better than abuse. If you were truly happy you would not find the need to make him jealous and cheat on him. You went from one bad relationship to another. Forget about getting back with him. ... (read in full...)
I do not know how to handle my wife's request. My wife wants to experience sex on a one on one basis with various partners.
Q. Hi All, Just want some opinions on an issue! I have been married for 20 years and love my wife very dearly; we have also been enjoying a swinging lifestyle for a couple of years now with no hang-ups. My problem is that my wife now wants us t...
A. 3 March 2013: Some people like to go up a notch from time to time. The thing that is taboo is often the most enjoyable, most freeing, she thought. I don't know how you can be so liberating. She is basically living the single life with the benefits of a marriage. ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like sex, won't let me have someone else. I'm at my rope's end!
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 5 years now, she was 30 and I was 25. She wanted to wait until we were married to have sex, for religious reasons. I was ok with this because I always try to be a gentleman. I was her first boyfriend, and there ...
A. 3 March 2013: No sex before marriage, because of religious reasons. Will not enjoy sex during marriage, because of religious reasons. No open relationship, because of religious reasons. Now not believing in divorce, because of religious reasons. It means you are ... (read in full...)
How do I approach this much older man at work to let him know I am interested in him?
Q. Hi, I was hoping to get some help with the situation I'm in. There is a man at the place I work at who I am very interested in. He winks at me every time he sees me and sometimes lightly touches my arm. He almost always comes to where I a...
A. 3 March 2013: The eyes are the window to the soul. When you look at him just for seconds longer and smile, that's a pretty strong message. He'll keep coming back for more. Keep in mind that a lot of people just want to flirt and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend broke up with me. I'm feeling lost and upset and she won't talk to me
Q. Hi, Thanks for reading this, I really need some advice. My girlfriend of 1 year and a half has just split up with me. We have an amazing relationship, before christmas everything was perfect. One night before christmas, we were at her house an...
A. 3 March 2013: Every relationship is amazing until a true test comes in. I see that you are a caring person, and tries to be. There are things that women don't tell you and just expect you to know what it is. If you don't know, can't read minds, they just assume ... (read in full...)
I'm not strong enough to deal with this world on my own? Who do I turn to?
Q. I'm all alone, I have no one to talk to, I feel really anxious and panicky. I'm by myself and I feel so scared. I can't survive in this world on my own, I can't cope. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I'm scared to even go to the ...
A. 2 March 2013: You sound like you have agoraphobia. If you don't want to go the medication route, find a psychologist who specializes in EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique. ... (read in full...)
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