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writes:I'm all alone, I have no one to talk to, I feel really anxious and panicky. I'm by myself and I feel so scared. I can't survive in this world on my own, I can't cope. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I'm scared to even go to the supermarket on my own. I'm afraid of leaving my home and I'm afraid of being inside my home on my own as well. I feel trapped and paralyzed with fear. I'm not strong enough, please help me.
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reader, Calum +, writes (16 April 2013):
You can talk to me, you're never alone, there are good people out there who you can help as well as they help you. Life is wonderful, even the slightest thing. No matter how low you feel try to remember something that made you laugh whether it be along time ago or not and then hold on to that happiness feeling, it will invite more happiness into your life. Do you know why you feel the way you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): I have gone through this same thing. When you start talking about what is going on inside your head, you start to find out that other people are often dealing with similar things. The world is kinda caving in on us with all sorts of crazy things happening. and we need to stand together to push back. We all have a responsibility to reach out, gain strength so that when someone comes along who is experiencing a similar darkness, we can show them that they are not alone. The only way to fight is to keep communicating. Sometimes a little pet can be the greatest comfort and very healing too. I got myself a little Kitten and she is amazing :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): I have gone through this same thing. When you start talking about what is going on inside your head, you start to find out that other people are often dealing with similar things. The world is kinda caving in on us with all sorts of crazy things happening. and we need to stand together to push back. We all have a responsibility to reach out, gain strength so that when someone comes along who is experiencing a similar darkness, we can show them that they are not alone. The only way to fight is to keep communicating.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 March 2013):
Hi there. First of all, has there been some recent major trauma in your life that has caused this extreme anxiety, that you are feeling?
And if not a major trauma, when did these feelings of fear of being alone in the house, or of going out of the house, first begin?
Or, have you been physically attacked while you were out and about recently?
Do you live alone?
Has there been a burglary in your house recently?
Or has there been a home invasion of your house recently or in your neighbourhood recently?
Why I am asking these questions, is that I believe there has to be a root cause as to why this anxiety exists for you at all.
For instance, did these feelings of fear and anxiety just suddenly happen overnight?
And if so, what happened just prior to feeling this way?
Has there been any changes in your life recently, or something that has made you start feeling insecure?
If you can give me some more information about these questions above, that will enable me to help you further.
Because, feelings of fear and anxiety, usually are triggered by some negative event happening just prior.
Another possibility is, has there been a death in your family or of someone very close to you recently?
Has there been a nasty relationship breakup for you recently?
Have your parents recently broken up?
I feel there has to have been something that happened in your life at about the same time you found you were beginning to feel very anxious and afraid.
Because, what you describe, are feelings of being overwhelmed and like you have no control over what happens in your life.
Do you feel that you have no control?
And, what are the things you are most concerned about in your life, at the moment?
What are your greatest fears?
And if nothing traumatic has happened recently, like what I have mentioned above, well then it is possible that you are suffering with some kind of anxiety disorder or even some form of depression.
So if nothing really traumatic has happened at all in your life recently, well then it would be a wise idea to go and see your family doctor and have a chat with him or her, and let them know exactly what has been happening and how you are feeling.
And for how long you have been feeling this way.
Whatever your real fears are, they do need to be properly addressed before proceeding any further.
If it is found that what you fear, isn't really an actual immediate danger to your health and wellbeing, well then your family doctor may prescribe some mild anti-anxiety and anti-depressant medication that could at least help you to feel calmer, than you presently do.
In fact your doctor may after talking with you thoroughly, prescribe the medication anyway, and then refer you to a psychologist who could investigate your condition further and get to the bottom of what is really worrying you so much.
In the meantime though - as well as seeing your family doctor - you could practise taking some long, slow, deep breaths once every hour or so, to help relax you and to keep you calm.
You would be very surprized by how doing deep breathing exercises, will calm not only your body, it will slow your heart rate, and calm your mind as well.
And when you feel calm and relaxed, so will your mind.
And when you feel more relaxed and at peace, you will be much more successful in rationalizing your thoughts as well.
Because even as anxious as you feel most of the time, your actual risk of anything bad happening to you, is probably much much lower, than you perceive it to be.
Please try the slow deep breathing, and make an appointment to see your family doctor as well.
Don't delay this one more day.
You don't want to feel this way for very much longer, because it makes it virtually impossible to function and cope with everyday life.
You are worth it.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (3 March 2013):
I agree with Janniepeg. The things that spring to mind for me are:
Firstly, you talk about fear, seemingly in all circumstances: within your home and should you venture to leave it. What do you fear? What is going to happen? Is your fear a worry about the future? Is something bad going to happen? Is it fear stemming from lacking confidence? Fear of how others will see you and what they’ll think of you? Fear of being alone?
Secondly, when you say you’re alone, does that refer only to the time at which you wrote your question? Are you always alone? Or do you just fear the times when you’re alone? Are there people (friends or family) who you can talk to even if you’re living at a distance from them?
This may be a case of asking you more questions than giving you answers, but in addition to repeating Janniepeg’s advice I’d suggest you use those questions to help you understand and put in to words what’s going on, to enable you to seek the help more easily. Your GP might be a good person to see in the first instance, even if they decide they’re not the right people to help, they should help you access that help and not abandon you to cope alone with this level of anxiety.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): You're in the uk, call Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/contact-us of email and they can just talk to you, whenever 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I have person experience and they are just fantastic in any situation and can help you at times when you're panicking and ca not cope.Please call your doctor and ask them for a telephone appointment, let them know you're problem and they may be able to put you in touch with a counsellor who can help with your anxiety about leaving the house.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 You sound like you have agoraphobia. If you don't want to go the medication route, find a psychologist who specializes in EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique.
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