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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I'm not strong enough to deal with this world on my own? Who do I turn to?
Q. I'm all alone, I have no one to talk to, I feel really anxious and panicky. I'm by myself and I feel so scared. I can't survive in this world on my own, I can't cope. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I'm scared to even go to the ...
A. 2 March 2013: You sound like you have agoraphobia. If you don't want to go the medication route, find a psychologist who specializes in EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique. ... (read in full...)
Should I just end things so he can have a happy relationship with his daughter?
Q. I'm dating a guy with a 3 year old daughter. Ever since we've been dating its been nothing but drama between me, him and the child's mother. She has not allowed him to see his daughter since we've been dating. She say's that he is picking me over ...
A. 2 March 2013: If he is paying her enough child support, then she will not be so bitter about him leaving her for another woman. The court will decide how much he has to pay, then afterwards she has no right to interfere with his love life.
Before you end thin... (read in full...)
How do I get to the point where I can trust my fiance again?
Q. I dont mean to keep repeating myself, but im living in complete agony. Ever since I found out that my fiance flirted with a girl on a jobsite and got her number. And then text her and called her beautiful. Him and. I have been together seven years ...
A. 2 March 2013: You downplayed the post this time. Panic attacks are not fun. Your body is screaming loud to you that your relationship is not right. Listen to it. It's not anything you did wrong. The only thing you did wrong is keep giving him chances.
Trust is n... (read in full...)
Is my husband's honesty admirable or despicable?
Q. My husband told me that he loves me, but he's not attracted to my body, anymore. He said he just wants to be honest with me. He really isn't trying to be mean, and he's not saying it in a demeaning way. Specifically, he wants me to tone my body....
A. 2 March 2013: Totally despicable. I am actually thinking he's starting his aging process. Although he is still all muscle, he can't do the same things he was able to do in his 20's. He could be projecting his insecurity onto you. He notices all the hot barbies in ... (read in full...)
I just want to be friends. So why do guys keep on developing feelings for me? How can I stop this happening?
Q. I'm studying engineering so it's ALL GUYS and I'm not a hermit or anything, so I try to make friends. And I LIKE having friends I can talk to about nerdy things like Linux and Firefly, I mean, most other people don't get it. But the guys ALWAYS e...
A. 2 March 2013: Women like you are scarce and you are very valuable to them. Guys can't turn off their feelings just to talk about Linux and Firefly with you. Maybe look for a gay guy. There has to be one amongst them. Or just pick the best guy and become his ... (read in full...)
How can I be of support to my Bf who is trying to leave his baby Mama?
Q. My boyfriend is going through changes because he is trying to leave his baby mama for me How can I be of support? Because sometimes I feel guilty that I am getting all of him .......
A. 2 March 2013: He either leaves or stays with her. There is no trying to leave. A person trying to leave, you don't call him an official boyfriend yet. What I would say to him is that I would back off until he is sure what he wants but I won't force him to make a ... (read in full...)
It is ok for a single childless woman to date a man with kids?
Q. Hi. My question is: is there ever anything good about a single childless woman who doesn't plan to have kids having a relationship with a divorced guy with kids? Or is it always just bad? I've read a lot about the negatives, does anyone know if ...
A. 2 March 2013: There are single fathers who will say, "I don't want more kids and I am not looking for a mother for my children," meaning that his ex will be the only one mothering her kids. So you could be a match for such men. ... (read in full...)
I've been dreaming of this woman since 1974. Should I look for her?
Q. I´ve been in love with Tessie since 1974, Tessie and I began a few moths relationship, we broke, after 7 years, we started a new relation, By then I was married man but somehow Tessie and I kept together for 5 years. In 1989 I got sick with can...
A. 2 March 2013: It's very unusual to dream of the same person every night. I would definitely say the brain tumour has something to do with it. It is affecting your ability to devote to your wife. You have to ignore these dreams because it is not an indication that ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend so much even though the relationship is hurting me in so many ways
Q. I really need help getting out a bad relationship I'm 20 years old and been with the same man since I was 14. I love him to pieces but as time goes on he's treating me worse and worse.. He puts me down with words and actions. Physically a...
A. 1 March 2013: Your boyfriend doesn't think about why he treats people badly. He does because you don't give him a reason to stop and is continuing to let him. Sometimes love is an attachment and it's hard to let go off. You have been with him for a long time and ... (read in full...)
Broke up with bf.. but now he's being mean?
Q. Ok - I broke up with my ex almost 2 weeks ago and have been NC since. I broke it off, because he was distant and not giving me enough attention, and gave me the impression he wanted out of the relationship but wanted me to end it... so I did. He's ...
A. 1 March 2013: He doesn't want to show you attention when he's supposed to. He only shows you attention when he's not supposed to. A relationship is only safe when there are temporary outs because it is too suffocating without. The break ups allow him to chase a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives her phone number out to other guys and texts them!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for about two months now. I dont talk to any other girls but she talks to other guys. what pissed me off to get mad at her and write this was she said something like "why wont this guy leave me alone, I dont want ...
A. 1 March 2013: She has absolutely no reason to share this with you if she has no intention of dating other guys. She probably did this to get a reaction out of you. She wants you to get jealous. She wouldn't like it very much if you give her short responses to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's family doesn't like me or my children
Q. I have been dealing with for two years now and it come and goes in waves. My Boyfriends parents dont really seem to like me or my kids. When we 1st got together it seems that they just dealt with me but you could tell by small subtle hints they ...
A. 28 February 2013: I see this is a blended family, you have three children and he has at least one. His family wants to keep people separate, your side and his side. His parents don't want to accept more grand kids who are not blood related.
This is a hard situ... (read in full...)
Didn't think he was the cheating type but I've caught him in lies and strange women answering his voice in the early am!
Q. I feel like im going insane. I do. I come from a conservative family and always thought I would be with (in regards to sex) one man. I like about the idea of only knowing one person intimately and vice versa. Me and my current boyfriend wen...
A. 28 February 2013: He did not sleep with her but did something close to climax? That's a lie. Even if they used their hands only he did something he's not supposed to. So if they didn't cum it didn't count as sex? You had been dating for 6 months. It's a very long ... (read in full...)
Help me understand him. Is he a pervert?
Q. Dear lovely aunts, I need your help.. I've known this guy for 20 years, not close friends but families are close friends, his mom always wanted us together ever since we were kids. I was always emotionally unavailable and never considered him. We ...
A. 27 February 2013: No. He is a man who wants intimacy and was being too forward for your taste. You gave him mixed signals but at the end he realized that you only want friendship. He gives up, thinking that living in two countries there is nothing to keep the ... (read in full...)
Can I shake off these feelings of detachment or are we destined to fail?
Q. Hi There. I have been in a relationship for just under a year and a half. It has been the best relationship I've had in truth. But something has changed and I'm not sure why. I'm in my mid-twenties and have had several relationships since I wa...
A. 27 February 2013: We pick our own destiny. You have full control of how you handle this situation. I think you feel disturbed because instead of feeling sympathetic towards her sleep disorder, you felt turned off. If you had married a woman for a long time then she ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 26 February 2013: I think opposite sex friendship is okay as long as they have no sexual feelings for each other, in the past or present. They respect that their spouses are their priority. They also are comfortable with their lives and have no need for attention and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's female friend is always at his house and no one cares about my feelings
Q. Every week for the past 3 months, whenever I go to my boyfriend's mums there is this girl there. This girl has openly admitted to liking my boyfriend for the past 5 years and purely doesn't like me on the bases I'm going out with him and she isn't. ...
A. 26 February 2013: This is a sticky situation for your boyfriend. His female friend probably had known him and his family longer than you have. She is like a family , a free babysitter and they don't have the conscience to cut her off just because you are dating him. ... (read in full...)
Can I shake off these feelings of detachment or are we destined to fail?
Q. Hi There. I have been in a relationship for just under a year and a half. It has been the best relationship I've had in truth. But something has changed and I'm not sure why. I'm in my mid-twenties and have had several relationships since I wa...
A. 26 February 2013: Our instinct is to look for the best, the healthiest partners in order to pass the best genes for our children. A healthy woman means a longer, cheerful life with less stress. Her sleeping disorder triggered the fear that she won't be the best ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend disrespected me by walking away with another girl after a party infront of me
Q. I have been a relationship for 4yrs, we have had some rough patches such as last year I attended his birthday party and he disappeared then i learned he disappeared with another woman. This year,he held another party and the woman was there, d...
A. 26 February 2013: He lied to you, for a long time. She was in her pajamas at his place, spending the night there. When was the last time you and your boyfriend were in the same car, and when was the last time you spent the night at his place? It really looks like he ... (read in full...)
I want him back, but I don't want to go back to somebody that is just going to hurt me like that again. Any advice for me?
Q. Hello! I am having major heart anxiety and I do not know what to do. I have been dating and been hopelessly in love with a guy since the beginning of my junior year in high school. We were together for almost two years, but about seven months a...
A. 26 February 2013: He was wrong to blame you for the distance. You did not choose to leave him to go there. You went to a college that your parents can afford. To go from a marriage proposal to this means he had not been sincere. It's not uncommon for people to do ... (read in full...)
Should I get checked? I was bleeding after sex!
Q. Ok so I think I'm kinda embarrassed to answer this question so anyways. Just had sex with my friend. He's like my bestie. Hell I can't believe this happen since I be on that 90 day rule shit lol. I don't feel nasty or anything because we have been ...
A. 26 February 2013: Sex can change your chemical balance down there, especially with new sexual partners. The bleeding has to do with stretching. With big heads the stretching is sudden and not gradual. You had been with 3 guys so I think your hymen is pretty much ... (read in full...)
He wants to be friends yet flirted with me. Where do I stand?
Q. I'm a junior in high school and i like this Guy a lot. He is a grade below me but he's only 2 months younger than me. He had a gf but they broke up a few days after he found out that i like him. I didn't actually tell him myself until after they ...
A. 25 February 2013: Some people break up but don't want the exes to know they are dating others. He is flirting with you to show you he likes you physically but could also be keeping an eye for his ex if they were to get back together. It's never a good idea to hook up ... (read in full...)
Should I forget about my wife's past with my friend?
Q. When my wife and I got together she just come out a brief relationship with a friend of mine,he was known as a bit of a player i was relatively inexperienced at sex where my wife was very experienced and very good at sex,when I asked my wife about ...
A. 25 February 2013: I am experienced and good at sex too. If a guy committed asked me if I think he's the best in bed. I would not answer. That question totally smells like insecurity. He only has to be decent for me to stick around. If being the best is important to ... (read in full...)
Please can someone explain this man's behaviour to me? So confused!
Q. Hi, I really need the advice of someone objective! Basically I really liked this guy, and he told me he liked me too (more than once). He used to message me, offer to walk me places and would talk to me whenever he got the chance telling me how b...
A. 25 February 2013: He is not a jerk but he still wants to play the field. The difference between you and the other girl is that he knows what he ends up with whenever he tells a girl he likes her. It usually leads to a girl requesting a relationship, and getting ... (read in full...)
My girl who had been raped before is asking me to do rough role play with her. It feels wrong.
Q. So my sex life with my GF has always been pretty vanilla, she doesn't really like kinky stuff and hates things like dildos or porn or anything that is in anyway a little wild. in the past I had often found that she seemed bored during sex and simply ...
A. 24 February 2013: I understand BDSM fantasies. Some are for curiosity. Some do it for creating spice when things get old. Your girlfriend wants to regain the control she had lost as a 15 year old. By reliving the trauma she is attempting to make the abuse "okay." ... (read in full...)
Messing around with my cousin but now regretting it.
Q. Well, I have something really very stupid and deviant. I have a great crush on my cousin for like 4 years now and I seriously love her a lot. About a month ago, we used to hang out like friends and used to study late nights for our entrance exams. I...
A. 24 February 2013: You didn't hurt her. She is equally responsible for this awkwardness. Using her bum to push you off is kind of the worst way to say stop. She is like a cock teaser. She likes that you were aroused but could not bring herself to do something sexual ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a girl with a boyfriend also likes me? NO intention of making a move as she has a Bf.
Q. When I first met this girl over a year ago, I asked her out but she told me she has a boyfriend. She was really nice about it though and said we could hang out and be friends. I was ok with that because I just wanted to get to know her. Over th...
A. 24 February 2013: "I don't think either of them know that I know they are together."
You just said over a year a go the girl told you she has a boyfriend.
You are not going to make a move on her, but if she does, does that mean you will accept it?
If a girl with ... (read in full...)
I think my guy is still hung up on his ex. There are too many rules about sex because of how he did things with her!
Q. I think my partner is still hung up on his ex. The reasons I think this are: 1) he won't kiss me properly (tongues are a definite no-no) as he says when he used to kiss her she wanted more than just kissing. I have assured him I am not the...
A. 23 February 2013: I don't think he is hung up on his ex. Actually he feels better that you are 10 years older. Maybe to him, that means you have less energy and are less sexually demanding. He is trying to take control of his sexual life but not repeating what they ... (read in full...)
Does my crush like me or is it all in my head?
Q. So i have another problem this one is to do with my ex-crush... Last year i told him i liked him but then he said he aint ready for a relationship and what not so in short he rejected me.. But we continued our friendship and acted as if nothi...
A. 23 February 2013: He likes you. In what way I don't know. Usually when a guy says he is not ready for relationship it means he is ready for sex and nothing more. A year ago you would be too young for that. Maybe you are coming of legal age now so he is looking at you ... (read in full...)
I love my husband but he loves his money and freedom more than he loves me!
Q. My ques: myself and my husband got married 12 years back. We have 2 daughters. I love my husband more than my life. He 2 loves me. But he a very practical person. He is away from me for 9 months due to his work in ship. But when he is near to me he ...
A. 23 February 2013: It's always about what he wants. What about what you what? You want a man with a career and at the same time a family oriented man, which he isn't. When he's away for 9 months, who's going to take care of the kids if you go work also? He knew your ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this baby Dad Drama, caused by his new GF? I need help.
Q. My child's father and I have been really going through the drama. His new girlfriend is the cause of it. She does things to influence our arguing I'm honestly tired out of fighting and I'm tired of her causing problems I talked to him about ...
A. 23 February 2013: I am sorry. Totally misread the post.... (read in full...)
What we had together was amazing. Why did my commitment phobic guy cut me off the way he did?
Q. I dated this guy for a year. He was commitment phobic from the start because he had some horrible experiences in his past, but we decided to go with the flow, because the chemistry and compatibility between us were very strong. In fact I woul...
A. 23 February 2013: I hear a lot about committment phobes and the excuses they use to not continue in a relationship. It really has little to do with getting hurt again. A guy in his 30's knows what he is doing. He knows what he likes and dislikes in a relationship. He ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this baby Dad Drama, caused by his new GF? I need help.
Q. My child's father and I have been really going through the drama. His new girlfriend is the cause of it. She does things to influence our arguing I'm honestly tired out of fighting and I'm tired of her causing problems I talked to him about ...
A. 23 February 2013: It takes two people to fight. The baby mama can't make your boyfriend go back to her, but she can take away a lot of his time from you, like frequently calling him for trivial things to help out. Your boyfriend would comply in order to avoid fights, ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this girl is up for fun?
Q. hi probably not the best site to post this, and imagine ill get some abuse, basicly my mate works at a shop and has started bringing a few friends out with him for me and our other friends to meet, we all smoke weed (his new buddys included) we go ...
A. 19 February 2013: You have already been spooning, and given her history the next step shouldn't be difficult. Public sex is not everyone's cup of tea. You should take her to your place for the first time. If you are not sure if she likes public sex and you go ahead ... (read in full...)
Why are men so confusing?! HELP!
Q. Hello, hope someone can tell me why men are so confusing?!! I went on a date two weeks ago with a co-worker. I've liked him for a while, but was badly hurt last year so this is the first person I've actually wanted to date. We had an amazing date, ...
A. 18 February 2013: I don't think the problem is that you didn't mention your birthday but it was like a dilemma. This is a guy you barely know for 2 weeks. To talk about birthdays he will be pressued to buy you a gift when he's basically a stranger. Not talking about ... (read in full...)
I feel like we are best friends and nothing more
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's my best friend and I enjoy spending time with him but lately I am starting to feel like we are just best friends, nothing more. I don't have any sexual feeling towards him and sex often makes me cry. I ...
A. 18 February 2013: Is it because there is no sexual chemistry or did you have a bad sex experience in the past? The lack of sexual chemistry can't be fixed but if you have to explain something to him so that he can understand. Did you cry because you wished you were ... (read in full...)
I want to be reborn again and save my life. Do I have to leave my boyfriend then?
Q. okay Help please!! hi everyone, i am a girl and i am 21. I wan't to change my life i wan't to be born again so what are the do's and dont's. i am in a relationship with a guy i love. so do i leave him after being saved or what????...
A. 18 February 2013: God is love, God is everywhere and in everyone, right? Your bodies are made in the image of God so there is no possibility you will be sinning as long as you are not hurting anyone. Whoever told you marry a deity and leave the world behind is ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend judge my family if I tell him about my abusive father?
Q. Hey, I'l get straight to the point,I'v never had a daughter-father relationship with my dad,we never shared,talked about problems,I always soo scared of him cuz he was an abusive father and as a child I heard him shout and raise his hands on my mo...
A. 18 February 2013: The topic of family will come up in conversations. If he asks you about it tell him little by little. Don't scare him with minute details all at once. In dating you will judge, but mostly you will be judged upon how you behave in your relationships. ... (read in full...)
Mixed Signals From A Guy I REALLY Like
Q. I am seriously conflicted about something and really need some guidance from those that personally don't know me because I know you all will be honest! I will do the best I can to keep this as the condensed version, but I do apologize in advance if ...
A. 18 February 2013: The only signal you got is pixels on a screen. For some reason my guess is you are in the east and he's in the west. Would you separate from your family and friends to move in with a guy you know only virtually?
I think he is a dreamer. The fast... (read in full...)
I can't open up to him because he's always talking about his ex.
Q. Hey all of you. because i think you all are good people i'm turning my shoulder to you again ... So there's a total mess in my head about my love/boy i'm hanging out ... i won't lie how we met. there was a party and sex. and because it was ...
A. 18 February 2013: You already showed feelings to each other. It's up to him to date you when he feels ready for another relationship. You don't have to worry about being cold. Every time he shows you a bit seriousness, you reward him with your kindness. There will be ... (read in full...)
My wife confessed that she cheated and our 4 year old daughter isn't mine. How do we proceed from here?
Q. I'm 32, and my wife's 31; been together for 9 years now. We have a 5-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. Last night she told me she had something to confess; I asked her what it was, and she admitted to me: "Our 4-year-old daughter isn't m...
A. 18 February 2013: She had sex in August 2009. Plus 9 months pregnancy it will make it May or June 2010. How does that make your daughter 4?
She got the dates or the man wrong.... (read in full...)
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