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*ackalus
writes:Got a problem and i have no idea why i cant deal with it. So I've just got back with my ex(2), we broke up maybe a year ago but now i cant seem to get over the fact my most recent ex(1) is happy without me and i seem drawn to her again.However when i was with ex(1) i couldnt stop thinking about ex(2), i was happy when with both and i have no idea why i always want the one i dont have its so annoyin please help me????
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reader, llifton  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 human nature at it's finest. always wanting what you can't have. you're not alone. tons of people feel this way. it's just bizarre human traits. there's really no solution to your problem. it's just up to you to recognize your behavior patterns (which you have), and choose to STOP it. you are ultimately in control of your emotions. and it will only be a feeling and a thought if you allow it to be.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 You have no more incentive to chase what you already have. The only guys who woo girls everyday are the ones who are scared of losing them if they stop, or mature guys who learn to care for others more than themselves. Also guys who don't want to be thought of as jackasses. Basically, you are not hardwired to feel excited about the same girl forever, except when you know she is a goddess and outshines others. I think that's the reason why people break up and make up, because they look back and they realize that's sadly how the spark is being reignited. You get together until you are saturated with feelings of being loved, then you take it for granted again and wonder why you don't appreciate her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 March 2013):
 You're a young man.... becoming a real ADULT man.... just like the rest of us....As you continue in your quest and CONquest of manhood (evidenced by your recent behaviour).... you will probably find that it will be more appropriate to change your name from "Jackalus" to "Jackass"... Also, like the rest of us!!!!!Good luck...
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