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writes:Hello,here's my problem: There's a girl I really like, one day she starts texting a lot with me, she wants me to skype with her (something we've never done that often before). She is texting me almost at any time of the day. Three days later, she tells me that she broke up with her boyfriend. It goes even further. She always starts the conversation, once I don't reply she sent my pictures of herself, asked me where I've been etc. She invited me to her house (with another friend), we had a great time. After that she wanted to meet me alone, make dinner and to watch a movie. Despite all of these facts, she hasn't shown any kind of indication that there could be more than friendship. Am I just a fall-back option for her? Someone thats nice to her after the relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): just ask her, simple as she is a girl not a lion she wont bite and if she does it wasnt ment to be x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 March 2013):
 If you have doubts, just assume you are the fall back guy. She is not in a clear mental state to make love decisions in her life. You are her friend, you have your own life but at the same time you feel sorry for her. You can only suggest her to do, places to go to take her mind off of that guy. You are not obligated to answer her every text.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 March 2013):
 1. Yes.... you are a "fall back"....
2. She has an itch between her knees, and needs someone - like you - to scratch it.... Have at it... but DON'T be sucked in to believing that it means anything more than a good/fun scratching....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): She's probably feeling lost and lonely after being used to the company of her ex boyfriend in the relationship and is looking to fill the empty space left in her life right now...just be cautious with her.
Hold back on your feelings and don't assume she has any long term attraction to you if things come to a more personal level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response, janniepeg. Here's my problem, though. Over the last couple of weeks, I've developed some feelings towards her especially after the time we spent together. I believe I've shown that I'm interested (through flirting, texting etc.) but she hasn't shown any indication that she wants to cross the friendship line. Is she just shy and wants me to ask her out? I'm in a tough spot since she's been with her ex-bf for three years, she says she hates him for his actions during the relationship yet, brings him up from time to time in our conversations. I want to give her some time to get completely over it but I can't if she's texting me like crazy every day, asking me to come to her place especially since I have the fear that I'm her fall-back option until she finds someone better.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (10 March 2013):
It looks like she wants you to be her surrogate boyfriend to take over his place. If you like her and afraid of developping feelings, you should remind her not to do anything that crosses the friendship line. It's never a good way to start a relationship off on getting over an ex.
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