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writes:Hi, Thanks for reading this, I really need some advice. My girlfriend of 1 year and a half has just split up with me. We have an amazing relationship, before christmas everything was perfect. One night before christmas, we were at her house and we got broken into as a man walked into our room, it was so scary, i immediately moved her into my home ( i still live with my parents) which obviously isnt ideal. A week after that had happened my girlfriend needed to go and see her dad for christmas, he lives in America, we live in England. she went away for two weeks and was due back, got back to london, and had to fly out the next flight, her dad had a serious accident! He was in intensive care, on a breathing machine and couldnt move his whole body, he is a cowboy and it is his life being active, he couldnt speak for 6 weeks. She eventually came home, she goes into herself during arguments, and other things, she didnt open up to me, she never spoke to me about it, i didnt realise how bad she was coping because she didnt talk to me about it. She also sometimes has her priorities in the wrong order, she will sometimes put her friends before me, but apart from that, she came home a diffeent person, and us living at my parents didnt help, we werent getting on great, but i didnt think it was bad enough to split up! since she was back though, i didnt feel loved, and i felt very neglegted, i know that she had so much going on, but when she doesnt let me in, its hard for me. So she split up with me this week, telling me she needs to be on her own right now, kind of making me come up with my own conclusions, which is driving me crazy, i dont know if she wants to get back with me when she feels better, seen as it wasnt the relationship, it the horrible situation.. i feel lost and upset, she's not talking to me, and i dont know how to react! I'd love some advice, do you think this is it.. when i ask if we could get back when she is feeling better she keeps saying she doesnt know how she will feel. im heartbroken.. thank you for reading, and i would really like to hear what you think. Thank you x
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (3 March 2013):
Some of the moments of my life I regret most are the ones I spent upset over a break up. You need to forget her and move on asap. Trust me, any minute you spent wallowing will be just a moment of your life truly wasted.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 March 2013):
 Every relationship is amazing until a true test comes in. I see that you are a caring person, and tries to be. There are things that women don't tell you and just expect you to know what it is. If you don't know, can't read minds, they just assume you are not the right person. Maybe it's the way you handled the situation on Christmas Eve. Maybe you didn't call her enough, sound sympathetic enough when she was in America. Where is her mom?
Whenever someone breaks up with you with no good reason, and a definite yes or no, my advice would be to treat it as the end. So you can move on and heal. Moving on does not need mutual agreement. If she comes back to you then you could decide if you want to take her back.
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