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writes:This past summer I started talking to a guy at my college. He didn't intially say he liked me when we first meet but I knew he did. Prior to us talking he would text me all day asking me questions about myself and vice versa. So he finally asked me out on a date I agreed, the night of the date however we had to change plans because the movie we were supposed to see (which he suggested) didn't come out til next week( He wanted to hang out, I assumed it was game but I said no lets go do something). We went out had fun flirted and he took me back home. We kissed (I know to soon). The next day I didn't invite him over, oh well. Now I worked afternoon and nights so he would invite me over after work. The first time I went over he put the moves on me and I left. After that we hung out some more and things got a little carried away. I would have to tell him to stop. He would be cool with it and I would always leave before he woke up the next day. This went on for about a month if I wasn't over there we would text, he started getting frustrated with me, saying he wouldn't change after and things along those lines. He invited me to party's and functions that his frat threw but I wouldn't go because I didn't want to look like one of there groupies. So finally we hooked up it was amazing but I felt bad about it because I hadn't really wanted to sleep woth anyone unless I was in a rel. He stopped texting on the weekends and hit me up on that Mon. I went over again and we did it again (horrible this time). Over the next month he would start texting me every few days and continue to invite me over, he would ask me why I never texted him and I said I just don't I felt like I offended him. I have been extremely standoffish and kind of mean to him but I do it because I'm scared of my feelings towards him. We recently hooked up again after a party because I was drunk. I texted him randomly and he responded right back I however didn't continue to converse with him. I know to expect a text sometime this week but I am really confused aboout the situation. I don't know if he likes me or just wants a fwb. This I feel is partly my fault because I don't show that much interest. What is this?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 It could become a real relationship but every time you get intimate you leave, leaving you no room for connection. He senses that you crave physical intimacy and no guy would decline an available girl. You have to let him know even though you have needs you are uncomfortable with the vagueness of this budding relationship. He doesn't even know if he likes you on that level yet. You don't know if you are compatible with each other. Plan some activities you both enjoy so you can know each other as friends first. Avoid places you would be left alone. Don't actually say let's be friends, that's discouraging. Just tell him to take it slowly. You don't have to wait for his texts. Tell him your plans for the weekend. It is just as nerve wrecking for him to reveal his feelings.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 It actually sounds as though he might want a relationship, otherwise, you would always ask him what he sees this as. I think the whole situation would be a lot clearer if you opened up a little more, that is to say, a lot less standoffish.
I hope that helps.
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reader, N3m0  +, writes (28 September 2010):
hey well, from the sound of it. sounds like everythin went a lil too far from the beggining and probably you left a thought on his mind that, he can get it anytime he wants. I really cant tell you wether this what he's thinking but after having *** for a while and you guys werent really in a relationship maybe he wont take it serious, since it wasnt like go out on dates and have a good time and then THINK about *** . I would say just be careful and also dont follow a guy or give him much attention, so if you make up your mind and feel that hes not what you really want, or your type, stop texting etc.. and itll go away soon enough. he might call every now and then to check up on your status like wether you still want to hang or if youre slowly getting over what happened between you. Good Luck, i hope i helped =)
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