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writes:I have been married for almost four years now (married at 19) and the relationship has had a lot more downs than ups. There is one particular problem I have and that is with his female best friend. He admitted to having kissed her before and I'm pretty sure he pursued her until he gave into just being friends. I have never been with anyone apart from my husband (from a kiss to everything else) and I feel very jealous. He calls me Hun but he called her that too and we seem to be the only two people he says that to. I have spoken to him about how I feel but I guess I was not as assertive as I should have been. I know for a fact he keeps in contact with her and it drives me crazy because I feel he has not respected my wishes. He seems to have a "single guy attitude' when it comes to going out Friday nights with his friends and expects me to be OK with it. Apart from this there have been other problems but I feel that this one is driving me away from him. I am not even sure if I love him as much as I once did. Am I being out of order? Should I try and get over this jealousy or should I ask him once more to stop speaking to her? I feel like its either her or me, but I'm afraid he is going to pick her. I really need some advice as I don't want to waste my time or make a huge mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply, I still have not had a chance to talk with him about how after all this time I still feel this way. I wouldn't even know how to tell him i need time to think. When I do find the courage I will update my post. Again thanks.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 If you love him let him go. People can only be infatuated when they can't get what they want. Wait till he actually pursues her and he would see that she is just another woman with faults and all. Don't argue with him about this. Just say you want a break for some time. Don't make him jealous by making him feel that you are dating someone else. Go no contact and let him miss you. When he feels he actually has the freedom to do what he wants the sense of mystery that attracts him to her would be gone.
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