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writes:Okay, I decided since the last question I should just give up with the last girl, and go with online dating.During this week, a girl messaged me (which with this website, is rare to ever see a girl come out of nowhere and message you). I started talking to her, vice versa, and eventually, she said, unquote: "I like reading what you have to say, you intrigue me :) that usually never happens i swear, most people are just all the same, you stand out. very good thing :) if you've ever heard the expression I'd "**** his mind" yeah, that's what's happening right here ha." She also asked about me adding her on Facebook a lot, and I really wanted to get to know her first before I did. I asked her why should I give out my Facebook, and she said "for more pictures," and mentioned "I could see more of her pictures". I'd rather have trust/know them for at LEAST a month for someone before I launch them full permission to my Facebook, let alone email. She seems to be the "night owl", "defy the nation" type.She also said, and I unquote: "Eh I've had some horrible relationships..only 2 serious ones..make that one actually. he was just horrible to me, I'm sure that will come up at a later time...but mostly just someone who makes me feel good about myself doesn't put me down and supports me in whatever i want to do, someone who will care for me and not judge me, be comfortable enough with me to tell me everything and trust me." So after she asked about me again, she said she was interested in seeing me, hanging out, a lot of flirting, "Online cuddling" and then me responding to the message about me 1 day later, It said she read the message, and had deleted it. As if she lost complete interest in me. This all happened in a 4 day time span. She is also a smoker, and I asked very, VERY gently, if she would try to quit smoking... but I don't know for whatever I said that night, 3am, that set her off (if I did). I don't know if I came on too strong, me talking about my minuet disability quirks, me talking about past relationships (she wanted to know, and asked me!), or if I no longer intrigue her.I really like her, and I don't want to lose her. Even if it is just friends here, Please!... ;_;How do I recover out of this one, and why did she do that? Should I add her to Facebook? Has she completely shut off from me? Could I still recover and have One Last Chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Noo, not a hacker... :) I just know. But you know, sometimes we have a strong rapport with people at first and then, it un-ravels...sometimes for no reason. She may or may not be the one who completely understands you and ya gotta prepare yourself for both. I understand what you're feeling. Like Christine I'm hesitant, shy, alone, and rely on my talent (not singing) to bring me alive, closer to what I love. Finding someone who gets me would be amazing :p Oh boy was that cheesy! lol
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reader, Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera +, writes (2 October 2010):
Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera is verified as being by the original poster of the question RE: @janniepeg: Thanks. I should've caught what she said, and what I was saying at the same time. Thanks fro raising my Awareness.RE: @Anonymous #1: Actually, the tables have turned.RE: @Anonymous #2: I just thought it would be a cool username, because I can reflect some similar personality traits that the poor phantom has. It doesn't matter which one though. (Unfortunately, and tried not to give the pof away, yes... how could you guess? You'd have to be a hacker or the actual person I've been talking to know that).~~~~~SHE DID RESPOND BACK HOWEVER: "i'm good. just a little much to talk about i guess i don't know how to follow that, nor do i really want to :/ sorry"I know my problem now, I asked too many questions, but she was asking a lot from me as well. I was just going with the flow. So, how should I go on through this without making myself look horrible? I really want this to work, because I've had too much bad luck already, and just want someone who understands me, and she seems like the one.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 You did nothing wrong. She said she wants someone who supports whatever she does. Even something as innocent and and sensible as telling her to quit smoking is upsetting to her. If you tell her to quit smoking then you will also be telling her to stop other unhealthy habits. At first she may see that you have a sweet nature but then she finds out you don't really accept her. She may even think you are too good for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): it is someone u met online ... 90% percent of the time, these things dont work so i wouldnt worry about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): Was the site pof? If so, she could have been deleting to save space or by accident. Message her (don't mention the incident) and see what happens. P.S- Andrew Webber's phantom? The original? Or Gaston's? :p
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