Dating a momma's boy... Any advise?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my boyfriend does not see the harm in talking to his very protective mother about all our problems and assuming that i will blindly follow what his mother thinks, he thinks my mom "is full of crap" when it comes to relationships. his parents are a lot older than the normal age range of the parents of people our age and they have a relationship that is somewhat unrealistic for now a days (they were married and had started a family at ages of 19 and 18, he is the 2nd youngest of 6 with a 11 yr difference between him and his closest older brother) the other day he was angry that i asked my mom for advice about what she thought about our relationship and the current drama that was going on. i have a good relationship with my mom but nothing to the extent that he has with his. he was home schooled from 1st grade through his jr year in high school and his mom and younger brother were close to the only people he interacted with, besides his two neighbors. all in all he was very sheltered. i have tried to reason with him that i dont want his mom to think really poorly of me just because we got in an argument about what he texted said to me via text. even before i could explain myself he showed his mom what i said and now im pretty sure that she doesnt think so highly of me. his mother almost broke us up because she thought that his younger brother who is the baby of the family said i was an "ok" person. i had hardly talked to him and so he did not know me very well so it was an accurate response for a 16 yr old guy who keeps his words to a mimimum. i had to tiptoe around for a month before i felt like she had stopped watching me like a hawk to see if i was fit for her baby. another time his dad suggested after we had been going out for a month that he go out with this other girl that was more suitable and came from a good christian family. our families have known each other since we were 5 and go to the same church. i also have had to meet all of the siblings their children and the aunts uncles and cousins which is a ton of people their immediate family is 3 times the size of mine and he does not understand why i am uncomfortable with having to meet everyone while he can hardly talk to my parents and brother who is my only sibling. i love him but i have tried to reason with him about how hectic and scary is family can be and that i need to listen to people that i think are wise as well and not just his mom. he goes on about double standards that i hold him to but i feel kind of trapped because he wont listen to me. as a side note we r both pretty stubborn but he is easily wounded and very sensitive and so if you have advice on dealing with that too id be a great help.

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