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writes:I love my girlfriend, I absolutely love her, and she and I are both virgins and aren't going to have sex until we're married. But I'm super self conscious about the size of my penis..I'm 5 1/2 inches fully erect, but if I flex it gets to 6 inches, my girlfriend has seen my penis several times and my penis is the only penis she's ever seen anyway, and she says that my 5 1/2 inches terrifies her, and she even starts crying every time I suggest I make my penis bigger and she flat out begs me not to, but I don't exactly believe her, I feel like she's just crying and saying I have a big penis just to make me feel better..my first question is if my insecurity is making me analyzing this way too much and if so..should I just drop this whole "make my penis bigger" thing? I just want to have a bigger penis....but if that makes my girlfriend not want to be around me, then what's the point? someone please tell me if my girlfriend is telling the truth, that she is a virgin that she really does find my penis huge, and I'm just super paranoid...thank you so much
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Some women (virgins in particular) may be intimidated by a larger penis, simply because they're scared that sex will hurt (and quite often, it does. Especially if she has a smaller vagina. Women come in different sizes, too). You have nothing to worry about, 5 1/2 inches is a decent size, and that is clearly scaring your girlfriend as it is.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 I dont think I can take this question seriously.5.5 inches and your commplaining?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Well for a virgin girl who has never seen a penis is a very nervous and scary situation. All she can think is how in the world can that fit in this little hole I have? Your girlfriend is definitely being honest and telling her that you want it bigger it frightens her even more. In the end this situation is all about how you both feel comfortable with your selves if you are self doubting of what you have what do you think your girl would feel like?The size does not matter at all, but what matters is what you do with what you have.For a women is more then size, but it has to do with what you touch, how you touch her, using your mouth, using your hands, and words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): You have way too much time on your hands. you sound very normal to me. What IS a passion killer for women is a guy obsessed with the size of his penis.What women really care about is, does he have the following:Is he a man of integrity?Is he loyal (ie not a player)Does he have some long term plans?Does he have the backbone to see his plans through - ie does he pursue things to completion (ie does not give up easily)What are his actions that demonstrate that he can be believed and trustedIs he caring and considerate?has he got his act together re his financesDoes he treat his own family respectfully?Will he make a responsible kind father?Does he earn a regular income?Does he drive responsiblyNo outstanding fines?No addictionsDoes his equipment work? (see size does not even make it to here)
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reader, Mr Clark +, writes (5 March 2011):
I highly doubt your girlfriend is acting just to make you feel better. What she is saying sounds very believable to me. Perhaps a woman could correct me if I'm wrong, but I've been told that even a tampon is quite a tight fit for women who've never had anything larger. For the sake of discussion, let's say you were somehow able to make your unit larger. The most likely result (here in the real world, not in porno fantasy world) would be that sex would be very painful for her and she would not want to do it with you. Women actually do break up with men who are too large for them. Women are different in terms of their size/tightness, and it's quite possible your girlfriend is naturally small/tight. In other words, you and her are quite possibly almost perfect for each other in terms of size right now (if you're not too large already).If you were smaller or if you actually had intercourse with your girfriend and it felt loose, that would be one thing. But, as far as I can tell, your "problem" is entirely in your own mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): look, your size is not small.In fact it is perfect. remember a man is not only a penis. women in the first place ask for their men to be kind, successful, caring, optomistic, faithful, smart, well dressed, clean, sensible, clever, reasonably good looking,nice to be with, have a hobby e.g: sports, music ..penis size comes last in their priorites unless it is extremely small.yours is not small. so concentrate on the other aspects.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 ...How would you go about making it bigger ?...
Do you mean surgery ?... Like, you want to undergo a painful,risky, expensive procedure to enhance a perfectly normal, average sized penis- that your gf is completely OK with ?...
Omygod. Either you need counseling- or you need to stop watching porn like, yesterday !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): I believe 5-6 inches is a normal-sized penis.I am a virgin too, and yeah if my man was 5-6 inches long and said he wanted to make it larger I would say NO PLEASE DON'T!!! Why would she want you any bigger than that??? OUCH
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 Imagine yourself growing up as a girl, never having to walk with a bag of meat between your legs. A penis, whatever size, is going to be intimidating for a girl. The first penis I touched was barely 4 inches, and I was so shy I was shaking. I thought to myself, that the energies that it gave off was so strong. Stop scaring your girlfriend. You are average. My mom had thought I was short when I was 13 and mentioned hormone shots. The doctor said since I reached the 5 feet mark, the health risks were not worth it and that I should just accept my size. If you are normal, don't try to fix when there's no problem.
I believe that when you said she's crying, that means real tears real emotions. What she is scared of is the pain of sex, the unknown of whatever emotion that would come up during sex. I can't think of anyone who could fake tears and put on an act to make you feel better. If she's able to do that you better suggest her to go to Hollywood. She really has nothing to be afraid of because there is no scientific method to permanently increase penis size. People are making money off of insecure and gullible guys.
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