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writes:I have been friends with my guy for over 10 years and we hooked up at new year, 2010. We are both in our late 30's and it feels very serious and we are discussing getting married and having kids.Basically he booked a holiday to Thailand before we got together with the specific intention of paying for sex whilst he was there ( he was single for 18 months before we hooked up). He wanted to try certain sexual acts with the prostitutes that I have said I will not do with him. He has said that he wants to still do these things whilst there and that that will be it, he will settle with me when he gets back. I am inclined to say that it is OK but i'm worried that it will make me trust him less or that he will have less respect for me allowing him to do this. Other than this issue everything is perfect between us. Some other people's opinions would help loads.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): If you are not comfortable with him engaging in sex acts, even if he tells you his plans, he is still betraying you. Do you want to marry a man who has no qualms about getting what he wants, no matter how much he will hurt you?
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (28 February 2011):
If he has been honest from the beginning I don't think
there is much
To worry about
But be sure that when you get married you have to fulfill each others sexually
Usually people who are happy in bed live a happier life and tend to be more honest
Good Luck
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (27 February 2011):
I don't find it a good idea. You are committed to one another already, and I guess you are exclusive. So letting him do this is letting him cheat on you.On the other hand, if you let him do this you should wait six months when he's back. And then make him get tested for HIV and other STDs. Even if he wear condoms, there is always the chance of getting an STD.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Out of all the places he chose Thailand. Yes asian girls are hot but I think you are all aware what Thailand is popular for. I would not get married to him. He sounds suspicious. I know it's very romantic to talk about marriage so soon but make sure you know who he is inside and out before you become exclusive. He sounds like he has a lot of money but if you want to have a great sex life, he's not worth it. The idea of settling sounds totally unromantic actually.
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