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writes:I met this guy at a bar and he took my number and started texting the next day.We went on a date and he kept persuing me for more dates and everything was going great. He invited me to meet his parents, I hung out with his friends but we both never really spoke about what we wanted we just went with the flow and I didnt think it mattered if things were going well...Then NYE came and I made plans to go meet him at his friends house.. he texted me saying we are leaving, my friends they are bored here, I'm so sorry. I messaged him back and never heard from him and I told him I was upset he chose not to answer me and I hope he had fun with whatever he is doing I went away on Jan 1.A few days later I messaged him and he said it was so good to hear from me and then it seemed like everyhing was good and when i came back we hung out normally again..Then a few weeks went by and I asked him if he wanted to do something on the weekend. He said he may be going away but if he doesnt we can do something and asked what I wanted to do.. all weekend went by and I never heard from him so I messaged him on monday and he said he went up north snowboarding.i said thats fun but it would have been thoughtful if you messaged me to tell me you were actually going away and he never responded. I called him and he never called me back and a few weeks went by and we didnt talk.I saw him at a bar after not talking for 3 weeks and everything was great and we left together and then I never heard from him a few days later so I texted him asking him where he stood with things as it was really nice to see him. He said it seemed like I was looking for more of a relationship and he doesnt think he could offer me that right now. I said I dont know what I want but I know I want thinks to be consistent... ended up seeing him at another bar a week after that conversation and we left together again and he was telling me how he wants to go on vacation with me and how he loves being with me and im so beautiful.Woke up and went home and its been 5 days and we havnt spoken since.What should I do? I want to ask him again or call him about things but I dont want to be to needy but it seemed like we had something and that he wanted something but I dont know what changed his mind.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (26 February 2011):
 You know what, there are people who come and go, mostly just go and asked me for numbers and in my mind I would sigh, and think, "like you are gonna call." They would bump into me from time to time and act all buddy buddy again. They would promise great things and then. NOTHING. And then repeat. Nothing ever happens. Because it's just too painful to ignore and become strangers again.I am a pianist. People would like to start conversations with me about how they so want to learn the piano. It's so good to make music. They talk about it every time they see me and when I started to mention method books they look at me like, what, am I really going to do this?The reason why he does not hang out with you because he's a dreamer. When someone dreams there is no chance of being rejected or judged. It's called rejecting first before getting rejected.
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