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writes:We are "just friends" he says, but our last together time was 7 hours of chatting, watching sports, dinner, drinks at his place and this is weekly, says he is attracted to me but we are just drinking buddies. So what do you think? Oh yea, I was over on valentines day and his birthday, and he told me I remind him of his mom, which I was stunned, but he said "no I mean that in a good way, I love my mom". He was with last long term relationship for 8 years and she slept with someone else while they were engaged...he still talks of it after 3 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): When it comes to budding romance and sexual attraction, calling you a drinking buddy, friend, and comparing you to his mom is the kiss of death in those departments. That may be hard for you to swallow and if this crush on him keeps you from being with other men where there is potential for more I'd quit being his beer buddy. Hanging out at bars and drinking beer with him may have stopped other men from feeling safe asking you out too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Yeah you're just drinking buddies. OP when someone says "just friends" they mean it. Make no mistake when "friends" is said it doesn't matter how he acts or how well he treats you he only wants to be your friend.
Think of all the guys you've said that to in the past, guys that had shown interest but you didn't see them that way, you meant it didn't you? You wouldn't have said it otherwise.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 March 2011):
 I think your answer lies in your last sentence. He will do everything to occupy his time, but he won't be open his door to love again to avoid hurt. Moms are safe, they will always be there so that's what he needs you to be. I don't know of any moms who drink and watch sports with their sons though. Maybe there are similarities between you and his mom, or maybe he's saying just anything to brush you off.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (20 March 2011):
 He sounds as if he just wants to be friends.Are you ok with that?
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