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female
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30-35,
*exy minx
writes:My partner is a complete bore in sex and ejaculates in about five minutes and then when He is satisfied He won't carry on and please me! someone tell me what to do x
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 5 minutes is about average, actually :P I've known thirty-second men.
Jokes apart, you need to explain that your needs aren't being met. If he isn't able to learn to last longer then get him to use his fingers and tongue. Tongue works, almost always.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 March 2011):
 You should have him pleasure you (with fingers or tongue) before even getting to sex. Most women can't orgasm from penetration alone anyways, and it's entirely possible for you to orgasm pre-sex. Foreplay is a misleading term, since most women orgasm much easier from "foreplay" than penetration.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 March 2011):
 Tell him to read about tantra sexual techniques to stay hard and to hold off ejaculation. He should stop and rest every time he feels like cumming. I think all men should learn to become better lovers themselves before entering any relationships. I honestly think that the penis is naturally built for enjoyment, both men and women. The fingeres and mouth are just things you use to build up excitement, and that's it. Never feel guilty about using this as a deal breaker. You are not selfish. Indeed, he would be selfish for not at least trying, or stopping you from having the sexual enjoyment you deserve.
This is the reason why relationships for me have always been casual to start with. I find it easier to love a person who can last longer. For me, a man trying hard to please me means he has a lot of love to offer. A man cumming too soon is like a miser in bed. I would rather be single than to have 5 minute sessions, leaving me frustrated, unsatisfied. Some people try to bring a woman to orgasm first by using fingers and tongue but what I really crave is that penis in vagina bang bang. True, love should be unconditional but I am young, and not ready to leave the earthly sensual passions behind. I am not a saint yet. It really takes a saint or a buddha to stay in an unfulfilling relationship, knowing that there are men out there who could last longer. If he's unwilling to try, or can't because that's just how he is, think about spending the rest of your life like that and how hard it would be to prevent yourself from fantasizing about other guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Oh no :(... reciprocation.
Yes, tell him your needs arent being met and you feel that has hurt the relationship. Ask him why he wont reciprocate and see if a compromise is needed. Try your best to remove ur emotion here when talking to him as I fear of some possible unproductivity to a resolve if emotions become flared. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): talk to him about it... tell him that you want more and that he isn't doing anything wrong... you just want more of it... try and not put his whole focus on sex... distract him a bit so he is not extremely excited because then it will happen faster, also this could helphttp://www.blurtit.com/q760231.htmlthe most important thing is to talk about it to him and make sure he knows nothing is wrong with him hope it helps :)
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