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writes:Two weeks past since I broke up with him, and I am totally heart broken. All I can think about is him. When I wake up, walk to class, ride the bus, go to work, come back home, and before I go to sleep. My mind and heart are making sure that I am not forgetting about him. I don’t want to do anything but stay home and sleep. I feel empty and alone. Even reading his name makes me feel completely devastated. Life with out him is tasteless and bitter. When is my heart finally going to give up and move on?I want him back, but then I realize that’s not going to make thing better. I decided that I will no longer beg for him to stay with me. I have to grow and mature as a person and hope the same for him. I gave all I had in our relationship, but I guess he never cared about that. At the end of the relationship, it was his uncaring ways what moved me further away from him, what made me so sad, frustrated, mad and no longer happy in our relationship. I love him so much and I would have done anything for him, but I guess that wasn’t enough. I really didn’t mind his flaws and mistakes. Everyone has those and I am sure I have plenty of those. But the way he just didn’t care, it was destroying me from the inside and out. Maybe something is wrong with me. Maybe I am too emotional, or selfish. I been trying to search my self to see if I been unfair to him in anyway possible. I even asked him once if I was doing something wrong. He told me that the one that had something wrong it was him. I guess he stopped loving me or got tired of me. The thing that really sucks is that I never stopped loving him, and I know that I always will. That’s why I needed to stay away from him and drop out of the classes that we shared. Seeing him would just make my life hell. Knowing that I won’t be able to touch him, talk to him, listen to him and be with him the way we use to anymore, just kill me. So I have to start all over again. :( I don’t want to start again. I just want to be with him, my best friend, the person that makes me feel free, complete, sure about life. But I just feel lost and scare. Terrified that I won’t share my life with him and be with him anymore.
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 When the heart is broken, nothing is more heartbreaking than this, and mending a broken heart is no easy. I tell you, no one and nothing can heal a broken heart except "TIME".
No amount of advice or words of wisdom could give comfort to ease the pain. You don't even listen to yourself, even if you know what is the best thing for you at the moment. It seems like the heart has its own mind. It's not bothered by anything except what it feels and thinks - the pain. If you compare the hurt you feel to a wound, no amount of pain killer could give instant healing. You can't bring instant relief. The healing takes time, and it has to undergo a certain stage before you get totally healed. It will heal on its own time. But when it's healed, it leaves a scar, but you see, the scar doesn't hurt anymore.. just be patient and gentle to yourself.. When you get healed, you'll just look back to this experience and smile to yourself..and you'll realize that you've made the right decision of breaking up with him.
As for the moment, you are totally drowned by your own illusion of him as an ultimate man of your life. After sometime, you'll be thankful for this experience.You know what kind of pain and agony an unrequited love can bring,and you'll appreciate the wisdom you gain out of this lesson in life. You will then have the heart to sympathize with people, who likewise would be going thru this agonizing condition. I've never heard of anyone who has been drowned and never survived this kind of ordeal.. all survived with a scar that gave them precious lesson in life to live by..it made them stronger to face hurts and disappointments in life because they know how it feels.It made them more sensitive to the feelings of others, and it brought them a better understanding of others' frustrations in life. In short,the healing that comes from being broken hearted gives wisdom to the person who has experienced it.
Don't you know that not everyone has undergone this experience? You won't be able to appreciate the pain you're going thru now, but, all who have gone thru this will agree with me, that one day, you'll thankful it happened to you..you know what pain is..
It won't settle for long. Not everyone who passes our lives are there to stay. Some stay for a short while, while some overstay the welcome. Like this man who is just a passerby in your life, the hurt you feel from his leaving will simply pass. Treat him like any visitor in your life, he,too, shall pass..
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reader, mrazdancer  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 I have been through this, and now I am with my boyfriend now, and the only advice I can give is that it gets easier. After a few months the pain subsides, and you can start feeling free again. However, people will no doubtly say - have a bit of fun with another guy and you'll feel better. This caused me more trouble than it was worth. And a parting note - ice cream/chocolate/sweets all help but what really helps, some nice hot toast, a tea/hot chocolate and a bath. Hope you feel better!
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reader, Bounties  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 One sided love is not true love, imagine loving somebody that lover you back just as much, what a wonderful thing that would be. You need to accept this fact and get your life moving on. Yes you are going through a grieving stage for something that was not meant too be.Get into lots of activities and tell yourself that he was not worth your love. Don't look for another relationship yet, it will take time for your mind to accept the circumstances. Time will heal all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): I am sorry you feel this way and have been in shoes exactly. I have learned after all the heart-ache, time wasted thinking of him, making more effort to get him back..that if someone is meant to be with you they will..if not..they were never meant to be. Do you really want to be with someone who does not want to be with you? Trust me, if have been there from wondering what I did wrong to what if I did this or that to spending every waking minutes thinking about him and expressing my love...but nothing. The moment I just let me go as painful as it was...he started calling me!...it was nice for awhile but guess what...at the end of 5 years it came to the same thing...he still just is not into me...he was just replying out of obligation. You want to be someone's #1, not option when he feels like it. If you focus on your own life and figure out what makes you happy by being with yourself and accept yourself as the great person you are...you will be that much more open to let the guy who really cares for you in...and trust me...they are out there...let him find you:)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 The way to an indifferent man's heart is not to give more, but to pull back. You should only give when you know your efforts will be appreciated. Love should flow easily and effortlessly. Either he is afraid of committment, or he just doesn't love you enough. What's more scary, to be with a person who won't appreciate you or just being alone? I guess your life wasn't that empty before you met him. The love relationship just brought unmet needs in the past up in the open.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): Is this an article, a question or a just a place you came to work through your feelings?
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