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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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My fiancee moved out and started seeing her Father's best friend! Is she gone off the rails here?
Q. My fiancee's father recently died after a short illness. Our wedding had been scheduled for next Summer. A month after the funeral, she has moved out and started seeing her father's best friend, a man who, to my mind, is a younger version of her ...
A. 21 October 2006: To answer the question:
Frank, how do you draw the conclusion that this woman is bi-polar?
Answer:
I do not know if she is bi-polar. I said that her behavior is similar to the women I have dated that were bi-polar. I wrote that in so that ... (read in full...)
My fiancee moved out and started seeing her Father's best friend! Is she gone off the rails here?
Q. My fiancee's father recently died after a short illness. Our wedding had been scheduled for next Summer. A month after the funeral, she has moved out and started seeing her father's best friend, a man who, to my mind, is a younger version of her ...
A. 20 October 2006: Sorry for your loss dude. Not only for your future father-in-law, but also your relationship. I dated bi-polar women a couple of times, but no more. The type of behavior you have described here is very much in line with my experience. Ext... (read in full...)
My guy always dyes his hair outrageous colours and it's embarrassing. Am I being shallow?
Q. I'm in my 40's and have been dating this guy (my age) who plans to dye his hair a crazy color - from dark to bleached blonde or blue or bright red. He used to do this a lot. I'm a professional and to be honest would be embarrassed to take him to ...
A. 20 October 2006: If this is the worse thing he does, and the rest of your relationship is sound, then just accept it. Read some of the other problems that people post here, and you might put your situation in perspective.
Now there is a reality that your work env... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 19 October 2006: I am single and would support this idea very much.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Had oral sex with a friend when I was drunk! He asked me to be discreet but it all came out in the local gossip.
Q. i had oral sex with a friend when drunk and its comes back to bite. He is not out, made clear it was a one off and asked me to be discreet. anyway when one of my other friends came round she had a line of speed for us both. I told her soon after and ...
A. 19 October 2006: You have an obligation to protect the reputation of the people you engage with sexually. Period.
You do what ever it takes to stick to that. Your stress is your problem. If you can not handle that, then you forfiet your right to be sexually... (read in full...)
After lying at first, my wife admitted to having lunch with a guy from work. Should I trust her in that nothing is going on?
Q. One day my (attractive) wife and I planned on lunch at her work's cafeteria. She cancelled. A friend of mine at her work told me she had lunch with a bigshot in the company. He asked her out to a lavish restaurant. It was odd because she only has 30 ...
A. 19 October 2006: This is a hard situation. I can only tell you what I would do. If she is sincere about putting your relationship first, tell her to find a new job.
If the situation were reversed, and my marriage was threaten by a big shot in the company ... (read in full...)
She still brings up the STD I had that broke up apart! How can I get her to trust me again?
Q. Well I guess I didn't explain the question right. The deal with my ex and me is we're still in touch with each other and seems when we're with each other and around each other we connect very well. Sometimes, like anyone else relationship, has ups ...
A. 19 October 2006: Hi Luvchild,
Thanks for clearing this up.
Firstly listen to Irish49. If you did take responsiblity for something that you do not know for sure you did, then you are suffering for no reason.
I do not know alot about clamindia, but I would s... (read in full...)
What should I say, when my bf says I'm beautiful? What's a good response?
Q. how do i respond when my bf says im beautiful? i never know how to respond! i either thank him or smile and giggle! but i never know really what to say back!! i want him to know that i think hes hot, but he doesnt really like that word, and idk how ...
A. 19 October 2006: i thought it was cute, and for sum reason he really dident like that, and we got into a huge fight about how i cant take things seriously.
So basically, you meant the word one way, and he took it another way. He has a different assocait... (read in full...)
I feel sick about what I've done! I just want him back..what should I do?
Q. this is a really lobg story but i need to get the point across im 19 yrs of age just last summer i was going out with this guy (20), he was nothing but nice to me he treated me like a princess and made me laugh every day and i treated him really ...
A. 19 October 2006: hey, thanks for the response. If you can learn something from this, then this experience happened the way it did for a reason. I hope your healing continues. take care.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Why would you still have feelings for someone that cheated on you and hit you?
Q. Me and my gf just broke up 1 month 8 days ago. (im 21, she's 20) My life seems to be meaningless ever since she told me she has lost feelings for me... My life just isn't the same without her anymore, i have tried to forget her and concerntrate on ...
A. 19 October 2006: Hey,
I am sorry if my communication was not clear. I know you had no violent intentions. I was making a comparison to his actions.
For get my books. Here is what I mean when I say emotional needs. I am posting it here so you can understand w... (read in full...)
He says he will leave me if I don't have sex with him....I'm a virgin!!!
Q. I am going out with this guy, he is 18 and I am 16. I really love him. A LOT. We've been going out for about three months. He wants to have sex, but I don't. I am a virgin and I am kinda scared. He says he's gonna leave me if I didn't give him what ...
A. 19 October 2006: Yes, you CAN leave him.
What is he going to try to force on you next?
You found him, thus you can find someone else.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
When someone is drunk are they likely to be more honest or to lie? What do you think?
Q. When someone is drunk are they likely to be more honest or to lie?...
A. 19 October 2006: My experience with drunk people (I do not get drunk) is that the only constant is that
Drunk people do not care about the conquences of their actions. Honesty is irrelevant in this context.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I'm 21-she's 13. I fallen in love with her and I think she likes me. She's self-harming to get my attention! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I’m a 21 year old lad who has fallen deeply in love with a 13 year old girl! I asked for advice on here a couple of months ago, read what people said and tried it but with no success and now the situation has got worse! Some people sa...
A. 19 October 2006: You are 21. She is 13. In some parts of the world it is illegal. Period.
If you really love her, then be strong enough to leave her alone. When she turns of age, give her a call, but in the meantime, stay away.
Just the fact that there is SO... (read in full...)
How do you deal with the fact that someone doesn't love you anymore?
Q. Ok. So, how do you deal with the fact that someone doesn't love you anymore? I had never before been in love cause I never let anyone in (never wanted a broken heart, cause I am not that strong of a person). I finally let this guy in...and I love ...
A. 19 October 2006: I was there too. I lost my exfinance and I was hooked on her for 7 YEARS. I finally got her back, but I had to work really hard to change myself. Then it still did not work out, but I got CLOSURE.
The issue that helped me was that I needed c... (read in full...)
He wants me to shave my fanny and I don't know how!
Q. hey i met this guy when i went to austria with the school and hes coming over to see me but he wants me to shave my vagina and i really dont no how to go about it please help its really embarsing!!!!x:X:x ...
A. 19 October 2006: In addition to what Beckah wrote, I can tell you that as a man, I perfer to have it shaven (cleaner looking and easier to perform on without hair getting in my mouth.
I also shave my area, and forearms too. I use Nair which is a cream. The fume... (read in full...)
My son got a case of cold feet after being with her 10 years now she is due to re-marry and I want to wish her the best!
Q. my son called off his wedding 15months ago after being with his girlfriend for 10 years. A case of cold feet I think. He realised soon afterwards that he had made a mistake but she wouldn't have him back and she is now getting married to someone ...
A. 19 October 2006: I would not send her anyhing at all. Your son made his choice. She has moved on. She and her new husband deserve to build their lives with out you throwing her past in the way. She WAS like a daughter to you. Leave her alone. When I get ... (read in full...)
Worried that when people see my husband's horrible head shots, next to his arcticles, they won't give him credibility.
Q. My husband posts pictures of himself online (he works for a prominent news site and they have headshots next to articles) and he picks the most awful images of himself - like images that have been distorted because of a camera angle so his head ...
A. 18 October 2006: You are welcome, and thanks for taking the time to post a response.
The reason that I suggested another photographer is that, as a man, he might be insecure about using his wifes photos (some guys are weak and do not want to feel like they nee... (read in full...)
What attracts my boyfriend, vulnerability or nudity?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 months and things have been going really well. Last night, though, I was a bit confused. We were lying in bed watching tv and started kissing, then he started to remove all my clothes, but he wouldn’t ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi There,
I am saying this as a man. I LOVE to see my lovers naked, every chance I get. I LOVE IT.
HOWEVER, that is not what he is doing here. My guess is that he is experimenting with his sexuality, maybe he is interested in some form of ... (read in full...)
His behaviour tells me he doesn't love me anymore and I know I don't love him!
Q. I have been with my husband for five years and married for two. At first our relationship was great and had a lot of respect and love for eachother, but soon he started taking advantage of me financially and this year he started to act violently ...
A. 18 October 2006: He sounds like he either has started to lose his mind, or perhaps has started to do drugs.
In either case, you did not mention the kind of violence he exhibits towards you. If he is putting his hands on you, GET OUT NOW.
Best to talk to a law... (read in full...)
It never seemed such a big thing when I was younger but now I worry if I will ever get married!
Q. i am already 35 years old and never been married. before it was simply ok for me to be with a man without getting married. but now in my age im desperately hoping for getting married thinking that at least before i get old or before i die, i will ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hey,
I understand how you feel. It was not until my father was on his death bed, that I really wanted to get serious and settle down with someone. When my father did pass away, I stood by his bed side but I was not yet married, nor did I have c... (read in full...)
I think this guy is just using my friend for sex and people are laughing at her! How do I break this to her?
Q. ok everyone i need some advice my friend is...or should i say was having a casual relationship with this guy since last year they didnt see each other all the time but she was definetly ok with that but now he doesnt want to see her anymore unless ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hey,
Ask yourself if you were in her position, how would you want someone to tell you.
Once you got that, follow through. It is the most honest approach there is.
Her repuation is being hurt. She needs to know.
You can expect that if ... (read in full...)
Do you think this is the real him or should I look into getting him some help?
Q. My boyfriend, whom I live with, just recently started putting his hands on me for small nothing fights and calling me names and talking down to me. He wants to control all the money even though he says it is our "money". He says he acts like this ...
A. 18 October 2006:
Get out of there NOW! Depression is not an excuse for violence against you. You are in danger, get out NOW!
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Why would you still have feelings for someone that cheated on you and hit you?
Q. Me and my gf just broke up 1 month 8 days ago. (im 21, she's 20) My life seems to be meaningless ever since she told me she has lost feelings for me... My life just isn't the same without her anymore, i have tried to forget her and concerntrate on ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi Hurting,
Dude I know EXACTLY what is going on.
That jerk is INDIRECTLY addressing her emotional needs. That is why she has feelings for him, even though he hurt her.
There is only ONE way for you to get her back. You have to address all... (read in full...)
Worried that when people see my husband's horrible head shots, next to his arcticles, they won't give him credibility.
Q. My husband posts pictures of himself online (he works for a prominent news site and they have headshots next to articles) and he picks the most awful images of himself - like images that have been distorted because of a camera angle so his head ...
A. 18 October 2006: As long as he stays employed, then leave it alone. As long as he gets the work, then leave it alone. I think you are more worried how it is affecting your repuation, not his.
As it stands, you obivously find him credible enough...you married ... (read in full...)
I'm attractive and work hard at pleasing my husband...so why is our sex life the pits?
Q. My husband and I are in our late twenties. I am 27, he's 28. Married two years and I guess I have been denying many things about our marriage/relationship for too long. I dont believe i am a supermodel but I have been told by other men, male ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi There,
I read your post, and it made me angry. I think your husband has a problem with sex. I mean he has a REAL problem with sex. I doubt it is an affair.
My guess is that he has a very negative association to sex, perhaps he was a... (read in full...)
I feel stressed around anyone of power in my family and its making me uncomfortable!!
Q. When i am around members of my family especially my father, brother or some cousins, i feel immensely stressed. I feel they are all obsessed with power, wealth and grandiosity and give very little importance to emotions. I feel they try to own me or ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hey Dude,
It sounds to me that you feel lots of intimidation, maybe even panic attacks. You also sound like a nice guy too afraid to stand up for yourself. There is no easy answer for you.
You need to learn to be comfortable with agressive e... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I am a big enough part of her life....Am I wrong for thinking this?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about 3 years now. We have had on and off periods. The other day when I was at her apartment I counted 24 picture frames about, however I am only in 1 frame. I have told her many times I dont feel like I am a big ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi wondering,
Well, if you continue to act this needy, she will feel even less attracted to you.
What actions are you doing to be more important in her life? Do you travel together? Do you share in her family life, and she in yours? After 3 ... (read in full...)
I want out but he says I am taking his family away from him!
Q. Hi, Well I have all sorts of things going through my head. First of all I am married and I have not been for years. I have been married for 5 years and now we have two kids and I believe that I am only in it for them. I am having an affair and can ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi There,
Well, you do not mention any physical abuse so that is good. are you financially secure enough if you got a divorce? That should be your first question. Asking a lawyer for a price quote would be the first thing.
Then, I would... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself getting hurt by every lad?
Q. how can i stop myself gettin hurt by evry lad?...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi katzkitten,
Sounds like you have been hurt enough.
I would say it comes down to two things.
1)Unrealistic expectations
2)Choosing the right people
1) I counsel men who are in the same pain you express, and the biggest reason is the un... (read in full...)
She still brings up the STD I had that broke up apart! How can I get her to trust me again?
Q. Well I guess I didn't explain the question right. The deal with my ex and me is we're still in touch with each other and seems when we're with each other and around each other we connect very well. Sometimes, like anyone else relationship, has ups ...
A. 18 October 2006: hey Man,
First, you might want to try taking responsibility for what you did. I must "infer" from your post that you gave her the STD, and did so through cheating on her, becuase of the vague nature of your writings. If I am wrong please c... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my middle aged neighbour seems to follow me wherever I go!!!
Q. Um…how can I start this? This problem started long time ago. There is this guy who follows me a lot, he’s middle aged man. I know him, because he’s my neighbour. He has a wife and two lovely kids. He seems to follow me a lot-everywhere. ...
A. 18 October 2006: You can also try a school couselor, as they may be training to handle these type of concerns.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Im so hurt she has found someone else, I cant bare not to have her friendship!!!
Q. I have a very best friend of the opposite sex who lives in another country. We had a very close and intimate relationship for over a year, however because of the distance between us we tried to be rational and made the painful decision that we ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hey Best Friend,
Firstly, what did you think was going to happen? You agreed to see other people. Women are on the receiving end of appraoches. Thus, of course she is going to have more opportunity.
Her being with someone else so quickly ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy about this girl who's got a boyfriend and I don't know what to do!!!
Q. i'm crazy about this girl who's got a boyfriend. and i know a part of her likes me and is interested in me too, but she's still with her guy. and i don't know what to do. i feel like i should wait to see how they turn out in order to be polite ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi Guy,
You have to decide what is more important to you. Going for what you want OR not breaking up a relationship. That is it. Nothing more. It does not matter what her feeling for you are. You are the one that has to live with the conseque... (read in full...)
We hardly ever have sex and when we do he has to drink first!
Q. I have been with my partner now for almost 5 years. He was married for 23 years previously to meeting me, and says he never had this problem with her. Even from the start of our relationship (which we are married now for over a year and a half) we ...
A. 18 October 2006: I have heard about this before, BUT that is no indication...either he is struggling with homosexuality, or his libido has diminished, and they only way to totally unwind is to drink into a stooper. Some men as they get older have a harder time ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair...I don't feel the same about my husband and never want to leave my lovers to go home!
Q. I am married and im having an affair with a woman. we started out as friends then we became lovers. I dont know what to do our relationship started 18 months ago, i dont know if i should leave my husband. I've been married for 23 years lately i ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hey, I doubt that leaving your husband is the answer. Although I am not sure that telling him about the affair is necessary, I do think you need to communicate with your husband and see if he understands your feelings. See if he is willing... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to snoop on my daughter's relationships? (via myspace etc!)
Q. I am a "way too overinvolved" mom as my 17 year old daughter puts it. But I need input from other parents as to my "over involvement". She has been "married", as she puts it, for the last 2 years, pretty much since she started dating, with 2 ...
A. 18 October 2006: She is 17. She is a minor. She is putting privte information on a public forum. By law, you have every right to snoop to do what you must to keep her safe. If what you say is true about her behavior in relationships, then obviously she ha... (read in full...)
I love her, but she cheated and I want to trust her again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, i know this is pretty long and im sorry, but i need some help. Im having problems with what to do. Im 17 I've been in this relationship for a little over 2 years now (its a long distance relationship right now, though). We've always had...
A. 17 October 2006: If you really want to give it another go, then give her the opportunity to EARN your trust. This does not mean to treat her badly, it means to give her little tests. However, once the seal has been broken, usually it can not be fixed. I sugges... (read in full...)
What should I say, when my bf says I'm beautiful? What's a good response?
Q. how do i respond when my bf says im beautiful? i never know how to respond! i either thank him or smile and giggle! but i never know really what to say back!! i want him to know that i think hes hot, but he doesnt really like that word, and idk how ...
A. 17 October 2006: Kiss him, or at the very least touch him when you say thanks. If he does not like "cute" names it might be becuase he associates those names with something other than a term of endearment. For a man, a physical response works better than a ver... (read in full...)
More questions on my boyfriend who doesn't shoot his load inside of me anymore!
Q. Hi guys. i posted yesterday about the fact that my boyfriend doesnt seem to want to come inside me any more, but instead wanted me to finish him off with my mouth or hand, or else would do it himself while doing something to me, if you know what...
A. 17 October 2006: My guess is variety. He wants to try different things. Also, being a man, two things comes in my mind. The first is that it is safer in the isks of pregnancy. The other is that he gets a thrill out of being able to witness his sexuality ... (read in full...)
I still love my wife a lot--but am afraid to tell her in case she doesn't feel the same way! Help..any advice for me?
Q. I have been apart from my wife for 4 years. We even divorced becouse I thought it would help me "move on". We have two beautiful little girls together and have remained friends. I have had several relationships, but I still think about her every ...
A. 17 October 2006: You have a good history, so I think all that is missing is for you to address her emotional needs. Do the following things The 10 Emotional Needs of a Woman 1-The protection of her most valuable asset: Her Reputation 2-Women want to FEE... (read in full...)
I always seem to drive men away! What should I do?
Q. Hi everybody, I hope somebody can help. Basically my insecurities are tearing me apart and are driving people who I love and care for away. 6 years ago my 9 year relationship ended very badly where my ex left me for my best friend and it affected ...
A. 17 October 2006: Been there, and got over it. You are assuming that each of these men will be the answer to your prayers. That is putting way to much pressure. Also, you are not address a man's emotional need to be Special, becuase you give too much attention ... (read in full...)
I want some tips on making our sex life more enjoyable!!
Q. Hiya! im wonderin if anyone can help me (again) im in a long term relationship and my bf and i have had some problems which are now sorted thankfully but i want to make our sex life more enjoyable i dont think handcuffs, whips or blindfolds are for ...
A. 17 October 2006: Hi There,
This is an exerpt from my book:
Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test
www.franktalks.com
Remember it was written for a male audience
The Best Kind of Lover, Virgin or Not
I've had them all... want to know what is the real se... (read in full...)
I feel sick about what I've done! I just want him back..what should I do?
Q. this is a really lobg story but i need to get the point across im 19 yrs of age just last summer i was going out with this guy (20), he was nothing but nice to me he treated me like a princess and made me laugh every day and i treated him really ...
A. 17 October 2006: If you are really serious bout mending things with him, the dating his friend (even if it is nothing serious) is not going to help prove your sincerity, given how badly you wrecked it for yourself.
Drop the drama you are creating. You need it,... (read in full...)
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