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No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 26 May 2007: I just read your email. Your husband is ALREADY siding against you. He thinks it is OK to let an alcoholic drink in your home, and have his friends over, and NOT impose rules? Lady, your marriage is about to end. If your husband can not see ... (read in full...)
I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do?
Q. I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month ...
A. 25 May 2007: My guess is that he did love you...but in life, love is not enough. Children need more that just love...they need committment from their parents to the child.
I do not know if moving country is the thing to do ... becuase I do not know you well... (read in full...)
My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 25 May 2007: I think you are still being too soft. Please do not let him move in, it will be harder to kick him out. My guess is that your husband is going to side against you once he is already there. Please be careful. -FBK... (read in full...)
Do men respect women who make the first move?
Q. What do men think when a woman makes the first move towards getting to know each other? ...
A. 24 May 2007: Many men may appreciate it, especially if they are too shy or nervous to take the lead initially HOWEVER, I often find that women who do this end up being or feeling EXPECT by the men they date to ALWAYS take the lead, and be a "mommy" to these ... (read in full...)
Waiting for sex until after marriage, any opinions?
Q. Abstaining from sex till marriage? I’m a virgin, abstaining from sex till marriage. My main fear, if I’m even lucky enough to find love is that if my partner might cheat on me. The only reason I fear this is because of what I’ve heard in the medi...
A. 24 May 2007: The choice you made is not easy. It takes a lot of restraint. You are asking for my opinion though, and I will give it...
Have you come to terms with how you will feel if your future wife is NOT a virgin? Are you actively looking for a virgin, ... (read in full...)
We love each other but he needs to put a stop to the wedding to this other gal. How do we do that?
Q. have been in relationship with a gentleman but he is in a relationshp with a woman and he intended to marry her and gone to see his parent and because of me he want to stop the relationship and marriage between them, please we want to know how to ...
A. 24 May 2007: Is he not a man who can speak his mind, and make decision for himself? Are you SURE that he even wants to marry you? Perhaps he is telling you lies so that you continue to see him? If he really wants to end the relationship, then he is a man, so ... (read in full...)
I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do?
Q. I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month ...
A. 24 May 2007: His first responsibility is to his child.
You have been through a lot recently, but I think this is a sign.
Maybe you need to take some time out and come to terms with the guys you chose to go out with. You record has not been to great. ... (read in full...)
I've just recently caught my partner cheating and have thrown him out.
Q. I've just recently caught my partner cheating and have thrown him out. He now says it was a big mistake and wants us to work it out. i have children from a previous relationship and they are refusing to be in the same space as him and dont like him ...
A. 24 May 2007: Nope. Regardless of the trust issues, there was already a tention there becuase he is not their real dad...now it is worse.
Question: Did the kids get involved becuase YOU involved them, or becuase they were there when you kicked him out? Th... (read in full...)
We love each other to bits but I'm desperate for a child and she is totally against it!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 years now. We both said we love each other and are planning to share an apartment together. We have talked about other things in the short term and the long term. The problem we have is probably one of the ...
A. 24 May 2007: You want to get married and have a child.
She does not want to marry you, nor have your child.
You want different things.
Do NOT move in together. Love will not be enough to save this relationship.
Find someone that wants to have your babi... (read in full...)
I've been cheating on my boyfriend... what do I do for the best?
Q. i am not in love with my boy friend anymore and have been seeing someone else behind his back what should i do ...
A. 24 May 2007: Break it off with him. -FBK... (read in full...)
He doesn't last more than 45 seconds when we have sex!
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for a while..I know that sex isn't everything..However, it is good if done right...I have a situation like this we engage in intercourse half the time there is no foreplay and he doesn't last for more than 45 ...
A. 24 May 2007: Firstly tell him you want him to watch you masterbate. This is a great way to teach him what you like. Next, go to a sex shop together, and see what kind of sex board games, or toys you both would feel like trying together. Chocolate boyd ... (read in full...)
He and this girl mate are taking a holiday together...I trust him but I don't trust her! What should I do?
Q. Ok, well I've been cheated on in 2 of my previous 3 relationships and the third told me straight out that it was all a lie and that he never loved me. I have a bf now but he's planning to go on holiday with his best guys mate and best girl mate. I ...
A. 24 May 2007: "Trust" means he would have WANTED you there, and would have made efforts to bring you along. Why is he going with another couple? Are they having threesomes or something? Red flags dear. You are being played by him AND her.
-FBK ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and he got very angry with me! I'm hurt and I refuse to call him! Any advice?
Q. Ok... I've been dating this guy for 2 months pretty heavily basically we would see each other 2-3 times a week and the rest of the days of the week we would have some kind of text whether call or text. I waited about 7 or 8 dates before I had sex ...
A. 24 May 2007: You have only been dating for 2 months, and I would not call that a relationship where each person tells the other person how to behave. It does not mean he doesn't care for you. In fact, I think his disappointment in your drunkenness screams to ... (read in full...)
I find it rather disturbing to hear that my gf dated and had sex with her Dad's best friend (42) when she just 16! How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi, you speak of age gaps btw 18 - 21 so forth, what about 16 and 42? My gf once dated her dad best mate (her dad doesnt know) he was like a guardian to his 4 daughters all of simular age, n he disided to sleep with her lots. I find this ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think you should tell her to tell her dad. Offer to be with her when she does. In some areas, what he did may be illegal (she is still a minor, and if he was ever her "babysitter", like if her father asked him to lookout for her and check in on ... (read in full...)
Do I stay in touch with my ex or not?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been broken up for a month now. We were still emailing each other and I told him that he could call me anytime that he wanted to. He didn't think it would be wise and so I finally ended it all together, saying I don't think ...
A. 24 May 2007: I agree with SleepyHollow.
Taking the trip after the break up reflects really poorly on you.
and...
I think he wants to talk becuase he is hoping that you going on the trip will make you want him back, so he is testing the waters.
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My bf won't let me drive my own car? Right or wrong?
Q. Is his behavior irrational? My fiance will argue with me if I don't let him drive my car. I don't see what the problem is since it belongs to me. I will let him do it once in awhile, but I like to drive my car when he's with me too. He has his own ...
A. 24 May 2007: Some guys find it immasculating to be driven by women. It could very well be that he feels like less of a man when he is driven around.
The getting car sick COULD be an excuse, or it COULD be legit.
As far as getting car sick goes, I have tha... (read in full...)
I have worked hard to help his kids, with their problems but am thinking of leaving. Do I leave with just my kids or take them all?
Q. I am nearly thirty. Two years ago i moved into a property with my two children aged 4 and 6. i lived next door to a single dad with three children aged 3, 5 and 6, he was experiencing severe depression and was on drugs/drink heavily, this broke my ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think it was wrong of you to take in those kids at all, beuase you already had two kids to care for. If you were serious, you should have legally adopted them. Now, becuase of one kid, you are finding it is "too tough". I hope you will consider ... (read in full...)
I have worked hard to help his kids, with their problems but am thinking of leaving. Do I leave with just my kids or take them all?
Q. I am nearly thirty. Two years ago i moved into a property with my two children aged 4 and 6. i lived next door to a single dad with three children aged 3, 5 and 6, he was experiencing severe depression and was on drugs/drink heavily, this broke my ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think it was wrong of you to take in those kids at all, beuase you already had two kids to care for. If you were serious, you should have legally adopted them. Now, becuase of one kid, you are finding it is "too tough". I hope you will consider ... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe me when I tell him 'he's not small"! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months has suddenly been saying that he thinks he's 'small'. I have reassured him countless times, and frankly I really don't think he is. We have a very healthy, adventurous, and great sex life, the best I've ever had, and I've ...
A. 24 May 2007: He is going to beleive himself over you no matter what you do. One of the emotional needs of men is "Penis Identity". Consider what he is telling you a test or a challenge. He needs to feel that you respect his "member". Best way to do taht is ... (read in full...)
My husband gave one of his buddies "oral"...
Q. I found out that my husband gave one of his male friends oral. It happened when we were all drinking and I found out from his friend about 2 weeks after it happened. Here is a little background: This friend of his has always wanted to have his way ...
A. 24 May 2007: Hi Eddie,
You made your point. I felt you were judging it, and I you stated you didn't, so I was wrong. Thanks for writing back.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
An old sex buddy contacted me after he and his gf broke up. Does he want to use me for sex, again?
Q. can anyone tell me what does it mean when a old sex buddy who you told ages ago that you fancy him and he rejected you by saying he doesnt see you as a girlfriend , then gets a girlfriend then breaks up with her a few months later and texts ...
A. 24 May 2007: it took a lot of guts to do what you did. Enjoy the feeling of pride today. You EARNED it.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.
Q. As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...
A. 24 May 2007: Yes, EVERY relationship goes through periods like that. You may love them forever, but you will not like them all the time. That is why you make a committment to the relationship, not the other person. Get the difference?
-Frank B Kermit
frank... (read in full...)
My husband threatens to take our son back to India if I do not become submissive! Should I change?
Q. Hello, My husband was a very nice guy when we married and when we moved from india to USA he couldnt get a decent job and started the trouble and he is very egoistic. now he is a piece of scrap. I have a 6 year old son, I earn and im a ...
A. 23 May 2007: I do not know what the law is regarding immigration in your area. Check out with an immigration lawyer on your own, and not from the community you come from, as privacy of questions is very hard. Once you know how to legally protect yourself from ... (read in full...)
Sex is boring and he doesn't take me anywhere! What is going on?
Q. i am 18 years old i know i am in love i have been with this guy for a little more than a year and i knew him before we start dating anyways he always says i love you to me but never ever wants to take me anywhere no movies,NOTHING why we argue ...
A. 23 May 2007: Your boyfriend might just lack some imagination. He needs some rules to follow so that he will learn to be more creative and you can enjoy the surprise. Try this: Tell him that once a week, you need him to take you out and surprise you. This week ... (read in full...)
I am so busy I have no time for a gf and my friends ignore me...any views?
Q. i cant be happy in my life there are too many responsibles on me that made me so busy to find a girl is fit to me and i feel that my friends ignore me and i cant tell them about this? thank you...
A. 23 May 2007: Firstly it is about PRIORITIES. If you really want a girlfriend, you must make time for it a priority. It is not normal that a man of your age would not be interested in women enough to make it a priority. Your friends ignore you becuase they do ... (read in full...)
What kind of women do men like?Moral, level headed girls or blondes who are sexually adventurous?
Q. what kind of women do men like? i am pretty, intelligent and fairly well educated. i am a quiet well spoken sort of person. my boyfriends ex's all seem to be loud mouthed and a little slutty with few morals he told me he likes 'proper blo...
A. 23 May 2007: It depends for what. The same man might like a variety of different types of women for different purposes. There are some women that are for sexual fun only, some women that a man would want to raise children with, some women that he would only ... (read in full...)
He's moving to another state because of his job. Should we end this relationship or continue?
Q. I met a young man in March 2007 and since we have been dating and establishing a wonderful relationship. His job recently informed him that he would be relocating to Louisiana and we currently live in Texas. My question is do you think this ...
A. 23 May 2007: ARe you planning to move to be with him? If yes, then continue. If not, end it on a great positive note.
-FBK... (read in full...)
An old sex buddy contacted me after he and his gf broke up. Does he want to use me for sex, again?
Q. can anyone tell me what does it mean when a old sex buddy who you told ages ago that you fancy him and he rejected you by saying he doesnt see you as a girlfriend , then gets a girlfriend then breaks up with her a few months later and texts ...
A. 23 May 2007: The answer is YES, he just wants to use you as he did before till he gets a new girlfriend, regardless of what you said. -FBK
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I get jealous for the most stupidest reasons! How do I get over this?
Q. Hello, I'm a jealous girlfriend, I get jealous for the most stupid things... I can't help the way I feel but I know if I don't stop this now, I'll ruin my relationship with my boyfriends. I love him and I know he love me too. Things I get je...
A. 23 May 2007: There is a great article on the net called, Jealousy and the Abyss. I read it over and over, and it helped me deal with jealousy issues. I would suggest to start with that.
Also, most sites with information about polyamory (open relationships) and ... (read in full...)
After our second date I discovered he lives with someone, but will he really leave her ?
Q. We starting going out about two months ago.After te second date I found out,he lives with someone-girlfriend.I was broken.He told me,he likes me and he will get her out,cause he wants to be with me.But since than not much changed...he saiz,she is ...
A. 23 May 2007: He is playing you good. If she is no longer there, and just her stuff, does he invite you over to hang out? I think you need to start seeing other people, and if and when he is serious about tying up the loose ends of his "dead relationship", he ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so rubbish at calling us girls ??
Q. Does anyone have an answer why guys never call their girlfriends? My boyfriend calls me once a week (when he feels like hanging out) ... and when I tell him it bothers me he saiz "But honey,if I called you all the time,what would we talk about all ...
A. 23 May 2007: It is a tactic used to create drama, mystery and interest in the girlfriends so that they do not get bored of the over-affectionate boyfriends. Otherwise, the girlfriends might start to take him for granted if he calls too much.
It worked o... (read in full...)
I love my guy, but had to get sex with someone else out of my system, I'm racked with guilt what should I do!?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am ABSOLUTELY head over heals in love with my boyfriend. He is perfect in every way: he listens to me, hes educated, romantic, caring, thoughtful. all of that. this is my longest relationship and it seems like the stars aligned fo...
A. 23 May 2007: If there is even the slighest chance that he will find out through other means, it is best that he hears it from you. If he hears it from someone else, he will never be able to trust you again. If it is from you, you have one shot at earning his ... (read in full...)
I cheated although not sexually, I'm pregnant with twins, but my bf doesnt think they are his!!!
Q. Hi, A few months ago i cheated on my b/f of 2 1/2 yrs. I met a bloke off the internet and spent 3 nites with him. We didnt have any sexual contact as such although we did kiss and we both wanted to but i couldnt go through with it as i realised...
A. 23 May 2007: There is a chance, even in the slighest, in his mind that the TWINS are not his, and he STILL wants to try relationship counseling? He is either the biggest fool, or the greatest man you will ever find in your life.
My suggestion is that you wait... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time chasing this married man?
Q. Please I need advice! I have been seeing a married man each week at a club but the thing is we havent had sex just kissed and stuff - nothing more. He is always there making sure I get home ok - even helped me when i was drunk. The looks he has on ...
A. 23 May 2007: Yes, you are wasting your time with a married man.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I tried drugs while in Amsterdam?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship now for 6 months. we have a healthy relationship. there's just one problem. i'm 23 now and back when i was 19 i went backpacking around the world for 6 months. 2 months were in europe which included...
A. 23 May 2007: If your relationship is healthy as you claim, would something like "the truth" really threaten it?
SInce you bring it up, it makes me wonder if the reason you question telling her is about her veiws on drugs. What are her views on drugs, and are ... (read in full...)
The the old fashioned family morals still be adhered to in today's society?
Q. I have this idea of building a family of my own where everyone does what they are supposed to and by mutual co-operation, like a wife cooks, a husband earns, etc. without telling anybody or controlling/disciplining anybody. It seems that i am quite ...
A. 23 May 2007: I think it is possible, but you must adhere to certain realities.
Firstly husband works, and wife takes care of the house...can work IF the husband earns enough money to support such a lifestyle, and if the wife WANTS to be a home maker.
... (read in full...)
Will a 19 year age gap work? I'd love to know from others with age differences in their relationships.
Q. As you can tell from my nickname, there is a 19 year age gap between myself (25) and the guy I'm currently seeing (44). I have been reading the forum, and there are many people with similar 'issue' as me. It seems like there are 2 schools of ...
A. 23 May 2007: I know guys in their 50s that date women in their 20s, so the age thing is not an issue for that.
There are only three things you seriously need to discuss.
1-Children, if you are planning to have any together, then factor in the age you are ... (read in full...)
Is this an unhealthy relationship?
Q. Was I right to leave? Last night my fiance and his roomates were up late drinking (he wasn't). After about an hour of them being loud, I just couldn't sleep (so was lying awake for about 3 hours). I told him that I was never able to sleep and he ...
A. 23 May 2007: If he was THAT concerned for you, why didn't he just call you a cab and pay for it himself? Or Drive you himself since he was not drinking? That is what I would have done.
You were right to want to leave, and if he really saw you not fit to drive... (read in full...)
My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 23 May 2007: Do NOT let him move in. Period. Would you let a poisonious snake loose in your house? Course not. This fool is poison for your marraige.
Let him live with his drunk friend, or drop him off at a youth hostile. Better still, drop him off to a reh... (read in full...)
My husband gave one of his buddies "oral"...
Q. I found out that my husband gave one of his male friends oral. It happened when we were all drinking and I found out from his friend about 2 weeks after it happened. Here is a little background: This friend of his has always wanted to have his way ...
A. 23 May 2007: Yup, it definately sounds like the "friend" was just trying to break you and your husband apart.
I think you should TELL your husband. The longer you keep it in, the more of a wedge will be created between the two of you.
If it is true, then... (read in full...)
Worried by my girlfriends sexual past...
Q. Before my girlfriend I was a virgin, we have been dating for 5 months and its been great fantastic and wonderfull. Currently the main problem in our relationship is how I feel about her sexual past. Personally I have become gradually more i...
A. 22 May 2007: Look, for some guys this is a hang up, and in time they get over it. FOr other guys, they simply can not deal with it. What you need to ask yourself is that if you had the opportunity to be with as many lovers as she did, would you have taken ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him this?
Q. how do i tell my fiance that im not sure about marrying him because he cant keep a job?...
A. 22 May 2007: You tell him directly and as soon as possible. If you can not handle the serious conversations now, you will not be able to handle it when you are married and even more is on the line.
-FBK... (read in full...)
My husband gave one of his buddies "oral"...
Q. I found out that my husband gave one of his male friends oral. It happened when we were all drinking and I found out from his friend about 2 weeks after it happened. Here is a little background: This friend of his has always wanted to have his way ...
A. 22 May 2007: I think there is something more going on. I think the same person that told you something your husband wasn't ready to share with you, is probably the same person that suggested to your husband that you would not really understand. Basically, I ... (read in full...)
I want to ask my good friend to the movies, just as friends, but I think she's worried people will see us together!
Q. i have a good female friend. i often tell her about my problems etc. she thinks i fancy another girl. and i know for a fact she doesn't fancy me. i want to go with her to cinema just as mates nothin else. how can i ask her without her makin excu...
A. 22 May 2007: Dude, it is RARE that friends turn into lovers. Your best bet is to meet NEW girls, and turn them into your girlfriends. The only time Friends can turn into lovers is when there is ALREADY some attraction from her to you...again, hard to do when ... (read in full...)
I want to ask my good friend to the movies, just as friends, but I think she's worried people will see us together!
Q. i have a good female friend. i often tell her about my problems etc. she thinks i fancy another girl. and i know for a fact she doesn't fancy me. i want to go with her to cinema just as mates nothin else. how can i ask her without her makin excu...
A. 18 May 2007: I think you do not have a real friendship with her if you can to work so hard to ask her to hang out. Maybe it is not what everyone else thinks that is bugging her. Maybe she thinks that you like her.
What I can not understand is why you woul... (read in full...)
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