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No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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We've been married 19 years but my wife goes to clubs to meet single men!
Q. My wife and I have been married for about 19 years. She's 39 and I'm 44. For the past 6 months she's been hanging out with her recently divorced cousin (female - 44) and they have been going to nightclubs for the past 6 months about 2-3 times/we...
A. 22 May 2007: I am proud to be writing to you. You're willingness to read up, and take on the challenge of change work is admirable. Good for you. I support you 100%.
-FBK... (read in full...)
He only went and dated the random girl that contacted him on Valentines when we broke up! Were giving it another go, but should I dump him ?
Q. My previous boyfriend and I, both 22 and never married, had been dating for almost 2 years. During out realtionship, I took him to a hockey game on Valentines Day, and he got a call from a random girl. I asked him who it was, and he said it was a ...
A. 18 May 2007: Do you really think its ok for someone to lie just because they don't like the reaction they get?
No, not at all. It is STILL wrong to lie.
Some people though get lied to ALL THE TIME BY EVERYONE, and at some point they have to look at if ev... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but feels that there is "something more" out there... How can this marriage be saved?
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I love my wife. She told me that she loves me and I am her best friend, but says she feels like there is something more out there. I always felt we had a good, stable, and honest marriage, but she asked me for a ...
A. 18 May 2007: Dude, I am sorry to hear this. Please see a lawyer as soon as you can, and protect your accounts, your credit, and know your rights. Even if she comes back to you now, I think you know you could never trust her again. My heart goes out to you.
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We've been married 19 years but my wife goes to clubs to meet single men!
Q. My wife and I have been married for about 19 years. She's 39 and I'm 44. For the past 6 months she's been hanging out with her recently divorced cousin (female - 44) and they have been going to nightclubs for the past 6 months about 2-3 times/we...
A. 18 May 2007: I read through you additional posts...
Dude, go see a lawyer, and learn everything you need to in order to protect yourself from in proceeding to get a divorce. Enough is enough. Grow some balls.
Put your foot down once and for all. You ar... (read in full...)
He always needs to have kinks and abuse in the bedroom. He makes me want to turn to the bottle for comfort!!
Q. Please help, I am in love with a loving guy for over a year now. The problems we have are: A I earn a LOT more money than he does and we're running into financial difficulties all the time due to being unorganised. B Sex, I have a high dr...
A. 17 May 2007: One more thing...
if you have not already read the gist of my other advice here...my adivce would have been EXACTLY the same if the gender roles were reversed and it as SHE that was into kink.
It is you projecting your own issues into this... (read in full...)
He always needs to have kinks and abuse in the bedroom. He makes me want to turn to the bottle for comfort!!
Q. Please help, I am in love with a loving guy for over a year now. The problems we have are: A I earn a LOT more money than he does and we're running into financial difficulties all the time due to being unorganised. B Sex, I have a high dr...
A. 17 May 2007: For the record, my answer here was not tonue in cheek, and I am very serious. People have sexual orientations (strait, gay, bi, kink, etc..) and their sexuality can not be denied out of "promises". I am involved in consulting people in alternative ... (read in full...)
I'm 22, lesbian and in a relationship with no intimacy!
Q. Hello, people who may be able to help me. Here is where I am going to whine about my problem: Okay, so, I'm twenty-two, lesbian, and have been with my girlfriend for over a year now. At the beginning we had our ups and downs, as in all relations...
A. 17 May 2007: Hi C.G.,
It is OK that you love her. It is OK that you feel obligated to care for her after the break up.
It is NOT ok, for you to stick around to be her mother, and make sure she is fine. It is your job to mother YOURSELF. It is time for y... (read in full...)
She says she loves me but feels that there is "something more" out there... How can this marriage be saved?
Q. I have been married for 6 years and I love my wife. She told me that she loves me and I am her best friend, but says she feels like there is something more out there. I always felt we had a good, stable, and honest marriage, but she asked me for a ...
A. 17 May 2007: Sounds like she has lots of regrets. She needs to experience life more. Basically she still needs to grow up, and when she does finish growing up, she might not be the same person that would have married you. THis really sucks. Fact is, she MADE ... (read in full...)
We've been married 19 years but my wife goes to clubs to meet single men!
Q. My wife and I have been married for about 19 years. She's 39 and I'm 44. For the past 6 months she's been hanging out with her recently divorced cousin (female - 44) and they have been going to nightclubs for the past 6 months about 2-3 times/we...
A. 17 May 2007: Ok, what I am going to state is not going to be popular but I think you need to take some action.
Firstly, why would you let your wife go to clubs with her divorced cousin? This was very predictable.
Second, no, she can not hang out in club... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't wear deodorant and I'm afraid of what other people will think of him!
Q. Say you have this boyfriend. He doesn't smell extremely bad but a little because he doesn't wear deordorant. You are afraid of what other people will think of him or even of you dating him. Would you feel bad for thinking this? Would you tell him...
A. 17 May 2007: What kind of relationship could you possibly have with him, if you can not even be honest about something like this? If you are too afraid to even be honest with him, your relationship will not work out anyways.
Tell him exactly what you wrote he... (read in full...)
How do we avoid running out of things to talk about?
Q. Hi. I just wanted to know what the best way to keep things fresh in a long-term relationship is? I'm 17 and recently started dating and i chat with my gf for at least an hour every day. But i'm worried that, at some stage, we might run out of ...
A. 17 May 2007: Firstly, do not spend so much time together at first. Next, write down a list of your ten best childhood memories, and then your ten best peack life experiences. Then write out a list of 50 things you love, and 50 things you hate. You now have ... (read in full...)
Can I still trust my friend?
Q. Hey there, where to start... im 17 and im having problems trusting my best mate as i recently found out she slept with my ex boyfriend twice when we were still together. me and my boyfriend split up around 2 months ago over a row we had because ...
A. 17 May 2007: No, you can not trust her, and no, she is not your friend. Does she really need to sleep with your BF or ex bf AGAIN for you to understand she is not to be trusted?
I think she only wants these boys because she knows that YOU are into them, and ... (read in full...)
Do I stick around to see if she changes her mind about being with me, or are there some better strategies out there?
Q. Hi there, im daniel, from australia and i really need some help here! I known this girl for about 4 years now in which we worked together for sum 6 months or so. she had a bf at the time we first met...she had a house with him and all and she w...
A. 17 May 2007: Firstly, stop with the attitude of "sex should not have happened" becuase that attitude is part of what killed your dynamic with her.
Next, if she is really leaving in a month, you should not have brought up the fact that you want to be more ser... (read in full...)
Should I continue to give her space in the hope you will come round in time ?
Q. My girlfriend and I split up 6 weeks ago after 3 1/2 years together. Over the past few weekends we have met up talked and been intimate together. I have finally got it out of her that she is still angry with me for a row that happened last august ...
A. 16 May 2007: You do not mention what your fight was about. It must have been something BIG for her to be giving you this much drama. That being said, if you were in the wrong, give her space and the time for her to see that she can TRUST you again.
If th... (read in full...)
He says he doesnt want a girlfriend but keeps calling round.... What does he want!?
Q. Hi all, I broke up with my bf about 7 months ago now, because he had some huge problems, he is a guy with an ex who is bipolar and had custody of his 3 kids...... he lost them back then..... so I let him alone to sort out his problems, but I was ...
A. 16 May 2007: He wants sex. He comes around, writes to you he likes you, but tells you he does not want a girlfriend. So basically, he wants you for sex. -FBK... (read in full...)
He only went and dated the random girl that contacted him on Valentines when we broke up! Were giving it another go, but should I dump him ?
Q. My previous boyfriend and I, both 22 and never married, had been dating for almost 2 years. During out realtionship, I took him to a hockey game on Valentines Day, and he got a call from a random girl. I asked him who it was, and he said it was a ...
A. 16 May 2007: Well lying to you is not right, but it is not like he cheated on you. You were broken up, and you both were free to see other people. In truth, just because you ask about who he has been with does not mean he must tell you. He should not have ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me or is he like this with all other women?
Q. Hello! Somebody please help me. I started work here a year ago and I've got to know a guy really well... lets call him J. We've spent a lot of time together, lunch breaks, nights out at weekends, etc etc. He says i mean the world to him, th...
A. 16 May 2007: My guess is that he probably likes you but not enough to make a relationship, and is not affection with you in the WORK PLACE. As for if you are special to him, very likely...as for if you are UNIQUE to him...unlikely. If you were that UNIQUE to ... (read in full...)
Is hairdresser a good carreer if I want to meet boys?
Q. hi. i want to be a hairdresser but i cant decide whether to do an apprenticeship or not. because if i just go and work in a salon and go to college once a week training to be a hairdresser then i wouldnt meet many new people. i haven't got a ...
A. 16 May 2007: Look, do not choose your program of study and future career on meeting boys in your classroom. Figure out what you want to do with your life careerwise because IT SUITS YOU, and pursue it.
You are a woman, and you will be getting appraoch... (read in full...)
My gf doesn't want sex anymore! How do you go from wanting it all the time to not at all?
Q. I am 24 yrs old and my girlfriend is 21. we have been together almost 3 yrs. at the beginning of our relationship we were both sex addicts. all the time and anywhere. but for the past few months her sex craving has gone down (so she says) but now ...
A. 16 May 2007: She needs to see that other women are interested in you sexually. Do you have any female friends that are interested in you, such that you can invite her over remind your girlfriend that you are a desrious man? If so, go for it.
If this does not... (read in full...)
I like her and our first few dates went well...but she doesn't text me back or communicate as much as I do. What's going on with this girl?
Q. i have met a lovely girl at work who i now cant stop thinking about, we have had a good first few dates, she even made the first move! but our daily rapor is very bad, she hardly ever replies to my texts, and when she does, they are never on tim...
A. 16 May 2007: She made the first moves, and went on a few dates with you, so we KNOW she was into you at first. (So what your father says about older guys is meaningly). My guess is that somewhere along the way, you behaved in a manner that over your few dates ... (read in full...)
I dont know how to end it... what have I done?
Q. What can i do?I had an affair last year with a close friend..He swore that it was only a bit of harmless fun on the side and that no-one would get hurt but i began to fall for him. i knew that it could nt go on so i finished it but recently he ...
A. 16 May 2007: Look, beating yourself up over this is not going to make the situation any better, so knock off belittling yourself. Affairs happen, and it sucks. What would suck worse is letting this mistake destory your marriage and damage your children. Keep ... (read in full...)
I'm 22, lesbian and in a relationship with no intimacy!
Q. Hello, people who may be able to help me. Here is where I am going to whine about my problem: Okay, so, I'm twenty-two, lesbian, and have been with my girlfriend for over a year now. At the beginning we had our ups and downs, as in all relations...
A. 16 May 2007: Ouch. I was in EXACTLY this type of relationship a long time ago. Basically, she is not interested in being in a relationship with you, BUT she does not have it in her to take the lead in her own life and break if off herself. She acts insane so ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to dress to attract men that genuinely like you
Q. What's the best way to dress to attract men that genuinely like you - and aren't just after you for 'one thing'? I had 'advice' from a girl a while ago about clothes to wear to attract a guy but I thought they were a bit trashy/slutty an...
A. 16 May 2007: If you were clothes that makes you use your sexuality in order to attract guys, then you will only attract guys that are interested in your sexuality. You can not have it both ways in the real world. If you want to attract a guy that genuinely ... (read in full...)
I'm a 19 year old male and I've never had sex.
Q. Hi, I'm a 19 year old male and I've never had sex. i've went to do it twice now but both times i had troubles finding places and am very embarrassed about it. i don't know if it is because i have a lanky shape or if it's just nerves but i'm scared ...
A. 16 May 2007: I give seminar for adult male virgins on my website. http://www.franktalks.com/?content=frankseminar_amv You can read the reivews about what they learned. There is nothing wrong with you. You are just nervous, and yes the first time you do it ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to want me again, sexually?
Q. is she making a fool out of me? why wont she cater to me anymore? i cater to her now and i spoil her, but i cant even get any sexual attention from her. she wont even make out with me anymore. she used to love sex, she used to be almost as horny as ...
A. 16 May 2007: Been there. Two things possible.
1-She is going through somethng personal, a physical problem, or remembering some past trama and that is making it diffcult for her to feel arousal. If that is the case, encourage her to seek counselling..a prof... (read in full...)
My partner wants me to move out to give us "space"
Q. Hi I have just looked back at all my questions on this site and they are painting a bit of a picture. It is all what he wants ie My partner wants me to move out to give us "space" but I don't want to go as he says he can't stand being around...
A. 16 May 2007: Again, I must agree with Penta 100%.
Nothing to add.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Is a month too soon into a relationship to start having sex?
Q. Im a 25 year old virgin who has recently started seeing a guy. he is coming to my town on saturday night and has asked me to stay in a hotel with him. can i read into this as him expecting sex? ive been seeing him for a month, i trust him but being ...
A. 16 May 2007: I agree exactly with what Penta said.
However, I would also mention that as long or short as 1 month might be, I do think that 25 years and no sex is going to make it even more difficult for you as time goes on. Speaking from a male perspect... (read in full...)
Whenever I move on, this guy turns up to hurt me again. What can I do to get on with my life?
Q. Nearly for two years I have been trying to move on from this guy. When I was dating him, he messed me about so I moved on with my life. Last year he contacted me and explained when he was seeing me he was trying to get over his ex and he ...
A. 16 May 2007: If you are tired of trying again and again and getting hurt, the TRY WITH SOMEONE ELSE. It does not matter if he comes back into your life, what matters is if you let him in or not. How do you ever expect your true soulmate to come into your life, ... (read in full...)
He always needs to have kinks and abuse in the bedroom. He makes me want to turn to the bottle for comfort!!
Q. Please help, I am in love with a loving guy for over a year now. The problems we have are: A I earn a LOT more money than he does and we're running into financial difficulties all the time due to being unorganised. B Sex, I have a high dr...
A. 16 May 2007: I have three suggestions for you:
1-Break up with him, stay sober, and find someone new.
2-Stay with him, stay sober, and work it out that he can give you the sex you need, but give him the freedom of seeking his kinky sex with other people. M... (read in full...)
She bugged me for a ring and now that I gave her one...but she won't commit to me! Help!
Q. Does she still love me? I am 24 and my gf is 21. We have been together for 2 1/2 years off and on. we have a child together and she also has an older child. the last break up we had was very bad and since then i have been trying my hardest to get ...
A. 16 May 2007: She may still love you, but if she will not accept the ring, it could mean two things. She does not see you as the guy she wants to be with long term, or she just needs to know that you will not abandon her, yet maintain your dominant nature during ... (read in full...)
She started hanging out with her ex and a bunch of other male friends! Should I believe her when she claims they are just friends.
Q. what's going on? we have been together for almost 3 years off and on and between that time i have moved in with her. the last fight we had she kicked me out. then she started hanging out with her ex and a bunch of other male friends but she claims ...
A. 16 May 2007: Well, you aren't being smart if you are accepting this. Firstly, the on-and-off part of your relationship over 3 years, should have tipped you off that it is best that you move on and find someone else.
I do not beleive for one second that the... (read in full...)
My husband told me that he wants a penis enlargement
Q. My husband told me that he wants a penis enlargement. He said it will make our sex life hotter and better - even though our sex life, is, on the whole - reasonably good. I'd never have a breast enlargement because it'd mean I'd have to buy expe...
A. 16 May 2007: There are side effects, and one of the risks of penis enlargment operations is that if something goes wrong he could lose total use of it for sexual purposes. Is he aware of the risks? At most, if it is the operation I am thinking of, he could gain ... (read in full...)
I don't want him to just "use me" as he has done this before in past relationships.
Q. I really like this guy, i used 2 go out with him but we broke up because he didnt treat me very well, and if i go out with him my friends will go against me because they all hate him and think i do as well. i think he likes me a little bit more than ...
A. 16 May 2007: You already know he is going to use you. Do you only want him becuase everyone says you shouldn't have him? It does not matter if he likes you. What matters is how he treats you. You should only go out with him if you want to end up feeling used ... (read in full...)
I am a lesbian. Recently my now ex girlfriend said she wanted to have a relationship with me.
Q. "I need you to be like her." Those are the words she said to me. I'm posting again as I only got 3 responses. I am a lesbian. Recently my now ex girlfriend said she wanted to have a relationship with me. She was adamant that I was the person s...
A. 16 May 2007: I think that your ex only wants you becuase she can not have you, but as soon as she gets you, she is going to hurt you again. Break up with her once and for all. Relationships are work, but they are not suppose to be this full of years-spanning ... (read in full...)
The cousin forced us to break up, what can I do to get back with him?
Q. my name is fiataua. Well my boyfriend and i have a wonderful relationship but something is still bothering me with is that the cousin doesn't want me to go out with my boyfriend,and he gets mad to me and he said that he doesn't want a curl anymore ...
A. 16 May 2007: Well, you can make one last attempt to convince your exboyfriend that the cousin is the one that ruined it. But I think that even if you get back together, you will always have to worry. Your exboyfriend already let others interfere with your ... (read in full...)
She got pregnant with another man, we're about to sell the house, I don't know if I can forgive her. Should I get back together with her?
Q. I have lived with my partner for twelve years but the last 18 months the relationship has deteriorated and we decided to split.We put the house up for sale but continued to live under the same roof in separate bedrooms.My partner has now hit me with ...
A. 16 May 2007: I think you should continue to sell the house and both of you should move on. Even without the pregnancy (not sure it was cheating as you did decide to split up, unless the affair was going on during the 18 month detrioration.) there is way too ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to move in... but he doesn't know that I've had some "fun" with his housemate!
Q. my bf recently asked me to move in with him what I need to know is should I?? im 19 yrs old and my bf 25.we were together 3 months broke up 4 a month and got back together 5 weeks ago. What he doesnt know is that when we had broken up me and his...
A. 21 December 2006: If you are serious about him, chances are he is going to find out eventually, so you had better tell him, so he has the choice of ending it, before it gets any more serious.
I have to ask the question the other aunt asked....why his housemat... (read in full...)
After everything... Should I give my ex this present for Xmas?
Q. Hi , Me and my ex broke up 6 months ago, It was a bad brake up I keeped going back to her. And got shot down. She had a son and I wasn't there enough. Then we all went on a family vacation it was a disaster. We also work together and we don't tal...
A. 21 December 2006: Hi there,
if you just want to give him a present for the sake of it, then NO. You broke up, and need to put this past you and move on.
If you are using this to try to get back together, then YES, give her the present to give to him BUT, do n... (read in full...)
She and her bf keep hurting and toying with my emotions! Would it be too harsh to take it this court for harrassment?
Q. So heres the deal, ive posted on cupid before regarding the breakup from my ex after nearly 5 yrs and also when she met a new guy (a mate) within 2 weeks of the breakup. 2 months have now gone since all of this started and im feeling like im ...
A. 21 December 2006: Is there any way for you to put distence and space between yourself and your ex? If so, then completely cut them out of your life. No contact whatsoever.
If this is not possible, and they are purposefully out to hurt you such that it is affectin... (read in full...)
I left my husband of four years bcause I was unhappy. My parents are saying I should work it out. Thoughts?
Q. I am 23, I have been married for 4 years and have a three year old daughter. Unfortunatly I married not for love, but for other reasons. Like I thought he was a good person, and he would take care of me. I never had that "in love, infatuation" ...
A. 19 December 2006: Irish49 wrote very eliquintly what I was trying to communicate. Please listen to her.
-FBK... (read in full...)
I am always worried that my relationships will fail horibly so I've never had one! How can I overcome this matter?
Q. i've been asked out loads of times before in the past but i've never been able to bring myself to say yes because i am always worried that the relationship will fail horibly. and because im worried i've never rele had the courage to ask anyone out, ...
A. 18 December 2006: Part of growing up is the realization that ALL relationships, no matter if there is sex involved or not, come with risk, and come with pain. Part of being an adult is to accept those risks, and take the chance anyways.
You obviously have some int... (read in full...)
Fiance or best friend?
Q. I am engaged to my long time love of 10 years, but I am in love with his best friend, who has recently pronounced his love to me. we want to be together, because we have felt this way for years now, but don't want to hurt my fiances feelings or he ...
A. 18 December 2006: I have been in that exact situation as the poor fiance the two of you have betrayed. Be honest about the situation as soon as possible, and break off the engagement. The longer this goes on, the more damage the two of you have done to him.
You c... (read in full...)
My best mate has a gf - how can I distance myself from him without hurting either of us?
Q. I love my boy best mate but he has a gf and i know that me and him will never get together but im finding it really hard to let go as i know i wont be able to cope if he wasnt in my life. How can i distant myself from him without either of us ...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi There,
If you love him that much, you're friendship is already over. You need to get closure on the hope that the two of you will ever get together.
Focus on getting closure, and that might mean cutting all contact with him. There is n... (read in full...)
I left my husband of four years bcause I was unhappy. My parents are saying I should work it out. Thoughts?
Q. I am 23, I have been married for 4 years and have a three year old daughter. Unfortunatly I married not for love, but for other reasons. Like I thought he was a good person, and he would take care of me. I never had that "in love, infatuation" ...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi There,
You have a child together, so yes, I do think you need to work it out...marriage is not just about love. It is about building a life together too...but I think it was unfair what you did, by hooking up with someone that you did not real... (read in full...)
I don't want her pity sex, I want to win her heart!
Q. hi cupid?i have a problem i have been seein this lady who i met in a joint in town. she'ss being very good to me but i have a problem. she's been spoiling me in many ways that i even ask why she's doing it but she is relentless. now this is bugging ...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi There,
She is not using you for pity sex, she is just using you for regular sex. She buys your attention, and since you have not put a stop to it, I doubt very much you are going to make her see you as more of a man. You let her mother y... (read in full...)
Since I've been dating my older bf, who used to be married to my cousin, my family has not allowed me my privacy!
Q. My family is beyond crazy... im 15 and i am dating a 25 year old (who was once married to my cuzin) and they found out. ya i kno its a little crazy but anyways.... But now i have absolutely no privacy or trust. i understand the fact that they don't ...
A. 18 December 2006: Hi There,
You're family is not the only one who is crazy here. You are 15, and dating a man that used to be you in-law. You are a minor, and they have every right to keep you safe from yourself...yes, they may be taking it too far, I agree. ... (read in full...)
During sex or masturbation I don't feel any pleasure!
Q. When i masturbate i do not feel anything good. Why is this even when the opposite sex does it to me there is still no pleasure? whats wrong with me?...
A. 6 December 2006: There may be nothing wrong with you. It is possible that you are asexual. There is a site on the internet with information on the subject, created by a guy named David Jay. I think he and his site might be best suited to help you figure this out. ... (read in full...)
We are both 18 and virgins and I don't actually know what to do when we have sex!
Q. ok im 18yrs old and been with my gf a while now and are both are ready to have sex but we are both virgins and she doenst know im a virgin and just dont know what to do???...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi There,
I give seminars for adult male virgins. Check out my website of www.franktalks.com
The reviews of the guys who attended my seminar should have enough information to get you started. In the meanwhile, understand that birth control is... (read in full...)
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