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I asked him about our status and he's gone 'cold' on me! What can I do?
Q. Hi I really liked a guy I was seeing I am 26 he is just 28. Since I brought up the situation of the status of our relationship he has gone cold with not much contact. What can I do to really get him to take notice and get him to be like he was ...
A. 5 December 2006: Don't do anything... start dating other guys. He'll come around. He might be taking some time to think about your question and the situation. Guys aren't going to make a committment without thinking about it for a while. So, don't sweat it. he just ... (read in full...)
I recently caught my girlfriend going through my text messages. What does this mean?
Q. I recently caught my girlfriend going through my text messages. What does this mean? We have had a decent relationship with no major issues..why would she be doing this? Does she not trust me or maybe has she been doing something wrong and trying ...
A. 5 December 2006: She's insecure about something- perhaps your behavior has changed and she's become worried. Women do things like that when you're not assuring them of their place in your heart. make her dinner or do something special for her-spend time with her, ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have abdominal aching for 2 - 3 days after sex?
Q. I have only had sex 3 times, but each time for two/three days after i experience weird aching in my abdominals. is this normal? Plz help....
A. 5 December 2006: Your boyfriend probably hit your cerviz during sex. It's not abnormal... but next time, relax during sex... it helps! ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and trusting b/c of my last marriage. My new guy thinks I need more "alone" time. Any advice?
Q. I am 45 yr old newly divorced woman who is working very hard to work through the dysfunction from my marriage. I was married 20 yrs to a mentally ill man and found myself in a co-dependent situation. For this reason I believe myself to be somewhat ...
A. 5 December 2006: How do you let a guy talk you out of going to college? Anyone who does this doesn't truly support you or have your best interest in mind. Dumb the loser! ... (read in full...)
How can I get my girl to give me longer oral sex without hurting her feeling's?? Any tips?
Q. how can i get my girl to give me longer oral sex without hurting her feeling's? my girlfriend is hot and she's sweet when we first got together we loved doing 69er's and giveing oral pleasure all the time. now it's seem's i'm the only 1 giveing n...
A. 23 November 2006: No, you're not. Ask her what's changed? Maybe her feelings for you have changed... because most women will do what it takes to please a man they love. So, find out what's going on with her. Tell her that you don't feel comfortable giving her 20 ... (read in full...)
I love someone who doesn't love me and it hurts! Any tips to dealing with this?
Q. I love someone who doesnt want me. It hurts so much. I wake up thinking about him and cant seem to get him out of my head or heart. He told me he loved me then ignored me. He came back to me 2 months later and has repeated the same thing. I h...
A. 23 November 2006: I'm in that situation- where I still love my ex- and he's claiming to care for me- so he can use me for sex. Look, men show their emotions through their actions. Watch to see if he's treating you in a caring and respectful manner. If not, it's over ... (read in full...)
He admits he doesn't love me and it's been a year? Do I stay or go?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. Whilst he behaves in a loving manner and is respectful and caring, he never tells me he loves me, in fact he tells me he doesn't. Should I accept this at face value and leave, or could it be self ...
A. 23 November 2006: Given that it's been a year, he should be shouting it out to everyone that he loves you. Men know whether they love a woman within months, so for him to tell you that he doesn't love you and it's been a year since you've been in a relationship, I ... (read in full...)
I think he's pushing me away and when I ask him about it...he says 'nothing is wrong'. What should I do?
Q. hey, i need help i love my boyfriend more then any thing in the world he has changed my life, he help me get into college he is an amazing guy. but now i feel as if he is pushing me away and sending me mixed messages, we hardly ever have sex and i ...
A. 23 November 2006: I've been there before, and it's hurtful and unsatisfying. As women, we're very sexual beings, and we do value a lot of our woth on our desirability to men. So, when a man you love doesn't want to have sex with you, it can be damaging. Have you ... (read in full...)
He's become distant and hardly phones me! What should I do about this?
Q. The guy I have been seeing the last few months has suddenly become quite distant after being very attentive, caring and telling me how much he liked me. He now hardly phone and hasn't wanted to see me as much. We are in late 20's. I really like ...
A. 23 November 2006: Let it go. I've realized that men lose interest just as quickly as they take an interest in a woman. Don't be offended- it's his loss not yours. Open yourself to other men who will want to call you and talk to you on a regular basis. Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Five5 weeks ago he tells me it isnt 'real 'love after all and wants to split. I need advice figuring this out...help!
Q. hi this is another question from an ongoing saga, will try to shorten it , but it is a long one! im in my 30's , work full time ,studying also , teenage daughter , young son , was seeing a 'friend ' who is the widow of a friend of mine, difficult ...
A. 23 November 2006: You have to move on honey. Ket him deal with whatever it is he needs to deal with and just let this go. ... (read in full...)
No period since September..am I bloated or pregnant? What should I do?
Q. I stopped taking the pill at the end of Sept, i had a period but this was only for one day. Ever since i have been using condoms. My problem is I haven't had a period since. My stomach is getting bigger but i think that could just be where I am ...
A. 23 November 2006: You could be pregnant. ... (read in full...)
I can't get over her-it just keeps getting worse! What should I do?
Q. I've liked this girl for about a year now and she has said to me that she only likes me as a friend even though she likes the attention from me, she has also recently broke up with her bf and shes been giving certain hints that she may actually feel ...
A. 23 November 2006: You tell her to stop playing games with you and stop giving her so much attention. Move on to another woman. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I like my best guy friend and things were good and then my ex bf came back! What do I do?
Q. im so confused i dont know what to do. In August my best friend/first love, of 4 yrs, broke it off with me to be with someone else. I like one of my best friends. We get on so well and our humour is alike. We know we both like each other but i...
A. 23 November 2006: Leave your ex and try something with your best friend. It never feels the same when you get back together with the man who broke your heart. That recently happened to me... but he's just using me, and I'm cutting things off this weekend- thanks to ... (read in full...)
My ex and I are more than sex buddies, but now she's kissing another guy! I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey there everyone, just wondering if anyone can shed some light, or give advice on the situation i am in. I was seeing a girl for just over 2 years, everything was perfect as it usually is, best years of our life, and now i dont know what the hell...
A. 20 November 2006: She's playing with your mind much like my ex is. You need to lay your feelings on the table and tell her that you can't keep doing this, that it's emotionally draining. Tell her how you really feel- that you still love her and would like to be in a ... (read in full...)
My ex is still in my life... How can I move on with peace of mind?
Q. i have been to this web site a few times in the past to deal with my issues and it has helped me a lot. i am a 25 male who got dumped 4 months ago. i went out with her for almost 2 years and it was great. one day she decides that she wants to be ...
A. 20 November 2006: Sit her down and spill your heart out to her for once and for all. Leave nothing unsaid and then tell her that you're willing to be together again, and if she says, "no" once more, then it's time for you to pack your bags. It's not okay for her to ... (read in full...)
Guy I like isn't ready to begin a relationship with me! What can I do?
Q. there is a guy i really like and he likes me too but he is not ready to start a relationship. something happened between us but thats it. even if he likes me he think he is young to have something. please help me thanks ...
A. 20 November 2006: Be his friend, but date other men. Find someone who wants to be in a relationship. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I miss him so how do I behave when I do see him? Any tips?
Q. ok after alot of thinking, and confusion for the past week, i've finally decided that i still do love him, i know we arent gettin back together, i miss him dearly but i dont know how to cope. I havent told him since about 2 weeks ago that i still ...
A. 20 November 2006: If you want him back, then tell him the truth so he knows where you stand. Then, leave it alone. He'll need to make the next move. Or you can suggest being friends and stay in contact with him, and maybe he'll come around and see how great you are. ... (read in full...)
I love him a lot but feel he doesn't pay enough attention to me! Should I call this a day?
Q. Please help. SORRY FOR LONG POST.. please read!!! How do you know when to call it a day? I have been with my boyfriend over two years, and my feelings for him have bordered on obssession at times. I believe a lot of this is down to his perso...
A. 20 November 2006: I know.... I feel bad for you, because I felt alone in my relationship as well. The best advice I have is for you to become more independent- make more time for your friends, go out (girls nights!), get involved in some sort of activity (soccer, ... (read in full...)
Bf ignores me completely when we visit with his family! What do you think of this?
Q. Odd question but am curious for opinions?? My boyfriend always takes me down to see his family, which i think is quite nice as it shows he wants me involved with them, etc... but then when we get there he completely ignores me!! He never talks t...
A. 20 November 2006: He's still feeling out the situation. And it's true, he might be embarassed to show affection in front of family members. Every family is different. With my ex- I was his first serious gf, so we went through the same thing. I found it weird, but not ... (read in full...)
I want to try again with my ex bf but now...my parents despise him!
Q. My boyfriend and me were going to move in together.My parents supported me in my decision.I got cold feet regarding the situation and the relationship and ended everything. I still love him and he loves me.I wnat to try again the only problem is my ...
A. 20 November 2006: It's not about your parents, you have to think about what's right for you. If you love him and he loves you then get back together... only you can live with your decisions and wouldn't be ashame if you end up resenting your parents later or if you ... (read in full...)
I'm too tired to have sex. Now he is threatening to go get it elsewhere!
Q. i have been with my partner for 5 years and i am 22 years old and he is 37 years old and we have 3 children 2 of them his and 1 not but that was before we met well the problem is that we dont have sex its not his fault he wants to have it but im so ...
A. 20 November 2006: Well, he shoul;dn't be threatening you. However, you should think about the reasons as to why you're tired. If it's because you're looking after the children, then ask for his help. tell him that if he wants an active lover, he'll need to take more ... (read in full...)
I didn't give my GF enough attention and I realise my mistake and I just want her back!
Q. about 14 months ago i split up with my 1st girlfriend who i was with for 2 years. I am 19 and i still feel like she is the only person i can love, i havent seen her since because it was a long distance relationship so i have given it space and time, ...
A. 20 November 2006: Call her- if you have her number- or send an email saying that you've been thinking about her a lot lately. Then, try to have a conversation w/her asking her what she's up to... casual stuff. Then, tell her how she's the only women you've loved and ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy and need tips on how to take things further now he seems interested in me too!
Q. I really like this guy, like really like this guy, I'd even go so far as to say that I love him, I've been in a few relationships and have NEVER felt this way about anyone. I've liked him this way for the past 18 months, and we occasionally flirt ...
A. 20 November 2006: Tell him how you feel but let him make all the major moves. Ask him casually if he'd like to meet wit you and go from there. Good luck... (read in full...)
He still sees his ex and I found a note and text messages saying how much she stills loves him!
Q. Hiya Basically I have been going out with my boyfriend since August 2005. I was in his room one evening, when he was downstairs, and I knocked his wallet off his desk. This note fell out, and it was from this other girl that he went out with be...
A. 20 November 2006: DO NOT TRUST THE EX GF. Hello? trust me, what ex-gf doesn't want to keep her paws on a good guy or a guy she once loved. yes, you should be worried. However, you should tell him that a friendship with an ex is very different from a friendship with a ... (read in full...)
Can you still have your period and be pregnant at the same time?
Q. i am on my period as normal, however my friend told me that i could still be pregnant if on my period, is this true? i also only last 5 days however im on my 10th day now....
A. 20 November 2006: YES! See a doctor. ... (read in full...)
He want's me and then he doesn't! Am I being taken for a ride here?
Q. i was with my ex for two years he moved away for a year of this and we gradually drifted apart i recently got back in touch with him and met up and it was back to the way it was. But sometimes he tells me he stil loves me and wants me forever the ...
A. 20 November 2006: Yes! He may not know what he wants. Stay friends to see what happens, but move on with your life. Date around. ... (read in full...)
I have deep feelings for my friend. I want to ask her out, so which is the best way?
Q. i have a very close friend. she trusts me and tells me everything whenever she is upset i'm there for her. so we are very close. recently i realized i have feelings for her. i want to ask her out. what is the best way? i really care for her. she ...
A. 20 November 2006: Take her to lunch and put your feelings on the line. Do not live this life with regrets! It's now or never! When it comes to love, you can't second guess yourself. I've realized that. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I want to ask my ex bf..if he would give 'us' a second chance. Any advice?
Q. I left my boyfriend of 4 years 8 months ago. I still love him very much... I needed to leave, to be on my own, in order to deal with old wounds. I feel that I have gained good ground. I haven't had much contact with my ex. We have each gone ou...
A. 20 November 2006: Put your feeling out there... that's what I'm doing this weekend with my ex- I'm going to tell my ex that I still love him (as I've done many times before) and tell him that I'd like to be with him again... the point here is to be honest. Don't go ... (read in full...)
She is trying to be friends with her ex...should I be worried?
Q. she doesn't remember why she got with her ex and is trying to get back friend's with him sould i be worried? on saturday night she went down town with my brother a few freind's and her mom and she told me she was talking to her ex. i don't norm...
A. 20 November 2006: YES! She's seeing if there's a chance with him. I wouldn't act jealous but check in from time to time. Just act supportive. ... (read in full...)
I want to get revenge on my bf for what he did! What should I do?
Q. I want to get revenge on my bf for what he did but i dont know what to do. I want him to regret leaving me cuz i was the best thing that ever happend to him. He didnt cheat on me......he said that he dont want a relationship right now and jus...
A. 20 November 2006: All women go through this... trust... there's no need to get revenge. The best revenge is to move on with your life. Now, if you want him back, then as a 'friend' start throwing other mens names around to make him jealous. Ask him for advice on ... (read in full...)
We broke up so what does he mean when he says..he wants to be friends with "somebody that he's cool with?" Does that include me?
Q. im so confused.....ok my bf and i broke up a month ago becuz he said that he dont love me and that he dont want a relationship right now and just wants to be friends for right now........( well i know that he does love me and that he didnt want to ...
A. 20 November 2006: I don't even have to read past the 2nd paragraph to tell you to leave this guy alone. And I know that it's easier said than done, but honey, he's not even showing an interest in you. Leave him alone- it's going to hurt but trust me, it's worth it. ... (read in full...)
He finds intercourse tiring but prefers I give him blowjobs! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 11 months now. I was a virgin when I met him but he wasn't. I'm 18 he's 20 and besically after about 4 months he told me he loved me and a couple of weeks later i realised i loved him (first guy i've ...
A. 20 November 2006: My ex was selfish... However, at first, he would reciprocate everything... but then it became about him. He didn't even like foreplay... he kept saying that men don't think like women, they need a few minutes of kising and then sex... basically, he ... (read in full...)
How do you have sex with a virgin without hurting her?
Q. My girlfriend is a virgin and I am not. She wants to have sex but I have never had sex with a virgin. How should I have sex with her with ought hurting her. ...
A. 20 November 2006: I was a virgin with my ex but I was ready... I was also a bit nervous, wondering if it would hurt, but I was eager to get the ball rolling. My advice: Just go slow when you're entering her. That's where the initial discomfort will be. Listen to ... (read in full...)
He screws with my head but I can't live without him! What can I do to get away from this guy?
Q. I'm angry because I can't live with this guy but can't live without, he means the world to me but all he ever seems to do is screw with my head and make me sad. We were together but broke up a few months ago, then became sex buddies but that ended ...
A. 20 November 2006: God, I'm in a similar situation- no joke- however, my ex and I fooled around over the weekend (forplay)... he suggested us being friends with benefits, but I told him that I don't want to be used. This week, I plan to have a serious talk with him... ... (read in full...)
He likes my looks and my abilities in bed! Does he want me or just my body?
Q. I'm going through a really rough time at the mo and I don't feel i'm getting support from my friends or family. My bf supported me and made me forget my troubles but we broke up nearly 2 months ago. But we've been talking again, he got in touch and ...
A. 20 November 2006: I know what you're going through. Don't allow yourself to be used. It's easier said than done. You guys can be friends but make sure you set boundaries. If he doesn't want a relationship with you, then believe him, and make a decision for yourself. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to have time for a relationship. Should I just walk away?
Q. i've started c in a guy since august, we get on really well n av lots of fun but when i asked him where we stand e said were just c in each other e dont want a relationship coz e aint got the time for it. i really think im fallin for im and dont no ...
A. 20 November 2006: I know exactly what you're going through. My ex-bf didn't have time for our relationship and it ended over the summer- it was horrible- as I truly loved him. Now, we've began talking again and have even "hooked-up"... he doesn't want to be in a ... (read in full...)
I was cheated on! Again! I've lost hope in men..are there decent ones out there?
Q. well it happened again. I was cheated on. I went out with this guy who i really liked. We got on so well most of the time. However we started arguing one week he decided he'd had enough and we split up. Im only young 15 he was nearly 16. I found out ...
A. 20 November 2006: It's difficult to get over mens lies... I've never been cheated on but my ex-bf now wants us to be friends with benefits. I just feel like everything in our relationship has been a lie, and I've just been used for sex. Well, look, you have to ... (read in full...)
I like the gym reception guy but I suspect he might be gay!
Q. I like the boy in the gym reception and we flirt visually a bit and today I noticed him getting jealous because other boys were looking at me friendly though. I suspect this boy I like could be gay, I think he's lovely as he always cheers me up ...
A. 15 November 2006: be careful of gym guys!... (read in full...)
Is my ex liking me again after our conversation today?
Q. My ex started a conversation with me online today. We haven't spoken in a few weeks, but he used to keep me close, and so I was always suspicious that he was using me as a safety net, so if things went wrong in his current relationship then he would ...
A. 15 November 2006: I know what you mean... well, if you really like him, don't hook up with him just yet... don't be the rebound gf... be the women he has to learn to respect by being there for him, but not giving in to your cravings. But be sure that you're dating ... (read in full...)
Should I have disregarded my friends and family's advice on dumping my BF?
Q. I always thought that my relationship with my man was a bad one because it wasn't perfect. Since then I've looked at other people's relationships of people my age, and I've realised that every relationship has it's faults. My man lied and exadurat...
A. 14 November 2006: He doesn't deserve you, and given that you put him first in the relationship and forgot about your own needs and wants tells me that your self-esteem is low when it comes to men and relationships. He broke-up with you not out of guilt, but because ... (read in full...)
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