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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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Should I let my daughter get to know this man better?
Q. My daughter is a very mature 17 year old who has been homeschooled, just finished her first year at college. She is becoming good friends with a 26 year old man at church who is interested in her and would like to date her. They are both devoted ...
A. 20 June 2007: Hey.
If the following was the case:
In our family, dating is not a romantic thing, it is basically an interview process where you are seeing if the person that you are interested lines up with your ideals that you have set for your future l... (read in full...)
They said if I don't break up with her, I'l regret it. What should I do?
Q. i have been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months and we know each other fairly well. however a few weeks ago i went to a party with her that was with people she mostly knew. this included some guys a few years older than me (i'm 20 she's 18...
A. 19 June 2007: Tell your girlfriend the truth, and see a lawyer to file charges against them. Waiting, lying about it to her, were the wrong things to do. NEVER give in to a bully's intimidation. Call up a lawyer right now. Sue them for assult and uttering ... (read in full...)
I really like him but he's still in love with his ex.
Q. Hi. I like this guy, and he likes me too. We've known and liked each other for years, but he still is in love with his ex. They're is a lot more to this situation, but that's pretty much the main point. So what should I do??? ...
A. 19 June 2007: Never invest too much into a person that is still inlove with someone else.
-FBK... (read in full...)
My ex is tired of his live-in girlfriend - am I a fool if I were to get involved with him again?
Q. I was wondering how much of a fool I am to get involved with my ex husband. He left me for a 19 year old girl and they have a baby together. As I stated we are divorced now and he is living with his girlfriend but she is moving out soon. He is ...
A. 19 June 2007: How much of a fool would you be to get back with a man that left you and had a child with another woman?
I would say you were a big fool.
-FBK... (read in full...)
My Mother in Law is Mean!
Q. my mother in law is very close to my husbands ex and i have never been accepted or respected by her. She talks about me behind my back and calls me fat. (i am not) her attitude towards me and my relationshop with her son is totally disrespecful. i ...
A. 17 June 2007: Where is your husband in all of this? Does he defend you to his mother or not? There is not much you can do if your inlaws choose not to like you. What you can do is make it clear to your husband what YOUR boundaries are. You need to decide on ... (read in full...)
When he turns me down for sex..I feel so rejected. What is going on with him?
Q. Last night after work I got to my boyfriends house around 9:30, I suggested we take a shower and hinted at a little more, but he said It's too late as he has to be at work at 5am. This isnt the first time this has happened, I dont ask for it a lot, ...
A. 17 June 2007: Now wait a minute. You show up at his place at 9:30 pm, and you know he has to wake up at 3-4 am to get to work for 5am, and THAT is when you want him to have the energy for sex? Oh, Com'on.
Try this...plan a getaway for the two of you, and get ... (read in full...)
I cried the day she called me telling me she lost her virginity (during Holy Week, too).
Q. I have a friend who is really pissed at me, and I understand; but she doesn't understand me. I haven't spoken to her since March of this year. She's tried calling me, I avoid her calls... and when I moved away, I disappeared from the world. Now, the ...
A. 17 June 2007: You sound like a religous person, thus all I can advise you do is pray for her.
You are not her mother, nor are you responsible for her.
You made it clear that you do not share her views on sex, and that you do not support her lifestyle. She ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel or is she just making me her "pass the time guy" until she finds someone she really likes?
Q. This is the deal. My ex and I broke up a year and a half ago. She told me that she wanted to have space but was willing to be my friend, which I thought was insane. Anyway, I didn't speak with her for about a while. She text me out of the blue ...
A. 17 June 2007: She left you once, and she will do it again. She needed "space"? Bull. If you want to make her a fuck buddy, go ahead, but do not even think for one second that if you go out with her again, those issues of the past will not come back and haunt ... (read in full...)
Fell in love with my boss! Am I traumitised?
Q. Hi there, is this a post-trauma disease? I have been through a full stress project and inadvertently fell in some kind of love with my boss. Everybody likes him, but I suspect he's just a disgusting married middle-age seducer. To keep up...
A. 17 June 2007: You told your partner? If you did not have sex with the boss, then you should have kept your mouth shut.
People are going to have feelings, even ones that are "inappropriate" at times. Trying to control your feelings is going to cause you to f... (read in full...)
Why does he want to be with me? Is it just for the sex?
Q. my boyfriend and I were on a break, well we kind of got back together now but the thing is he doesn't call often, we see each other once a week. when i ask him what's the deal he says: "I want to be with you, if I didn't I wouldn't want to come back ...
A. 17 June 2007: He is not a boyfriend, but you are his booty call. Yes, he likes you enough to have sex with you, but not to make you his girlfriend. In this case however, it sounds to me like he was MORE into you before, and that you got lazy in the ... (read in full...)
She doesnt want to hang out and says she doesnt love me
Q. yea..ive been goin out with this chick for almost two months now..lately though she never wants to hang out or do anything together..she says shes just a busy woman and likes hanging out with her friends.She says she doesnt love me yet and that'll ...
A. 17 June 2007: Basically it sounds like she is not THAT attracted to you. In the two months you have dated, it sounds like you have bored her more than excited her, and THAT is why she would rather be with "her friends" (= other guys she is dating). If she is ... (read in full...)
I feel so insecure, how do I "find myself" again?
Q. My girlfriend finished our relationship on sunday and i am heart broken, i opened up to her so much and let down all my guards. i felt used and hurt because i gave her my all. we argue all the time because she has a short temper and no matter what i ...
A. 16 June 2007: Dude, what I am about to write may sound like a commercial for a product, but I am offering you this for free, just so you know. I am an author of a book entitled "I'm a man, that's my job". I can offer you a FREE preview of the WHOLE BOOK (all ... (read in full...)
Should I let my daughter get to know this man better?
Q. My daughter is a very mature 17 year old who has been homeschooled, just finished her first year at college. She is becoming good friends with a 26 year old man at church who is interested in her and would like to date her. They are both devoted ...
A. 16 June 2007: If you think she is very mature, then trust her enough to let her make her own choices.
How devoted a christian is he if he has a past marriage? I mean, is he a widower, or divorced, or separated?
As for her first kiss on wedding day...is... (read in full...)
She proceeded to climb atop her friend and make out with her intensly, completely ignoring me.
Q. dear cupid, i am in a very loving strong relationship with my girlfriend and have been for the last 9 months now. last night, she and i were invited to a friend of hers lake house for a small get together. we all got very drunk, I even threw up a ...
A. 16 June 2007: You have every right to be hurt and confused. Does your gf have any sexual abuse of the past my a male? Those feelings of resentment may have come to light while the booze made her drop her guard.
She sounds like she has ALOT of baggage.... (read in full...)
She smokes pot. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend still sometimes smokes pot. Its not THAT big of a deal, but it bothers me a little. I knew she used to do it quite a bit in her past but when we met she told me she hadnt done it in a while and didnt really need to anymore. She didnt ...
A. 16 June 2007: She is not going to change just because she gets older and married. Her habit WILL continue.
My question to you is, if this is not THAT big a deal for you...why did you write in the question?
I think it is more important to you than you are will... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending emails that sound like she's sleeping with other blokes! She tells me it's nothing to worry about. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been seeing my girlfriend of the same age for about 9 months now. We met each other at our 'home' town but we study at different universities so it is effectively a 'long-distance relationship' most of the time. Over ...
A. 16 June 2007: I suggest that you start looking for someone new. While she is away, start dating other people. I can understand her making one mistake early in a relationship...but it sounds like cheating on you is something she has gotten comfortable with. ... (read in full...)
I'm unattractive--is there anything I can do to get noticed?
Q. i don't feel attractive! ive never had a gf or anything, i think it is because im not attractive. im 5ft and 14 stone. is there anything i can do 2 get noticed ?...
A. 15 June 2007: First, make sure your hygene is impecable. Geta dentist cleaning, make sure you use deorderant., keep your hair clean and managed, fingernails trim. Bathe daily, and on very hot days, bathe twice. This is only a first step.
Next, even if you a... (read in full...)
Obsessed with taking my wife's 17 year old sister to bed!
Q. I am happily married,,my wife is 26yrs old and I am 46.The problem is that I have this obsession with my wife's sister,,she is 17yrs old I want to take her to bed and she seems to have feelings for me as well.What do I do?...
A. 15 June 2007: You do Nothing. She is your sister in law. And she is a minor.
It is normal to feel lust, but that does not mean you encourage it. Feel the emotion but CONTROL the behavior.
If you must have a fling, do so with someone that will not tear ap... (read in full...)
Going on a clubbing holiday and gonna get laid... I need some tips!
Q. im going on holiday soon and i am still a virgin. Im going on a clubbing holiday and i really want to have sex. has any1 got any tips?...
A. 15 June 2007: Look up Fast Seduction on google. It will have all the answers you seek.
-Frank B Kermit
www.franktalks.com... (read in full...)
I have an atypical male problem... I want the perfect mate
Q. I have a typical male problem in that i want to commit to my girl but only if a list of criterias are met... like "she doesn't control me, she is not too clingy, possessive, is tolerant of my mistakes when i am careless about her, gives me my own ...
A. 15 June 2007: In my experience, guys that seek a perfect mate like you are doing are actually looking for a mother figure, not a lover. What's worse is that when exploring deeper issues, I do not beleive you are seeking the perfect mate at all. This is a tactic ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 14 June 2007: Is she in her right mind? Maybe she feels guilty that your middle child got most of her attention, and is trying to make things more balenced before she dies.
TALK TO THE GRANDMOTHER, and ask her what she is thinking/feeling. Express in as ca... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her how much she means to me?
Q. i am a lesbian and i have just split up with my girlfriend. we only went out for 6 months but it was my first real relatonship. i think she wants to get back with her ex, although she says she will not. she says she is not ready for a serious ...
A. 13 June 2007: The seduction is not about proving to her how much you love her. At worst, you would only get her back by making her feel guilty. The Seduction is about making her FEEEEL about you, and her coming to her own conclusion that she should be with ... (read in full...)
Other people's views on marriage being burdensome is overwhelming me! How do I get through this?
Q. I feel that i am anxious about my marriage mainly because there is an overwhelming burdensome feeling that marriage is doomed to lead to miseries especially in the region where is live.. I sometimes get overwhelmed by this popular sentiment and give ...
A. 13 June 2007: I would suggest that you and your wife move to a place where you feel there is more of a support system for your beleifs in marriage.
-FBK... (read in full...)
She and her child went back to the abusive ex bf! But.. did she really mean what she said to me?
Q. Hi. I wrote a few weeks ago about a workmate who I'd been seeing for a couple of weeks. She has a child and had a turbulent, sometimes abusive time with her ex. I've been apprehensive about moving things forward too quickly as I wanted her to be ...
A. 13 June 2007: I think you may want to consider dating women that have LESS problems than you do, not more. She WAS with you. She left you once, she WILL leave you again. It is NOT about how you feel about her. It is about the way she treats you. Do not get ... (read in full...)
I'm too wet and not tight enough (he says) and it takes him forever to cum... what are we doing wrong?
Q. dear cupid..i don't understand when me and my husband have sex he takes too long to reach his orgasm he says it's because my vigina is not tight i have so much discharge when having sex that i hardly feel anything because of my problem he doesn't ...
A. 13 June 2007: I would suggest to try to alternate your timing of penetration. For example, if you offer him a quickie, you may not be so wet thus he can feel some resistence. Also experiment with the angle of penetration, not the position itself. These things ... (read in full...)
Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when you're with someone else?
Q. Is it right to spend time with the opposite sex when are you in a relationship with someone else?...
A. 29 May 2007: Depends. Under what conditions are you comfortable with your BF going out with girls, when you are not there? If you are talking about times when you are in class, and have to work in group projects, or times when you and your co-workers are at ... (read in full...)
I love him more than my boyfriend but he's married but only for a visa, what do I do?
Q. i have been going out with a guy for about a year and a half now, suddenly an old friend of mine and i get back in contact but it turns out he is married and we fell in love with each other knowing we always had a special feeling from before.he told ...
A. 29 May 2007: I think you need to stay away from both guys. Break up wiht your bf, he deserves better than this type of treatment, and forget the other guy too. He uses people for visas, and he will just use you too for other things, until he can move on to use ... (read in full...)
He's married and getting really serious about me, where do you see this going?
Q. i met a guy online i knew was married, all we used to do is chat now i have been to see him twice and we went too far now he wants me to meet him again. I was on holiday abroad recently and he was on the phone at least 3 times a day. i have seen ...
A. 29 May 2007: I see you going to have sex with him, and him making you think you have a shot of being number one, when in reality you have no chance, and I also foresee you waking up one day in the future and realising all the time you wasted on him. -FBK... (read in full...)
I am working with Female Bullies whom are 17 to 20 years older than I am
Q. Working with Female Bullies whom are 17 to 20 years older than I am; seriously, this is ridiculous! I have been working there for 15 years and about 2 years ago, this happened when I moved from one part of the warehouse to where these rude femal...
A. 29 May 2007: I am going to suggest three things:
1-Be asked to be moved to another part of the company if there is one.
2-Start looking for other work, and if you can not find a job, start your own business on the side, and when you make enough money, th... (read in full...)
I really think she is interested in my husband! What's my next move?
Q. I am struggling with this girl, who lives on the same street as we do (my husband and I) and since there jas been a no smoking ban in public bars and restaurants, we hang out at home. I am usually inside but since it has been considerably warm in ...
A. 29 May 2007: I think she is AFTER your husband. Also, if you really can not relate to why people do drugs to begin with, then may I suggest that you are probably not the best person to try to help her with her problem, esp if she herself is not looking for that ... (read in full...)
I am a mature student and I am bi-curious.I have this mad crush on my female teacher! What should I do about it?
Q. I am in my mid-twenties, happily married with a child. I am currently a mature student at college and I am head over heels madly deeply in love with my female teacher who has children older than me. She is not only beautiful outside but she's caring ...
A. 26 May 2007: My suggestion is first for you and your husband to set the boundaries of your relationship. Knowing you are bi-curious does not necessarily mean that he will be OK with it, although I do assume you have discussed this at length with him. Are you ... (read in full...)
He stole naked pics of this other guy's wife...off their computer! Is this really creepy or what?
Q. I need advice. My husband and I have always had a strong loving, trusting relationship. We have been married 4 years and we a have a wonderful two year old daughter. We are both highly successful working professionals. We have very close friends ...
A. 26 May 2007: I liked Pork Hock's answer.
The issue I am struggling with is that they knew he would be at their home, and yet they left (or one of them did) photos where it was reasonable that he would find them. THAT is what I would be focusing on.
-... (read in full...)
Met up with an old flame for lunch and he ws nervous! What was going on with him?
Q. Hi, I'm a 29 year old woman, been married almost 8years with a 4year old son, fairly happily married. Recently i bumped into an old flame from high school(first love) haven't seen each or had any contact for 14years. We exchanged numbers and met ...
A. 26 May 2007: He was nervous because either he wants to fuck you, or senses you want to fuck him.
I think you are looking for someone here to encourage you to emotionally cheat on your husband, which will lead to an affair.
I have a better idea if you real... (read in full...)
I called my bf while I was on holiday and he told me to"f**k off!" Should I go back to him or not?
Q. I am visitng my family for 3 weeks, and away from my boyfriend of 4 years. I have called him today on his cellphone and he was getting ready to visit his dad at the hospital and was in a hurry. While talking to me, he said that "im bugging his ...
A. 26 May 2007: He was going to the hospital to see his dad, yet that is all you mention. What was the nature of the conversation you were having with him that would make him want to cut it off? I think those details are VERY important in this case. Did you ... (read in full...)
My selfish ex bf won't talk to me now, because I didn't leave work to pick him up with my car. Should I call him?
Q. Me and my ex broke up and became friends but he's till selfish. We broke up about 5 months ago and didnt speak. He called me after mayeb two months. We started having casual sex without the strings. We hang out from time to time. I used to let him ...
A. 26 May 2007: THIS is why you do not stay friends with an ex.
-FBK... (read in full...)
I really think she is interested in my husband! What's my next move?
Q. I am struggling with this girl, who lives on the same street as we do (my husband and I) and since there jas been a no smoking ban in public bars and restaurants, we hang out at home. I am usually inside but since it has been considerably warm in ...
A. 26 May 2007: You need to move. If I was your husband, I would forbid her to have contact with me. Why has he not stepped in? Is it possible he likes the attention? Is your husband dealing drugs that you do not know about? Is he sleeping with her already? ... (read in full...)
When a guy you know says he won't kiss you because you are drunk, what does that mean?
Q. Hi, i'm a bit confused. I know there are lots of guys who will gladly kiss a girl when she's drunk becuase i suppose it's easier for them to be taken advantage of and all that... however, when a guy you know says he won't kiss you because you are ...
A. 26 May 2007: It means that he would kiss you if you were sober. Men that do not want to kiss a drunk girl either do it as a matter of principle (She doesn't have to be drunk to be with me), or legal issue (be accused of taking advantage of her). Consider him a ... (read in full...)
I catch him in a lot of lies and I am concerned! What should I do?
Q. I am 33 yr old female and a man that is 23 is interested in me. I am secure with myself but worry that he will find someone better and that he is not ready for a commitment. I often catch him in lies and I do not know how to handle it, it is usually ...
A. 26 May 2007: It is OK to be interested and attracted...it is NOT ok to be with someone that you can not trust. Move on. What advice would you give your daughter who tells you she likes a boy but he is a liar? Unless, you think it reflects well on you to be ... (read in full...)
After we had sex he said, "we are seeing each other, to see how we get along". What did that mean?
Q. hiya, slightly confused here. after to speaking to a few people i still have no idea so i bring the question here if you are seeing a guy, does it mean its nothing serious but really just sex? the line i was given was' we are seeing eachot...
A. 26 May 2007: Sounds like he sees you as only a fuck buddy, and I doubt very much that will change. The most you will ever be to him is a good fuck buddy. If you are happy with that, fine. If you want something more, find someone else.
-FBK... (read in full...)
He wants a baby--but, I don't want to have child without marriage. What should I do?
Q. Break up or wait??! I'm in need of some impartial advice! I've been with my partner for nearly 5 years now. We are both professionals owning houses very near each other (don't live together). My partner is 32 was married and has a daugh...
A. 26 May 2007: Look, you want marriage before having a child.
He is up for a child, but not for being married again.
He is not going to change.
So, your choice is either you change, or find someone new.
Neither will be pleasant short term. Which one ... (read in full...)
I have problems getting to that first official date with any women I meet. What am I doing wrong?
Q. Can anybody give me some advice? I don’t seem to have any trouble attracting women and consider myself lucky with the number of women I know to talk to. Most of these are women approach me initially. I do consider myself approachable and they thi...
A. 26 May 2007: Here is my guess...
. I’ll text 3 or 4 times in the first week asking how they are and try to steadily build up to the first phone call and would then ask them if they want to meet up.
First error. The goal is not to go from text to phone... (read in full...)
Neighbor is wanting to call the police as his kid looked in our window, and saw us having sex! I think you should be able to do what you want in your own home! Any views?
Q. My neighbour has threatened to call the police as his 11 year old son saw my partner and I having sex in our living room. he also says it is illegal to walk around naked. The boy must have been in our back garden looking in the window so surley h...
A. 26 May 2007: Keep your currents closed, and it is only illegal if you are nude on your property if others can see you in a reasonable setting. For example, if someone else in their back yards can see you in the buff easily, then that is reasonable efforts on ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 26 May 2007: When my grandmother was ill and dying, my mother told me in a private setting. I was 9. She took me aside and told me in a matter of fact starting with grandma was sick, and it does not look like she is going to get better. She also told me that ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 25 May 2007: Tell the oldest kids about it, and go to their schools. Each school has access to councelors and they are there to help with kids and these kinds of situations. Enlist their aid, as they are trained for this. Keeping children ignorant is never a ... (read in full...)
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