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writes:The Frank Romance Formula Part 3By Frank Kermit ND, RelationshipsContinued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Context) = RomanceNot everyone appreciates romance. Some people do not enjoy the process at all, and they just want to get to the sex. Others feel inadequate and struggle to believe anyone wants to be romantic with them. Yet others feel challenged by the intense emotions that a romantic episode can bring about. It can make some people feel too vulnerable, feel shame, feel guilt or feel like they are being manipulated. However romance does have value in dating.Romance is a wonderful thing; the passion, the anticipation, the fantasy, the hope, the sex, the titillating drama of starting something new can all encompass you like a drug that takes you on an emotional journey of escapism. There is nothing quite like the roller coaster of flowing juices, and peak climaxes. It shows you what may be possible with that person if you ever wanted to get more serious. Another value in attempting to be romantic with someone is that it can also reveal areas where the two of you may not actually be compatible. You may discover through the process of romancing, that you are unable to enjoy the same things. As romance is suppose to help give you both a little push towards moving your relationship beyond platonic friendship, it may turn out that the juices just are not flowing enough between the two of you even with the push; and although it can be disappointing, it is better to find this out as soon as possible by attempting romance than it is to let the possibility linger on indefinitely. As sad as it is to discover there is no future for your romantic liaison, at the very least, you need not waste any more time on the wrong person and can move on to romance the next potential soul mate. Even an impersonal one night stand experience can have some elements of romance if you have enough initiative to ask for something romantic as a condition of enjoying your company. Being able to express your needs of romance is necessary to keep the romance alive in your active love life. You must tell your partner not only that you want romance, but also give a list of ideas and suggestions as to the type of romance you would respond too. In fact the biggest mistakes that people make with romance is assuming everyone should just know what is romantic and that romance means the same kind of experiences for everyone. This is boringly incorrect.For some people, romance is limited to candles, bubbly alcohol, recited poetry, and an expensive weekend getaway in front of a roaring fire. For others, romance can involve handcuffs, blindfolds, and an assortment of floggers and/or third party involvement. Whatever your romance needs, be honest about them, be non-judgment about the needs of others, and make all your experiences memorable. Frank Kermit, ND is a NaturoTherapist/Relationship Coach covered under naturopath insurance plans. He is a best selling author, educator, relationship columnist for The West End Times Newspaper and also appears regularly on the CJAD 800 AM radio program Passion. Come out and meet Frank in person at Frank’s relationship workshops.
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