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6 May 2009: Ok, we’ve all been there. A relationship we invested so much time in has come to an end one way or another and now you’ve got far too much time on your hands. No doubt, if you’ve been investing all your time into your relationship somewhere along ...
I want my EX back... Do I get back with my EX?
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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: Very well put So_Very_Confused!
And a great way of handling telling your man you've been texting your ex with minimum fuss too.
If more women knew how to do this (and men too) relationships would be a lot easier.... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: iAmHereToHelpYou; "YouWish, it may have something to do with the (outdated) idea that men can be rapists and women can't? I mean, you see a naked woman, many men will gladly accept the free viewing, but a naked man? Most women would find it creepy ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: The fact is YOU DO NOT KNOW HIS WIFE. You do not meet her, talk to her or have any relationship at all with her. This is your best friend in the whole World's wife we're talking about.
This scenario is ridiculous and the fact you continue to argue... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: This girl is OUT. Simple. She's a flirtatious attention seeker and shows you (and herself) NO respect at all.
I once dated a girl who, when we went out for a drink with her friends and their boyfriends, snogged one of the girls right in front of... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my BF is telling the truth or not? What lengths will some men go to, to tell lies?
Q. How can you tell if your boyfriend is tellin the truth whether a "friend" is just a friend orwhether he has slept with her. He denies anything happened that hey were just friends. I somehow believe him, just want to know to what lenths will you ...
A. 27 February 2013: OP, from what his says about not touching her with a 10ft pole, I believe him.
He also states he didn't want to cause any scuffles or upset you. You're still together and it seems to me he's just a nice guy and wants to be with you.... (read in full...)
Two guys..don't know which one to pick?
Q. I'm in between two men,I'm 30 one is 53 years old and the other one is 35. The 53 year old is set up in life and we have o much fun together. he is black and I'm latina and we have such great chemistry and he loves my son and also my son loves him. ...
A. 27 February 2013: The fact the 35-year old man wants to take things slow is a good thing and shows his good character. The 53-year old perve is now begging you to stay and he'll change. He won't. He's only saying this because now he's afraid he's going to lose you.
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How long should I date a guy before asking to be exclusive?
Q. I was using an online dating site and met a guy two months ago. He lives in another town about 45 minutes away. We see each other once or twice a week and communicate daily. He has a full time job, goes to school, and has a son. Recently he's been ...
A. 27 February 2013: How long should you date a guy before asking to be exclusive?
Whenever you feel ready. 2 months is fine.
You can ask him "You know we've been dating for 2 months now" and drop the old "where's this going?".... (read in full...)
The man I'm supposed to marry in 2 months has been cheating on me!
Q. I need help. I love my fiance and he loves me. We have been together for seven years. I recently found out he has been flirting on his job sites and got a girls number and was texting her. And he hit on a friend of ours. He keeps telling me how ...
A. 27 February 2013: You've been dreaming of marrying a liar and a cheat? Nice one. Tell me; why would you want to marry a man who is always eyeing up other girls?
I would go so far as to say, if you can't trust him, forget postponing the wedding... Don't marry hi... (read in full...)
"My feelings haven't changed!" he said. What does he mean?
Q. So, went for a Chinese with work colleagues, one man got rather drunk and tried to kiss me at the bus stop, I pulled away and was stunned; gave him a lecture about how we were colleagues etc last night was the first time I've seen him since the ...
A. 27 February 2013: Easy... He still fancies you. It's not rocket science.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was caught chatting up another girl over facebook. Do I dump him, or give him another chance?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 months now. So far are three months up to now had been perfect, no argueing, no fights, no huge issues, everything had been smooth and lovely. I was ...
A. 27 February 2013: The guy is a cheat. If you have any self-respect he is OUT. He's history. He can't be trusted. What more is there to know?
Without trust there is no relationship. If you can't trust him then it certainly WILL end. It's just a matter of time. Su... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend about this conversation with my ex?
Q. dear cupids, as silly as the issue may seem yet i need a prompt answer becuase any action that needs to be taken have to happen today. 5min ago my x boyfriend who is with me in the university said hi and his hi continued into a brief of his ne...
A. 27 February 2013: What is there to tell? You're not interested in your ex are you? You want to be with your boyfriend right? You didn't do anything with your ex other than talk to him very abruptly.
There's nothing to tell so why bother?
You've not done anythin... (read in full...)
Two guys..don't know which one to pick?
Q. I'm in between two men,I'm 30 one is 53 years old and the other one is 35. The 53 year old is set up in life and we have o much fun together. he is black and I'm latina and we have such great chemistry and he loves my son and also my son loves him. ...
A. 27 February 2013: I'm not sure where the cheating part comes in to this story. Maybe I'm missing something but I thought you were seeing a 53-year old pervert and then started dating a military man.
First off, to answer your question, you have a child. The 53-year ... (read in full...)
Is he bored with me? I caught him yanking off in bed next to me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who was married for over 20 years. The last 7 years it was a sexless marriage. We happen to have sex very often but there are times where I find porn on his phone and have caught him a few times masturbati...
A. 27 February 2013: Sorry I had to laugh at this gem from CaringAuntyA...
"If it were I waking up next to my man like this, without the porn on his phone; I’d feel – u beauty and throw my leg over him! :)"
Hahahahaha!
"Far be it for me that I should knock back... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my BF is telling the truth or not? What lengths will some men go to, to tell lies?
Q. How can you tell if your boyfriend is tellin the truth whether a "friend" is just a friend orwhether he has slept with her. He denies anything happened that hey were just friends. I somehow believe him, just want to know to what lenths will you ...
A. 27 February 2013: So this happened a year ago? Let me tell you his ACTIONS speak louder than words. If he is the most wonderful man in the World what's the problem? I can't see one here.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is this relationship salvageable or should I move on?
Q. My husband and I have had a bad marriage the last 2 years. We've been married 14 years. He turned into a workaholic and I was lonely. I started hanging out with friends. A few were guys. He avoided me by working all the time. I developed an add...
A. 27 February 2013: Eddie85: "t's never over if both parties want to work on it. The question is, is he willing to accept his faults in the relationship and work to close the intimacy gap."
Sorry that is just plain ridiculous. He doesn't trust her. She doesn't ... (read in full...)
My g/f broke up with me saying she needs to find herself but wants to be friends
Q. Hi,I'm 20 years old and me and my girlfriend were dating for 3 years. She left me yesterday telling me that she wants to be my friend again and that she needs to find her own identity.Please help.I really want to get her back....
A. 27 February 2013: What she has said to you is this; "I'm not interested in being with you any more".
That's it. The rest is a load of BS. Wanting to find her own identity and just be friends? Rubbish.
You are OUT I'm sorry to say and there's nothing you can ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my BF is telling the truth or not? What lengths will some men go to, to tell lies?
Q. How can you tell if your boyfriend is tellin the truth whether a "friend" is just a friend orwhether he has slept with her. He denies anything happened that hey were just friends. I somehow believe him, just want to know to what lenths will you ...
A. 27 February 2013: What kind of dumb question is this? I'll tell you something now that is based on the facts of evolution between men and women.
Women are better liars than men. Yes, some men are better than some women. Generally and proportionally, women are far ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend having second thoughts?
Q. I have only been with this girl for a few weeks. she recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years after they were constantly arguing and she felt that they needed to call it quits. she has been with me since then and then she broke up with me ...
A. 27 February 2013: Give up on this one mate. She ditched her boyfriend, then went straight to you as a filler. Now her boyfriend has begged her to come back and she has. Or she has realised she was an idiot and went crawling back to him with her tail between her ... (read in full...)
How should I how him how I feel without saying it?
Q. Why did he do that? I really like him.? So I was hanging out with this guy I really like and he was playing music and I asked him what song is next and he said your favourite song. And he was right it was one of the songs I like and I ...
A. 27 February 2013: Don't go acting out of character and jiggling your boobs. Just be yourself and dance. He smiled at you with his big eyes because he's not seen this side of you before and he liked it.
Be yourself. Ask him to put on one of his favourites and then... (read in full...)
He's ten years older , but says he's willing to wait until I'm ready to lose my virginity. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 and still a virgin me and my boyfriend have been dating for three months. He is 27 and already he has a daughter. He says he will wait for me until I'm ready to lose my virginity with him. I'm quite ready,but since he is experienced im kin...
A. 27 February 2013: At 17 you seem a bit young to be playing the role of Mum. After 3 months you're ready? You should leave it at least a year (if at all with this guy).... (read in full...)
Is this relationship salvageable or should I move on?
Q. My husband and I have had a bad marriage the last 2 years. We've been married 14 years. He turned into a workaholic and I was lonely. I started hanging out with friends. A few were guys. He avoided me by working all the time. I developed an add...
A. 27 February 2013: Move on. Too much damage for this relationship to be repaired. Whether you decide to move on or not right now is up to you. I'm telling you though, this relationship WILL certainly end and it will end in a big mess.
There is NO relation... (read in full...)
He went to visit his ex and is not back yet. Should I wait or move on?
Q. My man found out he has a 14 yr old daughter just recently. He went to visit her on 2/12/13 and hasn't returned yet. I know her mother wants to be with him again. His daughter is having problems in school. My question is should i move on or wa...
A. 27 February 2013: Has he been in touch at all or have you heard nothing? Did you guys agree how long this was for or when he'll be back?
If he went to visit her 2 weeks ago and you've not heard anything since my advice is, leave without fuss, and move on. Find som... (read in full...)
He leaves me goes to ex..rinse, repeat. How can I trust him?
Q. i feel so lost. i was married and very unhappy, i met a guy at work and at first site it was as if i stopped breathing, i instantly loved him! butterflies fireworks everything! it signified the end of my.marriage as i felt if i was in love with my ...
A. 27 February 2013: In short, just in case you want a man's perspective, you can't trust him. Actions speak louder than words and look at his actions?
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone like this? If so, you must be mad. You're set for ... (read in full...)
He's not fighting to keep me in his life! I'm gutted. How do I get over this?
Q. Dear cupid, I am distraught. Me and my boyfriend have broken up. We were together tabout 4 months. I have always suffered with confidence and low sef esteem. I dont tink ive trusted him from day 1. He never gave me any reason not to trust him. It...
A. 27 February 2013: No relationship can exist without trust I'm afraid. This relationship is doomed from the outset. I went out with a girl in a similar situation and she made my life a living hell because she had self-esteem issues. I would bolt as soon as a girl told ... (read in full...)
Why is that when you're with someone, attractive and available guys are everywhere, but when you're single, they are nowhere to be found?
Q. This is a pretty straight forward question that hopefully somebody could answer... I've came out of a 7 month relationship about a month ago and i've not met one decent guy, or anybody at all who i've found myself attracted to! It's strange bec...
A. 27 February 2013: The fact you didn't appear interested because you had a boyfriend made you more attractive. It also made you more approachable.
When I go out, I go out to have fun with friends. If I meet someone great, if not, well I'm out having fun.
However... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable as he claims? My 8 years older ex can be thoughtless, inconsiderate, and does not listen.
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a problem with my boyfriend, who is 25 (8 years in my senior). We've been going out since October. Recently we have been having many disagreements and I find myself craving more from him. We split up recently due to that, bu...
A. 27 February 2013: He too old and sounds like an idiot. Go out with boys your own age. You'll be laughing about his guy one day.
Generally, women aren't ready for serious relationships until 22+. Men, probably a little later. Fact is, there's a lot of things t... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 27 February 2013: He's cooled off because you've been flirting and giving him the come on and then told him nothing will ever happen as he is married.
"Instead of understanding, he seems to be hurt and upset at me. Am I not doing the right thing? Why can't he see t... (read in full...)
Am I finally over my ex? Because I don't feel anything or even care about him anymore
Q. Does this mean i'm finally over my ex? I've stopped thinking about him as much as I used to, which was a lot! I can think about our memories and him and i don't tear up or feel sad, but just think of how it was a happy point in my life. I don't fi...
A. 27 February 2013: The opposite of love is indifference. However, the fact you have to ask says to me you're not over him completely. You're getting there and it just take time. If I see another post in a months time saying "how about now? Am I over my ex?" then the ... (read in full...)
Is he bored with me? I caught him yanking off in bed next to me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who was married for over 20 years. The last 7 years it was a sexless marriage. We happen to have sex very often but there are times where I find porn on his phone and have caught him a few times masturbati...
A. 27 February 2013: Sometimes guys want a 3-course meal (sex), sometimes a snack (quickie) and sometimes just a kebab (yank).
Having said that, I've never "yanked" with my girl next to me in bed.
Never mind how you SHOULD feel. How DO you feel? If you're not happy... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 27 February 2013: Cerberus: "Oh just to add, those studies that male anon referred to? They all state that the vast majority of the time the guy is the one with attraction and feelings"
The MAJORITY of the time. NOT ALL the time. I have female friends I'm not inte... (read in full...)
Should I just wait to hear from him? He's digesting the news that I used to be an escort
Q. A few years ago I fell into hard times and began escorting. I did it for 2 years off and on and just enough to get by. I eventually quit and have since than went back to working a real job and a normal life for a few yeArs now. A few months ago I ...
A. 27 February 2013: Why did you tell him? I don't understand. You did what you had to do back then to survive. It's none of his business really what happened in the past. I'd rather not know to be honest.
What matters is how you treat each other now. Not what hap... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind after a breakup? Can they really feel nothing?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, a week ago today. I'm struggling to even make it through the day. I'm truly heartbroken. He was the first man I'd ever fallen in love with. He's 34 and I'm 30. The reason I broke it off was because after ...
A. 27 February 2013: Men feel bad too following a break up.
However, this is the same scenario as when a woman wants out and instead of telling her boyfriend, she drives/pushes him to doing the dirty work for her.
He then dumps her and yet she seems to not car... (read in full...)
I introduced the girl to my best friend. Now they are together. Trouble is I have fallen in love with the girl. What can I do?
Q. I'm 17 years old, male, and I've been best friends with this guy since elementary school. Lately I've gone insane with envy for certain aspects of his life. A key component, his relationship with his girlfriend, whom I've fallen in love with ove...
A. 27 February 2013: You can't do anything. She's interested in your friend NOT you. Go find a good one who wants to be with you.... (read in full...)
Why does everyone think that men and women can't be friends?
Q. Ok, so I'm just wondering... I have seen A LOT of posts involving opposite sex friendships... and I have seen A LOT of answers that claim guys and girls can't be friends ... my question is this: films aside, where has this ridiculous idea come from? ...
A. 26 February 2013: SImply put its because one of the friends is attracted to the other. So if you're not attracted to your friend chances are he's attracted to you.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend stood me up on valentines day and now says she's too busy to make up the date?
Q. my girlfriend stood me up on valentines day saying she needed to study for exams. i had made some pretty big plans and felt really horrible. at first I didn't tell her about this but she realized something was bothering me so i finally told her...
A. 26 February 2013: If you're girl is too busy to see you and stands you up on Valentine's day you're OUT I'm afraid to say buddy. The fact she won't even make it up to you is also a sign.
If she really wanted to see you she'd make time for you (somewhere). However,... (read in full...)
Does a man like it when a woman talks sexy to him?
Q. Does a man like it when you tell him that you want him to be deliciously sore when your done having sex so he can remember being inside you and how amazing it felt?...
A. 14 February 2013: Erm... Yes, talking sexy is a good thing. However, I don't think I'd like being told you want to make me deliciously sore - a bit too S&M for me to be honest. I don't like the C word. Apart from that everything else is fine.
I would say if you'r... (read in full...)
Is my weight putting boys off?
Q. I am 17 and i am 5'7" and nearly 160lbs. i have always been bigger than my friends but now its really getting me down. right now all my close friends and sister have boyfriends and i really want one. is my weight putting boys off? it makes me feel ...
A. 14 February 2013: 11.5 stone for a girl who is 5'7" is hardly what I would call fat! Don't be stupid!!! You are very tall for your age.
I'm 11 stone and 6'0" and look a bit on the skinny side to tell the truth. I'm trying to put weight on to get to between 12-13 st... (read in full...)
What to do when my boyfriend who had cheated before does not care about rebuilding trust and has nearly a hundren women on his contact list?
Q. My bf cheated on me a year and a half ago. I can't seem to get past it. I do not trust him at all any more. And he's not doing anything to help me trust him. He gets pissed every time I get mad because of his 205 contacts which three fourths r ...
A. 14 February 2013: This is over. If you can't trust him then there is no relationship. A relationship cannot exist without trust. I trust my friends. If I didn't they wouldn't be my friends. I trust my family. Otherwise I wouldn't have anything to do with them. If I ... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 14 February 2013: Just write this one off and date other women. Put this down to a learning experience and behave like a gentleman in future.
Remember:
1) Keep dates light and funny. No intense conversations about stuff. Nothing emotional.
2) Compliment h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stood me up for dinner but is giving me the silent treatment saying I didn't text him back "I love you".
Q. My 28 year-old boyfriend was here to dine with me. He got a call from his mother, who asked him to meet her to give her something. He left and said he'd come back very soon. So I left his food on the table and waited. He didn't show up. An h...
A. 14 February 2013: Sorry I forgot two things...
1) This guy is 28? Sounds like he's 12
2) When you say "he knows I get very sad when he stands me up and doesn't even text" it sounds to me like he does this all the time. Time for you to give HIM the silent treat... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stood me up for dinner but is giving me the silent treatment saying I didn't text him back "I love you".
Q. My 28 year-old boyfriend was here to dine with me. He got a call from his mother, who asked him to meet her to give her something. He left and said he'd come back very soon. So I left his food on the table and waited. He didn't show up. An h...
A. 14 February 2013: You deserve better I'm afraid. If I was on a date and my mum, and believe me I do love my mum, asked me to drop something off/collect something I'd tell her I'm busy right now but I can do it tomorrow.
The only reason you leave a date is if it is... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 13 February 2013: "I must have been like a beaten dog at this point but I decide to attempt the kiss indirectly (just keeping my head in line in case she is going for it too) but I am greeted with the side of her face during the hug.:
Read that last bit again...... (read in full...)
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