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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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We are both 18 and virgins and I don't actually know what to do when we have sex!
Q. ok im 18yrs old and been with my gf a while now and are both are ready to have sex but we are both virgins and she doenst know im a virgin and just dont know what to do???...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi There,
I give seminars for adult male virgins. Check out my website of www.franktalks.com
The reviews of the guys who attended my seminar should have enough information to get you started. In the meanwhile, understand that birth control is... (read in full...)
Can a guy be with a girl long-term and not cheat on her?
Q. Is it possible for a guy to be with a girl for 3 years and 4 months and not cheat on her??? ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi there,
Yes it is possible provided that his needs are addressed, and that he also has some code that he lives by. It is not the length of time that passes to indicate a man's fidelity...it is based more on his personal character and his bele... (read in full...)
"I love you... BUT it's over"... what does it mean when someone says that to you?
Q. Why would a guy say i love u but its over???...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi There,
Here are my three interpretations:
1-I really do love you, but for reasons that love can not address, it is not enough to ever make it work long term for us. AKA love is not enough to make this work
2-I love you, but not enough... (read in full...)
Do I ask her out and risk losing everything we have as great friends? Help me here!
Q. Ooooook theres a girl who ive known for a couple years. Shes my best friend and im hers, we even have a pact to tell each other 'i love you' at least once a day. 3 days ago i told her about another girl i liked and she broke down. That was when i ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi There,
In my opinion, the fact you already have feelings for her means that the friendship is already over. Yes, in this particular case, I do think you should ask her out based on what you wrote. Although there is always the chance she will... (read in full...)
Mom is marrying a bad guy who drinks! I'm scared he'll hurt her...what can I do?
Q. im kinda scared cuz my mom is getting married to this guy that is not my dad.and this guy has tried to like kill her 4 times cuz of drinking.but he seems better and now their gonna get married and im scared cuz sometimes i think hes gonna do it ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi There,
This is a tough situation. Firstly, the chances are high that even if this guy was not in the picture, your parents probably would not work things out. That is the first thing to understand.
The next one is FIRST keep yourself sa... (read in full...)
She wants me on a casual basis
Q. hi heres the deal.im 43 my gf is 40.we have been serious for 19 months till oct when she said she needs a break and wants to be free to date other men.ive given her a 5 week break in which the only contact has been from her.she called me yesterday ...
A. 3 December 2006: I beleive the seriousiness of the relationship is definately over, at least for her. My only suggestion is to be careful of your intent. If you hope that she will eventually want you back full time, it is unlikely to happen. Make sure that you ... (read in full...)
She claims to love two guys at the same time...is this possible or is she lying to me?
Q. Can a human being love two people in the same way? Please advice me on what to do. My problem is that I have a girl which i truly love, but she told me she told me she really love me with all her heart, and at the same time love another boy just...
A. 3 December 2006: yes it is possible to love more than one person at the same time. There is a good book on the topic entitled The Ethical Slut which is a book on polyamory. It should give you the information you are looking for. Also some websites on polyamory ... (read in full...)
My alcohol dependancy is causing friction between my partner and I. What can I do?
Q. i have been with my (female partner) for 2 years we have moved twice and have had two children. i have a slight alchol dependancey and this is causing friction between us she keeps telling me that im useless and i don't have anything to do with the...
A. 3 December 2006: I agree with everything that Irish49 has said.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I suffer from 'sweaty hands' and it's embarrassing! Should I see a doctor or is there any tips on how deal with this?
Q. I get sweaty hands. It's really embarrassing at school when we do dancing or I'm shaking hands, or I'm making hand interaction - and I don't want a boyfriend because I would be embarrassed of my hands getting sweaty. I researched a little about this ...
A. 3 December 2006: Well one suggestion is that when you go out on the town, or on a date, try to use elegant ladies gloves as part of the outfit...that should at least ease part of the problem.
Instead of shaking hands, I like to bow respectfully...this saves th... (read in full...)
Is she trying to tell me something or am I getting the short end of the stick here? What's going on?
Q. Hey, well this may sound silly but i fee a little confused here. i'm friends with a girl called Kim and we've been talking and lately we've been getting on really well, she has a boyfriend. however the other the night when she was going an were sa...
A. 3 December 2006: Well she either just sees you as a good friend (women do tell their good friends "luv", and it does not mean anything more than friendship)...or she wants to cheat on her boyfriend.
The only way to know is to make a move on her...my guess is that ... (read in full...)
Everytime he wants sex and I don't, he gets mad at me then goes to bed. What should I do?
Q. I took my boyfriend's virginity and he keeps telling me that we need to slow down, now everytime that he wants to have sex and I don't, he gets mad at me then goes to bed. What do I do?...
A. 3 December 2006: I would suggest that you give him the option of dating other people. You opened a pandoras box, and now he wants it more than ever. He needs to go out and sow his wild oats if you are not interested in him enough to keep up with him. Chances are, ... (read in full...)
I thought I could let her go after she got married but I can't! What should I do?
Q. She just got married with this guy, but we still having strong feelings and we can not stop caring and feeling for each other. I'm 34 and she is 23, we met one year ago and we dated for 8 months we felt in love, our work made things difficult...
A. 3 December 2006: Hi Guy,
First off, find a new job and save your career. Next, she could not possibly have loved you as much as you loved her if she married someone else. She made her choice, and I think she is playing with your head.
Your career and menta... (read in full...)
I want my husband back! What can I do to convince him, that our marriage is worth it? Any tips?
Q. I need advice on how to get my husband back. He left three weeks ago to stay at a friend's place. We were together ten years before our marriage four months ago. He wanted out three weeks before the wedding, but we still got married. He was a virgin ...
A. 26 November 2006: Your husband sounds very conflicted...he needs variety, and most men would cheat in silence. I think he feels it is more honorable to break the marriage than to suggest things like swingers clubs and other forms of alternative lifestyles to ... (read in full...)
The girls don't seem to like me because of my weight. I need to lose it!. Any tips?
Q. dear cupid i would like to know is there any easy way to lose weight, because i have tried dieting and excercising and am still doing those things, but i still havent changed, and all girlz dnt seem to like me because of my weight? plzz...
A. 26 November 2006: Hi Guy,
I am overweight and I have no problem meeting and attracting women. Yes, being heavy makes it more difficult for you, but it is not impossible. Focus on how you make other people FEEL, not what they think about what you look like. I... (read in full...)
I love my best friend... Can I get my best friend to fall in love with me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a major problem, first it started out as a small inside joke then i started to feel different about it but now i'm in love with my best friend. I've told them how i feel about them and they keep saying that they don't want to ...
A. 24 November 2006: Hi Guy,
It sounds like if this was love, and not just friends who fool around, you would not be questioning it like this.
Basically, if there was really something more deeper between you, you both would have moved on by now, and at least one... (read in full...)
He got his ex pregnant and I just found out, is he a rat?
Q. i have been dating a guy for 3 months, he does not talk about his past but always willing to answer any questions i put to him. someone told me that there is a rumour going aroung that he has got his ex pregnant, the baby is due in Jan/Feb....
A. 24 November 2006: Bail now. If there is even a chance that it might be his, and he is acting like this, it is only a matter of time before he does it to you.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My husband (late 30's) is winking and eyeing up a 15 year old girl. Is there something going on?
Q. I'm very concerned my husband who is in his late 30's as been winking(more than once) and eyeing up a 15 year old girl. He barely knows her and they've only spoke once or twice. Do you think there is something going on? or am i just been paranoid?...
A. 23 November 2006: She is 15. In some parts of the world what he is doing is board line illegal....
Try using the word "Pedophile" next time he start acting this stupid. See if he reacts at all.
Does he work in a job with children around?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Photo of me in the paper portrays me as an abuser and I'm not! What should I do?
Q. I'm 24 and have recently seen a photo of myself in the paper, where it looks, to all intents and purposes, as though i am abusing a young lady. even worse - the story's about domestic abuse. what the paper doesn't say is that i don't actually l...
A. 23 November 2006: The area of law is defamation. You need to gather proof of the damages that this caused you, so start keeping written track.
Most entertainment law books have entire sections on defamation: Libel and Slander. They can tell you what you need.
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Am I wanting this child for all the wrong reasons?
Q. Recently my relationship with my boyfriend of 8 years has broken down we lived together for over two years and now the house is up for sale. Before all this happened we put our names down for IVF treatment as he had a low sperm count I really hate ...
A. 23 November 2006: You do not mention your age in this so I do not know if you are fighting the biological clock.
What I can tell you though is that if the house is for sale, and you both have not been able to handle the strain of your relatioship thus far, then it ... (read in full...)
Why are people's sexual pasts such an issue for some people, mainly women?
Q. Why are peoples sexual pasts such an issue for some people, mainly women? I have a problem with the number of women my man has slept with (over 100) and some of my friends do too (nowhere near that many!) What causes these problems? Why ca...
A. 23 November 2006: Hi There,
Most of all, do you stick around if you can't get over it, even if the person is great apart from this?
This depends on the person, but I can tell you that if you do not deal with this issue, it will only continue to bother you more ... (read in full...)
I am female and over six foot tall! I'm insecure about it. Tell me-- Do men find tall women attractive?
Q. This is a stupid question, but I am very insecure as I am so tall. I am six foot and tower over people, especially when I wear heels. I am very slim and used to be a model so everyone thinks I am so confident, but the truth is I hate it so much. I ...
A. 23 November 2006: My current girlfriend is taller than I am. I love her to bits. And no, I do not have a fetish for tall girls.
My suggestion is to go to some fetish, swinger or other alternative clubs and seek out the attention of men that LOVE tall women.
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Re: concert ticket update....what do you think of this plan to surprise her?
Q. So I decided I am going to suprise my ex for Christmas with concert tickets (I think anyway). Here was the last post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-surprise-my-ex-with-concert-tickets.html What I think I would like to do, based ...
A. 23 November 2006: Hi Mike,
I think you should find someone else to spend the time with, and donate that money for the tickets to charity.
She is your ex...haven't you read other posts on this board about the damage of hooking up with ex's that you may still ha... (read in full...)
Enagaged to her but she won't let me make love to her, for the past 2 years! What can I do?
Q. SO I have been dating my financee for almost 5 years. In the first year it was pretty hot and heavy. But after the first year its been all down hill from there for her. I still want to have sex she wont even make out with me anymore. I dont want to ...
A. 23 November 2006: You have to make a decision. How important is sex to you?
If it was me in that situation, I would have left a year ago. Is it becuase she is uncomfortable with her body, or is it another reason?
Could she have been abused sexually as a ki... (read in full...)
I'm curious on how pre-martial sex is perceived!
Q. what do people think about pre-marital sex? i grew up in a religious family, but waiting until marriage made a lot more sense when i was 19. now i'm 27, and i'm curious. does anyone really wait this long? is it bad if you sleep with someone in a ...
A. 23 November 2006: Your first question is: Does anyone really wait this long?
The answer is yes. I have dated women that were virgins between the ages of 22 to 32. Some women wait, while others just never really had the opportunity until they met someone they real... (read in full...)
How can I get my girl to give me longer oral sex without hurting her feeling's?? Any tips?
Q. how can i get my girl to give me longer oral sex without hurting her feeling's? my girlfriend is hot and she's sweet when we first got together we loved doing 69er's and giveing oral pleasure all the time. now it's seem's i'm the only 1 giveing n...
A. 23 November 2006: Here is what I do to encourage the act.
Firstly, encourage her to touch herself during the act. It helps her enjoy it more.
Use a variety of Flavored condoms and see what she likes best.
Use different foods, and drinks to mix and match ... (read in full...)
She says I am more like her best friend than her bf. What should I do?
Q. Hi there, what should a guy do when his girlfriend mentions every few days that he feels like her best friend and not a boyfriend?...
A. 23 November 2006: It sounds to me like she is preparing you for an upcoming break up, just she is not ready to hurt you just yet.
It sounds to me like the attraction is gone. This usually happens when a guy gets comfortable in a relationship, and his lover st... (read in full...)
I can't get over her-it just keeps getting worse! What should I do?
Q. I've liked this girl for about a year now and she has said to me that she only likes me as a friend even though she likes the attention from me, she has also recently broke up with her bf and shes been giving certain hints that she may actually feel ...
A. 23 November 2006: Hi Guy,
I have been exactly where you are. Firstly, you must STOP GIVING HER ANY ATTENTION. You are what is called an Emotional Cookie Man. Basically she keeps you around for the attention you give her, as an EGO BOOST, but she has no intentio... (read in full...)
I love my best friend... Can I get my best friend to fall in love with me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a major problem, first it started out as a small inside joke then i started to feel different about it but now i'm in love with my best friend. I've told them how i feel about them and they keep saying that they don't want to ...
A. 23 November 2006: Hi Guy,
You are in the "friends" category of your friend. It is unlikely that your friend will change that in time.
Here is my suggestion...I have used this to get back my ex-fiance, and it worked even after 7 years. You can read about it in... (read in full...)
If a guy is crazy in love with you and you just want to be friends... Would that work?
Q. Can you be friends with a guy who's crazy in love with you or just tell you cant be anything to him ...
A. 23 November 2006: Hi Girl,
If he is already in love with you, the friendship is already over. Even though you might say you just want to be friends, he will only accept it falsely, as he will secretly hang on, hoping you will change your mind later.
It is r... (read in full...)
He offered to visit me while I'm in the hospital..is he just being sympathetic or is he really interested in me?
Q. Hello. I am a bit confused. was seeing quite a bit of a guy for couple of months, recently we haven't seen each other for few weeks, as we have both been busy. I spoke to him and told him I was going to go into hospital - he offered to come and ...
A. 22 November 2006: Hi there,
My suggestion is to focus on what is most important here: your health.
Unless he makes it CLEAR and DIRECT, you should just assume that he is there to see you as a friend.
Once you get your health situation then you can ask him out... (read in full...)
Looking for fun, cheeky stories on 'revenge'..for my article. Anyone want to share?
Q. I'm compiling an article for a magazine about men who take revenge. Has anyone got back at an ex in a cheeky or amusing way? (Nothing abusive or straying into stalking territory). ...
A. 22 November 2006: Hi There,
I may have a few for you...contact me at
frank@franktalks.com
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I keep thinking she's cheating! How do I get rid of this constant jealousy?
Q. Hello, Any help would be appreciated, I think that my better half is cheating on me. I cant help but think that my partner of one year has thought about maybe getting involved with her ex boyfriend. I know that she would not want him back in a ty...
A. 22 November 2006: Hi There,
To me, it depends on the context as to why they are still really close friends. Were they long time friends before they went out? Do they still have feelings for each other?
I know that for me, it would be the context of the c... (read in full...)
I dont think she's over her ex, should I leave until she does?
Q. My girlfriend can't get over her ex. She broke up with him two years ago because he cheated. Recently, she e-mailed him saying she thinks about him at least once a day and how she still misses him. She also tells him how lucky his new girlfriend is ...
A. 22 November 2006: Hi There,
I think you should break it off with her PERMANENTLY. If her emails are any indication, you obviously are not her primary concern. I only see you getting hurt in the long run. For whatever reason, she does not have the same feelings... (read in full...)
My past bugs my bf and he doesn't even know any details! What should I do?
Q. maybe this is a common question but i need help guys,i have a wonderful relationship wth my bf,he keeps bringin up my past not always but at times and it irritates both of us,he gets completely pissed off when he even thinks abt it, i told him that ...
A. 21 November 2006: Hi there,
I really do not see what kind of a future you could possibly have with the man. Either he is insecure or possesive.
Assuming you are talking about sex, could he be feeling inadequate?
If you really want to push this to the limi... (read in full...)
A past drunken cheat haunts me and I am feeling guilty. Do I tell my fiancee or not?
Q. I am getting married next year to a man who I am very much in love with and we have been together for six years. About three and half years ago I got very, very drunk, so much so that I went home with a guy and woke up the next day to discover we ...
A. 21 November 2006: Hi There,
Is the man you had the one night with in your life at all, and could your fiance find out? If so, you better tell him before he finds out in other ways.
Next, part of being in a relationship is to take the hit. You have pangs of gu... (read in full...)
He claimed he was too drunk to remember our night of sex..then worries whether I'm on the pill or not! Think he likes me?.
Q. I spent the nite with a male who has been a friend of mine for two years. We had sex and he claims he was too drunk to remember it despite the fact that the very next day he freaked out and continually asked me if I was on the pil.Do you think he ...
A. 21 November 2006: Hi There,
Speaking from a man's view, I think he is acting like he likes you enough to have sex with you, but does not want to have a serious relationship with you.
If he really liked you enough, he would have used this as an opportunity to g... (read in full...)
My bf and I have a baby but we fight and I'm not happy...do I leave and move in with my ex? What should I do?
Q. I have a baby with my current boyfriend and have been together for 4 years... If feels likes we are going in a circle ( we are happy, then we fight, then we dont talk etc.) I am not happy, it feels too little too late... but there is an ex that ...
A. 21 November 2006: Hi There,
I would suggest that you put more effort in the relationship you are in right now with the father of your child. Let him know that if things continue going as they are, you will not want to stick it out.
4 years is a long time, and y... (read in full...)
Why is the memory of this affair still playing on my mind a year after it happened?
Q. hi guys its me, the one who submitted i broke off my affair, my b/f knew about it and now i'm thinking about it all again (16/11/06). first of all thanks for your advice, dont know wether i made it clear before, the affair lasted 5 months in total, ...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Girl,
My guess is that the affair addressed some of your emotional needs that your relationship does not deliver on. Specifically it sounds like the emotional need for an emotional range. One of the attractiveness of affairs is that it provi... (read in full...)
My ex bf and I have feelings for each other..but we both have partners. What now?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now, things are great. I recently bumped into my ex boyfriend whom i was with for 11 months before the guy i am with now. We've become friendly again, and im beginging to become attracted to him ...
A. 20 November 2006: You do nothing. What you are feeling might be nothing more than nostalgia. Sure, you have feelings for each other. You did date for almost a year afterall. When ever I see my exs, there is always some attraction and good feelings of connection. ... (read in full...)
My wife of 22 years is having an affair with a married man... What to do?
Q. I have a wife of 22 years who i felt was my selected partner forever. We have children in high school and college. About five years ago i took this new job that require i spend a lot of time traveling. She has been working as a manager locally and ...
A. 20 November 2006: Firstly calm down before you do something that you will regret.
The first choice you need to make for yourself is whether you want to make things work with your wife or not. That is it.
If you want to make it work, then you must be ready to... (read in full...)
She is trying to be friends with her ex...should I be worried?
Q. she doesn't remember why she got with her ex and is trying to get back friend's with him sould i be worried? on saturday night she went down town with my brother a few freind's and her mom and she told me she was talking to her ex. i don't norm...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Guy,
Yes, you should be worried. Unless there is a kid involved for visitations and such, I can not imagine any other reason she would still want to be friends this badly.
There is a difference between being on good terms, and being friend... (read in full...)
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