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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 21 August 2007: I think he will refuse to deal with the truth about himself as long as you refuse to find a way to deal in an open relationship that will satisfy his orientation.
This is a catch 22 being set up. You want him to accept himself, but that means (a... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 17 August 2007: Ouch.
Look, it is OK to get angry, but do not let the emotional control your actions.
See out that support group I mentioned earlier. You will be around people that can understand your feelings right now.
He is mostly likely bi...maybe... (read in full...)
I discovered pictures of an ex, over 4 years ago I believe which were all of her in posing in underwear.
Q. Hi There I am writing as in a new relationship - 4 months ish. I am totally infatuated with this guy and he seems just as keen but something is still niggling at me all the time telling me I couldn’t be as lucky to get someone I like this much l...
A. 17 August 2007: I am a guy about to get married, and I have EVERY nude/semi-nude pics of my exs...somewhere in the house. I do not look at them, unless I come across them, but it is more of curiousity and memory lane, than any serious attachment.
No, it does not... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm cheating and had the nerve to ask if our daughters were even his!
Q. I have had a boyfriend/fiance for almost 4 years now and we ahve two small children together. He is a very jealous type. we went to counsleing over it but now im about to start school its starting up again. He has been accussing me of cheating cuz i ...
A. 17 August 2007: Well, if he is the jealous type, then it comes from insecurity. In that sense it would make sense that at some point down the line he would question the paternaty...not because of anything you did, but because that is how some men think.
I sug... (read in full...)
Before leaving for school he hit and killed a little boy in a car accident...
Q. I have a big relationship problem. I have known this guy for several years and we have dated on and off... Last summer it got very serious and then he went away to college. Before leaving for school he hit and killed a little boy in a car accident. ...
A. 17 August 2007: His guilt and maybe a depression? When you say he acted weird...do you mean suicidal? He did accidentally kill a child...that is something that will stay with anyone for the rest of his life.
Has he sought professional help for this?
-Frank ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me ideas about how not to screw things up when I'm dating a woman?
Q. I was at a party at the weekend and I saw this girl I fancied. I was so close to asking her out but my mind kept saying "no don't do it." The reason for this is that, last March, I had my one and only girlfriend (well a date) and we went out on t...
A. 17 August 2007: Here are some basic points:
Never let her become your mother. She is your partner, not your mother. If you see her doing things that only your mother would/can do for you, tell her to stop.
Next, protect her reputation at all times. It i... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend's girlfriend, what do I do?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend's girlfriend, what do I do? This is probably the worst situation I have ever been in, at least in the terms of love. Let's start out with this, my best friend and his girlfriend have been going out for 3 years now ...
A. 17 August 2007: Is your friend really being a jerk to her, or is that what you WANT to see and convincing yourself it is so?
Is she telling you things about him that would lead you to this conclusion, or your own observations?
My only concern is that you will... (read in full...)
All of a sudden she started to talk about the future and how things are going to change once she starts school.
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and am almost back from a one year long distance relationship. What is bothering me is that all of a sudden she started to talk about the future and how things are going to change once she starts ...
A. 17 August 2007: Listen to Danielepew on this. He has got the right idea.
She did not cry because you misunderstood...she cried becuase she GOT CAUGHT, and is not in total control of you, and is using crying to manipulate you into feeling bad for seeing the situ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden she started to talk about the future and how things are going to change once she starts school.
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half and am almost back from a one year long distance relationship. What is bothering me is that all of a sudden she started to talk about the future and how things are going to change once she starts ...
A. 16 August 2007: Start seeing other people, and build up your own social circle of friends and other girls to date. Basically, she is telling you that she intends to end it with you.
When couples are serious, they fight to spend MORE time together, not less tim... (read in full...)
Am I right to be worried about him moving in with her?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend moved from another country to be with me 3 months ago. While he has been looking for a job etc he has been living with me and we get along so well. I'd like him to continue living with me but he feels it would be unfair to my ...
A. 16 August 2007: Is it possible for you and your bf to move in to your friends place, and your friend move in with your flat mate? or, Would your flat mate move in with your friend? If so, that would be a better option.
I think you are right to be worried.... (read in full...)
He has said to me that he loves me but sometimes feels like were trying to flog a dead horse with our relationship but is really bad at expressing why.
Q. I need help. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years we lived together for a year in my student house then I moved back in with my parents. We have split up many times and he has cheated on me in the past but always comes begging for ...
A. 15 August 2007: Just because he keeps coming back does not mean you take him back.
You are both addicted to the drama of this relationship, and neither one of you is going to find your ideal partners if you waste time with each other like this.
-Frank B Kerm... (read in full...)
Why does she keep saying this guy likes me, when he is dating her?
Q. I really like this guy, and he likes me too (says my close friend who talks to him). But he asked one of my friends, who is his ex girlfriend out about a week ago, and she didnt reply to him. He said he was upset that she had done that. My friend...
A. 15 August 2007: Yes she is trying to upset you. If you have not already figured it out, your "friend" is an emotional manipulator, playing with people, and doing whatever she can to keep you ALL off balence so that she can control you like puppets on strings.
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What are the causes of a low sex drive in a male, and what are some solutions? I'm willing to try anything.
Q. Hi, I have had a little bit of a problem with my boyfriend lately... We've been together for 2 years now, and he's never had a very strong sex drive. I, on the other hand, want sex more often. He is in his early 30s, so I can't imagine his sex driv...
A. 15 August 2007: The first question is ask is if he actually wants a higher sex drive.
That being said, if he does, then you can start to treat the reasons it exists.
Causes could include: he naturally has a low libido, past of sexual abuse and was raped, guilt... (read in full...)
I'm a single Mom dating a man with depression problems! Should I continue dating this guy?
Q. I m a single mum with a 5 yr old boy. I ve got a boyfriend of nearly a year. Things have been fine up until the past month or 2 but now I m not sure that I want to be with this man. He has recently told me he has suffered with depression most of his ...
A. 15 August 2007: You are single mom.
Do not date someone that has more problems and challenges than you do.
Protect your son, and date someone else.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but he's still married, he says that he is going to get a divorce and we will get married and have a life together, but when!
Q. I am in life with a married man who in return really adores me as well. The problem is I do not know if we will be together or not. We have both liked each other for ten years, we use to go out drinking together with mutual friends and...
A. 15 August 2007: He's married. He is going to stay that way.
If he was going to leave his wife, he would have done it already with or without you.
Find someone else before it is too late. Your clock is ticking, and he does not care, since his clock never stop... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend made out with some guy and went down on him at that party.
Q. My girlfriend and I had been dating for a few weeks when she cheated on me with another guy. She confessed about it to a friend of hers, and told me about it at a party a week after it happened. She only told me she kissed him though. A couple ...
A. 14 August 2007: You ahd enough reason the first time NOT to go back...and you are looking for a second one?
It is OK to want her back, but it is not OK to take her back. It does not matter if she was with someone two days later. What matters is she broke yo... (read in full...)
How do I get him to realise the consequences of his actions??
Q. My girlfriends son is 13yrs old and talks to his mother like she is dirt. He always wants and wants but never shows appreciation for what she provides for him. He throws temper tantrums and slams his door to his bedroom, or pouts and won't talk to ...
A. 14 August 2007: Unless you are prepared to step in as a "step-dad" stay out of it, it is not your business. It is up to her to discipline the boy. For *!@%*? sake, she is an adult and he is ONLY 13...but he HAS to sleep in the same bedroom as the two of you? ... (read in full...)
Do you think that it is possible to have many sexual partners in 1 night stand bases without her looking for sex?
Q. I'm 29, my partner is 21. I had 2 sexual partners 1 through marriage and 1 short term relationships, never 1 night stand. My partner was sexually active since the age of 14, she had 30 sexual partners most of them were 1 night stand. She keeps ...
A. 14 August 2007: I think the deeper issue here is that you both are not compatible in terms of your beleifs about sex.
She has a more casual approach, and you have a more conservative.
Has she changed the way she beleives about sex? HAve you?
That is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls!
Q. I looked through his phone and found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls. He says they are just friends and that I don't have anything to worry about. What should I do??...
A. 14 August 2007: I think you should get five guys that you call and text regualarly. If he is cheating, you can start looking for a new bf. If he is only friends with them, then it would be good for you anyways to get your own social circle. If you have time to ... (read in full...)
Which girl do I choose?
Q. My girlfriend, Megan and I broke up two months ago, we made up a month later. We've known one another and dated for almost three years. Two of those three years we lived together. How would I know if I do really love Megan and if she is the one I ...
A. 14 August 2007: The fact that you broke up with Megan is a red flag.
Nadine may just use you as a rebound guy.
I suggest the following:
Do not live with either girl. Move out on your own, or with roommates.
Next, I think you should date both women at th... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 14 August 2007: There are support groups for people with gay and bi partners. I would suggest that you look one up and see if you can meet others in similar situations.
They may have you along the rest of the path you are on.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 13 August 2007: Hey There,
You said: I realized at that point, that I never really knew my brother. One of the most important people in my life, and because of my misguided intolerence I didn't really know him. It was truly heartbreaking for me, and I vowed at... (read in full...)
I discovered my boyfriend has a profile on a gay website!!!
Q. Background: I am living with my boyfriend of 4 years. I am in my 30's he in his mid-40's. He was previously married for 14 years and has two kids. I have 2 kids from previous marriage as well. He is in the military, and last year I left my job, ...
A. 11 August 2007: First things first: Get yourself tested for STDs. Now.
Next,
He is either gay or bi. Would you still want to be with him if her were bi? If so, work on reaching a point where you are strong enough for the truth, and he is comfortable enou... (read in full...)
I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her.
Q. I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her. The next time they met they married in a quickie marriage over there and he brought her back ...
A. 11 August 2007: The first Red Flag...a FIANCE that wants to take a break.
Next, he MARRIED someone else.
Why in the world would you STILL be waiting around for that guy? Is he exceptionally rich, handsome or something?
You are still young enough to bu... (read in full...)
But there have been a few questionable things that have happened in the past that made me wonder whether I should worry about these strange little disappearences or not...?
Q. Maybe I'm being paranoid but why is it every time my boyfriend's cell phone is on the "charger" here at the house, everyone can still reach him. Meaning it still rings, while it's charging and he can answer it and talk while it's on the charger. ...
A. 11 August 2007: If this is a time limited relationship, and you are just out for some fun, and intend to date others, then no, you should not be worried.
If you are thinking long term or committment with him, then YES, you should be worried.
-Frank B Kerm... (read in full...)
How can i stop bullying from happening?
Q. i am going to be starting a new school this fall. I find it really hard to make new friends b/c i'm shy, very quiet,and don't know what to say. I even run out of questions to ask. I am worried that i may be a target for bullying, and being made fun ...
A. 11 August 2007: If you are worried about being a target of bullying, the only way to fight back is to learn to fight. Find a self-defense or martial arts school, and start taking as many classes as possible before school, and continue to take classes as the year ... (read in full...)
They're made for each other, but he may be in denial about his sexual orientation. Do they still go for it?
Q. Hi Guys Any views on any section will be greatly appreciated as there is so little help out there for being on the receiving end of a bi friends love when you are not them: * A's best friend is a guy and basically A and B are made for e...
A. 6 August 2007: Hi A,
You asked: Frank - when u say he will not give up 'penis' for good - do you think this means he will miss it and want it therefore not be happy with me which reinforces my concerns ... Or do you mean he will just still fancy guys. I think an... (read in full...)
I dont want to sleep with a girl right away, why is this a problem?
Q. Girls, please give me your words of wisdom! I have not have sex I like over a year! I’m not ugly or anything! Just been real relaxed, REAL RELAXED about – getting out there. I hate one night stands – just not me. And this really isn’t about ...
A. 4 August 2007: If you want to be in a relationship, have SEX with these girls. What is making it so wrong is that you are violating all of her emotional needs becuase when it is time to have sex, you refuse.
You stated: But when I get to that “stage” if you l... (read in full...)
They're made for each other, but he may be in denial about his sexual orientation. Do they still go for it?
Q. Hi Guys Any views on any section will be greatly appreciated as there is so little help out there for being on the receiving end of a bi friends love when you are not them: * A's best friend is a guy and basically A and B are made for e...
A. 4 August 2007: Are you the "A" in this situation? If so, date "B" as it is worth the risk, but do not think for one second B will give up penis long term. It is not who he is to give it up no matter what he claims to promise.
If you are not the "a" in the situ... (read in full...)
I masturbate to gay porn. Does this mean I am gay?
Q. im a 17 year old virgin, im straight, but like to mastrbate to gay/bisexual porn, recently i hav been putting things up my ass 2 help me cum, it feels so great, but im worried i am becoming gay. I hav dremt about having gay sex. wot shud i do? how ...
A. 1 August 2007: Learn to love yourself no matter what your orientation. It does sound like you are gay.
-FBK... (read in full...)
We want a secret marriage, hes 21 I'm 18 is this okay ?
Q. my boyfriend and i want to have a secret marriage..without the knowledge of anyone..im only 18 years old ang my boyfriend is 21 year old.. do you think its ok???...
A. 28 July 2007: It depends on WHY you want it a secret. Answer that, and then you will know for sure.
Depending on the case, I think it would have been much worse to make it a secret.
Again, whose idea is it to keep it a secret? Red flag.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My ex wont even talk to me and I just want him back!
Q. I broke up with my ex of 5 years almost 6 months ago.. I still love him but it was a bitter ending and he won't speak to me anymore. He always told me no matter what happened he would always be there for me if i needed to talk and that no one would ...
A. 28 July 2007: You do not mention what was teh source of the bitter break up...that might have more to do with that than anything.
Is it possible that you only want him back because someone else has him, and not because he is the one for you?
-Frank B Kerm... (read in full...)
He wants to stop using protection. Does that mean he wants a baby?
Q. The other night me and my guy for about 2 yrs had unprotected sex and he always use to want to use protection because he said he didnt want to have another kid right now. Now he is saying if it happens it happens we will deal with it. What should I ...
A. 28 July 2007: I doubt he wants a kid. He probably just likes skin on skin sensation. The fact he is being so casual about it, he sounds like he is going to dump you and claim it is not his if you ever get pregnat. Want to know if a guy is serious about you? ... (read in full...)
My ex left me and I lost my virginity to another girl; my ex is now back on the scene. How do I handle this?
Q. I am 20 years old, and I am going nuts now. My first ex left me for Bible college (pastor's daughter) and we never spoke for about a year, then I started dating this other girl, for almost 2 years and we lost our virginity to each other about a ...
A. 28 July 2007: If it comes up, and you are in a relationship, tell her directly. Otherwise, if she is not your girlfriend, it really is none of her business.
I get the impression from your email that you assume SHE is still a virgin too...for all you know she... (read in full...)
My fiance isn't a virgin but wants to wait til we're married to have sex; I can't wait that long!
Q. my fiance, who i have been with for a year, wants to wait until we are married to make love to me. the problem is that she is not a virgin and i feel like she is being unfair and that she doesnt love me as much as her ex who she did make love to. w...
A. 28 July 2007: She had sex with someone BEFORE meeting you, and wants to make you wait? Unless she has had some religious experience, I would take this as a sign that she wants to end it with you, BUT does not want to be the one to break it up.
Find someone ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and dating my 25 year old teacher
Q. Hi. my names lindsay and im going out with a 25 year old. im only 14... but i love him and he loves me...what do u think? but if anyone finds out like in my school he could like lose everything cause hes a teacher...what do u think?...
A. 28 July 2007: I think he is a pheophile, and that you are too young to understand why that is such a bad thing. I wonder how many other students of his he plans to risk his entire career on...do you think you are the first? Do you think you will be the last. ... (read in full...)
Does she mean it when she says we're too good friends to bring in intimacy, or was she just rejecting me nicely?
Q. OPEN TO ALL AGONY AUNTIES. i had a girl i had held as a friend for over 6 years coz we had gone thru the same primary school. This girl is remarkably well behaved but has some problems arising from the unstable marriage her parents have had since sh...
A. 28 July 2007: It was a nice way to reject you. She is not attracted to you enough to have sex with you. I think part of the problem is that you "asked" her, instead of planning an evening out, and making a pass (letting it happen, just happen on its own).
... (read in full...)
We got back together, first I wasnt sexually attracted to her, now its her with me! Help!!!!
Q. Really hope people will take the time to read this. My girlfriend and i have been back together for about 3 months. We have a lot of history together including our son who is nearly 7. We tried at the relationship last year and to cut a long story ...
A. 26 July 2007: In my work, this usually comes up when the women starts to feel like a mother figure to the husband. Examine your relationship. Are there times that she has to do things to "mother" you. You did mention "smoothing" in your question. If you are ... (read in full...)
I'm doubting my boyfriend's heterosexuality
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I am doubting his sexuality. From the first day I met him I thought he was gay but he was determined to make me think otherwise. He states he actually hates homosexual activity but I find he has ...
A. 26 July 2007: If your gay-dar is going off, trust it. He might be bi, or he might be gay, and using you to cover it up.
The danger is that one day, he will be ready to come out of the closet, and when that happens, he will abandon you, and whatever family y... (read in full...)
His parent's think he can do better, so he split up with me.
Q. A little over 3 months ago, i cheated on my boyfriend of almost 2 years. i made a really really bad choice, lied about it (which made it way worse), and there is no excuse. at the time, i was facing alot of personal issues and was really confused ...
A. 26 July 2007: Firstly, if he can be this sueded by his parents, then it was just a matter of time before anyone broke you guys up.
That being said, I would suggest that you make a choice. Do you want to be with him or not? If you do, then see this separati... (read in full...)
He showed their sex tape at a party.
Q. So i have been dating my gf for about 6 9 months and it's all going great except for the fact she sometimes talks to her ex's.. she doesn't call them they call her but she is to nice not to pick up.. the one that really upsets me and i don't w...
A. 26 July 2007: If it were me, I would get him to sign an affidavit stating that the cassette had been destroyed, etc... and that if any copies still lurk he will become liable for them in some way. A lawyer could word it better than I. If he refuses, you KNOW ... (read in full...)
He showed their sex tape at a party.
Q. So i have been dating my gf for about 6 9 months and it's all going great except for the fact she sometimes talks to her ex's.. she doesn't call them they call her but she is to nice not to pick up.. the one that really upsets me and i don't w...
A. 25 July 2007: I think that her first priority is to get the tape back, and all copies. If that asshole doesn't hand it over to her, then it means he is still doing it.
Although you can not tell her who to be friends with, unless you plan to marry her (that wo... (read in full...)
My best friend tells me she doesn't like my boyfriend but flirts with him when I'm not there, what should I do?
Q. what do i do if my best friend says she dont like my boyfriend but behind my back she flirts with him ...
A. 25 July 2007: You find a new best friend.
-FBK... (read in full...)
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