Like what
he writes?
... Add *rank B Kermit to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *rank B Kermit a private message | | | *rank B Kermit's profile:Frank Kermit, MA is an Expert Relationship and Dating Coach. He is a Best Selling Author, educator, and regular media correspondent.
He teaches men and women about their emotional needs, how to address each others emotional needs, to be applied to ongoing loving relationships. In 2011, Frank completed an Advanced Certificate in Trauma Counseling and in 2014 completed a certificate in Hypnotherapy.
Frank Kermit has a newsletters that the public can sign up for:
http://www.franktalks.com/newsletter/ (upcoming media spots)
and when you sign up, you get a 400+ page ebook for free (a collection of 100 of Frank's best articles)
Frank answers public questions on dearcupid.org when and IF he has the time. Please understand that Frank makes a professional living through his Date Coaching, and therefore his private paying clients must come first. Frank does not answer private questions received on dearcupid.org unless you want to hire him for some private one on one coaching via skype or over the phone. You can learn more about Frank's Coaching services at www.franktalks.com/
|
|
| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
This question has 6 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
This question has 3 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
This question has 1 answer by a reader of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
|
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 14 June 2007: Is she in her right mind? Maybe she feels guilty that your middle child got most of her attention, and is trying to make things more balenced before she dies.
TALK TO THE GRANDMOTHER, and ask her what she is thinking/feeling. Express in as ca... (read in full...)
Neighbor is wanting to call the police as his kid looked in our window, and saw us having sex! I think you should be able to do what you want in your own home! Any views?
Q. My neighbour has threatened to call the police as his 11 year old son saw my partner and I having sex in our living room. he also says it is illegal to walk around naked. The boy must have been in our back garden looking in the window so surley h...
A. 26 May 2007: Keep your currents closed, and it is only illegal if you are nude on your property if others can see you in a reasonable setting. For example, if someone else in their back yards can see you in the buff easily, then that is reasonable efforts on ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 26 May 2007: When my grandmother was ill and dying, my mother told me in a private setting. I was 9. She took me aside and told me in a matter of fact starting with grandma was sick, and it does not look like she is going to get better. She also told me that ... (read in full...)
My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 26 May 2007: I just read your email. Your husband is ALREADY siding against you. He thinks it is OK to let an alcoholic drink in your home, and have his friends over, and NOT impose rules? Lady, your marriage is about to end. If your husband can not see ... (read in full...)
I can't cope with idea of ever losing her! How do I deal with these feelings?
Q. Okay this is a bit complicated but I'm going to try to explain the best way I can. I'm in love with a girl. And although there is no way I can find out (you'll have to trust me on this one) I am fairly certain that she feels the same way as I do. ...
A. 25 May 2007: Two things dude. Firstly, you need to date other girls in the meanwhile. Relationship management takes practice. You want to be ready to have a good solid relationship with her in the future? Well, starting dating other girls now, so taht all ... (read in full...)
He led me to believe he accepted my son..now after 2 years together, he says 'he isn't a family man'..should I end this relationship?
Q. Tell me what you think? I am female, 51. My son is 15. My bf, 49(not my son's dad)..we all live together. My bf seems to sabotage any quality time I spend with my son. I finally had to say to heck with my bf's petulance and pouty behaviors and did ...
A. 25 May 2007: Kick the bf out of your life. He is not going to change now, and your son comes first. Don't wait until he starts to attack your son, and I think it is highly likely he already does, but your son does not tell you for your sake. I think he uses ... (read in full...)
Our marriage hit a rough patch and I cheated! Should I tell my husband?
Q. my husband is overseas hes been gone for 10 months and we were constantly fighting and he was always accusing me of cheatin on him and then my brother died and all he did was fight with me and i just couldnt take it anymore and i met a guy who was ...
A. 25 May 2007: If there is the slightest chance he wil find out from anyone else other than you, then yes, tell him.
If there is no chance he will ever find out, keep your mouth shut, and if he ever makes a similar error, remember your own skeletons in the clos... (read in full...)
We've been together 3 years but she is soo beautiful and I'm worried I'm too average to keep her satisified!
Q. My g/f and I have been together for almost 3 years, the first six months, just as friends, then lovers, then I asked her to move in with me and she's been there for a year-and-a-half. I love her but I'm starting to feel a little insecure about our ...
A. 25 May 2007: You are not just an average guy...you have the ability to learn and change, and that makes you capable. It is a CHOICE. Why choose to be avearge if it is the source of your anxiety.
If you are worried about your sexual skills, learn tantric ... (read in full...)
I want to convert to Judaism but my husband doesn't - does this mean I won't be allowed to convert?
Q. I've been carefully considering converting to Judaism for a few years now and believe it's what I really want. That's not the issue though; the problem is, I'm married and my husband isn't Jewish. I know that a Jewish person isn't meant to marry a ...
A. 25 May 2007: Talk to a Rabbi...my question is why after being married, would you NOW decide to convert religion, and change your life? What are you looking for that you think this religious change will fulfill? Don't get me wrong, I think the Jewish religion ... (read in full...)
He has a new gf and can't see me as friends, anymore. What should I do?
Q. My best friend, who I went out with 7 years ago, for 2 years, and then have been friends with him for the last 5 years, is not talking to me. He has decided to not be friends with me since he has a girlfriend. I am in love with him, and want him ...
A. 25 May 2007: You were apart for 5 YEARS! Why didn't you hook up in that time? I think you only want him now badly, becuase someone else got him.
He is right to cut ties with you. He needs to give his new relationship a chance, and that means dumping ... (read in full...)
Married one year and he has give me oral, only 3 times! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I've been with my my husband for a little over a year and he's only given me oral pleasure 3 times. He wont talk about it with me or anything. I give him oral pleasure all the time and as soon as i bring him giving me oral pleasure he ignores me. ...
A. 25 May 2007: For some men, going down on a woman is something they learn makes them "weaker" men in their culture. Let's assume that you are clean, freshly showered and such. Some things to try are, choosing his favorite liquor or sweet desert, and having him ... (read in full...)
My in laws hate me and my husband doesn't stand up for me! Is this right?
Q. Hi - from the outset of my long (18 year) relationship with my husband (i have been married for 13) I have been relentlessly put down and bullied by my parents in law. This has ranged from making derogatory comments about my hair and my weight ( I ...
A. 25 May 2007: It is a man's responsibility to stand up FOR his wife against his family if need be. He is failing in that job. There is no question about that.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Despite the abuse, she wants to make a go of it with the ex. Should I give this up?
Q. I was told that a workmate fancied me. I vowed to myself that I'd play it cool as she's got a child from a previous relationship in which she also suffered abuse. I wanted to get to know her properly first before anything else happened and also to ...
A. 25 May 2007: If you build up her esteem, chances are she will only feel for you as a friend and therapist, but not a potential suitor. This woman has lots of bagage...a dysfunctional family, and in love with an abuser...I see it as a no win situation for you. ... (read in full...)
Where can I get smaller condoms?
Q. Does any body have the same problem I do? I have a penis size of 5 inches, but condoms i buy seem to be far too big for me, so when i have sex they seem to slip alot. Does anybody know where i can get smaller ones from? ...
A. 25 May 2007: A friend of mine travels to Asia a lot and he says they sell different sized condons there, mostly in places like China and Japan. They may have what you are looking for.
-FBK... (read in full...)
The girl I really want to be with keeps changing her mind about me! Do I go back to my ex gf who wants me back? Any advice?
Q. I've been seeing a girl for six months, but much of that time have secretly pined for another a girl, a shared friend. A month ago this friend told me she had feelings for me, and it was obvious to her I did as well. Shortly afterwards I broke up ...
A. 25 May 2007: That friend disrespected you already. My guess is that part of why you want her is the thought you cannot have her. If she changes her mind (and if you get back with the ex, oh she will change her mind) it is becuase SHE will play the game of ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my children, their beloved Grandmother is dying? Any advice?
Q. Hi can someone please help. i have just found out that my childrens grandma is dying my middle daughter loves her so much how do i tell her she will be leaving us. their grandma is not very old and my children are 10 7 5 and 2 how do i handle the ...
A. 25 May 2007: Tell the oldest kids about it, and go to their schools. Each school has access to councelors and they are there to help with kids and these kinds of situations. Enlist their aid, as they are trained for this. Keeping children ignorant is never a ... (read in full...)
I really love a man with whom I am not sure I can share my life with, in terms of money matters.Any advice?
Q. I am 26 years old, married for about 3 years. I am a positive person with self-esteem and confidence in the future. I have a great CV with high education and experience. However it is not easy to find good income work in the country I live i...
A. 25 May 2007: It is smart of you to consider the issue of being left with unfair burdens as your mother was left, but you are creating a problem where one does not seem to exist. You love each other, and he is happy with what he does, and you are happy making ... (read in full...)
He still wants to be friends...should I or shouldn't I?
Q. "I left my troubled relationship for him. Now he has left me for pregnant ex girlfriend" He now says he would still want us to be friends. Do you think its wise for me to be friends with this guy or should i just forget he ever existed in my li...
A. 25 May 2007: The friendship with him will hold you back from meeting your future soul mate. You do not have to hate him, or be vicious. You can be civil, but not friends.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Worried that if we stay together her many past encouters with Men will hang over us!
Q. Im 20yrs old. I have been going out with this girl for 6 months now and the number of guys she's bin with really bothers me (around 14). She went to a festival and had unprotected anal sex with some random guy in some forest last year...she has had ...
A. 25 May 2007: I want to ask...what is it that bothers you so much? The fact she had more opportunity than you (if you had the same chances, would you do it?). Is it the shear number of lovers? Or is it that her values are different from yours (unprotected sex, ... (read in full...)
I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do?
Q. I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month ...
A. 25 May 2007: My guess is that he did love you...but in life, love is not enough. Children need more that just love...they need committment from their parents to the child.
I do not know if moving country is the thing to do ... becuase I do not know you well... (read in full...)
My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 25 May 2007: I think you are still being too soft. Please do not let him move in, it will be harder to kick him out. My guess is that your husband is going to side against you once he is already there. Please be careful. -FBK... (read in full...)
I'm too insecure to let him go!
Q. I have told my boyfriend i feel trapped...i cant alk to him, he bores me but i am too insercure to loose him! There is amn in my life i have known for 6 years and slept with 2 years ago once as a mistake! He is a great guy and always cheers me up ...
A. 24 May 2007: It is time to put down the dolly and grow up. You are 18-21 and you need to start taking some responsibility for your relationship and love life.
You ARE going to make mistakes. It IS going to happen. That is how you LEARN. If you fear tha... (read in full...)
I wonder if I was the victim of a very cruel deception at the hands of my ex?
Q. Can you guys give me your viewpoints on this? I wonder if I was the victim of a very cruel deception at the hands of my ex. We were very good friends for quite some time prior to becoming partners and I thought we would get married and have a ...
A. 24 May 2007: No, I do not think he was planning what happened. I think he really liked you and wanted to legitly give it a fair shot. My guess is that he is emotionally damaged, and is UNABLE to give more than he has. I hihgly doubt he planned it. Like you ... (read in full...)
Just got back from Iraq but my girlfriend has gone very cold on me... is it a phase?
Q. I guess I have a fairly complex question. I suppose thats due to the complex situation :P. Basically I've been in and out of a relationship with this girl for almost 3 years now. I just did a tour in iraq, came back, and we got togather again. But ...
A. 24 May 2007: I do not think it is a phase...Absense makes the heart grow finder...OR forgetful. I think she is not wanting to be with you anymore, and while you ahve been holding on to the image of her, she has been busy building a life without you.
My gu... (read in full...)
I am a 25 year old male virgin and have no desire for sex.
Q. I have no desire for sex, does that mean I’m doomed to live a life alone? I’m a 25 year old guy, still a virgin, and I have never had the desire to have sex. However, even though I am happy to remain celibate because of this, has it doomed my cha...
A. 24 May 2007: There is an organization run by David Jay for Asexuals, people who do not ever experience sexual desire. BAsically you make up a small percentage of the population. Can you find love? Yes. Emotionally speaking, and ideally with other asexuals. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I get bored with my romantic partners way too easily!
Q. I have this terrible fear that I may be the type of person who gets bored with my romantic partners too easily, but I don't know what to do to change my behavior. I got bored with my husband very early in the marriage and had a string of affairs. ...
A. 24 May 2007: You are addicted to drama in relationships, and you need to treat it like any addiction to drugs. That means you have to be ready to handle withdrawl. Until you are ready to face that demon, change will be unlikely.
-FBK... (read in full...)
I'm successful in my studies but have no social life and never even dated... Worried that I have a boring personality (and I'm small)
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone could give me some useful advice.I'd be very grateful. I am 27 year old male, of small build (171 cm tall, slim, from the UK. Soon I'll be 28 years old (July). I am still at university, studying chemistry (well , I am a late ...
A. 24 May 2007: Hey dude, You suicidal thoughts are normal for a guy in your situation. I give a seminar for adult aged virgins, and your story is very common.
You need to make building a social life a PRIORITY. No matter what your studies, you MUST dedicate... (read in full...)
Should I follow my mind or my heart after my husband cheated?
Q. What should i follow,my mind or my heart? My mind tells that i have to leave my husbnd for the cheat he did in our relationship. but my heart tells that i have to give him another chance for the sake of our marriage life..Im confused...any advice ...
A. 24 May 2007: You have not given the details about the cheat...was it with a family member, friend, stranger, long term, one night, were you unattentive, etc....If it was for a reason that will not change, then leave, if it was for a reason that can change, then ... (read in full...)
I'm his first serious relationship, he wants to be with me but wants to date others for a bit!!!!!
Q. I have been dating this male who I am very close with and we are both serious. Im 22 and he is 20. He sees me as his soul mate and we are both in love and he cares for me. We have good communication and I trust him. One day he told me that he wants ...
A. 24 May 2007: Try this...you BOTH get to date other people. Even if he stays with you, he is going to RESENT you for making him be Trapped (even though it is his choice).
He might change his tune when he sees you date another guy, and knows what it feels li... (read in full...)
I'm unhappily married but attracted to a female colleague. What am I to do?
Q. I'm 40, married (and as usual - unhappy, married with kid 7y) I'm staying with her only b'cos of kid. My parents were divorced and it was very hard for me (I lived with father) I have problem with my colleage. She is so young (30), nice, bright...
A. 24 May 2007: You do not have a relationship with this co-worker...it sounds like it is all in your head.
Firstly, find a new job, you need some ojectivity. Your productivity being low is a red flag...the person who will suffer for your lack of concentr... (read in full...)
Guy's views please! Do guys normally make an effort to be nice to their best mate's ex gf (me) or does he really fancy me?
Q. hiya! I fancy my ex`s best mate and i have done since before me and my ex went out. The problem is that he only occasionly comes out with our group and when he does i just want to be near him and cant keep my eyes of him! The best mate is so nice ...
A. 24 May 2007: In some cases DV1 is right...there is a rule. But I have found that most people do not follow it, and explore the possibilities in secret.
If he was being nice WHILE you were together, then it is becuase you are friends. If he is being nice AFT... (read in full...)
I am 21 year old and I'm really scared of intercourse.
Q. Hi, I am 21 year old and I'm really scared of intercourse. I am a virgin still. Is this normal and what can I do about it ?...
A. 24 May 2007: Yes, it is VERY normal to be afraid. Having sex can be very scary...not just the potential physical pain, but some people tie their virginity with their identities, and having sex is like a challenge to someone's identity, and that can be very ... (read in full...)
I am going on 2 years with my guy and we have been engaged for 7 months. I love him very much, but I am beginning to doubt if I want to be with him.
Q. I am going on 2 years with my guy and we have been engaged for 7 months. I love him very much, but I am beginning to doubt if I want to be with him. He can be a really sweet guy, but he can also be a jerk. He has money problems, but he is really ...
A. 24 May 2007: If you are THIS unsure, break of the engagement. You owe it to both of you NOT to keep the illusion up forever.
It should not be this hard to figure out. I think you still have some growing up and learning to do about who you are. TO be THIS uns... (read in full...)
Im bisexual... When Im dating someone I always fantasise about the other sex, any advice at all ?
Q. I am a bisexual girl, who has always been physically attracted as well as emotionally to both sexes. When I am in relationships (no matter how I feel for the person) I always fantasise about the gender that they aren't and this hurts me greatly ...
A. 24 May 2007: A traditional monogamous relationship may simply not work for you. You may want to read up on polyamory or swingers as they will be able to accomodate your sexual oritentation.
Also, there are tons of support groups for bi-sexuals, and you will... (read in full...)
He's an out of control drinker but is now in therapy. What milestones do I look for, in a one-year sobriety?
Q. Can someone really change? I dated a man for 6 years. We were married, built a house for our family (we each have two kids) and after only 10 months I left. He became increasingly controlling, picking on the kids and I, name-calling but worst of...
A. 24 May 2007: He will ALWAYS be an addict, and will have to fight this every day for the rest of his life. That will not change. Can his other behaviors change...yes they can, BUT you are also an ANCHOR to his past behaviors, and you, more than someone new, ... (read in full...)
I really don't know what I should do, should I cheat or keep suffering???
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about 5 months officially we were casually seeing each other for about 4 months previous, we started out as friends but there was loads of sexual chemistry between us all the time. When we first slept with each other it ...
A. 24 May 2007: There is a third option...find a new boyfriend.
I can not advise you to cheat...you could get pregant, get an STD and give it to your bf, or be abused by your lover. An affair is never as easy as it sounds.
You bf has issues with sex, and th... (read in full...)
I feel he's going off me, should I say anything to him?
Q. Is this normal Have been seeing my bf nearly a year Started off long distance so always made most of every sec together now he lives closer coz of work and he dont seem as pleased to see me I worry hes going off me i feel low about this I know hes ...
A. 24 May 2007: I think you need to be honest with him. Part of a long distence relationship is all that stuff you think about your partner in your head, comes crashing down when you finally end up together and the reality does not match the fantasy. Since you ... (read in full...)
Is she letting me know these things because she wants to move on, or is she genuinely looking for answers?
Q. Hi, I'm 39 and my girl is 27. We both love each other, and have been together 5 years. She is starting to question things...she wonders why we don't talk deeply and where are we heading? (her brother who is younger just got engaged). She an...
A. 24 May 2007: If I understand this correctly, is she saying that she does not know about you after 5 years?
My personal philosophy is that if after 5 years you both are not yet sure if you want to get serious, that is a sign that you should NEVER get serious.... (read in full...)
Is it worth taking the risk to date your best friend?
Q. i like my best friend. if he likes me is it even worth going out because i really like being best friends and talking like 24/7 and i dont want to ruin that. but if we break up then there could be a possibility tht we arnt friends anymore....
A. 24 May 2007: Yes it is worth it. Firstly, your friendship is already over...you have feelings for each other.
Secondly, what do you think is going to happen in 10 years from now...do you really think you will be best friends then?
All relationship... (read in full...)
I am experiencing negative emotions about my married guy. Will this destroy what we have?
Q. I have a boyfriend. He's married man and i love him very much. The problem is i understand there's nothing he could do that would be like dating a normal single guy. but i cannot live without him and i believe he loves me too. We have been togeth...
A. 24 May 2007: Your boyfriend is married...problem right there.
As for your willingness to be the "other woman", moe common that you think. Some women Love the nature of the relationship. It is all the perks of having an exciting part time lover, without ... (read in full...)
A discussion about having future kids, has caused a problem with us! How do we get beyond this?
Q. Hi there, I could do with some advice before I destroy the best thing thats ever happened to me. A month ago I met the most amazing guy and we just clicked, he lives about 90 miles away but when we see each other and talk we get on amazingly and ...
A. 24 May 2007: SO basically you both are not sure if you want to have kids...which means you have even more in common. Take the fact you were interested in having this conversation as a sign you are both thinking it. If this scares him off, he really isn't ... (read in full...)
Do men respect women who make the first move?
Q. What do men think when a woman makes the first move towards getting to know each other? ...
A. 24 May 2007: Many men may appreciate it, especially if they are too shy or nervous to take the lead initially HOWEVER, I often find that women who do this end up being or feeling EXPECT by the men they date to ALWAYS take the lead, and be a "mommy" to these ... (read in full...)
I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do?
Q. I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month ...
A. 24 May 2007: His first responsibility is to his child.
You have been through a lot recently, but I think this is a sign.
Maybe you need to take some time out and come to terms with the guys you chose to go out with. You record has not been to great. ... (read in full...)
My untrustworthy alcoholic b-i-l is moving in w/ us! How can we help? How do I not become resentful?
Q. Hello - I've asked about my alcoholic brother in law before, but I have a few new questions now because the situation has changed a bit. (I'm linking my first question at the bottom.) First let me set everything up (names changed, too): I'm 25, my...
A. 23 May 2007: Do NOT let him move in. Period. Would you let a poisonious snake loose in your house? Course not. This fool is poison for your marraige.
Let him live with his drunk friend, or drop him off at a youth hostile. Better still, drop him off to a reh... (read in full...)
| *rank B Kermit's friends
These are mutual friends, so *rank B Kermit has
added them and they have added *rank B Kermit!
|
