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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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She is trying to be friends with her ex...should I be worried?
Q. she doesn't remember why she got with her ex and is trying to get back friend's with him sould i be worried? on saturday night she went down town with my brother a few freind's and her mom and she told me she was talking to her ex. i don't norm...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Guy,
Yes, you should be worried. Unless there is a kid involved for visitations and such, I can not imagine any other reason she would still want to be friends this badly.
There is a difference between being on good terms, and being friend... (read in full...)
We've blended our families and live together, but my son and I still feel very left out of his life! Any advice?
Q. My son and I moved in with my bf and his son about 6 months ago. His son recently had a birthday party and invited his friends and didn't invite my son. When i said how annoyed i was i was told to stop moaning. The two lads don't always get on. I ...
A. 20 November 2006: When mixing families, it is usually best to move into a brand new house. You and your son have moved in with him, and there are some shared territory issues there. This goes for singles without children moving in together too.
Right now, you... (read in full...)
Will he ever get over my past?
Q. Hi. I'm a girl in my late 20's , I met my bf about 2 yrs ago and everything seems to head in the right direction. He is 5 younger than me, but I've been ok with that from the start. My problem is the fact that I cannot help but feel guilty towards ...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Girl,
Well this is the statement that worries me most...
Sometimes I feel he deserves more than me,
If you really beleive this, you are going to self sabotage.
My feeling is that it is best to be as honest as you can. If he can no... (read in full...)
Do I continue communicating with the man that I love even though... he's married
Q. should i continue communicating with the man that i love, even though he is married? We met before his engagemnet, and liked each other. He lives in India -a country where there are immense social pressures, and was unable to stop his wedding t...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Girl,
Do unto others, as you would have them done to you...if it was your husband, what would you want?
If you can not answer that, then here is a clue: Do NOT communicate with that man anymore.
I think you deserve to find someone ... (read in full...)
I want to get revenge on my bf for what he did! What should I do?
Q. I want to get revenge on my bf for what he did but i dont know what to do. I want him to regret leaving me cuz i was the best thing that ever happend to him. He didnt cheat on me......he said that he dont want a relationship right now and jus...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Girl,
Please take this from someone that got revenge on somebody that hurt me through relationships. It is the most EMPTY feeling you can ever get. Yes, you will feel a good tinga for a short time, maybe a day, but your own feelings of guilt... (read in full...)
Guys...do you look down on women who agree to have 3-somes with you? Honest answers, please!
Q. I am female 24 and had a 3 some with my boyfriend 27 with another female. We had a lot to drink and both enjoyed it and thinking about doing it again. Do you guys look down on a girl that does this or would you ever consider marrying a partner who ...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Girl,
This depends on the guy. Every guy wants a threesome BUT not every guy can handle the aftereffects. The best way to know is to test him.
Tell him about a "friend" of yours that did this and that, and see what his opinion is. Du... (read in full...)
Broke up with her 2 months but we still fool around. Now, her period is late and I'm worried!
Q. Hi, my i broke up with my girlfriend a couple of months ago but we've been continuing the physical side (not full sex, just everything else). She went on the pill for the first time about a month ago and after about the first 21 days we were just ...
A. 20 November 2006: Hi Guy,
There is an old saying that men must be responsible for birth control, and you are learning why. First of all, yes it is possible. Secondly, its in her body now, and you must be prepared to be supportive regardless of what she decides.... (read in full...)
I want to wish my first love the best in her marriage - would it upset her?
Q. Nothing matches the thrill of my first real love I met a girl in the first year of my university course 13 years ago. She was friendly and popular and had a socially prominent group of friends, whereas I was quiet and reserved but passionate. ...
A. 6 November 2006: Hi Dude,
Firstly, do NOT contact her. There is no reason to. You only want to contact her for your own reasons, none of which would benefit her.
You are right to be angery at yourself. You did not go for it, when you had the chance. The onl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 30 and a virgin!
Q. Ive just started seeing a guy, hes in his early 30s and has never had sex before. I guess I want to know, when we have sex for the first time, should I take charge? Or would that make him feel foolish (Im 22)? Should I be the one to initiate it or ...
A. 6 November 2006: Hi Anon,
I have counseled many men, who like your boyfriend, are adult aged male virgins. I give a seminar for them and you can read the reviews at http://www.franktalks.com/frankreviewsvirgin.html
You will most likely need to take charge for ... (read in full...)
We're due to get married but I'm soo bored with our relationship. How do I tell her it's over?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 years and are due to get married next year. The only problem is that i really don't like living with her and i'm bored of our relationship. I don't know how to tell her that it's over, i'm hopeless at thin...
A. 6 November 2006: The longer you wait, the worse it will be. Tell her as soon as possible. Assuming she is not in the middle of a crisis, or exams, or major work project, tell her asap. Do it in person. The longer you wait, the MORE it is going to hurt her. Be ... (read in full...)
She is 38, I'm 27 and her biological clock is ticking but I just don't know if I want this anymore!
Q. My dilemma, I'm 27, my girlfriend is 38. We have lived together for 2 years in a rented flat and have been together for 3. Her biolgical clock is obviously ticking and i need to make a decision sharpish if we should get married or i leave. We get ...
A. 6 November 2006: Hi Anon,
Look, you seem to understand this quite well. She wants to have kids, and does not have too much time left. Stop wasting her time. You either do want to have children with this woman, or you do not. Period. You have been together... (read in full...)
Hello! Any guys out there who can restore my faith in you?
Q. A question 4 the guys! now im a strong woman i am who i am and proud of it! not constantly worried about how to make you guys like me! but ive lost faith in you guys! i dont wanna generalise but i dont have to date women so im not worried abo...
A. 3 November 2006: Hi There,
Frank: Sorry to have only gotten back to you now, been taking care of things at home. I want you to know that I appreciate the fact that you are continuing to write in, and are being honest.
Anon: My criteria would be some 1 whos... (read in full...)
I'm 34 and don't know how to tell this girl I like her!
Q. There's this girl whom I work with. I'm kinda sweet on her and I think the feeling may be mutual. She is always way more friendly to me than most. Always laughs at my jokes. Sometimes I detect she's a little nearvous around me in a cute way. She...
A. 3 November 2006: Hi Shay,
I am not really sure how to advise you, as I need to understand a few things first. Are you an adult aged virgin, and this type of interaction is new for you? Also, at 34, I am curious as to why you would worry about how the people y... (read in full...)
Why do girls say yes to a date but they also say "don't tell anyone" What's up with that, girls?
Q. I don't get it. Does it just happen to me or do other guys get it too. Whenever I ask out a girl she says yes... but dont tell any one. Any girls here that can explain why?...
A. 1 November 2006: In my experience, it is all about her reputation. A woman's repuation is her most valueable asset. If she does not want anyone to know, it might be because her rep is at stake. It has very little to do with how much she does, or does not, like ... (read in full...)
Hello! Any guys out there who can restore my faith in you?
Q. A question 4 the guys! now im a strong woman i am who i am and proud of it! not constantly worried about how to make you guys like me! but ive lost faith in you guys! i dont wanna generalise but i dont have to date women so im not worried abo...
A. 1 November 2006: Hi there,
sorry frank but this was really the last thing i needed to hear! "My guess is that you are too picky on the wrong things. You get what you look for."
Its too bad you felt that way. I think you did not like hearing it, but mayb... (read in full...)
Hello! Any guys out there who can restore my faith in you?
Q. A question 4 the guys! now im a strong woman i am who i am and proud of it! not constantly worried about how to make you guys like me! but ive lost faith in you guys! i dont wanna generalise but i dont have to date women so im not worried abo...
A. 30 October 2006: Hello,
I want you to consider going back to my post and read it with a neutral dispassionate view. I never said that you should put up with less than proper behavior.
My point was, although apparently ill communicated, that the men that you... (read in full...)
My wife is HIV positive. Should I continue a relationship with her?
Q. I meet my wife after six months we got married within another six month later, she got pregenat, and within two weeks she was diagonised for (hiv)positive. I was confused and afraid, i went for my own hiv test but as God will have his way, i was ...
A. 30 October 2006: Hi Victory,
Well, I will suggest what I can.
You do not mention if you have been sexual active with her, or if you are at risk.
It sounds like your concern right now is your sex life with her. To my knowledge, Aids is transmitted thou... (read in full...)
My wife is HIV positive. Should I continue a relationship with her?
Q. I meet my wife after six months we got married within another six month later, she got pregenat, and within two weeks she was diagonised for (hiv)positive. I was confused and afraid, i went for my own hiv test but as God will have his way, i was ...
A. 30 October 2006: Hi Victory,
My first question to you is if she caught it being unfaithful, or did she already have it prior to you being married?
Assuming there was no infidelity, and this happened through blood transfusion, or before she met you, I think tha... (read in full...)
He is neglecting me for porn!
Q. hi, i am 19 and my bf is 23 we have been togeth for almost 4 years, for about 1 month now i have noticed my bf is less intrested in having sex with me, we have only done it once this month, he said its because of the medication his on and its hard ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi,
I am taking a guess here, but it sounds like your bf is gotten addicted to porn. I think it is called porn-fiendism. Like any addiction, it changes the person he is. It is not about choose porn over you. He would be neglectful of you and ... (read in full...)
He used to work as a male escort, should I get out now?
Q. Its been seven years since my divorce and since this have met no one special, until recently when a man the same age as me has swept me off my feet. Tonight after a romantic meal we where beng honest about our past. He admitted he used to work as a ...
A. 27 October 2006: I think the bigger question is that can you hndle his past. Are there things about your past that you are not proud of, or keep from most people's knowledge about you?
Also, the real issue is that has he done something in his past that is again... (read in full...)
Was asked to be best man but his wife-to-be has banned me from the wedding!
Q. Quick question. Should I be angry when my best friend is getting married and tells me that I am the best man. Well, the reason for my anger is he called me today and said that his fiance says she doesn't want me to be in or at the wedding. I have ...
A. 26 October 2006: Hi Dude,
You have been betrayed by this group of "friends" yet again it seems. I suggest that you do NOT go to the wedding. The bottom line is your presence there is going to be disruptive and you are going to get blamed for more antics that are ... (read in full...)
Who should have the last say on this abortion?
Q. Hi there. If a couple is pregnant, married, and has the means to bring up the child well (financially speaking and in a good neighborhood with a good education, etc), and one partner wants to have an abortion and the other doesn't, what should be ...
A. 26 October 2006: Hi There,
Here is my personal take on Abortion. I my personal philosophy, birth control and such is the man responsiblity. When a pregnancy happens, its because he did not do his job. That is why she gets to decide to have the child or not, becu... (read in full...)
My friend wants to revenge cheat on her husband and I'm encouraging it! Am I wrong to do this?
Q. My best friend isa doctor and she works a long time everyday, she earns a lot of money and has a little daughter and a civil servant husband, Her husband is very nice and takes care of the little girl but one night he was unfaithful and passed his ...
A. 25 October 2006: You always encourage the couple to work things out. Unless there is an issue of violence and abuse, help people stay together. If you encourage her to cheat, then she will do the same to you if you are ever in that situation.
If you encourag... (read in full...)
He said he was busy with his mates and when I did see him he has a love bite on his neck!!!
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 2 weeks and everything was going really well, i didnt see him at the weekend as he said he was busy with his mates. When i saw him yesterday he had a love bite on his neck which is not mine. I asked him about him and ...
A. 25 October 2006: I think it depends on what the expectations are for this relationship. You have only been seeing each other for two weeks. Are you exclusive and committed, or just dating and free to see other people?
Once you answer that, then you can put this... (read in full...)
I'll feel more confident if I get bigger breasts...do breast enlarging pills work???
Q. i've really small boobs i measure 34AA they're really small, it's like nothing but a nipple because i'm really thin. should i take breast enlarging pills? which ones work better? pills or creams? i'm only 17 though maybe it'll grow but i'm getting ...
A. 25 October 2006: Confidence is not something you can find in any pill. Even if you get larger breasts, if you are down on yourself, you will find something else to feel bad about...that is why people who go do plastic sugery for one thing, end up going for more and ... (read in full...)
I found some cross dressing, gay sites he's been on. Is my husband gay?
Q. I dont know what to do,I found these sites:local gay personals in my city, meeting men who crossdress, ladies underwear, feminizing men on my computer . I went and questioned him he said it was either his friends or sites that just pop up when a key ...
A. 25 October 2006: I remember in Ann Landers, there are support groups for straight spouces of gay partners. Check your local area, in the same places you would find Alcoholoics Annoymous. They are trained to deal with this sort of thing.
Also, a visit to a sexolo... (read in full...)
He's a wild guy...I'm not that way. I'm trying to figure out why the heck I'm with him. Help me here!
Q. Everybody's been telling me that I really have to break up with my bf (b4 he does anyways), we've been 2gether for almost 8 months and things have been up and down...until recently they ve been v down, he no longer calls like he used to and I'm no ...
A. 25 October 2006: You are into him, becuase as a jerk her addresses your emotional needs. He is not going to change, because any guy who has been in his situation knows, when he changes, he actually changes all the things about him that you find attractive. If he ... (read in full...)
She called me a spineless a**hole and she cheats! I love her so why is she like this?
Q. hi, i'll get straight to the point. im in love with a woman whom i have recently split up from for the second time in 4 months. crazy eh?? i moved in with her at the start and everything was more or less perfect. after about a year id heard she had ...
A. 25 October 2006: The issue that I see is that you assume that just because you love her, means you have to accept this kind of UNacceptable behavior. Unless what want your relationship to continue this way, then best WALK AWAY. It does not matter WHY she acts like ... (read in full...)
Hello! Any guys out there who can restore my faith in you?
Q. A question 4 the guys! now im a strong woman i am who i am and proud of it! not constantly worried about how to make you guys like me! but ive lost faith in you guys! i dont wanna generalise but i dont have to date women so im not worried abo...
A. 25 October 2006: You asked: are their any nice guys out there? anything yous wanna share too help restore my faith would be so much help!
I run a website for nice guys that want to connect with women...there are LOTS of them. Check out franktalks.com. Nice guy... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my lover have an orgasm???
Q. what can i do to help my lover have an orgasm...
A. 23 October 2006: There are a number of how to sex trana videos. There is one set entitled White Tiger Tantra done by Steve Pikous. I think that DVD set will show you want you need to know. It is instructual video for couples in your situation.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to the noisy neighbours?
Q. We rent a house in a lovely peaceful area. Peaceful excpet for the children next door who wake extremely early and scream quite loudly. Peaceful apart from the other neighbour who plays his music loud and until late at night. Back in June, with the...
A. 23 October 2006: Hi There,
I follow the rule of "You unto others as you would have done to you." If I was the one making noise, and I myself would have found it unreasonable, then I have no problem with a neighbor telling me anything.
Such as, I once had a nei... (read in full...)
Which is the best way to promote self esteem? Any ideas?
Q. Which is the best way to promote self steem?...
A. 21 October 2006: Build a life of things that you love doing, and become good at those things. That will at least get you a solid base to work from. Next is to learn about who you are, come to a conclusion as to what you think about things, and know what you wa... (read in full...)
My fiancee or my ex bf?? Whom do I choose?
Q. My fiancee and me are great together 95% of the time and I love him. Recently however, I've been talking a lot more to my bestfriend who happens to be my ex-boyfriend and he told me he still has feelings for me... the is problem is that I still have ...
A. 21 October 2006: Hey,
The fact that you are ENGAGED to a man that you are not sure you want to marry tells me, that your fiance deserves better than this.
Let him know you are unsure, and maybe he will be strong enough to dump you.
If your ex bf abandon... (read in full...)
We're not together anymore but I am still a virgin and have the option to lose it with him!
Q. This is going to sound really weird. But last week i split up with my boyfriend of 6 months. It was my first relationship, but we never had sex (he was very patient with me). I am a virgin (i am in my mid 20's) and although the thought of having sex ...
A. 21 October 2006: Hi There,
First of all, "...but what if this is my only chance..." You are going to have PLENTY of chances again for sex.
Next, I can tell you that I have been where your bf is now. I have had more than one woman lose her virginity to me.... (read in full...)
My fiancee moved out and started seeing her Father's best friend! Is she gone off the rails here?
Q. My fiancee's father recently died after a short illness. Our wedding had been scheduled for next Summer. A month after the funeral, she has moved out and started seeing her father's best friend, a man who, to my mind, is a younger version of her ...
A. 21 October 2006: To answer the question:
Frank, how do you draw the conclusion that this woman is bi-polar?
Answer:
I do not know if she is bi-polar. I said that her behavior is similar to the women I have dated that were bi-polar. I wrote that in so that ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep getting this pain followed by this mess?
Q. dear cupid, i have a real icky problem but here goes. recently i been feeling werid i get a twinge in my lower abdoman and then when i look in my knickers i have a very gooey mess its clear and it does smell or anythin but i gt loads of it wat is it ...
A. 20 October 2006: Back in college I heard about one professor that talked to his drama class about vaginal dripps, some type of unvoluntary discharge that some women secreet.
If it is coming out the other end, it could be anal leakage due to irratable bowel sy... (read in full...)
We split up and he still wanted to have sex....after turning him down he kisses someone else!
Q. i have been mates with a lad for over a year we met on line an recently met an ended up toghether relationship was brill then 1 day it just cum to an end so we stayed mates then few months ago he asked me for sex an no strings i ad to say no just ...
A. 20 October 2006: Hi Anon,
So let me get this straight. He is your ex-bf. You dated. You broke up. You remain friends and even still flirt together. Even if you say no, you still FLIRT with him, so he figures you are still somewhat interested, and then asks you... (read in full...)
Is grinding with guys going to make the guys think I'm not a nice girl?
Q. Is grinding with guys going to make the guys not like me or think I'm not good? I love dancing, all kinds, but I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression. I don't drink very much and I don't have sexual relations with guys, so am I leading ...
A. 20 October 2006: When a woman touches a man, whether gently on the arm, or grinding in a club, a man will assume she likes him, and wants him to pursue her...unless she is being paid to touch him like an escort or a contact dance stripper.
Your intentions notwiths... (read in full...)
Should I eventually tell my kids I was raped as a teen?
Q. I was raped at the age of 14, my husband knows about this, and is very supportive of it, should i tell my children, when they are old enough?...
A. 20 October 2006: Unless you can put it in the right context AND they can fully understand the difference between a good touch and a bad touch (are very mature) I would suggest to be careful.
I am a man, and when I was very young my mother would tell me about ti... (read in full...)
How do I make this married guy leave his wife and kids for me?
Q. i am currently "dating" a married man that i work with. i too am married. he told me that he loved me almost 6weeks into the relationship and i returned with i love you too. he has 3 kids and i have 1. we see each other maybe 2-3 times a week and ...
A. 20 October 2006: Hi Anon,
I am telling you this as a man. If I were him, I would not leave my wife for you. Firstly, the are four kids that I would not want to screw up with this. Second, I am getting sex from two women (maybe more)who both tell me they lov... (read in full...)
My fiancee moved out and started seeing her Father's best friend! Is she gone off the rails here?
Q. My fiancee's father recently died after a short illness. Our wedding had been scheduled for next Summer. A month after the funeral, she has moved out and started seeing her father's best friend, a man who, to my mind, is a younger version of her ...
A. 20 October 2006: Sorry for your loss dude. Not only for your future father-in-law, but also your relationship. I dated bi-polar women a couple of times, but no more. The type of behavior you have described here is very much in line with my experience. Ext... (read in full...)
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