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Hi, My name is Richard, I'm 44 years old, divorced with 2 adult children (I got started young). I live in Texas, but my fiancee is from Australia. I met her living in the UK.
Who am I? My education, counseling, but most of all, Life Experiences have helped me to develop a mindset that has allowed me to be successful in my personal relationships. |
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Is my wife cheating on me or not? I have to know!
Q. My wife slept with someone behind my back some time ago. I found out about it, and I have forgiven her. Then more recently she saw the guy out in a bar, a chance meeting according to her, and talked with him. Again, I found out, she says, they just ...
A. 30 October 2008: She's shagging other men without a doubt. Don't tell her anything about her phone messages. Now if you want to know "for certain", follow her on one of her outings or hire a private eye. If you don't move off your current situation, it will ... (read in full...)
I'm with the most wonderful guy yet i'm still not happy, why???
Q. why is it that i have the most wonderful man in the world and i am still not happy?...
A. 13 October 2007: Congratulations! May you have a terrific and happy life!... (read in full...)
He says "your my girlfriend, not my mother". Should I be so concerned with his life choices?
Q. Hey its me again, about the should I chuck him or wait for a miracle. I've got another question, my boyfriend wants to do more pot which is completely against my morals. He has plans to do it this weekend. I want to use the old "three strikes your ...
A. 3 October 2007: IT probably hurts more because he did the breaking up. I don't know where you are at with it today, but there are about 40 million men in the UK alone. That's was one, and from the concerns you had, probably not the best one. You have good moral ... (read in full...)
Has anyone gotten back together when your girlfriend says they fell out of love?
Q. Has anyone gotten back together when your girlfriend says they fell out of love ? Me 24 and my girlfriend 26 have ben together for almost 3 years. Three weeks ago before we went to sleep told me that she thinks we need a break. That she needs t...
A. 15 September 2007: First rule of women from a guys perspective, it's not whether or not they're crazy, it's how crazy are they. This one sounds bonafide, but if you are in love then you might need to consider your heart. Don't let finances guide you here. How can you ... (read in full...)
I was with my boyfriend and he had a see through substance on the tip of his you know what...
Q. I was with my boyfriend and he had a see through substance on the tip of his you know what and I just wanted to know if it contains sperm or if it's a lubricant, also, why does this happen, we weren't even doing anything, I was just sitting on his ...
A. 15 September 2007: If you were just sitting on his lap and he got aroused with precum flow, two things are happening. 1. He's horny and ready to go 2. he's diggin you a lot. Wear protection if you want to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.... (read in full...)
After giving birth 2 months ago, every time I go near her breast she leaks milk...
Q. My wife gave birth to our baby daughter 2 months ago, she was our first but whenever me and my wife are having sex or being intimate and I go down to caress her breast etc(sorry to be graphic) or when I put my mouth near them she starts to leak if ...
A. 15 September 2007: Until she dries up you might want to start finding a taste for breast milk. The only other choice is not to suck on the titties.... (read in full...)
Is she confused? Maybe I just need to give her a break?
Q. Hey I am 16 I am gonna be 17 in October and last week my girlfriend dumped me cause she thinks she is being really bossy and rude to me but she's not. Then 2 days later I call her then we talked she says you need to let me go then says let me think ...
A. 15 September 2007: She's trying to dump you without hurting your feeling. She's not going to tell you the truth like she's interested in another man. Why? Because she's a woman and women are emotional, and by hurting your feelings it would hurt her feeling. She ... (read in full...)
Should I take the chance and risk getting hurt again or play safe?
Q. I've met a guy through work who I really like and whilst I'm not sure how he feels about me, I think that he could feel the same way. The only problem is that I don't know if i can trust him. He's a sales rep (I've worked with sales reps for about ...
A. 15 September 2007: One other thing comes to mind that my fiance said to me..."life is like a bus, people get on and people get off."... (read in full...)
Should I take the chance and risk getting hurt again or play safe?
Q. I've met a guy through work who I really like and whilst I'm not sure how he feels about me, I think that he could feel the same way. The only problem is that I don't know if i can trust him. He's a sales rep (I've worked with sales reps for about ...
A. 15 September 2007: I sit here and read all of the stories about people screwing other people outside of their relationships. I am engaged to be married and it's true I have been hurt in the past too. I try to look for warning signs of unfaithfulness. I have 3 rules ... (read in full...)
How can I make them understand that he makes me happy?
Q. Hi, i need some help I have just gotten into a relationship with a guy whos 19 (20 in november). I am 15 and turn 16 in december. Since getting with this guy I have become amazingly happy. We have spoken about the whole sex situation and have...
A. 15 September 2007: My grandmother was married at your age and my grandfather was 22. They were married until he died when he was 86. She never remarried and died at 95. The laws are different today then they were in 1922, but the human heart and love is still the ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep having these intimate dreams about my sister's boyfriend?
Q. My sister has been with her partner for just going on 5 years and the past 2 nights I've had a dream that we (myself and her boyfriend) have been left together and he has came onto me and we go all the way. I've never found him attractive before as ...
A. 15 September 2007: I'm not a psychologist, so I can't give you any medical diagnosis of why you are feeling the way you are feeling. From an intuitive perspective I would say that you fancy him. At this point it's a dream you need to keep to yourself, tell no-one. ... (read in full...)
Last week when I was home he didn't come home and I know he was with an escort again. What do I do?
Q. I have recently discovered that my partner has been paying for sex. I've been away a couple of times this year with our 6 month old and each time I've been away he has contacted an escort agency. Last week when I was home he didn't come home and I ...
A. 15 September 2007: Has he told you he has been having sex with an escort? Keep in mind that you have a 6 month old baby. If you are financially and emotionally strong however that should not influence your decision. I would probably have some revenge sex if it were ... (read in full...)
Please help me I dunno what to do and whom to believe......
Q. I'm 18 and living in California. I met my boyfriend 19 years of age online and also through mutual friends.. he lives in Florida which is 23,000 miles away and still I have not yet met him in person... when we first started talking on the phone his ...
A. 15 September 2007: Long distance relationships are difficult, I suggest you set a time for yourself when you have to meet in person, say 3 months. If you don't meet in person by that time then allow yourself to let that person go in your heart. Give yourself a break ... (read in full...)
He says "your my girlfriend, not my mother". Should I be so concerned with his life choices?
Q. Hey its me again, about the should I chuck him or wait for a miracle. I've got another question, my boyfriend wants to do more pot which is completely against my morals. He has plans to do it this weekend. I want to use the old "three strikes your ...
A. 15 September 2007: At this point the only 2 options you have are 1. accept it and compromise your morals or 2. reject it and tell him to leave. You can't control his behavior through any means, he has to want to change of his own "free will". Do you love him enough ... (read in full...)
I take it from his actions he doesn't love me any more?
Q. My guy broke up with me a few weeks back, it's so hard to get over him.. he doesn't even want to be friends.. says it's for the best.. I really want to get back with him.. I've emailed him telling him how I feel but he just doesn't reply:( I don't ...
A. 15 September 2007: You can't control his actions, only your own. I have told my past girlfriends that there are two reasons I will definitely leave and never come back, 1. screw around on me. 2. ask me to go-away. He asked you to go-away, I suggest you move on, ... (read in full...)
I'm 24, she's 53. Most of her children are older than me and they accept me, but will this really work?
Q. Can an age gap relationship work? I am 24 and she 53. I lover her very much and have fantastic sex together. The thing is I sometimes worry that the relationship will not last, even though we are living together and talking about marriage. The re...
A. 12 September 2007: George Strait fell in love and has experienced the very same age gap thing. Check it out on the web and see how his life has turned out. ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope or is this all too messy to sort out?
Q. Help. Another threesome question with a twist: when first meeting my boyfriend 3 years ago I was a story teller and prolific liar. Blessed or cursed with the ability to say what I believed people wanted to hear. I told my boyfriend that I had ...
A. 12 September 2007: I hear what your saying and he is insistent that he has been true to you. I assure you that a man that insists that he loves you and has a high sex drive is not going to not have sex with you for 2 months unless he is on travel or has to go away ... (read in full...)
I am bothered by his searches for "Incest" Porn. What should I do?
Q. Hi everybody. I love my boyfriend to death but theres something that I found out last night and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend looks at porn all the time on the computer, Which is fine because what guy doesn't look at porn? But he ...
A. 12 September 2007: He may have just found a really nasty site that turns him on or he fantasizes about screwing his sister or brother or step dad. If you're put off by it, ask him about it. "DON"T JUDGE HIM" He's not acted out, he's just fantasizing. He isn't right ... (read in full...)
We both want sex, but she loves me and I don't love her. Is this right?
Q. hey, im fifteen years old. I want to have sex with this girl. I think she pretty, sexy, and mad hott. we went out for a little bit and from that I got a blow job. Some issues arrose and I broke up with her. She's in love with me and I want to have ...
A. 12 September 2007: Talk with your uncle or another older man in your family that you trust. Have a chat with a female in your family as well. After that, ask yourself the question you are asking here. Then you will do what you need to do. If you think your old ... (read in full...)
One day he will proclaim his undying love for me and the next he will act as if nothing has happened...
Q. My best friend of five years and I have become very intimate in the last year. All of our friends assume we are going out and for all the world we are, we spend hours lying around talking and although we have not had sex we have done other things. ...
A. 12 September 2007: I would consider moving on. Being in a long distance relationship is very difficult. Maybe one day you might be together again. It is torture to be without the one you love, a torture that if it can't be resolved in a short period of time can ... (read in full...)
We've been fighting for seven years. Can we work this out?
Q. Hi, well I am in a situation that I don't know how to get out of. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 7 years. All of 7 we fight. She is very aggressive, tempered. I am kind of scared of her but then again I'm not. Everyday we argue. ...
A. 12 September 2007: Leave her. Your starting to react physiologically to a being in an abusive relationship. Imagine the peace and quiet you will have when you are on your own. You cannot change her, but can change yourself and your circumstances. Be a man and get ... (read in full...)
Help! I can't get him out of my mind!
Q. Okay, well I have my eye on the this guy in school, but he is COMPLETELY off limits! I'm comstantly thinking about him. When i'm not thinking about him, i'm admiring him from afar. It's getting to the point where i'm going insane. I was hoping ...
A. 12 September 2007: Live in your fantasy, you'll get tired of it after a while. Time, it takes time.... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he's 22, is this wrong?
Q. Well I am 15 years old turning 16 in January, I have been told I am very mature for my age and I know where I am in my life. So I need help with this, I am dating a 22 year old and he understand that I am 15 and still in highschool, he told me that ...
A. 12 September 2007: It's wrong of him. I would talk to your Mum or a very close relative about it. ... (read in full...)
I am afraid she will run away if I come on too strong and try to see her more.To girls: what is she up to?
Q. I have been seeing a girl for about a month, we have had about 6-7 dates. Most have been initiated by me. We haven't kissed properly yet, it just seems a bit awkward although we both do like each other. She doesn't call me just for a chat, but has ...
A. 12 September 2007: It might be that she's just not into you as much as you would like her to be. I would keep looking. Make yourself a little more scarce. You don't have to answer the phone every time she calls either. ... (read in full...)
18th birthday and no gift...
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a problem, and I'm not sure what I should be feeling. Today is my 18th birthday. I've had a brilliant day in all, and I'm very thankful for everything I recieved.. But something has got to me. A month or so ago I split up w...
A. 12 September 2007: I think you might take a look at yourself. The words selfish and ungrateful come to mind here. ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope or is this all too messy to sort out?
Q. Help. Another threesome question with a twist: when first meeting my boyfriend 3 years ago I was a story teller and prolific liar. Blessed or cursed with the ability to say what I believed people wanted to hear. I told my boyfriend that I had ...
A. 12 September 2007: Once you share the person you love with someone else, everything changes. You might get jealous. You might wonder why he doesn't love you enough not to want another woman. You might begin to feel hurt and start having a hard time with trust ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to love her as much as she loves me! Help?
Q. hello, this may sound obsurd but i have a partner whom loves me all the time i on the other hand feel love for her sometimes them sometimes not. she is really a wonderful person and i dont want to loose her and i desprately want to love her as much...
A. 12 September 2007: We live "in a world of what we want is only what we want until it's ours." Quote from Train I think there may be a lot more going on here than just what you've written, because you sound down and out and it's not just about the love issue. You're ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to love her as much as she loves me! Help?
Q. hello, this may sound obsurd but i have a partner whom loves me all the time i on the other hand feel love for her sometimes them sometimes not. she is really a wonderful person and i dont want to loose her and i desprately want to love her as much...
A. 10 September 2007: Sorry, I've been out of town. Like I said, do these things for her and you should get back what you give. When someone gives to you , you feel their love and want to reciprocate. If you stop showing love you stop getting love. A good starting ... (read in full...)
She's cheated in our past, so is her recent behavior making me paranoid or was she just teasing?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me while she was on vacation. I forgave her because of certain circumstances. last night however I got the vibe she was sending mixed signals. she wouldn't let me touch her like I usually do and accused me of being "clingy"...
A. 30 August 2007: It's really very interesting how even young people show the same signs as older people when they're not interested in being in a committed relationship. I would say that she's so young she doesn't know what she wants, but she knows what she doesn't ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to love her as much as she loves me! Help?
Q. hello, this may sound obsurd but i have a partner whom loves me all the time i on the other hand feel love for her sometimes them sometimes not. she is really a wonderful person and i dont want to loose her and i desprately want to love her as much...
A. 30 August 2007: Love is a verb. You have to show her you love her. Bring her flowers, chocolate, a card, take her to a chick flick. Massage her feet for her, give her a back rub. Ask her what she wants, within reason, give it to her. Show her you love her with ... (read in full...)
We had sex. I'm his agony aunt when he has problems with his girl. But i have feelings for him!
Q. I'll try to keep this short, a few yrs ago, i became friends with this guy when he was going though relationship problem (his gf messed around with his brother) we became very close, and we had sex a few times,, Then he softly let me down by letting ...
A. 29 August 2007: You have a conscience this is sure. As he said, he only sees you as a friend, if that's all he wants, you have to decide if it's all you want. If you want more, you may have to walk away unable to be his friend because you love him more than ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if someone is cheating? I suspect my dad is, on my mum!
Q. How can you tell if someone is cheating on their wife...i suspect my dad may be cheating on my mom with a close relative. ...
A. 29 August 2007: It's more difficult for a third person to tell because you may not notice nuances of change. Typically things like, not having your cell phone on when moms around, being on the computer and getting nervous when others are around like acting ... (read in full...)
Caught genital herpes from a cold sore... now it has rocked my relationship
Q. I have been going out with my fella for nearly a year and a half. Early on in the relationship I contracted genital herpes from a cold sore. Needless to say this hit me quite hard, but my boyfriend stuck by me and did everything he could. He treated ...
A. 29 August 2007: Now that you've given me a little more insight, I can honestly say that it sounds like his heart has turned. I suggest you don't argue anymore and decide if this is the man you want to be with expecting that he won't be changing back to the way he ... (read in full...)
Caught genital herpes from a cold sore... now it has rocked my relationship
Q. I have been going out with my fella for nearly a year and a half. Early on in the relationship I contracted genital herpes from a cold sore. Needless to say this hit me quite hard, but my boyfriend stuck by me and did everything he could. He treated ...
A. 29 August 2007: You sound like you are not happy, and you are making him unhappy too. He is responding to you. The more he moves away the unhappier you get, the more he moves away, the arguing continues until he can't take it anymore and says goodbye. Get ... (read in full...)
We fell asleep together and now everyone is taking this the wrong way!
Q. okay well the prob is i have a very special friend and i love him to peices in a brother-sister sort of a way. Im 14 and he is 17 and iv know him all my life, with our families being so very close. A Little while ago though on tour, being the ...
A. 29 August 2007: You could be playing with fire too. What happens if he rolls over in the night and wants to give it to you good? Half asleep, guards are down, you're in bed already, what the heck. It's a lot riskier that something will happen than if you didn't ... (read in full...)
Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends
Q. Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...
A. 29 August 2007: If they love you, they will be bothered about it. If they aren't bothered, you might kinda wonder what's going on that they're not bothered. The question to ask yourself is, "do I love him enough not to risk losing him?" The question is for a man, ... (read in full...)
Is she using me to get over her ex????
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for a couple of months now but have known her for years. The problem is one of her ex's. I was friends with her when they first broke up (5 years ago) and she was absolutley devestated, since then she's had a ...
A. 29 August 2007: I wouldn't let your heart get to close to this one. Be ready for her to pull out at any moment if she's unhappy. It sounds like you may be a rebound. If you two aren't fighting or arguing excessively then everything should be cool. I speculate ... (read in full...)
Is this feeling I feel...love or lust?
Q. I have known a family friend for about 7 years and each year for 3 days we see each other for a religious event or if I'm lucky, weddings or special occasions. He has came to my house and gets on with my family. For some reason we always gaze into ...
A. 29 August 2007: You are feeling normal, and some kind of desire for this guy. Whether it's pheromones or his eyes, you are drawn to him. His sister said to stay away because she thinks you will jump his virgin bones. I would try to let it cool off for a while, see ... (read in full...)
We fell asleep together and now everyone is taking this the wrong way!
Q. okay well the prob is i have a very special friend and i love him to peices in a brother-sister sort of a way. Im 14 and he is 17 and iv know him all my life, with our families being so very close. A Little while ago though on tour, being the ...
A. 29 August 2007: You did sleep with him whether you had sex or not. I don't know who everybody is, but you only have to answer to each other and to your parents or guardians. If nothing happened, then have a clear conscience, but you have to think about how it ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that this little girl doesn't know the truth of why her Mom and Dad broke up?
Q. My boyfriend's daughter who is 7 years old told me she wants to know why her mom and my boyfriend got separated. She doesn't understand why everyone keep telling her they will explain to her when she is 17-18. The truth is her mom had an affair with ...
A. 29 August 2007: Kids will always wish for their Mommies and Daddy's back together. Dad should reiterate for her that Mommy lives there and Daddy lives here. Sometimes Mommies and Daddies don't get along and have to live apart. Not all Mommies and Daddies, but ... (read in full...)
Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends
Q. Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...
A. 29 August 2007: Yes, it is you. There are reasons men don't like it, and women too. 1. men and women are territorial, how would you like it if he hung out with his ex girlfriend talked to her on the phone and went over to her place, or got a call from her when ... (read in full...)
I'm with the most wonderful guy yet i'm still not happy, why???
Q. why is it that i have the most wonderful man in the world and i am still not happy?...
A. 26 August 2007: Are you happy with yourself? If the answer is no, then how can you be happy with anyone else? Get happy with you first, then look for someone to add to your life.... (read in full...)
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