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I'm a 24 year old female, been in a relationship for 6 years and live with my partner. we have a good relationship and are best friends. we have gone through good times, bad times, happy times and sad times and have come out the other end. I love helping others out by giving them advice. i think I've been through lots to qualify! I'm out going, caring and helpful. I hope my advice helps people, I know that sometimes in life things get out of control and a little dark, but while we are all here we should help and guide each other as much as we can! |
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Anxious, nervous
Q. Hi, whats my problem ? I dont realy have any friends (well i do to talk to on Facebook xbox and such like)so I dont go out much, besides work Monday to Friday 8;30 till 5;30. My school friends I have distanced my self from due to them using and ...
A. 3 December 2011: Aww you sound like such a lovely guy! To me though it sounds like you have some confidence issues that affect how you are socially. You seem shy and like you over think things on a social level. I think you need to try and stop worrying about other ... (read in full...)
Porn video sent to me, how will g/f react?
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for over 1 year and 6 months and she wanted me to give up p*rn after we first had intercourse which i understand but i failed about 4 times breaking her heart which made me relise what a twat ive been about it and for ...
A. 17 February 2011: Be honest with her; if someone sent you it then you had no control over it and did not choose it. as long as you deleted it then you will be fine. she will probably be upset about it at first; she seems to be a little insecure possibly? if your just ... (read in full...)
Seeing a guy naked turns me on but I'm not gay
Q. help.Im a teen, age 14, and i just started puberty, and ive been watching porn. at first it was moderate. then i stared doing it everyight.then i saw a gay porn video and stupid stuff like that. i feel so ashamed i know that im not gay. i cant ...
A. 11 February 2011: First of all, do not worry. This is a reality for a lot of people. Your still so very young, you have so much time to explore your sexuality. Do you still feel turned on when you see women naked? If yes, then you have nothing to worry about. This ... (read in full...)
Was this more than a friendship hug?
Q. I met my co-worker by coincidence. He tapped me on the shoulder. He put his hand out to shake his hand. Then, we looked eye and eye and reached his arm over for a half hug with a gentle squueze. I patted him on the back. Since then, I can't get over ...
A. 11 February 2011: Always remember this man has a family, no matter what. Has he done anything else to suggest he likes you? It was probably a platonic hug, he may see you as a good friend. maybe he was trying to make his wife jealous, maybe he's just a guy who likes ... (read in full...)
Ex calls and mentions she is single again
Q. I broke up with my gf 6 months ago. We were together 3 years and very much in love and best friends. I ended the relationship as I felt confused and that I had never been to experience single life as an adult having met her at 18. The break-up made ...
A. 10 February 2011: I think you should meet her if you want to, and you'll be able to tell how she feels by the vibes she gives you. i think you can be friends with an ex, but if you still have feelings for her then it won't work. if you go meet her and you get the ... (read in full...)
When I do see him I can't think of anything to say!
Q. So i like this guy alot, and he likes me too. but we dont get much time to talk anymore and sadly when we do get a chance to talk, i cant come up with anything worth saying... anybody have some good short conversation starters?...
A. 8 February 2011: . what have you been up to?
. what are you doing at the weekend/been doing at the weekend?
. did you watch ..... last night?
. talk about the weather
. is he any classes with you? ask about how he's finding the work or homework?
conve... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to be his master but I don't know what to do!
Q. My husband wants me to be his master during sex and domineer him using my imagination for the things I want him to do but my imagination does'nt seen to want to play what can I do? He has wanted this for years and I don't seem to be able to get it ...
A. 8 February 2011: Take it a small step at a time, don't jump into the deep end. Try first of all by demanding him to do sexual favours for you, be confident and in control and don't take no for an answer. tell him what you want, how you want it and he will love it. ... (read in full...)
Ex calls and mentions she is single again
Q. I broke up with my gf 6 months ago. We were together 3 years and very much in love and best friends. I ended the relationship as I felt confused and that I had never been to experience single life as an adult having met her at 18. The break-up made ...
A. 8 February 2011: I think it's nice and idyllic that you have remained friends with an ex girlfriend. let her come visit you, thats what friends do. I don't think she is just trying to get a confidence boost; you both had (what sounds like) a lovely, caring, adult ... (read in full...)
He has a picture of his ex and their son, but not one of me and our son!
Q. hi there i need an advise. my bf has still picture of his ex gf with thier son on his computer. and he doesnt have picture of me and our son! im hurt and feels that his disrespecting me. why woud he save it if im with him? does it mean he still love ...
A. 5 February 2011: Your welcome for the advice!
I think because the picture is only in a file and not as a screen saver or anything, theres nothing to worry about. I think your husband has not intended to hurt or disrespect you by not having a picture of you and your... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong here? Everything is telling me to be the opposite of everything I was taught!
Q. I'm hoping someone can make some sense of the world I'm experiencing at the moment. The world that I've been experiencing for quite a while now... I am 22 years old (in two weeks) and have always strived to be a good person. I've always put other...
A. 3 February 2011: You sound just like me! I have all the same problems with friends and work etc and am always told that I am too kind hearted and a push over. To be honest, people who tell me this are right! i think maybe you suffer this too. I have tried now to ... (read in full...)
He excludes me from his life despite all I have done for him! What should I do?
Q. My guy is a plumber by profession. I love him very much and we been in love for three years. When he had little money on him last year i rented an apartment for him, fed him through last year. Yet i don't know much about his life. He excludes me ...
A. 3 February 2011: i think there are 2 ways you can look at this:
1) he does not actually want you to meet his family, maybe because he is embarrassed by them or because he does not get on with them.
2) he does not feel the relationship is ready for it.
Either wa... (read in full...)
Blind dates: How long to wait after the day of the date to realize nothing is going to happen and to just move on?
Q. How do you know if a guy wants to see you again at the end of a blind date? What does he say or do? And how long to wait after the day of the date to realize nothing is going to happen and to just move on?...
A. 3 February 2011: I think firstly, you should try not to pin all your hopes on one guy. Also, don't leave it for the guy to determine if you see each other again. If you feel at the end of a date that it went well, take the plunge and tell him you want to see him ... (read in full...)
I become depressed around my girlfriend and I'm not sure what to do about it...
Q. i have noticed that every time I become depressed and insecure with my girlfriend. She rarely does anything wrong she just fools arround with me . I get really sensitive and serious around her alot. I noticed the more I loved her, the more depressed ...
A. 2 February 2011: I think you need to go and talk to someone and assess why you get depressed. You are only young, tackle it now until it spirals out of control. See your doctor for a referal. I think your girlfriend should be a little bit more understanding, so try ... (read in full...)
He wants me back, but I've now slept with his best friend. I don't know what to do!
Q. I broke up with the guy I loved 2 yrs ago, due to circumstances beyond my control. I have never really gotten over him. Sometime last year I started hanging out with a friend of his and we ended up having sex. Now my ex bf is back, and wants us ...
A. 2 February 2011: You already know what to do, and it is the right thing to do. If you kept this from him, there is a massive chance he would find out what happened from someone, somehow, and he will see that you have lied to him. By telling him the truth you are ... (read in full...)
I think she has lost her feelings for me because of our sex life!
Q. im married for 7 yrs and i dont know whats wrong with my wife,i think im loosing her and any advise would be appreciated please .since we met she had a lot of sex eperiance and i had none,i was married before her but my ex and me didnt know ...
A. 2 February 2011: I think you need to try oral sex on her; relationships are a 2 way thing. i don't think you should receive oral sex without the intention of giving it. also, this is your wife, not a random woman. what is the reason for not giving oral sex? is it ... (read in full...)
He has a picture of his ex and their son, but not one of me and our son!
Q. hi there i need an advise. my bf has still picture of his ex gf with thier son on his computer. and he doesnt have picture of me and our son! im hurt and feels that his disrespecting me. why woud he save it if im with him? does it mean he still love ...
A. 2 February 2011: I can understand why you feel hurt and its easy to be jealous. its a bit careless of your partner to do this! you should approach him and tell him your hurt that there is a picture of them on there and not of you. is the picture a screen saver on ... (read in full...)
He wants me to 'wait' for him. Yet we never talk. should I wait?
Q. I'm 19 and the guy that i'm taking to is "J" and he's 18. Well, me and J met in the city bus and the whole ride, he and I were staring at each other. To me it seemed to be for hours. At soon as we both got off at the bus station, i looked at him and ...
A. 2 February 2011: I think you need to give him space and see if he comes to you. it seems your being too available to him and he's taking that for granted. don't call or text him and see how long it takes for him to get in contact with you. that should be a good ... (read in full...)
She wanted space, broke up, and already she's in a new relationship. Why will she not answer my questions?
Q. My ex of 25 months and I broke up but a week after we broke up she got into a relationship. She say with a dude she said was her friend. When I ask is she moving on, she won't answer my ? She wants our 8 by 10 photo we took, the promise ring, and ...
A. 2 February 2011: I think the fact that she is in a new relationship straight away makes me think that she told you she wanted space because she wanted to break up with you but was a coward and made some phoney excuse. or maybe she just wanted space but met someone ... (read in full...)
I want to take my time, get to know her, respect her before I can feel any love for her. Is that me being selfish?
Q. Some people fall in love quickly, but other people take a bit more time before they develop those kind of feelings for someone. If I met a nice lady and I didn't love her for a few months, but I respected and valued her, is that a sign of ...
A. 2 February 2011: You definately make sense. Love is not instant, you have to get to know someone fully before you can say 'I am in love with that person.' It's not a sign of selfishness, i think it's a sign of maturity and realism. From the sounds of it, I don't ... (read in full...)
His birthday is this weekend but he says he doesn't feel like being around anyone!
Q. Hello everyone My partner and i have been together for 2 years, late last year he was diagnosed with sever anxiety. It is only this month and the last it has become worse, he is easily irritated, moody, grumpy, twitching in bed etc. he says he...
A. 2 February 2011: This is a tricky situation. Initial thoughts are that this guy needs some serious work on himself and his issues, and that may mean a break from your relationship. He's not putting 100% into your relationship, but he does not mean to. I think you ... (read in full...)
She's chatting to someone else and I feel as if I can't breathe... help!
Q. hmm, i had once asked a question about this. about how i was moved by a sister figure of mine, my best friend. well recently she had told me once while texting, that with the amount with which she loves me, probably gay - she asked me if i would ...
A. 2 February 2011: If you have feelings this strong for her, why not just tell her? You cannot go on your whole life like this, you obviously want more than friendship from her. You seem jealous of this guy, and you have every right to be as you are mad about this ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to ask out a girl thats younger than me who has never dated before?
Q. I'm a 13 boy who goes to a really small school in mass. iv'e had 2 girlfriends in the past 2 years and they both ended in heartbreak. My relationships i had before were always so dramatic and romantic at the same time. I'm one of those helpless...
A. 2 February 2011: If you like someone go for it. Your both very young so don't over think things or rush anything. Start by making it obvious that you like her, talk to her lots and ask her questions. Get to know her and let her get to know you before you ask her ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out on a date for Valentines Day?
Q. People it's been like 3 years and a half I like this girl, she knew that I liked her. Thing is I would like to have some tips, I mean after some awkward interactions with her I could use some tips on how to ask her on Valentine's day. Thank you ...
A. 31 January 2011: Girls like a confident guy, so go and approach her and ask if she would like to go on a date with you for valentines day. be assertive and give suggestions of a nice restaurant/bar you could go to. if she says yes, turn up with a rose and make sure ... (read in full...)
She found someone richer than me, what should I do?
Q. I am a guy of 23 yrs. I was never loved by anyone- not even my parents. I never had any friend. My parents used to torchure me physically as well as mentally. One day I was thrown out of my house because I had failed in exam. I was very depressed ...
A. 31 January 2011: To the anonymous aunt: girls do not go for money! girls girl for a smart, fun, confident and out going guy. money does not come into it (maybe with a minority) as long as you are happy and are happy in yourself then that is all that matters.... (read in full...)
She found someone richer than me, what should I do?
Q. I am a guy of 23 yrs. I was never loved by anyone- not even my parents. I never had any friend. My parents used to torchure me physically as well as mentally. One day I was thrown out of my house because I had failed in exam. I was very depressed ...
A. 31 January 2011: It sound's like you have had a very tough life so far. It was awful what the girl did to you, but you did nothing wrong. She was obviously very shallow and not the right girl for you. I think you massively need some counselling to help deal with ... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between her and her ex
Q. hey righty I was browsing on my girlfriends phone when she got a text from her cousin so she asked me to say what it said then in the message menu I notice her ex bfs name so i clicked it ( i will explain more of this further down) it was a single ...
A. 31 January 2011: I can't really say for sure if something is going on, what's your gut instinct? Does she go out for long periods of time? Is she secretive? I think it kinda sounds harmless, but can't be too sure. You need to approach her about it. Start by telling ... (read in full...)
Most of the girls in my year smoke and I want to try. Do boys find girls who smoke attractive.
Q. Ok, I'm 14 and most of the girls in my year have smoked. I really want to take a few drags and see what it's like, but one of my friends is TOO overly protective and will tell my guidance teacher! Also, do boys think it's cool if their girl smokes? ...
A. 31 January 2011: I have never smoked in my life and am proud to have never tried it. Don't give into the peer pressure! how can guys find girls smoke attractive? they smell or smoke, have a horrible cough, bad teeth, bad breath....eerrrr! guys will be more attracted ... (read in full...)
What is the secret to being happy?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question I'd appreciate your honest answer to. How many of you are truly happy in your lives? If so, what are your lives like and what's most important to you? What do you think the secret is to being HAPPY? How...
A. 31 January 2011: I don't really know what the secret to happiness is, and I doubt anyone does! however i believe happiness comes from within. i believe you are most happiest when you are happy just being you and being comfortable with yourself. obviously family, ... (read in full...)
Help!!!! Never kissed properly, does it come naturally?
Q. Ok, the question is simple enough and i'm really nervous about it. Does kissing like (getting off) come naturally? i get put off going out with boys because of this. i'm really self-conscious my first kiss will go wrong or something. But l...
A. 29 January 2011: i agree with monksdabomb, it comes naturally. in the moment you know what to do. i had my first kiss at 16 and i was so so so nervous about kissing a guy, it seemed really difficult to do! practice on your pillow or in a mirror, it sounds silly but ... (read in full...)
Married 5 years, still virgins, help!
Q. This year I will celebrate my 5 year wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, my wife and I are still virgins. I love her with all of my heart. People that know us think we have the most wonderful, romantic relationship. Love letters every morning before ...
A. 29 January 2011: I agree, you need to see a sex therapist. there must be some reason that your wife will not lose her virginity and you need to discuss this. she may have had a bad experience and it needs to be addressed.
hope you sort this matter!
by the way, it ... (read in full...)
Time of the month she turns into someone else.
Q. Hey everybody, Really need your help so here goes. Thanks in advance. I've been dating this girl for a couple of months now and everything was going well up until a week ago. It's the time of the month and I don't want to sound like just a ...
A. 29 January 2011: I do feel very sorry for you!!! some women can be very harsh and irrational when it is their time of month, but to be honest she should now at her age be able to control most of it. i used to get like it every month but now i know that i should go ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him, but how can I know what he thinks of me?
Q. The guy That I Like Knows I like him and talking to him is fine but I don't know what he feels and I am too scared to ask him what he thinks in case its bad. I like him as a really good friend as well but I have a massive crush on him and I just ...
A. 29 January 2011: why not get a mutual friend, or one of your friends, to ask him? they dont have to mention anything about you so you dont have to be embarrassed.... (read in full...)
Was it a good idea to let him go as a friend?
Q. My best mate treats me like crap..ive tried so hard for my mate and my boyfriend to be friends so i can have both the people i love around me and i want to spend time with him and my boyfriend at the same time ..but hes just being so stubborn..he ...
A. 27 January 2011: well you definately did the right thing in letting him go as a friend! if you don't have feelings for him and are happy with your boyfriend than there is no use for him in your life.... (read in full...)
Can someone help me with some ideas for Valentine's Day?
Q. I'm not sure What to get my girlfriend for Valentine's day. I got her a silver necklace for xmas and she's yet to take it off, so I'm hoping to achieve that level of success again. What are some foolproof ideas? ...
A. 27 January 2011: I think that valentines day should be a little less 'presenty' if you get my drift. the necklace for christmas was perfect but i say for valentines day send her a beautiful bouquet of roses, sent with a lovely romantic note, and cook her dinner or ... (read in full...)
Was it a good idea to let him go as a friend?
Q. My best mate treats me like crap..ive tried so hard for my mate and my boyfriend to be friends so i can have both the people i love around me and i want to spend time with him and my boyfriend at the same time ..but hes just being so stubborn..he ...
A. 27 January 2011: Your friend was massively jealous of your boyfriend and obviously did not want you as a friend, he wanted you as a girlfriend. you did the right thing by letting him go as a friend as his intentions were wrong. you can't be best friends with someone ... (read in full...)
How can I be romantic with my on line crush, and show him that I care?
Q. Hello! My on line crush says that he likes romance, and to show him that I care about him... My question is how can I be romantic with him? And how can I show him that I care and like him? I already said that to him, but how can I prove it...
A. 27 January 2011: Theres not a lot you can do online to be romantic. If he is just a crush, tell him how you feel about him. send or write him a poem or a song. why not meet up with him? remember if you do meet up with him to be careful, go with someone else and meet ... (read in full...)
I was fine with my girlfriend being an escort ...but now her proximity to a certain client is really bothering me...
Q. I came across this blog and read a couple of them.I am a boyfriend of a escort, I have been her boyfriend for 6 years, she has been a escort for almost 3 years. I am fine with it, She did it for the bills of course.Now We just came into a situation ...
A. 27 January 2011: Seems like you have now started to not like her career choice anymore. I think that when you begin to feel like this, she has to stop. she should stop if she cares for you at all, because its obviously having a negative impact on you. you have every ... (read in full...)
Sex has stopped after we got married, is this because I cant give him a baby? Or is he just not into me anymore?
Q. I been having this problem for almost 3 years, its about me and my husband. We used to be sexually active when we were bf and gf but, when we got married we hardly had any sex at all. He tried getting me pregnant but with no luck. So everytime i ask ...
A. 27 January 2011: I don't necessarily agree with the previous answer...I think that you can still be turned on by the same person for many years. Maybe the fact that your husband and you failed to conceive has made him self conscious that he is not able to give you a ... (read in full...)
I used up all my ideas in my last gift. Now I need new ideas please to fill the Valentine box for my bf?
Q. I have painted and decorated this heart shaped box for valentines day for my bf. I don't know what to put inside though. I got rid of all the special things like cinema tickets, train tickets to see each other etc etc in the last gift I made him ...
A. 27 January 2011: ideas for guys on valentines day are hard! i think CDs are really cute, you can put songs that you both like on it. i also once went to a photo shop with a picture of me and my boyfriend and had it made into a jigsaw (you can also have a keyring ... (read in full...)
His kids are always sick!
Q. I am currently pregnant and expecting my first child with a man who has 3 children from a previous relationship. His children come over and visit every 2nd weekend. One of his kids is ALWAYS sick though... Ever since I first met her she either has a ...
A. 27 January 2011: I completely, 100% disagree! First, I agree that children are ill lots of times, I work as a nursery nurse and know that kids pick up all sorts. Its fair enough if they come over and have a cold or something, yes you may be more suseptable to catch... (read in full...)
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