At first my guy wouldn't commit, now he says he will, what are his intentions?
Q. Ive been friends with this guy for a while now, but we only became close friends recently. We went out on a few dates and at first he said he wanted to wait before making the commitment of going into a relationship, I said I understood because he ...
A. 25 October 2007: No I think you are right...he is trying to suss you out...how far you will go...it is all about power and whether he thinks he will accept you...why doesn't he want to get hurt. This sounds like some violins playing here. Be really cautious, I ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 she's 17, will we have enough in common or am I too old for her?
Q. I am 20 and mid way through my junior year of college. I'm trying to decide if I want to start a relationship with a 17 year old high school senior girl that lives back home. I'm worried about a few things, (1) is age a problem, (2) where we are at ...
A. 25 October 2007: So what? My parents were married for 36 years and my parents were 5 years apart...really this is silly thinking. I know lots of people who are more mature than most adults I know. My husband is 5 years older than me...I really think you are ... (read in full...)
Still uncertain that our breakup was the right thing to do. Is this just a sign of the grieving process or something else?
Q. I've ended a relationship after over 4 years as I knew deep down that we had reached the end of the road. I had been confused over my feelings for a good few months and could never see a longer term future for us. It was my feelings for him that ...
A. 28 June 2007: Of course you have doubts and seeing them physically is terrible or hearing about them. The fact that you have remained who you are and have been your own self is more important and she be a clear indicator that you really have moved on. Don't see ... (read in full...)
Still uncertain that our breakup was the right thing to do. Is this just a sign of the grieving process or something else?
Q. I've ended a relationship after over 4 years as I knew deep down that we had reached the end of the road. I had been confused over my feelings for a good few months and could never see a longer term future for us. It was my feelings for him that ...
A. 22 June 2007: I am answering to anonoymous who made a comment about my comment! I really admire your courage for striking out on your own and getting that bar job. I really think you've done a wonderful thing of going for it and just getting your teeth into ... (read in full...)
How to cope after a very close death???
Q. Hi Everyone, AskEve here. I just wanted to let everyone know I lost my wonderful partner 2 days ago so won't be on for a bit. He was over in Switzerland on business when he passed away. (I wasn't even with him...) I loved him terribly and now...
A. 16 June 2007: Hi, I've written to you before. I went to see a medium after great consideration as I didn't partake in anything like that before. However, I went because I needed to feel peace. I wanted to know where my Mum was, if she was ok and wasn't ... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest fixes for acne?
Q. My sister is 15 years old and has acne breakouts. I was wondering if anyone has any at home remedies or advise on clearing it. She is always embarrassed about it and she also has the marks the acne leaves. I would like to find out a few things just ...
A. 14 June 2007: Ok best thing ever Proactive
look it up...seriously it works, but she has to make it work...It is about 75 bucks for a regime.... (read in full...)
He doesn't reply to my text messages fast enough and I think I should dump him! What do you think?
Q. i have been dating a bloke for around a month now, he is ok with me a part from the fact that he has done all the initiating, ie texting me and asking me out, which obviously i dont mind at all but the problem i have is that when he texts me to ...
A. 14 June 2007: Ok so you are between the ages of 30-35...grow up! You told him you wouldn't respond etc...I actually got bored of reading your message. I actually checked your age as I thought you were 15.
My Mother died painfully of breast cancer when I w... (read in full...)
I am athletic, kind and smart! so why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. I was checking out my crush's myspace... and I found out that he has a girlfriend. I was disappointed, but actually, I'm always disappointed because I never get ANY guys. I'm not sure why no one likes me... I'm smart, kind, and athletic. Help?!?...
A. 14 June 2007: Ok so you are athletic, kind, smart? Does this cause the basis of ANYONE liking you? I am 106 pounds, haven't run a half marathon since i was 13 and I would bend over backwards for my mates...
Question: Do you ask a lot of questions or talk a l... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my wife. Not sure about moving in with the other woman. Help!
Q. Very Confused. I have been married for 5 1/2 years and have also been seeing another woman whom I fell in love with. I have sex with her, but not with my wife. My wife is a wonderful caring person. She gained weight and I no longer find her ...
A. 14 June 2007: You absolutely repel me...you don't find your wife attractive because she is 'First Nation/Aborginal' and has gained weight and is very Christian? So what? What is wrong with being perhaps a bit overweight, respecting your culture and believing in ... (read in full...)
Is it bad I lack experience, sex wise... never done anything with boys
Q. Im 16 and i have Never had a boy finger me or me do anything for a boy.. seems like everyone else has and i feel embarresed to say that ''i lack in sexual experience'' when personally i dont care but when people ask me.. i get ambarresed.. is this ...
A. 14 June 2007: No it isn't anything to be ashamed of or wonder about or feel you are anything less than who you are. I really admire you for being yourself. I really do. Stick to your guns girl. Seriously, don't be sucked in by what is going on.
I admire y... (read in full...)
Worried About My Height
Q. Hi, I've recently been feeling very concious about my height. I've always been one of the tallest, but now I'm worried, I'm going to be small. My immediate family are all average height(father 5'8'' and mother 5'6''), but my grandfather, both...
A. 7 June 2007: Sorry what is wrong with being 5ft 7...seems very normal to me. Try being 5ft 1 and a quarter and standing on seats to put your luggage in the overhead lockers on a plane. I have more leg room but to be honest what are you worrying about?
I rec... (read in full...)
Found a small painful lump on my armpit. What could it be?
Q. hi ive recently been having a pain under my arm that started like 2 days ago and ive just found a lump in my armpit. its small but painful if i press it. what could this be? i cant get a doctors appointment before i go on holiday in 2 days time and ...
A. 6 June 2007: I don't know how anonymous can state that nobody really knows what they are talking about on this site? For goodness sakes, past personal experience and knowing what and how things feel is paramount so stop passing comment on something you've never ... (read in full...)
Found a small painful lump on my armpit. What could it be?
Q. hi ive recently been having a pain under my arm that started like 2 days ago and ive just found a lump in my armpit. its small but painful if i press it. what could this be? i cant get a doctors appointment before i go on holiday in 2 days time and ...
A. 6 June 2007: I don't know how anonymous can state that nobody really knows what they are talking about on this site? For goodness sakes, past personal experience and knowing what and how things feel is paramount so stop passing comment on something you've never ... (read in full...)
I must increase my bust!
Q. Right - I'm 18 and I have such small boobs - a 34A - but even some bras seem loose. It always really upsets me! I would just like to go up a size, but I could never consider a boob job! Is there anything I can do? pills?, exercises etc......
A. 6 June 2007: I am five foot 1 with a 34 DD chest and it is hell. You can't wear dresses as the length is too long because the chest size doesn't fit, you can't wear buttons down the front because it gapes and zips it is incredibly hard to find clothes to fit.
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I set a honey trap and he fell for it... are all guys this bad??
Q. HONEY TRAP! I've been talking to my on-line man for about 4 months and we were getting on really well, he lives 100 miles from me and we were planning a weekend together in a couple of weeks. However, I set a 'honey trap' for him on the website w...
A. 6 June 2007: No not all men are cowards and total bastards. You are very clever to catch him out but you must have had your suspicions or have little trust in the first place to set the trap. Be just thankful totally that you evaded this man.
Well done!... (read in full...)
Married for 9 years and my wife is not sexual or sensual... what can we do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 9 years. We both come from conservative backgrounds. Neither of us dated much before dating each other and we dated each other for at least 4 years before marriage. I had always suspected that there was some ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi there, Have you asked your wife if she was sexually abused or assaulted ever? Sounds she is very hesitant. You may need to ask her. It sounds like she has hang ups for a reason, and not because of you. Has it crossed your mind?... (read in full...)
Why am I suddenly so moody and angry??
Q. Hi, I ve been having really bad mood swings of late i dont now y that is or maybe i do. I am married and i am a long way from home i dont have any friends jsut my husband and his family. i spend alot of my time at home all alone as my husband is ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hi there, Where are you from? I know what it is like to move away and be in another country. Tell me where you are from and we can exchange stories. I know exctactly how you feel, I've been there and know what you are going through. XO... (read in full...)
Found a small painful lump on my armpit. What could it be?
Q. hi ive recently been having a pain under my arm that started like 2 days ago and ive just found a lump in my armpit. its small but painful if i press it. what could this be? i cant get a doctors appointment before i go on holiday in 2 days time and ...
A. 26 May 2007: There is no sense worrying about this painful lump? Rarely hurt in the beginning? A cyst I am sure it is.... But yes they do and you do notice lumps/bumps and they can appear and be painful or be an obvious part you notice. It is with great ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with my boyfriend will probably cause me to fail the exams. What shall I do?
Q. I've been really hurt. I had to split up with my first proper boyfriend 2 days ago. We were together for a year and had all our 'firsts' together. During the last month of our relationship, he had started be really rude to me, saying stuff like 'I'm ...
A. 26 May 2007: I guess you are about to do your GCSE's or A'Levels...if it is the latter, don't fuck up like me. I bombed out 3 months before my exams, didn't work despite being told to stay at home and not go out by my parents, I screwed up big style, went ... (read in full...)
Met up with an old flame for lunch and he ws nervous! What was going on with him?
Q. Hi, I'm a 29 year old woman, been married almost 8years with a 4year old son, fairly happily married. Recently i bumped into an old flame from high school(first love) haven't seen each or had any contact for 14years. We exchanged numbers and met ...
A. 26 May 2007: Wow nervous because he remembered you as who you were a long time ago. I know in Europe exchanging numbers and meeting for a drink isn't like in N. America. In N. America it is seen as cheating and being promiscuious. Sorry American or North ... (read in full...)
Is this legal?
Q. I seperated from my Internet lover after 7 years because he told me that he has 2 Korean wives of which he married in Korea then brought them back to uk to live, Is this legal?...
A. 26 May 2007: I know that in Korea some follow the Mormon tradition which is many marriages. If you choose this way of life then that is your choice but it is seen as a legal contract Idaho or Korea. I am not sure if I can comment on your personal relationship ... (read in full...)
He stole naked pics of this other guy's wife...off their computer! Is this really creepy or what?
Q. I need advice. My husband and I have always had a strong loving, trusting relationship. We have been married 4 years and we a have a wonderful two year old daughter. We are both highly successful working professionals. We have very close friends ...
A. 26 May 2007: First of all it wasn't your business to be compelled to look, as for pictures of your husband hugging this girl, then see it as it is, a happy photo amongst friends. As for naked pictures of your friend's wife, so what? Maybe they enjoy their love ... (read in full...)
Found a small painful lump on my armpit. What could it be?
Q. hi ive recently been having a pain under my arm that started like 2 days ago and ive just found a lump in my armpit. its small but painful if i press it. what could this be? i cant get a doctors appointment before i go on holiday in 2 days time and ...
A. 26 May 2007: Hi, My advice is that you walk into your local ER and tell them you have a unknown painful lump under your arm. As you an adolescent and you are presenting with an issue that is only considered by ER doctors as a 'non-emergency case', tell them you ... (read in full...)
Do men sort of fall out of love with their woman after they have his baby?
Q. I had a baby a mo. and a half ago. Lately, I feel like maybe my boyfriend resents the responsibility I have brought upon him. We were friends for like 6 yrs. before we got together and I was dating a friend of his. Well, we were just seeing ...
A. 26 May 2007: Yes it does affect your whole relationship having children. Maybe he feels very out of sorts that you are pushing situations, putting on make-up or whatever he comments on, but clearly its different and so it should be for both of you. I find it ... (read in full...)
I want to be there for my father bc he has cancer, but my mum and son are making life so hard! What can I do?
Q. I live at home with my elderly parents and my 3 children. My 25yr old son is an alcholic, my 18yr old is well adjusted, but this gets the family down. It will obviously affect my 10yr old daughter. My dad has cancer he hasn't told mum. My mum tak...
A. 26 May 2007: Wanted to say too, even though your son has a terrible problem with alcohol and clearly it is recognised as an issue. I realise you see yourself as the one thing that is solid, no one lying to someone else, no one supporting someone without telling ... (read in full...)
I want to be there for my father bc he has cancer, but my mum and son are making life so hard! What can I do?
Q. I live at home with my elderly parents and my 3 children. My 25yr old son is an alcholic, my 18yr old is well adjusted, but this gets the family down. It will obviously affect my 10yr old daughter. My dad has cancer he hasn't told mum. My mum tak...
A. 26 May 2007: My answer to you is to stop seeing relationships from the past. You know of your Dad's situation, how so and so treats another person...has it occurred to you that people might feel differently if they knew. It is awful to say but sometimes ... (read in full...)
I have a bf and 2 kids but love a married 50 year old man. How do I convince him to leave his wife for me?
Q. I am 22 with a boyfriend who i dont love but we stay together for our 2 children, for 6 months i have sseing a married guy who i am desperatly in love with, he is 50. his wife has recently caught us so our relationship is now over and i feel so is ...
A. 26 May 2007: The fact that you got caught and he went back to his wife leads me to believe that you have no reason whatsoever to 'convince' him of leaving his wife. You shouldn't have to convince him, cajoul or try and influence him. He clearly knows what he ... (read in full...)
Neighbor is wanting to call the police as his kid looked in our window, and saw us having sex! I think you should be able to do what you want in your own home! Any views?
Q. My neighbour has threatened to call the police as his 11 year old son saw my partner and I having sex in our living room. he also says it is illegal to walk around naked. The boy must have been in our back garden looking in the window so surley h...
A. 26 May 2007: Hi, you can't help a child seeing a situation that is not appropriate. Parents have had their kids walk in on them during the act. I agree however that your home is your place and your solitude, however...shutting the curtains when you are naked ... (read in full...)
I called my bf while I was on holiday and he told me to"f**k off!" Should I go back to him or not?
Q. I am visitng my family for 3 weeks, and away from my boyfriend of 4 years. I have called him today on his cellphone and he was getting ready to visit his dad at the hospital and was in a hurry. While talking to me, he said that "im bugging his ...
A. 26 May 2007: Again this depends on the situation, you don't know what the situation was when he was rushing to the hospital or how he was dealing with this. I think you take the high-road, let this lie and let him contact you as painful and difficult as it is. ... (read in full...)
I like her and we play sports together. She's not as good as the rest of us...so do I make it easy for her or not?
Q. Hi. I play sport with a few mates, but one of them isn't that good compared to the rest of us. I like one of them as more of a friend, yet she isn't as good as the rest of us. She finds it hard when she plays with us, and its clear she gets a...
A. 26 May 2007: I think you are phenomenal that you realise this issue for her. While sports and physicality might not be second-nature to her, surely her drive and commitment and enthusiasm is way more important than how she delivers on the field. I think you've ... (read in full...)
Angry dysfunctional relationship...should I call him or let it go?
Q. Please, I am reposting my question again because I am desperate for help. Thanks for taking the time to read... Hi all, I have been in a romantic affair with a lovely man for 9 months. He was the one doing all the running, and gave me a lot...
A. 26 May 2007: Hi, the back and forth commotion of your relationship is something very familiar and common. Just because you got flu and you didn't have the chance to make it up with him, but that he communicates with you to tell you he is there for you, means he ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the hormonal and family pressures to get married and have kids?
Q. I am thirty years old how and completed my Masters of architecture degree last year at 29. I have always been unsure about having children because i am not sure i can be a good mother. Now at 30 i am experiencing so many hormonal changes and the ...
A. 26 May 2007: Hi, I had my daughter at 28 and she is now 6. Don't do or make decisions because of other peoples' expectations. You clearly are smart but don't be pressured into something. This is a life-time commitment being a Mum more so that committing to a ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to trust men, when every guy I've dated dumps me after sex!?
Q. Okay, I dated this guy for like a week, and it was more of just a fling, but does that give him a right to just dump me after having sex.. even though I told him all about my past and how every guy always does that to me. He promised he wouldn't ...
A. 26 May 2007: Listen, not all change their mind after the chat prior to the event. So keep yourself optimistic...there are those out there who do actually know what they want...I hope you are ok. Cheers... (read in full...)
I seem to have a scar line on the right side of my neck...
Q. dear cupid i seem to have a scar line on ma right side of the neck, it seems to make my neck like it has some sort of lump or is swollen compared to the left side, i went to the doctors and they tell me its nothing their, i would like to know doe...
A. 23 May 2007: Hang on, what do you mean they say it is nothing? Have you had your thyroid checked? It is a blood test and I would insist on a CT scan, x-ray or ultrasound...for goodness sakes, why are you accepting this response? It might be a cyst or a ... (read in full...)
Seeing my Mother's abuse has caused me trouble in my own relationship! Any advice?
Q. i have been a very defensive person in my relationship and i think that it has something to do with the fact that my mother was beat by her bloke when i was little its causing me a lot of grief in my relationship does anyone know if there is a way ...
A. 23 May 2007: I totally agree with DVI. Every mother has caught themselves with their own children, thinking God I just sound like my mother as a parellel and that is what you are doing, telling yourself you will never ever let that happen to you. It sounds ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to trust men, when every guy I've dated dumps me after sex!?
Q. Okay, I dated this guy for like a week, and it was more of just a fling, but does that give him a right to just dump me after having sex.. even though I told him all about my past and how every guy always does that to me. He promised he wouldn't ...
A. 23 May 2007: I didn't mean to make you feel I was judging you and this was something you do as easy as going for a walk. We've all had the one night stands, well I have at least where you clearly know straight afterwardsit isn't going to go any further. Don't ... (read in full...)
Is there an ideal age to become pregnant? If so, what is it?
Q. Is there an ideal age to become pregnant? I'm basically asking for health concerns (increase in birth defects, etc.) My husband and I are pretty healthy, and neither one of us smokes and we only drink on occasion, if that helps. I real...
A. 22 May 2007: Yes 35 they give you a choice of doing an amnio-centesus. I got pregnant at 27 after 2 weeks off the pill, but then again my Mum had my brother at 45 (third child). If you are trying to get pregnant stop reading stuff, thinking about it, timing ... (read in full...)
He treats me like a queen, is rich and successful, single, never been married and is a nice guy... but I have some concerns!
Q. Hi I'm sort of dating a 44 yr old man (I'm 25). He's liked me for a year now and when I broke up with my ex, he took the chance to tell me that he likes me. Since then, we've been casually dating. He treats me like a queen, is rich and success...
A. 22 May 2007: What century are you living in? You are dating but yet the criteria has already been assigned for your future, and since when does, single, never married, rich and treat you like a Queen quantify someone...just look at celebrities, loads of money, ... (read in full...)
How to cope after a very close death???
Q. Hi Everyone, AskEve here. I just wanted to let everyone know I lost my wonderful partner 2 days ago so won't be on for a bit. He was over in Switzerland on business when he passed away. (I wasn't even with him...) I loved him terribly and now...
A. 22 May 2007: Sorry everyone time does not heal your pain, you manage it. You never heal from the loss of a loved one whether it was last week or 40 years ago. Stop spitting out the classic four stages of grief from books. You go through so many emotions at all ... (read in full...)
Still uncertain that our breakup was the right thing to do. Is this just a sign of the grieving process or something else?
Q. I've ended a relationship after over 4 years as I knew deep down that we had reached the end of the road. I had been confused over my feelings for a good few months and could never see a longer term future for us. It was my feelings for him that ...
A. 22 May 2007: No you will not end up in the same position 6 months down the line...you don't know it yet but when you start dating or going out or whatever, your instinct will kick in and you will know just on your own without even thinking, you know perhaps to ... (read in full...)
How to cope after a very close death???
Q. Hi Everyone, AskEve here. I just wanted to let everyone know I lost my wonderful partner 2 days ago so won't be on for a bit. He was over in Switzerland on business when he passed away. (I wasn't even with him...) I loved him terribly and now...
A. 21 May 2007: Please contact me...email me privately. I can help you or at least listen. I have all the time in the world. I am 33 British and living in Canada and I lost my Mum 3 years ago. I can tell you and listen to you. Reading websites isn't the ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to trust men, when every guy I've dated dumps me after sex!?
Q. Okay, I dated this guy for like a week, and it was more of just a fling, but does that give him a right to just dump me after having sex.. even though I told him all about my past and how every guy always does that to me. He promised he wouldn't ...
A. 21 May 2007: Stop having sex with them on the first or first few dates and don't tell them your resume of bad break ups...you are giving them a golden ticket for any guy good or bad to have the get out clause and collect $200 everytime they go around the ... (read in full...)
Still uncertain that our breakup was the right thing to do. Is this just a sign of the grieving process or something else?
Q. I've ended a relationship after over 4 years as I knew deep down that we had reached the end of the road. I had been confused over my feelings for a good few months and could never see a longer term future for us. It was my feelings for him that ...
A. 21 May 2007: Yes it is grieving of a sort, you know what your decision was and is and yet you miss everything about them, time together, memories and everything seems to become heightened in your emotions for this person. You probably find yourself thinking of ... (read in full...)
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