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writes: Hiya! im wonderin if anyone can help me (again) im in a long term relationship and my bf and i have had some problems which are now sorted thankfully but i want to make our sex life more enjoyable i dont think handcuffs, whips or blindfolds are for me or stockings and nurses outfits either, id wear something sexy to a certain extent but i just dont know any other ways please help!!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 October 2006):
 Hi There,
This is an exerpt from my book:
Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test
www.franktalks.com
Remember it was written for a male audience
The Best Kind of Lover, Virgin or Not
I've had them all... want to know what is the real secret to being great lover? It has nothing to do with technique, or size, or anything...it is all about ENTHUSIASM. As long as you are ENTHUSIASTIC about sex, you can be great. Don’t let inexperience stop either of you. Enthusiasm rules all.
Behavior rewarded is behavior repeated.
Keep it Interesting – The Rule of Be the First
Be the first. This means to be the first guy that she experiences certain things with. I doubt she will be a virgin when you nail her (or maybe she will be). Either way, find out specific stuff about her... not just sexually, but find out stuff that she has always wanted to do, but never done before. It could be having a guy use a vibrator in her (or various food items)... it could be an afternoon picnic with honey-wine in the park with a X in the bushes, it could be sex in public, it could be driving next to big trucks where she flashes to truck drivers. Make it memorable.
If, lets say, you can identify 10 things that you can be her first, then start doing those things with her. Use food and liquor one time, use a vibrator the next, other sex toys the next time, do it in public somewhere, bathe together, remove your body hair together, massage and body lotions, make nude photography and videos with her, and so on.
This will prove how adventurous you are. Start small... incorporate different foods into your sex life. Syrups, pieces of fruits, eventually you move on. Be imaginative, and lead lead lead. Take her window shopping to a sex shop and NOTICE, do not comment on, what she pays attention to. Then go back and buy it and use it on her the next time. Unless she gets so turned on in the store that you have to buy it then and there and take her home to use it on her.
Go to extremes. Either long drawn out foreplay or a super fast quickie. During foreplay use massage, music, oils, and visualizations. To help, watch a sensual how-to massage video together and do what they do on the screen. Make her cum by focusing on her orgasm, not your own. Spend as much time doing what you need to do to make her cum first. By that time, you will have less pressure on you to perform.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, !x!T!x!  +, writes (17 October 2006):
 i think a good idea is trying to do it in new places like outside but make sure you dont get caught lol!!! or maybe a threesome and if your not into that then just try out some new positions. there are some great websites out there with tons of tips and new stuff to try you should check them out....good luck !!!
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