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No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 17 July 2007: There is a book I would like to recommend to you. It is meant to deal with your mother's antics, but might also be able to deal with your ex and your kid.
It is called: Emotional Blackmail. I am not sure about the author's name, but I recently... (read in full...)
I love here and have been with her for 10 years but I still don't know if she's "the one" and I'm ready for marriage!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 years. We love each other and many things are great. She's made it pretty clear that she's more than ready to make the commitment of marriage, and I'm not denying that that's where we might head, ...
A. 17 July 2007: Why would you have stayed with someone for 10 YEARS and STILL be questioning this?
On the one hand, I think you should marry her becuase you do not sound like the kind of guy that goes after the things he really wants in life, and is unable t... (read in full...)
What does she want? Is she really wanting to be with me or not?
Q. I have a question for you guys. I've met a girl and we've had wonderful times together. Recently she went to a different city for work. We still e-mail each other. In one of her e-mails, she says she is so happy she finally has a friend who will ...
A. 17 July 2007: Unless there is more to these interactions than you are writing here, I do not see anything here to indicate that she likes you as more than a friend. It couldn't hurt to suggest that the two of you meet up, but I do not see any real signs. I wo... (read in full...)
Is six to eight bottles of alcohol a weekend-every weekend too much?
Q. Does my husband have a problem with drinking? i have been with my husband for 13 years.when we were 20 we drank at christmas,nights out or special occasions.this is the way its been for the past 12 and a half years.alchol never really intereste...
A. 17 July 2007: You asked: is 6-8 bottles of alchol a weekend-every weekend to much?? My answer: YES. He sounds like he is using the alcohol to escape. My guess is that he has come to really hate his job. Has something changed in his work environmen... (read in full...)
My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 17 July 2007: Your bf is right to stay out of the way. It is up to you to parent your child's behavior, not him. He does not have the right to interfere, legally, so he is smart to remove himself from the situation. I doubt any relationship you will have wi... (read in full...)
I am 15 and dating a 27 year old
Q. i am turning 15 and i am dating a 27 yr old i dont know how to tell my parents i really love him...
A. 17 July 2007: He sounds like a pedophile. Tell your parents tonight, right now, no waiting. Get them all to meet together. If he really loves you, he will be willing to go to jail for you. -FBK... (read in full...)
What do girls think of guys who are relationship virgins?
Q. What to girls think of guys who has'nt had a relationship before?...
A. 14 July 2007: If you meet a girl that already likes you enough, it will not matter. At least, not at first. In time though, it will cross her mind, at least in part, as to why you would not have found a woman that would have wanted to date you more.
If she does... (read in full...)
Is it ok to pay for sex as long as you're very careful?
Q. I am male, who is mssing sex. is it okay to pay for a shag, as long s you are very careful.....
A. 14 July 2007: Firstly, before you get into the morals of it, find out if it is legal in the area you live in. In some places, the act itself may not be illegal, but the elements surrounding it are illegal.
If you find you can do it legally, then you can cons... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and got pregnant; I don't want to raise another child that isn't my own
Q. Plz help, I've been in this relationship for 5 years, my girlfriend already has a son, that I'm practically raising. We don't live together. Anyway she cheated on me and got pregnant, she was gonna have a abortion, but the docs said it could be ...
A. 14 July 2007: It is not about how much you love her, it is about how well she treats you. She is treating you poorly.
The fact that you do not live together might be your saving grace. It means that you may not be financially liable to pay child support ... (read in full...)
I'm going to a funeral - what should I wear and what flowers should I send?
Q. I am going to a funeral next week. I have not been to many of them(lucky me). I would like some tips on two things. What to wear and what type of flowers to send. There are internet sites with this info but it is nice to get more personal pointers....
A. 11 July 2007: Traditionally, I would suggest wearing black. Perhaps a black one piece dress. Some families would consider it disrespectful if people wear revealing, sexy, or night club outfits of any kind at funerals.
In terms of flowers, it is becoming... (read in full...)
I discreetly got DNA and the result shows I am not her biological father. I am stunned and do not know what to do.
Q. Just found out my 12 year old daughter is not mine, I was divorced recently and an old friend of my ex wife told me when she had a few drinks . I confronted my ex she said it was rubbish but it has been playing on my mind for months. I discreetly ...
A. 10 July 2007: Ouch.
Firstly, calm down and BREATH. The worst thing that could happen is for you to lose control and say something that could hurt your step-daughter, who is an innocent in the middle of this.
Do not say one word about it yet. GO see a l... (read in full...)
My cousin and I
Q. Hi, I'll use other names for this - but I met bonnie 27 (I'll be clyde) a first cousin Ive known all my life and not seen much, but in the past year we have grown so very close as her boy friend is always away and never wants to do anything or go an...
A. 10 July 2007: The real issue I see here is that Bonnie is MARRIED. THAT relationship must end before you annouce ANYTHING.
Get that relationship to end, and THEN wait a few months. That should help, but it will not stop the prejudice.
It is one thing to ... (read in full...)
Having promiscuous sex didn't help me get over him, what will?
Q. Right, I've still got a problem with the lad I've previously left a question about, but this isn't about him now.. I went on holiday last week and slept with three people whilst there. I used protection with all except for one, who, unknown to ...
A. 5 July 2007: What Daniel Said. Good response.
-FBK... (read in full...)
My boyfriend had sex with my mother!
Q. I came home from work the other day early and found my boyfriend who is 39, having sex with my mother, aged 69, on my bed. My parents live with me, as does my boyfriend who moved in last year. He does drink a lot as he is having problems with post ...
A. 5 July 2007: My heart goes out to you. This is surely one of the worst things that could happen. The betrayal is so deep.
Firstly, I do not think you should even consider marrying him. He went with your mother? No, that is too much. He needed to be a man... (read in full...)
How do you know when a male friend is attracted to you?
Q. How do you know whether a male friend is attracted to you? I have known this particular guy for 15 years....
A. 5 July 2007: You know he is attracted if he is talking to you...at all.
It is my philosophy that men and women can not really be friends that long. (The When Harry Met Sally rule).
He is either gay, or he would be willing to have sex with you.
Now, as ... (read in full...)
How can I meet some new friends and maybe get a girlfriend?
Q. hello, i am almost 18 years old. i have been living in a new city for a few days now and i do not know anyone (except for some neighboors here and there but no to hang out with). these past couple of days i have not have much chance to meet a...
A. 4 July 2007: I suggest to take dance lessons. Learn salsa, waltz, tango, etc...basically walk in there and tell them you want to learn to dance so that you can dance at peoples weddings. That will cover all the dance that you need to know.
Lots of girls ta... (read in full...)
He's moving out of our mother's finally but he's just replacing her with a girlfriend
Q. My 37 yr old brother has yet to cut the cord with our mom. Now he tells me he wants to do just that and finally move out. But his plan is to move into his wealthy girlfriends furnished house in florida. How can I make him see he's replacing one ...
A. 4 July 2007: Why do you feel it necessary to make him see anything? If you want him to grow up, you are going to have to let him make, and learn from, his own mistakes. I know you care about him, but you "fathering" him is just as bad as your mother still ... (read in full...)
Husband knows my one-night stand from 10 years ago!
Q. just told husband about one night stand i had 10 years before i met him. he seems upset because he also knows this person. what should i do?...
A. 4 July 2007: I have to ask why you told him now, and not before.
Also, it is someone he knows that he hates, or someone that is still in your social circle?
If I was in that situation, assuming it is someone that I know, I would feel like I have just been p... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex w/ the guy I've been seeing. I want to ask about his sexual past as I'm worried about STDs, but how? It's so awkward!
Q. I feel uncomfortable asking people how many people they have slept with and if they are 'clean'. I have recently been hooking up with this guy and we do like each other but are not ready for a serious relationship quite yet. I feel that I have a ...
A. 4 July 2007: Go to a doctor, no matter what he says. He may either lie to you, or he may not even know if he has something.
Talk to him DIRECTLY about it, in private, and let him know that this NEEDS to be discussed.
Next, I would suggest that you might w... (read in full...)
Can my mum put him in jail when we have had no sexual or really physical contact what so ever???
Q. ok I am 16 years old, I hate guys my age they're too immature... I recently started dating this 20 year old guy and me and him have done nothing but talk but my mom called him up threatening to put him in jail for just talking to me...the funny ...
A. 4 July 2007: Well it depends. Laws vary from country to country, and within countries, territory to territory. Let me put it to you this way...it is not about what acutally happened but how the law is interpreted.
For example, in some places the age of conse... (read in full...)
I can't imagine not wanting sex so I would imagine if I could just get her to want it more, we could both be happier!
Q. Hi, I'm married over 10 years now and love my wife very much. Lately, however, I have been feeling like I'm getting a bit old and wanting more sex to compensate. I fear having a dull, brother/sister type marriage. I'm extremely sexual and could have ...
A. 4 July 2007: Hey There,
"One of the biggest factors that wives get turned OFF by their husbands is that she feels more like your mother, than your lover." This is a valid point. I'm just thinking as I read this that it's funny how men never complain about ha... (read in full...)
My 3 female fellow students want the 4 of us to go on holiday together but I don't think my girlfriend is too keen on the idea seeing as she wouldn't be going.
Q. Hi! I ask to get some opinions. I study maths and have three female fellow students I used to learn with for the past two years. My girlfriend of just over two years studies history at the same university. She knows this friend. And all of those ...
A. 4 July 2007: After reading your response I have a new suggestion for you:
Do NOT go on the trip, and use that money to take your gf out for a weekend cottage trip just the two of you for her birthday.
That is assuming your gf is more of a priority than th... (read in full...)
He's always out with his girl friends and I'm never invited
Q. my boyfriend goes to the movies with his close female friends all the time and im NEVER invited. he goes with them at least once a week sometimes with a couple of them and sometimes with just one of them and i know a couple of them have a crush on ...
A. 3 July 2007: Your bf is cheating on you. There is no reason not to invite you along if they are just friends.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I slept with someone else everytime I temporarily broke up with my boyfriend..is this okay?
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend because we always fight and argue a lot. I hate the fact I did. Anyway, when we broke up...I slept with someone else because I thought it was really going to be over this time and I should move on. But a couple d...
A. 1 July 2007: Did you cheat? No. You were broken up at the time. Is it wrong? No.
HOWEVER,
does your bf know? Did he even ask you about it? Did you ask him about it? What is the understanding between you and him about talking about your other sexual par... (read in full...)
She always passes my desk with a smug smile on her face, what is with her?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up after 9 months because he was fooling around with a married woman he works with. I also work for the same place. It's been a few weeks now and I have made no contact but it's hard seeing both of them at work when there ...
A. 30 June 2007: Ask your lawyer how the following comment might be taken:
Her: (smiling)
You: Hi (name), how are your husband (or husbandS if you feel nasty)
Her: fine
You: Your sure?
Set this up as your regular greeting to her, and I doubt if she will keep... (read in full...)
She always passes my desk with a smug smile on her face, what is with her?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up after 9 months because he was fooling around with a married woman he works with. I also work for the same place. It's been a few weeks now and I have made no contact but it's hard seeing both of them at work when there ...
A. 30 June 2007: She is using you to feel better about herself. Emotionally speaking, you are doing yourself a disservice if you stay at that job. Look into the sexual harassment and other work harassments laws in your area. You might have a case. She is going ... (read in full...)
Is a relationship with a third cousin incestuous?
Q. i am in a relationship with my 3rd cousin, am i incest? if i had a kid would it have a birth defect? also if im pregnant how should i tell our family?...
A. 30 June 2007: In some parts of the world the closest relative you can marry is a first cousin. As a 3rd cousin, there does not seem to be an issue for law.
There IS a higher chance for birth defects. When I did my family tree, I found that birth defects ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give him the wrong idea
Q. i split up with my boyfriend two weeks ago and we are still in touch and often speak. he is going to his mates engagement party tomorrow night and has invited me to go with him and he said he would pay for my train there and back i am just scared ...
A. 30 June 2007: Do not go.
No matter what you told him of it meaning nothing, he will take your actions to indicate that you DO want to be with him, even if you say you don't.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I want to send my boyfriend naked pics of myself
Q. My boyfried of two years is now long distance and I miss our sex life. Would it be stupid to e-mail him some nude pictures of myself? I am no model and a little bit round around the waist. Will he be shocked? How do I pose?...
A. 30 June 2007: I have an idea...how about you send me those nude photos first, and I can give you my opinion? Does that sound less appealing for someone that barely knows you to get his grubby mits on those pics of yours? I am assuming that you would not like ... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 30 June 2007: Jendorset,
Get a hold of yourself. Read the poster's question again. Look at what she is asking. Look at the way she is behaving, and look at what she is about to lose if she does not change.
Do you really think that encouraging some... (read in full...)
I love this girl, but she is married and doesn't want to wreck her home
Q. i have an ex girlfriend who is already married and has a baby . she got pregnant before she married . she told me she doint like the boy who impregnanted her and asked me if i coud still marry her if she gave birth. i agreed but later requested her ...
A. 27 June 2007: Dude, walk away. Do you really think she would treat you any better than she is currently treating her husband, if you were her new husband? You can do better than this.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Little white lies that grew into an enormous web of deceit
Q. Huge delima i am in,actually alot of stressful drama. To start of,i know some of this is my own fault,i also am a grown woman and will deal with any reactions that come forth myway as a cause to actions set forth. Became close friends with a ma...
A. 27 June 2007: Wow. Ouch. Firstly, see a labor lawyer. That will cover your legal issues. You were under duress when you signed the papers, but you may have to sue them to prove it.
Next, check out your unemployement office, and see what forms you need to ... (read in full...)
After four years, she's not interested in sex. When I bring it up, she accuses me of only wanting her for sex!
Q. Hi Guys, I'm really hoping someone out their can help me as Im so damn confused. My girlfriend and I have been together nearly 4 years. My problem is that lately (over the past few months) she just doesn't seem interested in being intimite with me ...
A. 27 June 2007: Well this makes total sense now. Firstly I am going to suggest couples counciling. Her for her date rape, and you for not being to handle it.
Dude, you went COLD on her? No wonder she does not trust you to be intimate anymore. Everytim... (read in full...)
My 3 female fellow students want the 4 of us to go on holiday together but I don't think my girlfriend is too keen on the idea seeing as she wouldn't be going.
Q. Hi! I ask to get some opinions. I study maths and have three female fellow students I used to learn with for the past two years. My girlfriend of just over two years studies history at the same university. She knows this friend. And all of those ...
A. 27 June 2007: I think if your gf would have a problem with this, she would be right. People do things on vacation they would not do at home. You may not be tempted to try something...sober anyways...but you can not speak for any of them, nor can you be sure ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine not wanting sex so I would imagine if I could just get her to want it more, we could both be happier!
Q. Hi, I'm married over 10 years now and love my wife very much. Lately, however, I have been feeling like I'm getting a bit old and wanting more sex to compensate. I fear having a dull, brother/sister type marriage. I'm extremely sexual and could have ...
A. 27 June 2007: This is going to sound ridiculous, but talk to her and ask her how she would feel if you took on another lover. I am serious. Maybe she would be up for you to have your sex elsewhere (visit a swingers club), or such, so taht she does not have ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be any more than my neighbour's friend?
Q. Next door neighbor - women and I have had a friendship/sexual relationship on and off for the past seven years. About 16 months ago she came to me and told me she loved me and wanted a relationship. At the time she was depressed and not happy with ...
A. 27 June 2007: You had your chance and you blew it.
Now that you two are friends, why would she risk that by getting into a relationship with you? If it fails, she loses both a good provider friend, and a boyfriend.
She is right to stay with her boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
I am female and have hair growing out of my chest on both sides, is this normal???
Q. dear cupid I am 16 under going into puberty. I seem to have a little concern, my chest seems to grow but on my right side of the chest has hair and the other side doesn't. Is this normal and what worries me more is will my left side grows hair ...
A. 27 June 2007: The question says "female", the profile reads "male". Is this a legit question with a typo or the same stupid kid that wasted people's time in the past with similar fake questions?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
After four years, she's not interested in sex. When I bring it up, she accuses me of only wanting her for sex!
Q. Hi Guys, I'm really hoping someone out their can help me as Im so damn confused. My girlfriend and I have been together nearly 4 years. My problem is that lately (over the past few months) she just doesn't seem interested in being intimite with me ...
A. 27 June 2007: Not giving you sex, and then accusing you of only wanting sex is a manipulation tactic. Something deeper is going on. I suggest that you start to look for a new girlfriend. She has either started seeing someone else already and is saving herself ... (read in full...)
My husband and his brother's wife had an affair. I feel his brother needs to know, but I don't want him to hurt as I do. Children are involved - what should I do??
Q. I found out my husband had an affair with his brother's wife. I am now going through a divorce. Learning about the affair has almost destroyed me. His brother knows nothing about the affair. I know my soon-to-be ex-husband and his broth...
A. 27 June 2007: When you said: "If it were the other way around I would hope his brother would tell me."
I think that says it all.
Firstly, talk to your lawyer...there may be legal reasons for you NOT to say something...your husband could accuse you of ly... (read in full...)
My 'friend with benefits' is meeting a girl and I'm jealous
Q. How deal with friends with benefits? My roommate and I have been "friends with benefits" for nine years. Tomorrow this girl he has been talking to is coming home. During this week he has mention her name to me more than once. For example, he said ...
A. 27 June 2007: What did you think was going to happen? I mean freinds with benefits is never suppose to be a lasting thing, unless you are openly living the swinger lifestyle.
Were you roommates before you were FB? Have you dated other men in the last 9 y... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get over my ex--please help!
Q. OK, here is my situation..if there is any advice I would appreciate it. Me and my ex dated for 5 months or so and it was great, we'd fight some then have sex to vent frustrations. I lived 30 minutes from her and couldn't drive, so when we did see ...
A. 27 June 2007: You have come across too needy, and that has killed whatever attraction was there to begin with. In my experience, the only way to get her to find you attractive enough to ever consider you again, is for her to know and see you date other women. ... (read in full...)
I'm leaving town so I won't need to see them together. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. for the past few weeks i have been heart broken because i was dumped by a man who has decided to go back to the woman he got pregnant because he says it is the right thing to do because he wants his child to grow up with a mom and dad and not that ...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey there,
I would strongly suggest that he demand a paternaty test be done. If he acts like a father, and it turns out it is not his later, becuase he acted without asking, he might STILL be financially liable even if it is not his kid.
... (read in full...)
I'm leaving town so I won't need to see them together. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. for the past few weeks i have been heart broken because i was dumped by a man who has decided to go back to the woman he got pregnant because he says it is the right thing to do because he wants his child to grow up with a mom and dad and not that ...
A. 26 June 2007: Do you live in such a small town that you can not help but see them on a regular basis? Is running from town a tactic you used in the past, and if so, did it work out for you?
If it is a very small town, then moving in order for you to move on ... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 25 June 2007: To Jendorset and the Original Poster,
I stand by my original answer.
I am not here to be "nice" and tell people what they think they want to hear. I am here to be honest about what I think becuase I beleive I help people with being hones... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 19 June 2007: How do you grow up? Well first you have to WANT to grow up...and it does not sound like you want to. How does any spoiled brat grow up? Maybe a strong dose of reality.
I almost hope he does dump you. Maybe the pain of losing the best guy you ... (read in full...)
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