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WHO IS THE RICH MAN?
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CRAZY THOUGHT
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23 October 2008: CAN'T WAIT TO SEE WHAT GETS SAID FROM THIS ONE! XX--"ACCUSED" You have the choice to live with a gorilla who knows sign language or a dog who sings lullabies, which do you choose? What would chairs look like if our knees were on the back of ou...
Want to find out how you would act in a relationship, take this test.
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13 July 2008: After reading all these articles I decided to throw this in there too! I was given this test by a "relationship theropist" LOL yes that title does exist! However it was interesting to see just which one you pick....... Read the question, don't ...
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Does the amount of lovers you've had in the past matter?
Q. Hi, I'm 24 and just broken up with my boyfriend. He made me feel pretty bad a lot of the time and one of the things he said which upset me was that I've slept with loads of people and I'm a slag. He used to count on his fingers the people he kn...
A. 19 May 2009: Let me start off by saying I hope you've excersided using safe sex methods, no matter if the number was 1 or 101. I am not going to say that number of lovers you've been with in the past is or isn't a problem. Honestly I think its the person, I ... (read in full...)
Why am I disappointed? I'm not so excited about the new car!
Q. Why am I disappointed? I'm not so excited about the new car? Ok, so my boyfriend purchased a 'classic' car. It needs tons of repair work. That will take a bit of time to get that baby in good shape again. Anyways, he had said 'first a ...
A. 19 May 2009: I can understand your feelings on this one. You are looking at it as have a place to live, before you have a "classic car". Did your boyfriend discuss with you about buying the car? or was it one of those "surprise" things? First off if both of ... (read in full...)
He kissed my Mom--should I ever trust him again?
Q. hi all,this my first time here and i hope that you help me with my problem,i found this site using google cuz i really don't now what to do? my problem is that i recntly cut down my boyfriend because he did something very terrible. see,my parent...
A. 4 January 2009: Sorry you had to witness such an event! Let me say that honestly you are not going to be able to trust either of them.... Sadly enough it was your mother that betrayed you, blood is thicker than water... Personally I think you should leave him ... (read in full...)
He still talks to his ex girlfriend and it bugs me like crazy!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now. I really love him and Trust him completely when it comes to him talking to other girls. The only thing is, he still talks to his ex girlfriend and it bugs me like crazy! He dated her about ...
A. 4 January 2009: I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you trust your boyfriend then you will have to let him have freedom to talk to whom ever he wants. Trust me on this one, if he wants to be with another woman then he will... but if you feel that ... (read in full...)
How to be secure in love...
Q. How to be secure in love... When you enter a relationship, it opens up hundreds, thousands of uncertain feelings. Little potholes in our sanity and they can easily make their ways into becoming tunnels. I was the most confident person in the wo...
A. 23 October 2008: A PERSONS INTENTIONS, ARE BEST JUDGED BY THEIR ACTIONS.... Best of Luck
Accused... (read in full...)
What if he wants to get back with me... should I say yes?
Q. Hi all Bit of help please, me and my boyfriend split last week. He's saying he still had strong fellings for his ex, and that he liked me but didn't love me after 9 months together, thing is she's still with her current boyfriend. My ex and her ...
A. 20 October 2008: Why would you want to be with someone that is basically putting you second on the girlfriend chain? There is nothing in this world that will ever compare or even be bargarined for is your self worth & resepct! and basically what this situation ... (read in full...)
What do I say to tell him I really DO want to break up with him for good?
Q. Hi, I split up with my boyfriend about a week ago today because I needed space and he keeps texting me every day and it's starting to feel like he's smothering me. I asked him to wait for me while I sort my head out and now I think I have come to ...
A. 20 October 2008: If you care anything about this man, then you will be honest with him. If you keep going at the rate you've been, you will eventually hurt him more in the long run, and thats just not fair to anyone. If he smothers you and can't give you the space ... (read in full...)
My ex husband and I live together in my house...
Q. My ex-husband and I live together in my house. We have been together for about 5 years he has a drinking problem and gets verbal abusive, he is in construction and hasn't had much work, I can't afford the house payment on my own so I am going to ...
A. 20 October 2008: First off let me just say that being with someone who has a drinking problem is hard enough, let alone having to give into such demands just to avoid a fight, for that I commend you! On the other hand I think you should look at the over all picture ... (read in full...)
She says she's showing signs of a pregnancy and is threatening to sue me for child support! What should I do?
Q. I thought I had feelings for a girl but I realized that I didn't after we got naughty in the car. However she was telling me that she was on birth control and that I shouldn't have to worry about it. I didn't ejaculate at all during intercourse and ...
A. 20 October 2008: If I am reading your question correctly you said;
"At the moment she is going for a test to see if she was pregnant however it has been less then 48 hours since intercourse and she is saying she is showing signs of it".
and if I am reading ... (read in full...)
Over the past year our relationship has taken a turn for the worse.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for five years and we have two children together, over the past year our relationship has taken a turn for the worse. He went to prison and then cheated on me and got another girl pregnant. It's actually at the point ...
A. 18 October 2008: To be honest it sounds like your already a single Mom. Just a single Mom with a lot of baggage and is not your load to carry. I can understand where you are coming from on how people will see you if you do leave this man, but what are they seeing ... (read in full...)
I am having a hard time with him keeping a hang on his past, is it me or what?
Q. I been married for a very short time and it seems he cant let go of his past girl friend he keeps her pics in his puter looks for her emails and he had bought this dog for her and after a yr or two she didnt wat it so he kept it the dog comes ...
A. 25 September 2008: Personally I don't see how you could feel anything but what your going thru/ Marriage is suppose to be one man-one woman. Not you, him, and his ex girlfriend! Apparently he does not understand what "RESPECT" your wife means. I know I would be ... (read in full...)
We've had intimate moments, although not full sex, we've spent weekends together - and suddenly he doesn't want me to get too attached!?
Q. ok, so i've been dating "mike" for about 4 months now. We can only see each other on weekends because of our work schedules and bc we live 40 mins away from each other. We only talk a couple times a week and thru text (he never calls) just to see ...
A. 3 September 2008: Let me just say this "When a Man tells you, he's not ready for a relationship" BELIEVE HIM! So many times women get their feelings all caught up with the "sweet" and "naked times".... Only to be the first to ask someone "Why is this man treating ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend losing interest and taking me for granted?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 1.5 years now. She is 19 and I'm 21. When we first started dating we saw each other quite often- 3-4 times a week, which is expected at the beginning of any relationship. We usually spent some time ...
A. 3 September 2008: I am proud of you for actually talking to her and sticking to your guns (even though I know its hard)...You did the best thing for you, her, & the relationship! Now as far as you wanting to know about who calls who? My advice is "You" should call ... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for staying? My wife's pregnant, we don't know who is the father, the other guy lives with us.
Q. Hi I am 26 years old I have been married almost 2 years now. well let me start off by telling you my faults so that you might understand her side of it. Before we got married I started talking to a girl from work, but never did anything sexually ...
A. 20 August 2008: I am going to say this and I am giving my advice off of your question and the reasons you listed.
First she sounds to me like someone who is getting everything she wants (in all directions)! She has no respect for, your daughter, the unborn c... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend losing interest and taking me for granted?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 1.5 years now. She is 19 and I'm 21. When we first started dating we saw each other quite often- 3-4 times a week, which is expected at the beginning of any relationship. We usually spent some time ...
A. 20 August 2008: I must say that you seem to be a down to earth man. My advice to you is to just back off for a little while, I am not saying to break up with her or anything. Sometimes we want to keep things just as they were when we first met that person, but ... (read in full...)
Want to find out how you would act in a relationship, take this test.
Q. After reading all these articles I decided to throw this in there too! I was given this test by a "relationship theropist" LOL yes that title does exist! However it was interesting to see just which one you pick....... Read the question, don't ...
A. 20 July 2008: HEY GUYS ACCUSED HERE!
I MUST SAY THAT I WAS "LMAO" AT SOME OF THE REPLYS TO THIS TEST! I LOVE THIS SITE.....
TAKE CARE,
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I'm still in love with my ex, how can I win her back?
Q. Ok, so.... Here goes. I've been split up from my ex for a while now, around 6 months, and i want her back. I was desperately in love with her and i still am. There's a hitch though. We haven't talked in those six months (she's since changed her numb...
A. 14 July 2008: Well first I would start by sending an email and just explain to her that you need to talk. Hoping she gives you a reply, then once you've actually set up a talk session, explain to her how you feel & how you want her back. If she doesn't responde ... (read in full...)
I feel like my friend doesn't value our friendship.
Q. i have this friend a he treats me like crap when he's with his other friends, were always fighting it's like he doesn't value my friendship. but he's the closes friend al my other friends live like a mile or more away and i'm only 13 but i want to ...
A. 14 July 2008: Friends don't treat friends this way! At least none of them that I've got.. Have you tried talking to him? Asking him why he treats you this way in front of others? Possible he could one of those people that just don't know their being rude! If ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so mean? And how can I move on?
Q. Oh Please Help Me! How do you get over a bf of three years? You all told me before to get rid of him - I did then went back and now we are not talking - I found out he was on those sex sites telling women where to meet him when he is out of town - ...
A. 14 July 2008: I am just going to be as honest with you as I can.. You should leave him alone! I know this is easier said than done, but if you continue on like this, in the end you will always end up feeling like you do right now! I know that we sometimes like ... (read in full...)
I have multiple girls in my life, and I am confused, please help me?
Q. once a maid told me that i should have 5 girlfriends and i should pick which one i want to marry.. 1 is my first love . ex girlfriend . a lot of drama . she got wit my one of my bestfriends after i hooked up wit her friend. ive hit her before w...
A. 11 July 2008: Wow! What a web we weave! First off you know the old saying "you will always love your first love" this is true, but if this #1. got with your Best Friend then can you truly look past that? And you said she was pack with drama.. You have to ask ... (read in full...)
This girl acts very strange towards me, does she like me or what?
Q. well i dont know how to word this right but this year when i was in school i would sometimes talk to this girl and sometimes she would flirt back but then recentlly she just randomly yells at me to "shutup" and "no one likes me" and it was all ...
A. 11 July 2008: Sounds to me this girl is RUDE and needs to learn how to talk to other people... The next time she starts to yell at you when this certain friend is around call her bluff! Yell back and ask her why is she does this in front of this certain friend? ... (read in full...)
Had great chemistry with him, but he was a cheater, will I find someones else who I connect with, as I did with him?
Q. I dated this guy for a year. we clicked and i thought he was the one.although he consistently cheated i was sure i was the one. anyway i recently ended it coz i couldnt take it anymore.we had so much chemistry though i cant help thinking ill never ...
A. 11 July 2008: Clicking with someone and being cheated on are not what I call the way to spend your life with someone. If this man constantly cheated on you, then apparently the "clicking" was not the problem. I was happy to see that you didn't want to settle! ... (read in full...)
I am very unhappy with my boyfriend's actions towards me, please give me some advice, I can't stand this??
Q. Im so confussed on what to do. The problems is my boyfriend is a super against me drinking, cause i got drunk like last month and he got super ticked off! so now anytime im not with him and im with other people he gets worried and starts to freak ...
A. 11 July 2008: SarahCa1989.... No one MAKES us do anything! We make our own decisions... Therefore your not a victim, but a volunteer.... If your BF treats you this way, then you should try to have a rational conversation with him and let him know how his ... (read in full...)
Can I be a player and possibly cheat, without hurting anyone?
Q. when i was growing up i had the status. of getting with girls. ppl called me a player but i wasnt like a slut.. i finally settled down and i got a lil soft but just not really a player anymore. now finally i have girls in my life.. and i kind of ...
A. 11 July 2008: sounds to me that you don't need to be a player, you already got the high score! If you want to be a player then my advice is not to be tied down with just one! Let them all know up front that you are not commited to anyone and that your not ... (read in full...)
I am in need of a website, or magazine, which show different hairstyles, can anyone help me, thanks?
Q. i really want to get a new hairstyle. i have been growing my hair for quite sometime and am wondering weather or not i now want long hair. i dont really have a clue about boys hairstyles aorund my age and have been trying to find a website or mag...
A. 11 July 2008: hairstyles.com
There are software cd's available for you to put your own face into and see the hair style before you actually cut it... You can try to "google"......... (read in full...)
I promised my girlfriend a great gift, for her birthday, but I have no idea what to get her, please help me with suggestions?
Q. Its my girlfriends birthday coming up and we have been together what will be 2years in November. Stupidly I said to her that I will get her something really good for her birthday, now as it's getting closer she is starting to get excited by what I ...
A. 11 July 2008: You sound like a really sweet guy! What is your GF into? Does she collect anything? Has she mentioned anything that she may like to have? I am sure that whatever you give her will be appreciated, considering it is from your heart! Trust me, ... (read in full...)
I am with somebody else but still think of my ex, who was very unstable.
Q. I was in a relationship with a guy for about a year and a half. I my eyes he was totally gorgeous (never seen anyone I have been more attracted to) for the first 6 months everything was great then out of the blue he dumped me. I was heart broken but ...
A. 11 July 2008: I don't think that its your ex you can't forget, its the way he left you that you can't get over. I'm not saying that you didn't love him.. To you things seemed to be perfect and when he just up and dumped you is what you can't forget! It sounds ... (read in full...)
She's a recovering drug addict and alcoholic - What can I do, aside from support her?
Q. I am in love with my soulmate. I have been in love with her for three years, and two months ago we finally got it together. Everything between us is perfect, I can talk to her about anything. But of course, there's a problem, and it's a biggie: s...
A. 11 July 2008: Anything is possible to work out, if its something that two people wants bad enough... I totally respect the fact that your GF is trying to turn her life around, thats a HUGE step off the bat... As for the time frame on when she will be ok to ... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't work and is immature, the new guy is a drug dealer. Who do I choose?
Q. ok i got a problem...ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and i love him to death, but he dont work he is kinda immatuire and we fight about stupid things...well i met this other guy he is so sweet to me he is all i think about he does everything ...
A. 30 June 2008: Seems to me that you've got the wrong end of the stick no matter which one of them you go after. The bf that doesn't work, means you will be left to pay for everything (which is not right)! And is not a very dependable person to have in your life. ... (read in full...)
My brother and his girlfriend had a baby. I want one so much...
Q. ok my brother and his girl just had a baby and i love her dearly and i want one but you see im only 13 and they live far away so i dont get to see her that much and i really want one what should i do ...
A. 30 June 2008: I think you should sit down and understand the hard work it takes to raise a child, the money needed to provide for it. It seems to me that you are looking for something to fill a lonely space in your life, my advice would be to find a hobby or ... (read in full...)
How can I trust him again?
Q. I have just had twin girls and found out that my husbund has been cheating on me for the last 2 months. I dont know what to do. he says he is sorry he bashed the door down to speak to me how can i trust him again? xx thanks...
A. 25 June 2008: Hmm well bashing the door down to talk to you, is not what I would call being able to hold your temper... When someone has to hit or bash things to get another person to listen there is def a problem. All I'm going to say is, if he's been cheating ... (read in full...)
Broken up 2 nights ago. Is it too soon to text her friend?
Q. I just broke up with my girlfriend about 2 nights ago. Would it be bad form to start texting her friend and meet up with her?...
A. 25 June 2008: Can I say "YES" in caps? lol.... Did you even care about your ex? how long were you two together? I think that you should give it some time before you start to text her friends! Trust me, you don't want to be caught in the middle of two women ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help with a dream about a number?
Q. It is a bit different, but, I was wondering if someone could help me? I had a dream about a number. The number was , 17.... It was very significant, and at the I got a strong message,to not forget it.. I tried to find out things ,but I have luck of ...
A. 23 June 2008: I need to know more about the dream, what were you dreaming of other than the #17? Were there any certain colors that stood out, etc
Accused... (read in full...)
I love her but she's annoying....any ideas on how to get her to stop being so persistent?
Q. Hi I've been with my Girlfriend for 4 years. She has started to really grind on me. *She rings me 5 times a day to talk rubbish (e.g a person in the supermarket just annoyed her).If she rings and i dont answer she'll ring back straight away a...
A. 23 June 2008: Sounds to me like this woman is a "CONTROL FREAK" and has trust issues! I noticed in your post that you used words like "she won't let me" and you asked her if you could go with your friends and she said no! What is she your GF or your Mother? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, we already have 4 kids and I can't handle any more! She won't agree to abortion, any advice?
Q. My girlfriends pregnant again... We already have 4 kids, she popped the first sprog out when she was 15, had to stay with her ever since, i dont wanna leave her but i cant handle any more kids! Its doin my nut in! She wont get rid of it either., ...
A. 23 June 2008: First thing I would do is talk to your GF and decide which one is going to get fixed. I know they offer several birth control options now that will last up to 10yrs or better. I can't say that I have a lot of empathy for you right now, You have 4 ... (read in full...)
Our kids live with me, can she force me to do a DNA test to prove they're not all mine and take them away?
Q. Split up with my long term girlfriend last year and she's been trying to make life difficult for me since. Our kids live with me and that's where they want to be. Now she wants a DNA test to prove they're not all mine. I'm not going to willingly do ...
A. 23 June 2008: Thanks for the fast response. I totally respect you for loving those children, weather or not their blood has no bare on your heart. It sounds to me that this woman is trouble with a capital "T". I don't understand why she is wanting to do DNA ... (read in full...)
How do I know when it is OK to be sexually active? I'm 15.
Q. im only 15 yrs old how do i know when im sexualy active because i want to have sex but then i dont want to but i really do want to have sex badly with my bf and how do i tell my bf im ready to have sex with him?...
A. 22 June 2008: First off let me say that there is plenty of time for sex.. Being a mature adult is a start for being ready. If you are unsure and keep changing your mind on what you want, then I would say that you just chill out and wait till your mature enough ... (read in full...)
I love him too much to let him go but I'm tired of his mood swings.
Q. i'm sick of my boyfriend always being in a mood over something, he's been like this ever sinse i've known him, but its gotten' worse sinse we've been going out. all my life people have always put me down, and when he's in that mood, he's exactly the ...
A. 22 June 2008: Sounds to me that your BF maybe bi polar. Maybe you should consider researching the internet and check the sites that are available for people with this disorder. As far as, him putting you down and making you feel like crap, You are in charge of ... (read in full...)
Our kids live with me, can she force me to do a DNA test to prove they're not all mine and take them away?
Q. Split up with my long term girlfriend last year and she's been trying to make life difficult for me since. Our kids live with me and that's where they want to be. Now she wants a DNA test to prove they're not all mine. I'm not going to willingly do ...
A. 22 June 2008: If she is paying you child support of any kind, she can go thru the courts and establish paternity. Do you have any doubts about the children? You can beat her to the punch and go thru the courts yourself, how old are your children? What was the ... (read in full...)
I revealed to my closest friend that I am bisexual and she said I should tell this to other people soon...
Q. Okay so here it goes... I have been thinking for a long time about this and i'm still not entirely sure but i think i migth be bisexual... and i know there is nothing wrong with it... Just yesterday i had a chat with my closest friend and told ...
A. 22 June 2008: I can relate to your current situation. My brother is gay, he went for so long not saying a word to anyone. Even though you could just tell he was, he would lie & say that he wasn't. Looking back now, I realize why he lied, he was protecting our ... (read in full...)
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