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writes: I dont know what to do,I found these sites:local gay personals in my city, meeting men who crossdress, ladies underwear, feminizing men on my computer . I went and questioned him he said it was either his friends or sites that just pop up when a key word is typed that it doesn't mean that is a specific search. How do you know if your husband is gay,or is experienment being gay? I feel very hurt and much rejected- I cant talk to him, now not even being sexual with him.
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reader, PujaSing  +, writes (10 April 2011):
I had long term fetish to wear sarees and all other indian woman ornaments. Before my marriage i pierced my ears and wore studs into them. It was acceptable for all. I always tried to find ways to wear saree.Two years back i got married. My wife is really caring. I used to wear her clothes and earrings whenever i get alone time secretly. I always maintained a big hair so that i can make a pony tail as soon as i get lone time. I collected many feminine things like imitation jewelery like necklace sets and huge jhumkis, Heavy payal that makes lots of sound and bangles of different colors.I even stitched some blouses that match my wife's sarees with an unknown tailor in an remote area. I use to wear all these when my wife is not around. I think once or twise she got a doubt on me by observing my earring hole size which got a little stretched due to heavy earrings i used to wear in her absence. I always dreamed if i could tell all these to my wife....Once my mother in law came to stay with us for a few days. During this period my wife had to attend her friend's marriasge for two days. She left for it and i immediately sensed the chance and decided to spend all the time home in my room rather that in our bed room. My mother in law would sleep in her bed room. During the second night i wore all the jewelery and a nighty of my wife and big payal in my feet. Since i was in my room i had to come out to move to bathroom. I just came out casually and got into the bathroom. But what i did't notice was my MIL was in the kitchen to have some water. As soon as i came out of bathroom she switched the lights on on hearing the anklet bell sound from my feet. I was shocked to see her. She was also shocked to see me with a pony tail and in nighty with big earrings that chained into the hair. She looked at my anklets. I was trying hard to hide my 18 bangles i wore in hand. We looked at each other for some time with absolute silence. Then she moved from there and i jumped into my room and removed everything and become natural. I could't sleep that night. Then i went to her and promised that i will not do it again. She was silent....... And i moved on..Next day my wife came in and it was very hard staying home and i moved to office early. and came late. This would happen every day. And as my birthday was nearing my wife and MIL went to buy something for me.After two weeks on my birthday...in the morning both came to me and wished me and presented me with their respective gifts. I was surprised to see the gifts. As i opened up my wife's gift i was shocked to see a cream colored saree with red border and a matching blouse of my size and petticote. And my mother inlaw gifted me matching necklace and big ear jewelery.., bangles, A cute nose jewel was also there which would adorn a non pierced nose. Then i looked at them with guilt and surprise......Then my wife kissed me and narrated what has happened.....She said " i had my doubts earlier and oneday when i was passing by your room i just saw you watching your own photo in saree... And once my mother told me the night incidence i checked your computer which had so many photos of you in my sarees. To be frank you were so cute in them. And also collected a blouse from your room for measurement. We both discussed it and decided that we will support you..after all what's wrong in this ..... infact i am proud that my husband is versatile and unique. So get ready for the evening dinner and we will move to a restaurant with you wearing a saree. If people can't recognise you then ok...Otherwise let them feel whatever they want to"...I felt very happy.Then she asked me shave cleanly including the eyebrows and applied a lot of makeup on my face. She created new feminine eyebrows with a pencil kind of thing. Then adorned my hair with a bouncy hair style. Then i wore the saree and other ornaments including the nosering(i liked it the most).We went to hotel in outskirts and to my surprise nobody recignised me.......now i do dress freely in sarees and chudidar as soon as i get part time and my wife supports it.....
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reader, saga +, writes (15 August 2010):
we did love marriage.against wishes of both parents.i am 35 year old my wife is 32 .my wife loves me very very much.initially she was not intested in sex.one day she asked me to wear her dress .initially i hesitated then i wore her saree.bra, inner pantties.that day we both enjoyed to maximum.from then on she began to ask me to wear salwar,saree.bra.regularly .now i am comfotable with saree in my home we regularly exchange sarees.i have stopped wearing male dress in my home for past 3 years.office i wear male dress .i feel relaxed comfortable in sarees salwar bra .i some times feel my breast has enlarged.. not only woman can feel the feeling of woman even man can .to give wife most satifaction it is really thrill to exchange each others dress.i continue to wear saree bra.salwar lifelong.plz help
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reader, Louise577  +, writes (6 November 2009):
My question to you is, how is your sex life? I am a cross-dresser and I love wearing woman's clothes. I have been married 38 years and my wife hates sex. My desire to cross-dress existed before our marriage and grew even more when we started having sex problems. My wife is my best friend and we have raised a family together. My sex life is my own and she understands what I am going through also. She is now my biggest fan and we no longer have sex together.If your husband is unsatisfied at home,his hormones will make him wonder why.Do you understand? If he is your best friend open a discussion about how you feel about sex and gay,woman's underwear and see his reaction. You must get it out in the open to be able to talk about it. Then, your friendship takes over.My wife and I committed to never going to bed mad at each other and that has meant many sleepless nights but, we never went to bed mad.If your husband loves woman's undies he has for a very long time. My wife accepts this and we are very happy together.Good luckLouise(Pierre)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): that is a sad story he might have been faking being straight or he might be experimenting i do not know but if he is a good husband he will likely stay with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2007): Relax. The assumption you're making is an interest in cross-dressing means your husband's gay. Probably he's not. More than likely he gets pleasure out of wearing women's clothes, a very different thing. Does this reflect on you? No. It probably means he finds COMFORT in wearing women's clothes. Is that wrong/abnormal? No, it's very common. What's it mean? Probably, in early childhood, your husband was maternally deprived, ie not loved by his mother/other women enough. Lacking their touch, their clothes become the next best thing. I know because that's my story and I am heterosexual, have six children, and have worn women's clothes, privately, all my adult life. What does your husband need? YOU. You to get him to be open about this, to talk about it, to see that he expresses what may be very difficult feelings. He has a need you need to understand. It's no different than any other need that's suppressed and ridiculed by others - as being gay used to be. Your next step. Learn as much as you can about cross-dressing, come to terms with it, separate it in your mind from being gay etc, and get to believe that your husband NEEDS you in this. Then talk to him with love and you will turn a negative secret into a positive virtue. Help him, understand him, love him. That's what marriage is about. Me? My women all know my liking for women's clothes, some are more positive than others. I'm comfortable with myself and the only people I keep it from are my children (the younger ones) because of the problem of role definition. So I'm discreet for their sakes. Finally... I personally think it's a real loss to society that men are 'not allowed' to wear skirts etc and express their natural feminity that way in public. It'll come one day I hope...
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (25 October 2006):
 I remember in Ann Landers, there are support groups for straight spouces of gay partners. Check your local area, in the same places you would find Alcoholoics Annoymous. They are trained to deal with this sort of thing.
Also, a visit to a sexologist might give you insights too.
-Frank B Kermit
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