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writes: Its been seven years since my divorce and since this have met no one special, until recently when a man the same age as me has swept me off my feet. Tonight after a romantic meal we where beng honest about our past. He admitted he used to work as a male escort to women. He said he did it to earn extra money following a divorce. He is now working away Mon to Fri as a Sales Manager for a big company, I cant get it out of my head, he might still be working as one. Should I get out now, problem is he is sexy, funny and very loving and it am already hooked!
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (28 October 2006):
 Well he may have been doing it to stay out of debt, honestly i think you should ask if you can handle knowing he was rather than whether or not he's a bad guy. Sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures... If everything is clicking and your happy maybe you should just look past it. I dont think its a great situation but he could be a lot worse right? Maybe you should get out a note pad and right down the pros and cons of the relationship and go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2006):
I try to take the guy's side most time... but get out.
There is a "stripper mentality" and you dont want to be involved with that- man or women.
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reader, fATTYNATTY +, writes (27 October 2006):
 you stated he did it the earn extra money so i doubt he would have done it for truly wanting to, money can push people to all sorts of things.
At least he's told you though, im sure youd be more hurt if you found out from some one else, we all do things were not proud of, but hes trusted you enough to tell you that big secret, so you trust him now, to be there and believe hes the man your hooked on.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (27 October 2006):
 I think the bigger question is that can you hndle his past. Are there things about your past that you are not proud of, or keep from most people's knowledge about you?
Also, the real issue is that has he done something in his past that is against your own values and morals? THAT should be what you are concerned about, more than anything else.
I do not get what the problem is...do you have a problem with his past, and if so, is it because you are intimidated by it, or does it clash with your personal beleifs and principles? Are you worried about what others might think?
Or is it the issue that he is still doing it, and not being honest about it? Please write in again to make clear what your issue is.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 October 2006):
 We have all done things in our past that we aren't exactly proud of some worse than others but you have to understand this is something he did before he met you and it's the past and not allow something from his past to interfer in your future together.
I really feel that if you were both being honest enough for him to tell you he did this in the past that he would also have been honest enough to say he was still doing it if he was.
Let go of his past and accept the future you may have together.
Good luck :o)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (27 October 2006):
 His past is his past. All though it will be tricky trying to cope with what he's done, if he is truly the incredible man you describe him as, you should be able to look past it.
Sometimes people get desperate for money. Money is a horrible thing and can push us to the edge. To pay for college I worked a stripper (which is my little secret), but that doesn't mean I slept around, did a bunch of drugs or was a slut. It's not something I'm proud of, but I was desperate for money and that was the only thing at the time that could pull me through.
I'm sure this man is just being honest with you. Aren't you glad he didn't bust out this secret years later, after you're married or something? You should appreciate his openness with you.
If you doubt that he's stopped, you need to talk to him about it. Perhaps he really has stopped. If he hasn't... well, that's a whole different question.
Slowly but surely, as you grow to love him more, the image of him as an escort will disappear. If it doesn't: behold the wonders of therapy, someone who can help you work past it.
If this man is all you say he is, keep loving him for who he is, not what he's done in the past.
Good luck, girl.
Love, India
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