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writes:Hi. I just wanted to know what the best way to keep things fresh in a long-term relationship is? I'm 17 and recently started dating and i chat with my gf for at least an hour every day. But i'm worried that, at some stage, we might run out of topics to talk about or something like that!! Any suggestions on how to best keep that initial spark going forever will be appreciated.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 May 2007):
 Firstly, do not spend so much time together at first. Next, write down a list of your ten best childhood memories, and then your ten best peack life experiences. Then write out a list of 50 things you love, and 50 things you hate. You now have 120 topics of conversation. Once you have that, find out what her best 10, peak 10, 50 loves, and 50 hates are. There are another 120 topics for talking.
Finally, have INTERESTS that you can explore together. Never taken a dance class? Take one with her. Have you ever been to a museam, or a particular art show? Go with her, and explore those interests together. SImple things like bowling, darts, mini golf, etc...the goal is to do something new with her together at least twice a month, but no more than once a week.
Plan it like that, and the chemistry will continue to burn.
-FBK
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reader, cd206  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 Ah, keeping the spark going.... about as impossible as finding a way to make gold out of salt and water unfortunately. At some stage the spark will fade and you will have less to talk about but the intimacy that will have been built up in the meantime will make sure that you're comfortable with silence and it's not a big deal if you're not talking or worshipping each other for every minute of every day. You'll see. Concentrate on letting the relationship grow at its own pace without worrying about things that haven't happened yet.
CD
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