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writes: Say you have this boyfriend.He doesn't smell extremely bad but a little because he doesn't wear deordorant. You are afraid of what other people will think of him or even of you dating him. Would you feel bad for thinking this? Would you tell him he should wear cologne without saying why or would you tell him the truth? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 May 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
What I would do is get some of that Axe (or whatever brand smells super snazzy. Axe is my favorite.) Deodorant and some of the matching body spray. I would then casually say, "I smelled this stuff and thought that it would smell delicious on you! I don't know what kind you usually use, but you should try this!".
Then, when he uses it, compliment him on how nice he smells! Give him extra hugs and kisses... give him positive reinforcement. Then he might make a habit of wearing deodorant.
I agree with FBK that you should be able to talk about this kind of thing, but I also definitely know how embarrassing it can be. I know you don't want to hurt his feelings and you don't want him to be humiliated.
If he doesn't get the hint after you get him a gift of deodorant, I'd just try to tell him as sweetly and gently as you can. He needs to hear it from someone!
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 May 2007):
 What kind of relationship could you possibly have with him, if you can not even be honest about something like this? If you are too afraid to even be honest with him, your relationship will not work out anyways.
Tell him exactly what you wrote here. As for what people think of him...what should be important to you is what YOU think of him. If you are too worried about what other people think of him, or think of you for being with him, you are not mature enough to be in any relationship.
Sorry if this seems harsh, but if you continue on the path you are on now, you are going to sabotage your future relationships.
-FBK
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