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My gf doesn't want sex anymore! How do you go from wanting it all the time to not at all?

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Question - (15 May 2007) 6 Answers - (Newest, 22 March 2008)
A male United States age 41-50, *RUSTRATED07 writes:

I am 24 yrs old and my girlfriend is 21. we have been together almost 3 yrs. at the beginning of our relationship we were both sex addicts. all the time and anywhere. but for the past few months her sex craving has gone down (so she says) but now she doesnt want sex at all. not even oral (unless im doing her).why doesnt she want to have sex anymore? is it me? how do you go from wanting it all the time to not at all?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008):

man i feel your pain... Just like you ive been with my girlfriend for about three years now and at the beginning of our relationship it was all good. But lately it seems like she just has no sex drive and she gets mad at me because i get frustrated because she NEVER wants to anymore. The only thing i can point to for my situation is birth control. I know it may sound weird but as soon as she got on birth control our sex life has been nonexistent. If you find any thing out please post it and so i can see.

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A female reader, penta United States +, writes (17 May 2007):

penta agony auntIs she especially stressed? Does she feel like she has too much to do? (If so, she might feel guilty taking time for sex). Is she lacking sleep? Is she depressed?

The libido goes down in all these situations. Anything you can do to help her relax will help her to want sex again. See if you can help her with her "to do" list so that she will put sex on the list too.

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (16 May 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntShe needs to see that other women are interested in you sexually. Do you have any female friends that are interested in you, such that you can invite her over remind your girlfriend that you are a desrious man? If so, go for it.

If this does not help, then it is possible that she is having an affair but does not feel right about sleeping with two men at the same time.

You can not expect the sex to last forever, but no sex at all is just not a good sign.

-FBK

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007):

maybe she is just tired of same old same old, try somthing new.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (15 May 2007):

kenny agony auntI guess all that having sex everywhere and everywhere is known as the honymoon period, and naturally dies down. But for the sex to become non-existent, there is something obviously on her mind. Sit her down and have a one to one, maybe over dinner or something and ask her what troubling her.

Good luck

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A male reader, doog United Kingdom +, writes (15 May 2007):

Sex is always the first thing to suffer if there are any underlying problems with your relationship. Maybe you might want to take a step back and look at the relationship as a whole.

Three years in and things will slow down anyway, maybe you should bring something new into the sex to bring back the excitement. End of the day men will have sex no matter what, woman are a bit more fussy if thinks aint right.

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