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female
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anonymous
writes:My husband told me that he wants a penis enlargement. He said it will make our sex life hotter and better - even though our sex life, is, on the whole - reasonably good.I'd never have a breast enlargement because it'd mean I'd have to buy expensive, ugly, large bras and I'd get back pain too. Thankfully my husband has never suggested I have this. He says he's in the process of booking the operation in a few months, he's just got to decide where.What problems will this cause for him?? Won't there be a male equivalent to the above problems of breast enlargement that I mentioned?? And to be honest, isn't penis size unimportant when it comes to a good sex life?? In my opinion it is, and I've told him so, but he says it's not important.How can I deal with this issue?? He still insists on having a penis enlargement.all help appreciated
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 There are side effects, and one of the risks of penis enlargment operations is that if something goes wrong he could lose total use of it for sexual purposes. Is he aware of the risks? At most, if it is the operation I am thinking of, he could gain upto 2 inches, but the penis will no longer be attached to his skeletal bone, and I do not know how that will affect his performance.
Here is what I suggest...try to spice up the sex life. Go to an erotic store with him, and check out the toys and such with him. Play the different board games. If the reason he is doing this is to spice up what he beleives is a boring sex life, then maybe he will not want the procedure if you both can find more sexuality together without it.
It is NOT the same thing as a breast enlargement for women. During sex, the breasts are not the penetrating organ, and part of a man's identity is connected to how he feels about his penis (it is one of the emotional needs of men).
Lastly, you mentioned here that your sex life is "reasonably good". If my lovers ever told me that I was just "reasonably good" instead of "GREAT, AMAZING, I CREAM IN MY PANTS FOR YOU", I would be dissatisfied and looking for ways to improve.
Tell your husband to learn tantric sex tactics including the white tiger tantra hand manoevers designed to make women squirt. Once he makes you squirt a few times, he may feel vindicated enough to forget the operation.
-FBK
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reader, cd206  +, writes (16 May 2007):
 Ultimately it's his body and it's up to him what he does with it although I understand you being concerned that your opinion doesn't count. Support him, tell him it's not necessary etc and research any risks on the internet so that you're aware of them, maybe even ask if you can go along to a consultation with him to ask the surgeon about your questions or concerns but the most important thing is to accept and support him. We all have different views about cosmetic surgery but understanding is the key.
CD
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