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writes:I have been dating a girl for 2 years and living together with her for 1 year. We were engaged and things were going good for a while. Well she got pregnant about 6 months ago and told me she had a miscarrage. She later tells me she had an abortion.Well about a month ago we get into a fight because I think she is cheating on me. Well, to find out she was talking to and seeing another guy. Instead of telling me or even letting me leave she blocks the door and acts as if she would die if I ever left her.Well we split up for a week. At first we didn't talk but later in the week she starts calling and telling me that we will be together after saturday night (we split on tuesday) . Keep in mind I think she is cheating but don't know yet.Well Sunday comes along and she comes to my place at 7:00 and tels me she made a mistake and was seeing a guy for a month. She telling me that she took him to a casino the night before and slept with him and that she is sorry.Now I love this girl but I don't know if it is worth my time. She has broke trust in a major way two times and now that she sees that the grass is not greener on the other side she wants me to marry her next week. BTW she is 22 and I am 28. Could she have just wanted to test the waters 1 last time?What should I do? I try to get over what she did but it keeps comming back to me and I get angry.
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reader, sixth sense +, writes (28 June 2007):
You should leave her. She is not mature enough for marriage. And how can you be sure that the aborted child was not the other guy. Leave her I know it will hurt but love yourself. She will only do it again.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 She has lied and played you along. Can you forgive her for that? Can you forgive her for having an abortion, and lying to cover it up?
I'm not sure I could forgive someone for that. Am sitting trying to put myself in your shoes. As much as you love this girl if you can forgive and forget and trust her than I would just walk away! She won't die if you leave her!
She obviously has no respect for you and how you feel. The fact she dates a guy for a month and lies about it.
There is someone out there somewhere who will treat you with so much more respect and love than that!
xxxxxxx
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Run. Run like your pants are on fire and dont look back. This girl has lied to you multiple times about very major issues and completely abused your trust. She aborted your child without your consent and cheated on you for a month. She was looking for greener pastures but when they didnt materialize fell back on good ol' reliable. Get out now while you still can.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (16 June 2007):
 I know you say you love this girl but is there really any point in carrying on because like you said there are trust issues and i don't think there is much chance of a decent relationship without trust, anyway why do you want to spend your life with someone that treats you in this way we all deserve abit of respect and she has shown you none whatsoever with her constant lies.
Personally if i were you i would walk away now and find someone who you can trust 100% and be truely happy with.
Take care.xx.
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reader, shortybabes +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Hey bbz if you can move on and put the past behind you then go for it and also you need to be able to trust her again. if you can't move on or put the past behind you the and if you can't trust her then there is no point in the relationship. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. Hope my advice helps you hun. xx
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (16 June 2007):
 You can't allow yourself to be picked up and dropped when she clicks her fingers. I really don't think you can rust her. She's abused your trust too many times and she lied to you about aborting YOUR child. I think you should tell her that you can't be with her due to her abuse of trust. If she really cares about you, she wouldn't have lied to you.
If you got back with her, you would have trusting issues with her and it probably wouldn't work out and you'd think she was cheating all the time.
Just my opinion, but I think it's best if you leave her now rather than later.
Good luck with what ever you do.
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