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writes:My girlfriend is very loud when we have sex. I actually find it very embarrassing as my walls are very thin and my bedroom is right next to the neigbours. I know they can hear her as I can hear very slight movement in their room like someone opening their cupboard etc. I have tried mentioning to her as politely as possible to not be as loud but her response is that she doesn't care that she wants to enjoy sex how she likes it. Also she doesnt seem to like early sex-(i have suggested that as well) and most times we have sex at midnight/1am/2am etc,which is even worse as my neighbours will be asleep at that time to hear all her loud screaming (believe me you can probably hear her commotion down the whole block!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): I am having the exact same problem. I have just met this girl and I dont want it to be an issue but I have 2 housemates (who I also work with) and although I am not one to get embarrased easily, I really dont want to annoy them. The other day my friend could hear her down the street.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): I am the ORIGINAL poster-thanks for all your advice! Please do keep them coming! It is VERY bad as my neighbours on one side have very young children-so the last thing they need is being woken up at 2am by some woman screaming and shouting profanities! I try hinting to do it in the daytime - that way I can put on loud music to drown her out-but she likes very late night sex. To be honest it really irritates me a bit-she used to live with her ex bf with her parents in the room next to her and despite what she says-I know for a fact she won't have been carrying on with him, screaming as loudly and swearing at 2 am with her mum and dad in the next room-yet she chooses to have little consideration at my house. For people that say let her enjoy herself- trust me, if you are living next door to someone and get woken up constantly at 2am with someone screaming and swearing then you may think differently! Thanks everyone-keep the advise coming!
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS  +, writes (17 June 2007):
 Ive been told the exact same thing, my boyfriend had paper thin walls and seriously you could hear them turn there light on, but i couldnt help shouting out, it was either no sex or loud sex hehe. but i didnt know that we could get reported, the local council makes a report and you can get fined, same as if you were throwing a party the police would come around and tell you to calm it down. I cant remember the law against it, but i know you can get fined. Also same if you have a dog barking and its waking the neighbours, exactly same as having loud sex. So stick a pillow over her gob so she can scream until shes gaggin for a drink and there be no harm done. hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007): haha, sorry but your question made me laugh :)
You're either going to have to get her to quiet down, or you're going to have to get used to it.
Maybe you could be really noisy too so your neighbours hear even more noice? You know that no matter what happens, that secretly they're wishing they were the ones having that much fun.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 June 2007):
 at least your neighbours can tell how good you are!!listen she is just trying to enjoy sex and if u tell her about it over and over it may make her very celf concious and she might find it hard to enjoy sex cos she is concentrating too much on her vocals!try and get into it,most ppl find it a turn on,forget about your surroundings and enjoy the great sex that ur having - and ur neighbours will just have to deal,its only a fraction of the day!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (16 June 2007):
 You need to make her aware that she's too "loud". Get her to bite down on a pillow to muffle her cries, that will help. At the end of the day, you don't want to wait until one of the neighbours complains about your frolicks, I'm sure if she really tries then she can fix this... IF she wants to of course.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2007): Your going to have't to stop being Mr.Nice guy and put your foot down and tell her to shut up!She is being very unreasonable, i know people express their pleasure's in different ways but at the end of the day she has got to understand that it is your home,your street and you have't to live there, she also as got to respect your neighbour's because it really isn't fair when other people are trying to get to sleep-especially if some of your neighbours have children. Tell her.Best of luck x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (16 June 2007):
 Well what can you do, you have tried telling her and she is not bothered about other people hearing and good on her for that so if you have that much of a problem with it then the only thing you can do it get another girlfriend.
Take care.xx.
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